Loving Wives: Is Meant To Be Ironic

Loving Wives?

Let's talk a little about the category shall we? Just what does Loving Wives mean? Well according to the description beside the category Loving Wives features tales of adventurous married women & their mates. Now just what does that mean?

Well it is not about women dressing up like Indiana Jones and rescuing their husbands from Nazis as they try to recover ancient and powerful relic. It is not about women pretending to be Rose Tyler so their husband can pretend to be the Doctor and save them from the Daleks and Cybermen before getting kissy, smoochy face. It is not about a woman pretending to be Nancy Drew and solving a mystery that will lead to her husband playing some grateful character who thanks her with sexual favors. And it is most assuredly not about your Amelia Earharts, Sally Rides or Molly Browns, or even that type of woman who is either an adventurer or a stand up for herself girl (although in all fairness I suppose one could be those things a little as well depending on the author).

Loving Wives, believe it or not, is not about Romance. However, again, depending on the point of view it does not necessarily mean that there is not a kind of romance involved, because I certainly write them that way.

No, and here it comes, so get ready, shock of shocks.

A Loving Wife is the equivalent of a slut wife, a hot wife, a kuk keeper, a cuckolding wife.

Gasp, oh my.

Yes! Loving Wives is meant to be an ironic term. That is why there is a Loving Wives category as well as a Romance category. The sad thing is it seems that only people who have actually ever written a story on Literotica seem to know the difference.

I know what you're thinking.

Oh, my God, does that mean all the stories I've been slamming are actually where they are supposed to be? Does that mean that there are not going to be any smoochy, smoochy, oh I love you so much and want you baby but let's wait until we're married so we're all right with Jesus stories in Loving Wives?

Fuck yeah! That's exactly what it means.

See I read the Feedback Portal often, just to see what stories are generating interest and if something looks good enough I will give it a read. And at any given time when I go in to see nearly 80% of the comments are on Loving Wives' stories, by people who have no clue what the subject is or means, and apparently do not know that they should read the description by the story to see if it is for them, and leave anonymous comments that look as if they have been written by a third grader pretending to send a text message.

Yaa-hoo!

And I thought I was the only one.

Here's what my experience in Loving Wives has been. Now just to give you some background the two stories that I wrote were placed in Loving Wives by Literotica and not of my own choosing due to the fact they were written as, and I consider them to be, voyeur stories. But that was okay with me when I saw the first story placed there, because I understand the category and I understand that my stories are a little hard to place in just one category. So I thought everything was cool.

WRONG!

I was besieged with a slue of negative and derogatory comments, e-mails letting me know I was a degenerate and sick inbred (which is putting it nicely), and a one as a rating.

Well criticism I can take, and I was waiting for it. But here I was, with a rating of one and not a single word as to the flow and structure of my story. I've read many stories, some on Literotica, and some in letters magazines, and more than a couple in volumes of The Mammoth Book of Erotica series that were not my cup of tea subject wise, but stories I thought nonetheless were very well written.

So is this how I, and so many other writers, are judged by their peers?

Nope.

It's clear to me, especially from the content of the comments and e-mails that I am not being judged by another writer. It is clear because there are two kinds of commenter, ones who are bold enough to submit through their ID, and those who remain anonymous.

The anonymous commenters are the ones plainly and painfully obviously not writers. As I mentioned above, they look like third grade text messages. I usually get a lot of inbred remarks from anonymous commenters, and being from the South I know that usually the first people to make comments about someone being inbred are a bunch of inbred rednecks themselves.

The second type, those bold enough to leave their ID on their comment? Well I check every single profile. There's usually no age listed, which is a pretty good indicator that they are in the 18 to 25 year old range and more than likely lack knowledge about sex other than to know it feels good to stick it in the hole and wiggle it around a couple of minutes until they "shoot off a sperm". Then I click over to look at the list of submissions, and guess what you have written.

NOTHING! Not one fucking word.

Wow, big shock there!

Of course it would be unfair to say they have written nothing at all. It is obvious from looking at the list on the side of the Feedback Portal that there are probably more than a couple of people there who think it makes them an author because they write enough comments about subjects they do not understand to make it onto that list. To those few that are all I can say is you would probably reach a wider audience if you actually had something worth reading on your profile.

When I make my comments I try to go into detail on why I liked it, and point out problems in the flow or mechanics of the story. Maybe it's just me, but I do not rate anything less than a three. If it's worse than that I do not vote, just try and make respectful suggestions. I think it stems from the fact that I am a writer, and I know that many of the people here have invested a lot of time, sometimes even years, working on a story that in ways can be like a child to them. If you've never written, and never considered being published, then you have no clue as to how hard it is to get published or have any kind of audience at all for what you have written. This site has given a voice to many whose only desire may be to have something they have written read by people other than close friends or family.

On the flip side of the coin I am sure that those who have submitted stories to Loving Wives and been bashed wish someone would silence the voices of those who do not understand what the category is intended for, or feel that it is their duty to comment on every story in the category because they have nothing better to do.

Here are my suggestions:

If you do not like the subject do not read it. I cannot fathom why you would read a story that is on a subject that either turns you off, or you do not agree with. Those little words under the title are the description, and if it says something like, I dunno, Wife has threesome with two fishermen while hubby watches, and you're looking for something along the lines of, Wife and husband spend evening alone, just watching TV and kissing, it should be a clear indication you do not want to read the first story. Do not read that story. Stay away from it. There's no need for you to read it, and even less of a need for you to comment on it.

The next thing would be to remember Bambi. I am sure from the opinions and the slant of your comments, as well as the childish wording within your comments, that at some time or another you have seen Walt Disney's Bambi. There is a line spoken by Thumper the Rabbit that goes, "If you can't say nothin' nice, then don't say sumpthin' at all." Let those be your mantra. Live by those words.

Probably most importantly you should respect other peoples lifestyles and choices while understanding that they are not for you. I, myself, am part of a lifestyle that embraces mutual respect for those who do not live the same way as long as they are not hurting anyone. If a husband and wife choose to show their love for one another by him watching her take another man to bed, or her running off to a hotel with someone of a different race and returning home later to get her husband hot enough to fuck her by not sparing a single juicy detail of her encounter, then that would be their business.

Does it really hurt you and your morals and ethics that other people express their love differently? Or does it bother you that these stories make you sexually uncomfortable because you're not yet comfortable with who you are, and deep down you're afraid, scared to fucking death, that somewhere down the road this is you?

So what is my solution?

Well until such a time as logic prevails I will not be submitting to Loving Wives. It is not due to the fact that I can't take it, because I can, and due to the fact that I am an actual writer and a dominant I have the ability to dish it back tenfold. It is due to the fact that such things are not what I am here for. I am here for my stories to be seen and critically evaluated by my peers on the merits of how well it is or is not written and not judged on content alone. Therefore, until the time comes that either a Slut Wife or even a Cuckold category are added, I will have any story that Literotica recategorizes into Loving Wives to Fetish or some other category if they do not choose to place my submissions into the category I initially chose for them.

For those of you who write Loving Wife stories and submit them with the intention of having them placed there I say to you keep on going. If no one else will point it out or speak up, know that at least one person has. I look forward to reading your submissions and rating them as they deserve to be, because I do understand the subject matter and I get the fact the Loving Wives is meant to be ironic in one fashion or another.

To all those who are either ignorant or feel that it makes them a writer just by posting comments on subjects that they just do not like, maybe you should take a long look at yourselves, and remember, "If you can't say nothin' nice, then don't say sumpthin' at all."