Swinger Tip: Finding a Man for MMF

great tips! five stars!

We've been thru the same process and found it quite stimulating and great fun; but at times, the search could get frustrating. You cover a lot of the possibilities, similar to what we remember, and clearly lay out what to expect for the uninitiated - the baggage the 'other man' might be carrying. As a couple in search of a third, we felt fortunate for having each other after seeing some of the men we met, seeking escape from their sexless marriages; suffering most often - in our humble opinion - due to lack of communication between partners. When you can talk to your spouse about anything and everything, it makes it so much easier to explore all that life has to offer.

Thank You...

Thanks for the advice.....my wife and I are in almost the exact same situation, except we are both bi-curious. We want to be with another male first, we have been looking for the right man for awhile but just casually. We are really, really looking forward to sharing another man for the first time. We are lucky men to have wives who understand and are turned an by the idea!!

Fun advice

Sometime it is even easier. A person already close may be willing. Look for signs, many men can be easily persuaded.

Title misleading

Having done a few mfm threesomes I am not in agreement with this article. To begin with, I do not completely agree with the title and in my opinion this article is more about your experience finding a man for a mfm instead of general advice. Furthermore, I would disagree with your advice regarding married men, especially if they are keeping their activity from their wife. The last thing you want is an upset spouse at your front door or being dragged into their drama. They tend to be unpredictable and a lot has to be tailored to meet their needs. At least for me, I do not believe married men are a good choice for a mfm threesome. Also, I would disagree with your advice about using someone you know. There is too much of a risk of attachment, feelings developing, and loss of the friendship once the threesome ends. Finally this article lacks structure and seems to go all over the place. My own feeling this would have been a better article if it was structured and not a bunch of thoughts being strung together.

I always appreciate feedback, roomfor1more, though I think you missed the point. You're right, my "How to" was nothing more than a series of tips - not a ten part study in minutiae like your post. Your guide was a freakin' hilarious! Clearly, if someone doesn't do things precisely as you outlined, they're doing it wrong.

One has to be naive or inexperienced to believe that any man who invites you to have sex with his woman isn't also interested in having sex with you. It's the price of admission, but then you're still getting two for the price of one. ;-)