catalina_francisco
Happily insatiable always
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This is just my opinion of course and I am not saying that anyone should read or take notice of the thread, I am ranting.
I find that there is a strong opposition to the words ethics and morals by some inside the BDSM environment. It is as if because we enjoy things that vanilla’s consider being immoral that we have to be immoral. IMO a dominant needs to have morals and ethics, the power we gain over our property is of such magnitude that a dominant could easily be corrupted by it and become exactly that what the vanillas say we are.
I happen to think that honesty and trustworthiness are very important in a BDSM relationship. The trust between a Dominant and his partner has to be complete. Any submissive who has been put in a situation where the sub is completely helpless, understands the need to trust their partner. How can the submissive truly enjoy the power the dominant has if the sub can not trust him, if constantly in the sub’s mind they can not let go out of fear of betrayal of trust?
The same can be said of a submissive, how can a dominant trust their partner if they lie, cheat and do not follow even the simplest of morals and ethics?
For switches it is even worse, one moment they are completely vulnerable and the next they are in control. If their partner can not handle this or is not honest in their feedback they are steadily going towards absolute and total disaster.
I consider honesty and truthfulness to be absolutely essential for any relationship especially a BDSM one.
I believe in tolerance and I believe also in morals and ethics. Often it is seen as if they are opposing characteristics. But why should my being tolerant to others make me forget my own morals and ethics. I do not condone lying, why should I just out of tolerance condone it for someone else?
We should stand for what we believe in. It seems that just out of fear not to offend or to not be tolerant enough, we have forgotten the basics.
It would be interesting to see others thoughts on this.
Francisco.
I find that there is a strong opposition to the words ethics and morals by some inside the BDSM environment. It is as if because we enjoy things that vanilla’s consider being immoral that we have to be immoral. IMO a dominant needs to have morals and ethics, the power we gain over our property is of such magnitude that a dominant could easily be corrupted by it and become exactly that what the vanillas say we are.
I happen to think that honesty and trustworthiness are very important in a BDSM relationship. The trust between a Dominant and his partner has to be complete. Any submissive who has been put in a situation where the sub is completely helpless, understands the need to trust their partner. How can the submissive truly enjoy the power the dominant has if the sub can not trust him, if constantly in the sub’s mind they can not let go out of fear of betrayal of trust?
The same can be said of a submissive, how can a dominant trust their partner if they lie, cheat and do not follow even the simplest of morals and ethics?
For switches it is even worse, one moment they are completely vulnerable and the next they are in control. If their partner can not handle this or is not honest in their feedback they are steadily going towards absolute and total disaster.
I consider honesty and truthfulness to be absolutely essential for any relationship especially a BDSM one.
I believe in tolerance and I believe also in morals and ethics. Often it is seen as if they are opposing characteristics. But why should my being tolerant to others make me forget my own morals and ethics. I do not condone lying, why should I just out of tolerance condone it for someone else?
We should stand for what we believe in. It seems that just out of fear not to offend or to not be tolerant enough, we have forgotten the basics.
It would be interesting to see others thoughts on this.
Francisco.