Anal Orgasms

The word is "prostate", NOT "prostrate"....

Prostate is the gland you're referring to - prostate is the position of laying face down. Common mistake, but a big one, and it makes you appear ignorant when in fact you're trying to do well.

very good info, ty

The info was very descriptive and appreciated. As a woman who has tried anal twice, (and didn't like it), this info shall be helpful in the future. ty

True, oh so true!

A most worthwhile posting, for which I thank you.
My previous partners have accepted anal sex without problem, and I suspect they simply went along with my wishes because it was a way of keeping me happy.
My current partner is more discerning. however. She fights shy of anal sex. I value this relationship very highly, and I'm desperate not to hurt her! And yet she has such a beautiful, delectable arse!
She says she's interested, but she says she thinks it hurts. I'm so, SO gentle, and I'm absolutely certain from her anal muscle responses that I'm not hurting her. Yet she insists that it hurts!
My finger has entered her to a depth of three quarters of an inch, but that's when she starts to squirm!
I so want that hole!
Any help would ne gratefully appreciated!

Ignorant Indeed

Dear Anonymous

It really makes you look ignorant when you attempt to correct someone and them make the same mistake yourself. What do they say about people in glass houses?

Let's just stick to comments on the story......

Hygene

One of the things I never see addressed is hygene,with out the proper hygene it can be very messy and not very sexie. There is nothing sexie about fecal matter. I start by telling my girl friend that I am going to have sex with her ass later that evening. She usually complains that she doesn't want to, I tell her that does not matter. So she has all day to think about, when the time comes I insert a couple of suppositorys in her ass. Later when she has expelled her waste matter, it is time for her enama. After she is cleaned out then we annal sex. It ends up being very good for her after the initial discomfort . We both agree the the day long anticipation hightens the act.

To the previous responses

A) if she says it hurts....IT HURTS

B) suppositories AND enemas can be harmful to a woman's rectum if used too often... be careful.

Response to the Article

This was a great article and I am incredibly jealous that my first time was not with you. I adore anal sex, but I was the one who had to read up on it and figure out how to make it work. I had one very good experience, one so/so experience, then one EXCRUCIATING experience. Ten years later I tried it again - I was in control - and I loved it. The pushing back (the woman having control) is essential. Thank you so much for a great male-centered article. I think it should be required reading!

All too true, and some good advice

My boyfriend and I love anal, and this addresses some really important issues. GUYS, if the wants to stop, don't think it's going to get better, it HURTS. LADIES: Don't be afriad to tell your man you need to take a break/stop, your comfort is most likely going to be more improtant to them than getting off. If the latter is more important, I suggest you think over your sexual relationship.

Anal can be really fun, but research and time are crucial.

Helpful and Hot

I found your article not only helpful, but extemely hot. Who doesn't love a man who is not only informed but also concerned about their partner's satisfaction?
If more men were like you, more men would be getting regular anal sex!

anal orgasm

I like to think of anal pleasure as a two way street. the more a man gives in the way described , the more he is likely to receive in terms of similar pleasures. to be able to mutually pleasure each other anally requires maturity ,patience, experience and knowledge. I personaly was not capable of giving / receiving or fully appreciating anal pleasure until my forties(maybe a slow starter). however , it is worth the wait as orgasmic pleasure with anal stimulation has moved into a new dimension - incredible

Anal Orgasm or none at all: a bisexual perspective

As a disabled male with little to no penile sensation or function, I learned early about the pleasures of anal stimulation, and now as an adult have discovered that I am *ONLY* able to climax anally. It is such a wonderful feeling, having been filled (whether by myself, others...yes I am bisexual, or a toy), I am now totally dependent on anal stimulation for any and all sexual pleasure. Thank you for this post.

Nice guide.

Me and my girl have done anal a few times. Trying to figure out how to go about properly executing your technique. I tried a few of your suggestions and they didn't go so well. You got any suggestions?

Anal orgasms?

Great advice and a good guide for both the experienced and newbie. However, I feel that I must correct the anal orgasm statement. There is no such thing as an Anal Orgasm. In fact the reason why climax is achieved by females during anal sex is because the posterior fornix is being stimulated through the recto-uterine wall by means of pressure. The orgasms are different in sensation and intensity, and for this reason many called them "anal orgasms". I applaud your guide, since more and more females are proactively experimenting with anal intercourse and if properly done it can be a source of great pleasure for both partners!

Second Comings

OK, I have a question (and or suggestion): I discovered a new technique with my wife of 15 years about 3 years ago. After giving her a clitoral orgasm with my fingers, I roll her over, and insert my erect penis between the cheeks of her butt, while keeping one hand on her vagina (wrapped around from the side). She rubs against me hard, finding the right place for my cock to hit, and I rub her back, and within seriously less than a minute she's coming again. Only thing is, this "second coming" is not a normal orgasm for her. It's a whallop. She grunts and cries out uncontrollably. I have no idea what's going on here, but suspect maybe the hard pressure is rubbing the walls of her vagina together, and she's having a vaginal orgasm. Anyone experience anything like this? If not, give it a try and let me know if it works for you.

To cum or not to cum

Great article. I love anal sex and your wisdom proves to be true for this gal. Thank you for sharing...don't listen to any negative comments. You did great.

anal

Thanks this really got us started in our anal sex.

Avoid getting knocked up

My wife and I enjoy anal all the time. Neither of us is a fan of condoms and the pill gives her problems so we just have lots of butt sex. We both like the feeling of my cock squirting deep in her ass. I always cum buckets full in her ass as it is so much more intense. Her on top in reverse cowboy is the best. She will often twist and squeeze my balls just as I am unloading in her. Then I'll have her scoot straight back and sit on my face, pull her cheeks apart and squirt all of the muddy cum into my mouth. Then we kiss deeply and share the product of our love. Don't have to worry about it leaking into her pussy either. Try it.

Thanks!

Thanks for the article. Im a 22 year old male from South Africa and this has really helped me a lot.

Kind regards,
South African dude

great description

I'm male. I give and receive anal stimulation. I also did cum from only anal stimulation myself.
I loved his detailed description.
Recently I also found out that rimming is very exciting and a amazing way to enjoy the butt of her. It helps her to get aroused and in the right mood for anal penetration.
The key about anal penetration is not to do more pressure than she wants to. She actually will enjoy it and everything will turn out fine when she herself is turned on by the thought of doing it anally. So she relaxes by the time and it will be wonderful for both.
So keep it stiff and have much fun ...

Thanks!

Very well-written. Thank you for sharing your experience in such a frank and generous manner.

You are a very thoughtful lover! Excellent suggestions and technique. I am a 28-year old woman and I have been very curious about anal sex. I am definitely going to try this with my boyfriend.

exxxcellent advice

Very good and well detailed. Have you any suggestions for taking it up several notch's as in anal fisting?

Anonymous

THANKS FOR THE DETAILS. I HAVE TRIED ANAL SEX A COUPLE OF TIMES WITH AN EX BOYFRIEND BUT NEVER WENT BEYOND HIM STICKING IT IN ONCE. IT HURT TOO BAD. REASONS BEING HE DID IT DRY. I AM STILL SCARED TO GO ALL THE WAY EVEN WITH LUBE. MAYBE SOMEDAY I WILL CONQUER MY FEAR AND BE ABLE TO HAVE ANAL SEX. I HAVE AN AMAZING BUBBLE BUTT AND PREVIOUS LOVERS HAVE STRESSED THE FACT THAT I DO NOT RECIEVE ANAL SEX. SO ON THAT NOTE, I THINK I WILL GIVE IT ANOTHER TRY AND SEE IF I CAN FULFILL THEIR FANTASIES AND HOPEFULLY ENJOY IT MYSELF!!! THANKS AGAIN :)

Anal Orgasm Tips

A woman's vagina naturally produces lubricants when sexually stimulated. This is not the same when it comes to the anus. However hard you excite your partner, this area will never be naturally lubricated so in order to give pleasurable or at the very least comfortable rear entry, you must put a lot of lubricant both on your penis and in her anus.

Again, the anal area is not as 'ready' as the vagina to receive penetration. So to stimulate it, what you can do is to massage it with lubricant. Massage the outer anal muscles together with the inner thighs and the buttocks. Apart from relaxing the anal region, this can also be very arousing for your partner.

Don't rush

Rushing should not be part of this sexual technique. As soon as you have relaxed her, slowly stimulate her by using either your fingers or your tongue. Insert the fingers slowly starting with the tip only before you put in the whole thing. Wait for her to get used to it first before you even add another finger.

As she becomes accustomed to this motion and loosens up, the sensation will increase allowing her to take a finger or two more. This means that she is ready for a pleasurable anal sex.

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uh?

wont her ass become more lose over time .. like how virgin pussy is if fuked by 2 many things or dicks ? if ur ass 2 lose would the muscle be 2 weak 2 hold in poo? if so thats prob why old ppl gotta wear diapers lol.

This was VERY informative.

Dirtbox Tinkering

Slide your butt-licker slowly in her anus. That alone otta make her more eager to allow you to throw your shaft up her stinkeroo. Anyway, bend your cock angling back towards her vagina. With this approach, you will, then, be able to hit the back walls of her honeypot.

An idea: your own dick in your arse !

this is a bit difficult, but I have managed to do it and really love it. Even girls are impressed, leave alone boys;)

Female

As a female this was a good read written by a guy. Very detailed, accurate, and considerate. Guys really should read submissions like this and learn a little about patience and gentleness to get what they want verses brawn and testosterone.

Thank You :)

For a long time I've been wondering how should I approach my GF on anal in a way we'll start to practice it and enjoy it together, but thanks to this very detailed insight I now feel more confident and no longer fear I won't be able to pleasure her, or worse hurt her, by trying something different. I speak for all the guys and gals in here when I say, thank you friend!

Anything's possible.

Good post. I'm a man with a long fascination with female anus. It's more than just the taboo for me, but this is not really the place to go into that. A previous partner insisted that anal stimulation was exclusively a male prostate related phenomenon. I was dissappointed to find this view reflected in authorative literature on sex.

Since then I've read some new research on the plasticity of human mind, body and instincts. It's up to each individual to develop the chain of responses to sensations experienced in a sexual context. Sometimes even in a non-sexual, but becoming erotic context! Some are hardwired during earliest development, most are set during early puberty; but many will then mature and refine during the whole course of one's life.

There's millions of clinical and medical studies out there that may give me an insight into the physiology and psychology behind female orgasm. I've engineered many a thought experiment that proves orgasm is possible through anal, but I like to see stories like this that provide anecdotal evidence that true orgasm thru anal stimulation is possible.

Now just to work out why I'm so attracted to the idea?

It worked for me

I was just heterosexual and bisexually curious. I eventually found out that I loved giving blowjobs, to about 12 different guys. I succeeded in making them cum and always swallow the cum, often just holding it in my mouth first to savour the taste.

I met a man in a gay bar and enjoyed flirting with him. We eventually met up at his place. A lot of this was new to me. I evenutally got him to fuck me anally. He was very gentle and slow. I was lying face down with him fucking me from above. Something somewhere went off very quickly. I appeared to be having multiple orgasms. I was screaming too, just like some ladies do. It was a very very intense pleasure and I believe I could have had continuing orgasms for as long as he was fucking me . He was afraid he was hurting me but I just kept shouting "DON'T STOP!!!". For the record I didn't ejaculate but he came inside me ;O)

It was an unforgettable sexual experience and I would love to do it again. I've fucked several ladies anally too but none of them came like I did.

It's definitely great

i was skeptical about anal at first, but i eventually tried it and i was shocked at how amazing it feels, especially with deep penetration. the orgasm from anal sex is similar to a vaginal orgasm, but it seems more intense, possibly because the anus is such a sensitive area compared to the vagina. overall, these tips helped a lot, so thank you!

Thank you all for the kind words, and FYI: anal won't make your asshole looser!

To those who have left positive and constructive feedback, thank you! I am pleased to hear so many people having great experiences with anal. That some of you have been inspired to try it, and especially those who are trying it again, this is the best gift I could receive. I have been fortunate to have more than a few partners who love receiving anal, and some of whom either never had it before or have been able to cum during the act. I feel it's only fair to "pay it forward" by sharing the techniques that have been successful for my partners and I.

To the poster who is concerned that anal will make your asshole looser and you'll lose control of the muscle, the reverse has been proven to be true. By..."exercising" the anus, so-to-speak, you can actually increase anal tone and control.

If you folks haven't picked up a copy of the book (and fantastic HOT video1) "The Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex For Women" by Tristan Taormino, GO GET THEM! Go to www.puckerup.com to find them and plenty of other anally-inclined information, books, toys, videos, and more by self-professed "Butt Girl" Tristan.

In need of information

Hi penbeatsword!

thank you for your article! It's very useful, and there's lots of techniques I've used too. My question lies in the last parts of anal intercourse. My girlfriend gets so great orgasms that if I don't come at the same moment, we are forced to stop the intercourse. I think the anal muscle gets too sensitive. Usually I need to take myself out and after the orgasm the area feels too strange for my GF to continue intercourse anymore. Should I stop the thrust motion for minutes instead of taking 'it' out? Or should we just keep a break? What are your experinces on the concept?

Awesome!

Thanks for sharing.

Wow, I do the same!

This story is so awesome,bevause,this is exactlt what I do to my girlfriend,or should I say...with her. Ive been with her for three months and we have had awesome sex. Now,not to bragg. But, ive always had a natural ability...so to speak...to bring a woman to orgasm by licking her pussy. Not with this woman. Ive tried everything I know to no avail. The reason I believe was that she had only been achieving climax by using a very strong vibrator. Since we,ve been together I've began playing with her anus during sex,even licking her there,and she loves it!. Like the above description, u have to use lots of lub and take your time. While licking her clit,and as she became very exited,i began just stroking her anus with my index finger . As she progressed,i kept apliying more pressure on the anus,untill the tip of my finger slipped into the opening. At this point,she went absolutly wild! As we went along I slowly introduced my finger deeper in her ass. By listning to the moans and sqeals of delight,i knew to continue. I began working my finger in and out of her ass slowly while steadyly and with lots of pressure,licking her clit. I would hold my finger still every few seconds and vibrate it..(wiggle it). Oh my god! When she started cuming,i thought she would pull both of us off the bed. She came over and over......it was amazing! this is wonderful for her......and me!

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god damn can i have ur num??? LOL from a chicks perspective thats exactly how u should go about it!!

AWESOME GUIDE

I can't thank you enough for taking the time out to inform all of us on the art of anal intercourse. I'm so thrilled to try this; so much so; that I am going to make sure to print out this article and stick it to my ass! Thanks again PEN