Phone Sex

roseanne208

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I would love to have phone sex with my boyfriend who lives far away but I do not know how to. Any ideas on this or where I can find info and practice before I attempt it?

Anaks
 
hi all we can advice is try looking on the net. But as for what to say and how to do it we have always found that just relaxing and going with the flow is best.
 
Start by tell him your fantasies... don't make it up, whatever turns you on will turn him on... you may be a little shy at first... but start out with the "I really miss yous" and "Wow I wish you were here... just hearing your voice makes me want you..." and delve slowly into the "If you were here right now, I'd love to kneel in front of you, unzip your jeans..." you get the picture...

Now, if you have a problem "talking dirty"... practice... Best way is to watch porn (oh no, what a horrible assignment! :)) and listen to what they say... find the words that turn you on... (if calling yourself a cockwhore makes you cringe, don't do it... but if it turns HIM on... reconsider... try using it the word a few times... the more you do it, the less power it has, negative or positive, actually)

Practice saying stuff like, "You make me so hot. I'm getting so wet." Or, "I wish I could feel your hard cock inside of me right now." Things will progress naturally, once you've opened the door... and I bet he'll come up with surprises of his own that will drive you crazy!
 
I'm starting as a phone sex operator on Friday, so I'm in the same boat. There really isn't much on the net. One thing I found was at www.sexuality.org, the phone sex FAQ. The guy who wrote that also wrote about a conversation he had with a phone sex worker in another article, and he says what its title is, and you can also find it on sexuality.org. Sorry I can't remember the name of it! I have found some good books though- go to amazon, and search for phone sex.
Some of the pointers I have gotten so far is to find some pics of girls in lingerie so it is easier to describe what you are wearing. Be very detailed- instead of "I'm wearing a sexy nightie", say "I'm lying on my back on my bed in a sheer pink nighty that comes just below my hot little pussy. There is soft lace on the collar, and it tickles my lovely 34 C tits. You can see my hard pink nipples......." on and on. Men are such visual creatures that being so detailed like that helps them a lot I guess. Another suggestion I've gotten is to read as many stories on this site as you can, so that making up the fantasy is that much easier. Have fun with it, and good luck!
 
My woman and I don't have phone sex in the traditional manner... IE., no "What are you wearing?" kind of talk.

What we do (usually after a bit of flirting and discussing past and future sexual escapades together) is just start masturbating... Just hearing the sounds of one another is enough to keep us going and get us off.
 
Currently in a long distance relationship (*sigh*) i empathise with the importance of phone sex...and even more importantly..GOOD phone sex...and its easier than you think.

first read ^^ suggestions. they're very helpful.

Don't go straight into some complicated scenario that is both too detailed and that you both have never done nor discussed before...five seconds after you've picked up the phone and he's still trying to tell you about his shit day and take off his shoes.

Relax into it, soften your voice (not too soft because then he'll keep thinking you hung up (LOL sadly i am still a regular offender)) and like other posters have suggested just start by saying things like "i really miss you" or..."i've been thinking about you all day"...or to get things hot fast "I've been thinking of you sliding your _____ (insert preferred word for preferred body part) into my ______ (insert preferred...location) all day". Personally i always love the odd oral sex here and there so I tend to start with how much I would love to do that to him.

Don't be afraid to show your arousal. breathe heavy. trust me. its a winner.

Once you hear him start to go quiet... spin your web.

There are three types of scenarios you can go with...

1. The Play by Play - simply painting a picture of what you're doing to your own bodies at the time (with the odd addition of what you WISH could be happening). Here is the place to go into excruciating detail...ie "I've sucked my finger and now I'm rubbing my clit" vs "I'm slowly sliding my index finger in and out of my mouth, wishing it was your hard cock, my lips feel so good sliding up and down my tongue flicking over the skin, now my hand is sliding down down down into between my breasts....mmm my finger's so wet, leaving a wet trail over my tummy, my hand is running lightly over my pussy lips, they feel so soft, oh god i'm so wet already *moan*...god i wish your lips were rubbing againt me now...i'm parting my pussy lips, i have to touch my clit...*insert moan* oh i'm rubbing my finger in slow wet circles around my hard clit, slow. so wet. i wish it was your tongue, baby"...etc

2. The Self Role Play- characters played by self
This is where you spin a fantasy but still are yourselves..but in a sexual scenario that gets you hot...these are good for good, trusty, old tried out positions and when you want slow languid love making and you need the intimacy of the bond that already exists between you.

3. The Hot Fantasy You Will Never Live Out Role Play. - characters - whoever the hell you wanna be.
You wish you were Princess Leia and him Luke Skywalker and up for a fuckfest like no other? (sorry was going through the incest story thread before lol) Go all out.
Be limited by your imagination.

Some suggestions (lol no not role play ones, just scroll down the stories list if you need ideas)

- you don't have touch, sight, smell...all you've damn well got is SOUND, so damn well use it. Yesterday my man let me hear the sound of his fist jacking his cock and i came on the spot...and we'd only just started. Saying that, as skilled a vagina as i'm sure you have, it probably can't talk (we should all be so lucky), so don't spend the whole conversation with the phone to your pussy. but moaning, groaning, swearing, breathing...its all good IMHO

- words: don't use words that turn you or him OFF. If you don't like to be called dirty slut, don't use it, and if he uses it, mention it to him sometime sensitively that maybe he can call you baby, or something else that you're comfortable with.

- USE words that give you/him an orgasm on the spot. easy to tell, the breath will catch in his throat, he'll moan, or he'll make you deaf with his yells of "i'm cumming" eg..Dick...for me, is ok, lukewarm, COCK? gives me an instant girlie hard-on.

- ...oh and remember descriptive writing in yr 10 English?...your teachers weren't bullshitting, you can use it in real life. hot, hard, throbbing, wet, smooth, pulsing, trembling, quivering, massive, tight, tiny, black, white, pink, purple..whatever! remember a picture's worth a thousand words...on the phone you're sadly on the wrong end of that saying...

- he can't see you...if you cum, you have to tell him lol "did you cum?" can be a mood killer, especially if you haven't and he's already mentally reaching for the cigarette lighter...so help him, if not for this time, for next time.

All that ^^ means nothing if you're not comfortable, but please, god, PLEASE trust me on this, don't record yourself and listen to it. you will be put off talking dirty for life or, keel over from laughing so hard at yourself that you hit your head on the corner of the table and knock yourself into a coma.

Just pick up the phone...the first few times might be a little weird, laugh over it together, nothing will turn you on more than sharing a giggle with your man.

mmmm, i seem to have distracted myself with all this phone sex talk.

wonder if he'll mind if if i wake him...

"I'm sliding my hand under the blanket while you lie sleeping...my hand wrapping around you semi-hard cock...you must know i'm writing this post as you lie sleeping...i slide my body between your legs and lower my mouth down to your........"
 
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asian_princess said:
Currently in a long distance relationship (*sigh*) i empathise with the importance of phone sex...and even more importantly..GOOD phone sex...and its easier than you think.

first read ^^ suggestions. they're very helpful.




Ahem...... :eek:

LISTEN TO EVERY WORD THIS WOMAN HAS WRITTEN.......um :eek: as the "recipient" of AP's ministrations :D Let's just say that she knows ofwhat she speaks... :nana:

Another thing to mention though is that it takes 2 to tango...at least on a regular basis...The one time where you lead may be fine...but if this happens to be the only way the two of you can be together over a length of time, then both of you have to be creative...There's nothing worse then "doing" all the work...all the time...

Teasing is important also...like foreplay in real life don't jump into the sex in a single call...build it up. If you can, call your playmate at an in opportune time, like when s/he is in line at the coffee stand, describe something really, really nasty...then tell them they'll have to wait til later for the rest....Get the person so keyed up in "forplay" then when the actual time to "play" happens, your partner won't even notice is the actuall sex is "bad" (though is there ever such a thing as bad?)

About the quiet thing....with technology such as it is, with the pontential for dropped call, locked computers...long, long pauses do bring the fear that something is wrong...how many times have you lost a cellphone call and kept yakking blissfully unaware...well, theres none the worse erection killer than yelling "Hello, Hello...are you there?"

There's more...but I have to jump in the shower and get on the snowy roads..

asian_princess said:
3. The Hot Fantasy You Will Never Live Out Role Play. - characters - whoever the hell you wanna be.
You wish you were Princess Leia and him Luke Skywalker and up for a fuckfest like no other? (sorry was going through the incest story thread before lol) Go all out.
Be limited by your imagination.

Ahem...Are you saying you want to play with my lightsaber????

mmmmm
 
mcopado said:
Teasing is important also...like foreplay in real life don't jump into the sex in a single call...build it up. If you can, call your playmate at an in opportune time, like when s/he is in line at the coffee stand, describe something really, really nasty...then tell them they'll have to wait til later for the rest....Get the person so keyed up in "forplay" then when the actual time to "play" happens, your partner won't even notice is the actuall sex is "bad" (though is there ever such a thing as bad?)

this can also be called, "exacting revenge in return for you partner having talked dirty to you while your were at work all day, unable to get relief"..use at your own peril!!
 
asian_princess said:
this can also be called, "exacting revenge in return for you partner having talked dirty to you while your were at work all day, unable to get relief"..use at your own peril!!

The corolary to that is the "I'm haveng dinner with my parents whilst talking to you...and your on speaker phone" After you describe what you'd be doing with your hands while having dinner with her and her parents :eek:
 
mcopado said:
The corolary to that is the "I'm haveng dinner with my parents whilst talking to you...and your on speaker phone" After you describe what you'd be doing with your hands while having dinner with her and her parents :eek:

Thats a riot. Ranks right up there with the guy being taken blindfolded by his female neighber to his bedroom, thinking he's gonna get laid. So he strips, still wearing the blindfold, and begins playing with himself. The blindfold comes off and he is in the room with 30 friends and neighbors who are singing "Happy Birthday" (or were singing).
 
slipfreak46 said:
Thats a riot. Ranks right up there with the guy being taken blindfolded by his female neighber to his bedroom, thinking he's gonna get laid. So he strips, still wearing the blindfold, and begins playing with himself. The blindfold comes off and he is in the room with 30 friends and neighbors who are singing "Happy Birthday" (or were singing).

LOL...
That can't be true...no way....Thank God I never had a surprise birthday party...or a sexy female neighbor...
 
I dunno if its true or not but its an old joke that has been around for years

I think you can even find it on Urban Legends, along with the story about the Biology teacher discribing that sperm is mostly made up of sucrose (or whatever natural sugar we have), and a girl in the class then asks, "Then why does it taste so salty?"
 
slipfreak46 said:
I dunno if its true or not but its an old joke that has been around for years

I think you can even find it on Urban Legends, along with the story about the Biology teacher discribing that sperm is mostly made up of sucrose (or whatever natural sugar we have), and a girl in the class then asks, "Then why does it taste so salty?"

HEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEHEEEEEEE!!!!!!!

Was the girl blond?
 
asian_princess said:
Currently in a long distance relationship (*sigh*) i empathise with the importance of phone sex...and even more importantly..GOOD phone sex...and its easier than you think.

first read ^^ suggestions. they're very helpful.

Don't go straight into some complicated scenario that is both too detailed and that you both have never done nor discussed before...five seconds after you've picked up the phone and he's still trying to tell you about his shit day and take off his shoes.

Relax into it, soften your voice (not too soft because then he'll keep thinking you hung up (LOL sadly i am still a regular offender)) and like other posters have suggested just start by saying things like "i really miss you" or..."i've been thinking about you all day"...or to get things hot fast "I've been thinking of you sliding your _____ (insert preferred word for preferred body part) into my ______ (insert preferred...location) all day". Personally i always love the odd oral sex here and there so I tend to start with how much I would love to do that to him.

Don't be afraid to show your arousal. breathe heavy. trust me. its a winner.

Once you hear him start to go quiet... spin your web.

There are three types of scenarios you can go with...

1. The Play by Play - simply painting a picture of what you're doing to your own bodies at the time (with the odd addition of what you WISH could be happening). Here is the place to go into excruciating detail...ie "I've sucked my finger and now I'm rubbing my clit" vs "I'm slowly sliding my index finger in and out of my mouth, wishing it was your hard cock, my lips feel so good sliding up and down my tongue flicking over the skin, now my hand is sliding down down down into between my breasts....mmm my finger's so wet, leaving a wet trail over my tummy, my hand is running lightly over my pussy lips, they feel so soft, oh god i'm so wet already *moan*...god i wish your lips were rubbing againt me now...i'm parting my pussy lips, i have to touch my clit...*insert moan* oh i'm rubbing my finger in slow wet circles around my hard clit, slow. so wet. i wish it was your tongue, baby"...etc

2. The Self Role Play- characters played by self
This is where you spin a fantasy but still are yourselves..but in a sexual scenario that gets you hot...these are good for good, trusty, old tried out positions and when you want slow languid love making and you need the intimacy of the bond that already exists between you.

3. The Hot Fantasy You Will Never Live Out Role Play. - characters - whoever the hell you wanna be.
You wish you were Princess Leia and him Luke Skywalker and up for a fuckfest like no other? (sorry was going through the incest story thread before lol) Go all out.
Be limited by your imagination.

Some suggestions (lol no not role play ones, just scroll down the stories list if you need ideas)

- you don't have touch, sight, smell...all you've damn well got is SOUND, so damn well use it. Yesterday my man let me hear the sound of his fist jacking his cock and i came on the spot...and we'd only just started. Saying that, as skilled a vagina as i'm sure you have, it probably can't talk (we should all be so lucky), so don't spend the whole conversation with the phone to your pussy. but moaning, groaning, swearing, breathing...its all good IMHO

- words: don't use words that turn you or him OFF. If you don't like to be called dirty slut, don't use it, and if he uses it, mention it to him sometime sensitively that maybe he can call you baby, or something else that you're comfortable with.

- USE words that give you/him an orgasm on the spot. easy to tell, the breath will catch in his throat, he'll moan, or he'll make you deaf with his yells of "i'm cumming" eg..Dick...for me, is ok, lukewarm, COCK? gives me an instant girlie hard-on.

- ...oh and remember descriptive writing in yr 10 English?...your teachers weren't bullshitting, you can use it in real life. hot, hard, throbbing, wet, smooth, pulsing, trembling, quivering, massive, tight, tiny, black, white, pink, purple..whatever! remember a picture's worth a thousand words...on the phone you're sadly on the wrong end of that saying...

- he can't see you...if you cum, you have to tell him lol "did you cum?" can be a mood killer, especially if you haven't and he's already mentally reaching for the cigarette lighter...so help him, if not for this time, for next time.

All that ^^ means nothing if you're not comfortable, but please, god, PLEASE trust me on this, don't record yourself and listen to it. you will be put off talking dirty for life or, keel over from laughing so hard at yourself that you hit your head on the corner of the table and knock yourself into a coma.

Just pick up the phone...the first few times might be a little weird, laugh over it together, nothing will turn you on more than sharing a giggle with your man.

mmmm, i seem to have distracted myself with all this phone sex talk.

wonder if he'll mind if if i wake him...

"I'm sliding my hand under the blanket while you lie sleeping...my hand wrapping around you semi-hard cock...you must know i'm writing this post as you lie sleeping...i slide my body between your legs and lower my mouth down to your........"

This is one of the best "How To" things I've EVER read, AP! It's seriously bookmark, How To stories, and Blank Manual worthy. I don't have tons of opportunites for phone sex (well, except for with those zero-post yahoos who send out mass PMs), but I'm going to study this well and implement all of your suggestions in the future!

Thank you! :rose: :kiss:
 
SweetErika said:
This is one of the best "How To" things I've EVER read, AP! It's seriously bookmark, How To stories, and Blank Manual worthy. I don't have tons of opportunites for phone sex (well, except for with those zero-post yahoos who send out mass PMs), but I'm going to study this well and implement all of your suggestions in the future!

Thank you! :rose: :kiss:

Study it, learn in, memorize it...Believe me, whoever ends up being lucky enough to be on the other end of a phone with you, WILL BE REALLY REALLY HAPPY :nana:

From experience, this I know.....

(Nice Bows BTW!)
:rose:
 
SweetErika said:
This is one of the best "How To" things I've EVER read, AP! It's seriously bookmark, How To stories, and Blank Manual worthy. I don't have tons of opportunites for phone sex (well, except for with those zero-post yahoos who send out mass PMs), but I'm going to study this well and implement all of your suggestions in the future!

Thank you! :rose: :kiss:

SWEETERIKA!!! oh god, LOL and mcopado will back me up on this...
I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee youuuuuuuuuuuu!!! so that ^^^ just has me floating floating floating!! All your advice is always so sweet and thoughtful and goddamn helpful that i'm always in awe. i'm honoured you read my post let alone commented on it...hehe look baby! SE wrote sweet stuff! LOL

PS enjoy ur next phone sex outting on me ;) ;)

PPS er...we love ur AV ...and jus as merry xmas was looking kinda sucky this year too hehe
 
Was just trolling through HT and came upon this book link...don't know if it has been brought up here, so I thought I'd at it here for the "record."

Person who bought it highly recommends it...


Originally Posted by eudaemonia
Here's one to keep on your nightstand:

The Fine Art Of Erotic Talk:
How To Entice, Excite, And Enchant Your Lover With Words
by Bonnie Gabriel

Best $17 I spent in 1998.

I really dislike the words "fuck" "dick" and "cunt" and discovered therein quite a few new-to-me terms that were far more to my taste, not to mention a few phrases that I've modified to suit my own style.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/055337396X/103-7449401-9342233?v=glance&n=283155
 
Asian Princess has some awesome tips (not to mention an extremely sexy voice, check her audio stories out), anyway..... a couple more thoughts:

* one great way to practice would be to leave a message on the literotica audio story site - sign up (it's free), then you call a toll free number & begin recording your own voice - many ladies submit just the sounds of themselves masturbating & i guess they call in after they are already really horny and well into a masturbation session (ie: already hot & not so nervous), you can call in unanomously and leave a hot 2 minute message (they may even post it). it's a good way to get you relaxed, with hot talk & you may enjoy the fact guys may actually hear your hot voice & sounds (again, nobody will know it's you - so great way to get comfortable on the phone) - the link is: http://www.literotica.com/audio/submit.shtml

* the other suggestion is to call after you have had a couple drinks, glasses of wine etc..... relax in bed & touch yourself a bit before calling, then you can slip out some words or sighs that let your guy know you are a bit horny (you might casually mention you had a bit to drink). guys love phone sex & if it's at a time he is also on his own, it will likely play itself out, again, follow Asian Princesses tips & have a great time with it.

i have maintained a couple very hot overseas relationships via phone sex & even we don't get together accept 1 or 2 times a year, it's like we've been together the whole time (and the anticipation for the real thing is heightened that much more!!) GO FOR IT! :nana:
 
throbbin bob said:
Asian Princess has some awesome tips (not to mention an extremely sexy voice, check her audio stories out), anyway

Her new story just went up in the last 12 hours...Unfortunatly, since my sweetie will be at a confrence in Sydney on the 26th (which will be christmas here in the states) I decided that since I won't be able to have her, I'll at least have her audio....God, I wanna listen so bad..... :D

{Hey bob, listen for me and tell me what I can expect :) Please..please...please}

Also would really like your insights on the whole distance thing.....

michael
 
wow..... you already have the princess, i don't know what tips i could possibly give! anyway..... the downside to long distance love is the "when the cats away, the mice will play" syndrome, which works both ways! but..... even one of my "partners" married, her hubby travels a bunch & he's not into the phone sex thing at all (BIT MISTAKE ON HIS PART!!), deep down, i think women really like phone sex & want to let loose (sharing masturbation is 10 times better than the solo act!)..... getting together whenever & whereever is HUGE..... if your long distance lover knows you'll go to extremes to meet up with her & cost is not the issue - that hits their button in more ways than one! gifts (even small) by fed ex, flowers when they don't expect, web greeting cards which are creative, buy her a song which makes you think of her (or the 2 of you together), get her an I-Pod and send her the songs by download, chat on line time-to-time, but don't suffocate her too much with communications - keep it fresh & her wanting to get your messages (and vicarious massages) :cool:

ya gotta a good one mate! cheers, Bob
 
throbbin bob said:
ya gotta a good one mate! cheers, Bob

Yeah I'm blessed.... :)

Thank God for the internet and online flower deliry services to the other side of the world....

So. You listen to her latest yet??????????????

I'm positively drooling with anticipation!!!!
 
not yet.... need to get in a nice private spot & heated up - my end result is always the same with the Princess stories, so i'll need some time & privacy - can't wait for sure :nana:
 
asian_princess said:
SWEETERIKA!!! oh god, LOL and mcopado will back me up on this...
I loveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee youuuuuuuuuuuu!!! so that ^^^ just has me floating floating floating!! All your advice is always so sweet and thoughtful and goddamn helpful that i'm always in awe. i'm honoured you read my post let alone commented on it...hehe look baby! SE wrote sweet stuff! LOL

PS enjoy ur next phone sex outting on me ;) ;)

PPS er...we love ur AV ...and jus as merry xmas was looking kinda sucky this year too hehe
Thank you both so much! You have a PM, a_p. :rose:
 
You know, my wife and I pretty much started our relationship over the phone. We dated just a couple of weeks before I left for three months. We not only fell in love over the phone, but we learned a great deal about each other sexually through phone sex. It's a great opportunity to communicate about your sexual fantasies and what turns you on. I really can't add anything about technique, because A P has pretty much written the quintessential how-to in a nutshell. What I would like to add though is that both parties also need to listen, especially the guys!

I'm not just talking about listening to her describe how her slick finger is gliding between her swollen lips, but listen to the fact that she is getting aroused by playing with her lips. File that away as a future possible erogenous zone. For example, one of my wife's most sensitive spots isn't her clit, but the area right under her clit. When I got back and we made love I started touching that spot and she came fast and hard. She asked how I knew how sensitive she was there and I simply told her, "you told me." She had no recollection of saying it, but I remembered it. Likewise she remembered things I'd said. I guess I think that phone sex between two partners had a lot more facets than just listening to each other jerk off Long Distance. There are some great opportunities to grow your relationship too!

Sadly if you don't use it, it will rust. My wife went to help out some family for a month last year and we decided to try phone sex. It was hillarious but we just couldn't remember how we used to do it back in college. We found that we were trying to force it, not just letting it happen. It has to be organic and real to be really good, I think. She's leaving for a few weeks here after Christmas. Maybe I can get her to read A P's awesome description before she goes. I know I'll be giving it another once or twice over. :D
 
TBKahuna123 said:
You know, my wife and I pretty much started our relationship over the phone. We dated just a couple of weeks before I left for three months. We not only fell in love over the phone, but we learned a great deal about each other sexually through phone sex. It's a great opportunity to communicate about your sexual fantasies and what turns you on. I really can't add anything about technique, because A P has pretty much written the quintessential how-to in a nutshell. What I would like to add though is that both parties also need to listen, especially the guys!

Thank you so much for your insightful post...You proved too that it is not necessarily just about phone sex, but about listenning and sharing, and that it is possible to fall in love on the phone...

Thanks for permission :)
 
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