The Rule of Blowjobs for Women

Seems to me that some other guy recently gave

gave us the benefit of his expertise

A Metal

You deserve a Metal ( Gold ) for service to mankind!
High Regards: Bill

Exquisite

I almost came just reading your blow job tips. I'm ready!

Loved IT

Do you live in Miami? Can I get your number? I'm not doing anything right now. Or tonight. Or tomorrow. You let me know, and I'll be free then. Okay?

Opposite sex never really knows

The opposite sex can't fully understand the other's physiology. This was OK and apparently written by someone who fully enjoys performing fellatio, but I disagreed with some of the points and assertions.

For example, "head, shaft, and balls." Personally, my balls are the least sensitive parts of my equipment. I get bored when someone starts mouthing them.

Always a fan

Selena,
Always have and always will be a fan of yours !
This was great and could not have been more true
from a man's perspective I can only hope that all women
read and practice your words -especially the don'ts and
and the mutual pleasure part ;
jack

hothothothothot

This is one hot how-to on blowjobs if only I had someone to try it out with I'd be so very happy! I love your humming idea and I laughed out loud at the chipmunk thing but I think it's hot anyway!

Thank You

The preceding message was a PUBIC service message from Selena. This should be required reading for women!

God, I lurve U!!!!

Very well done....I almost shot off in my pants reading this....

Very helpful tips

I agree with most everything you said. Definitely, try to enjoy what you are doing. I used to be squeamish about giving a blow job, for a whole host of reasons. But it truly can be such a sensuous experience for both giver and receiver and that's what I try to make it be. I love to press his cock between my breasts, kissing the tip as it appears. I also love to drag my breast over it, letting my pointy nipple go from base to tip. It's just erotic to watch that. As to the popsicle idea, I'll tell my guy I'm in the mood for a cocksickle. I love to whisper that to him when we're out in public somewhere. It's gets us both hot and bothered!
Chocolate sauce is fun, as is whipped cream. I'll never work up to "I'm your greedy little cockwhore," because I hate the word whore, just as much as I do the word cunt. But other kinds of dirty talk are definitely a turn on for us both! Of course, it helps that my partner is equally as generous with his mouth and tongue, which makes me adore him even more and of course, want to please him more and more. It's a win win. (Brief side note - I've been with guys who did all the receiving and none of the giving - but not for long! That is not sexy in any way, shape or form!)
As to the deep throating, I've never been able to do that, but then again, my guy says it's not a big deal to him, so it's all good. If that's something you want to do, definitely go for, but if it's not something you're comfortable with, believe me, most guys are happy just to have their woman willing and enjoying the moment.

so true, so true

Great description, and obviously the best part of any oral sex is knowing that the giver enjoys as much as the receiver. Rule # 1 - don't do it if you don't want to, neither of you will enjoy it as much as you can.

Smart Lady!

Good job, Selena. Thankfully there are a few women like you that really understand us guys and what makes us tick. It is also encouraging to hear from a woman that likes giving blowjobs, isn't afraid to admit it,and knows the importance of experimentation and not just routine practices.

I need another "HOW TO" article

How do I tell HER what you said? I have tried telling her what I want, what I like, what I don't like, what I want to try. She is one of those women who says, "IF you want a blowjob at all, its MY way or NO way."
We have been married 27 years. After 10 years she let me come in her mouth, so I wouldn't spray it everywhere. Our sex life got so boring we have only fucked once in the last five years. And even though she has offered, I've turned down blowjobs for over a year. Sex shouldn't be a chore, for either of us, and that's what it has become for me. Can you believe it??? Getting a blowjob is a CHORE! Good thing I found this website and my hands still work.
She also won't tell me what SHE wants. All I get from her is... "What ever you do is ok with me." She says oral sex 'tickles too much'... 'takes too long to get me off'... (( which I don't mind, I love eating at the Y. )) What do I do?

Selena, You're Number One!

Selena, You light me up. I'm new here, but I've found your work to be first class. And this is no exception. You may teach me anything anytime. Keep up the good work.

To Anon:

To anonymous...

that's a tough situation to be in, and sounds to me like your wife is sexually inhibited. Many women feel that sex is a "chore" or use it as leverage in relationship. It's a rather nasty emotional tactic and definitely doesn't breed intimacy. A lot of people would tell you to move on, give up, it's hopeless. But I rarely give up. :) And there's that saying from Maya Angelou... "when you know better, you do better..." so...

My suggestion is to start OUTSIDE of the bedroom first. Try printing out my "How to Appreciate a Man" article and leaving it around for her to read. See if that makes any changes. Because this stuff usually starts long before you end up under the sheets... and you sort of have to change it from the outside in. (Well, it looks that way... it's really from the inside out :)

I hope you come back to read the comments, Anon... I would have emailed you directly, but couldn't, since you didn't leave a forwarding address.

Good luck!

xoxo
Selena

The two different massages

Selena, please tell your fans, especially the woman but also the men, that there are two types of massage, and they must be handled differently. First, there is the skin massage. The skin is very sensitive, and thus light strokes, tickles or scratches have great effect. The only important thing is that THERE MUST BE MOVEMENT on the skin to make it enjoyable. The second massage is for the muscle and connective tissues. This is a deeper, probing massage. The muscles must also be pushed and moved, but the skin doesn't need to move. Why are these important? Because both sexes' genitalia have NO muscle in them, so the skin or mucosa must be moved to produce pleasure. I've had so many women giving me a handjob just grabbing the shaft tightly and going up and down. It achieves NOTHING. The hands must be moved OVER THE SKIN of the penis (anus, vagina, breasts. etc) for pleasure, and not just held in place while pushing the insensate tissues beneath.
Thanks!

Printed and on the pillow

Selena as usual I have printed your advise and placed it with a rose on the pillow for this evening.

Your Awesome

Thanks for sharing this so couple can enjoy each other.

loved it

thank you this helped me.my husband always wanted a bj,i did not know how.when i gave him one he looked very surprised,even more when i swallowed instead of spitting.

this is great

and you're great.
my boy is happier
and so am i :)

More expert advice!

So many cocks, so little time... That last line had me laughing. You write this article like you are speaking from a whole lot of experience :)

I love your how-to pieces. They are informative, lol, but they are thoughtful, well-written and entertaining. I wish you would elaborate on the topic of dirty-talking. I know you touch on it in a lot of your how-to's but perhaps it deserves its own piece. Different situations call for different types of dirty talk, and I have been with a man ( a bit of a jerk mind you) who was turned off by swear words in bed. Would love to read a whole article from you about talking dirty.

Damn!!!

Even your how-to entries give me a woody! Selena, you got it going on, gal. You just made fave author by me.

Be watchin for ya...

Very nice but...

I really appreciate your "rules" and I agree on almost everyone.

I would have added one simple rule (maybe because I really like it): worship his cock. I love to fall on my knees and beg for it, adore it, have it in my mouth and play with it.

Loved It!!

I loved the article, shared it with my lover. And shared it with my lover!! Thank you very much, extremely well written, the 'Pant Rant' was 'new' to me and appreciated, and last but not least, I'm in total agreement regarding the word, cunt. I love that lil word. I salute you!!