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Mr. Bossman

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I am wondering something. ladies, maybe you can help me with this. My wife, love her heart, gives me head regularly, but it isnt all what I want. I want her to give me those porn style blowjobs. you know the slurpy/nasty/handjob/ blows. The messier the better, how can I implement this into our sex lives???
 
I was always into the "cleaner", non-slurpy blowjobs, just thinking that a guy wouldn't want to have my spit all over his cock and making a mess. But then one night while giving my husband a bj it got a little "slurpy" and made that noise you know. Well, I was worried about it until he told me that he loves to hear that. Since then I've quit trying to be "clean" and now I think I give a much better bj than before. Maybe you're wife is thinking like I was, and just telling her how much you love the sounds associated with a bj will help her break loose.
 
Clean or slurpy a blowjob is a gift. Ask your wife to be a little more sloppy, but if she's comfortable with the way she's doing it, go with the flow man. :)
 
well I say be honest abuot what you want and go from there. Understand that she may not be comfortable enough in her sexual self to give the full throttle " porno" blowjob. Sometimes it's hard for a woman to think of herself as that wantonly sexual, but your honesty about what a turn on that would be for you may be what she needs to overcome that hurdle.
Make certain that you stress to her that the way she gives blowjobs isn't " wrong" or " bad" just that you would like to see what it's like from another approach and you'd like her to help you make that fantasy happen. I say this because I once had a BF who decided he wanted me to use my hands and jerk him off while I blew him. He was less then tactful in the way he requested, something along the lines of, " If you'd just play with my cock I'd cum in a minute." had me totally convinced that my BJ's were awful. Not only did he not get what he wanted, but I quit giving them to him altogether. I'd hate to see that happen to you.
 
Mstrskey is absolutely right! Whatever you do, don't even hint at the idea that what she is doing now is less than wonderful. I would also add not to use the phrase "porn style blowjobs." Conjurs up bad images in some women's heads.

I also have to agree with HotRed - I think it is somehow more "ladylike" to give a cleaner blowjob. Well, I also don't particularly care for slurping up my own spit or have it run over my hands or get all over my face. It's a me thing.

I would take babysteps with this one. Encourage her, let her know what she's doing is terrific. And perhaps slide in a comment about what you want. Avoid words that most women don't like to hear, however. Use words such as "wetter" and "messy".

Good luck!
 
Sounds good ladies. I appreciate the info and replies. She is not opposed to having sex ANYTIME, but sometimes things could be better ya know?
She isnt into porn, nor many kinky things.
She does however, like to talk dirty, telling me I have a "beautiful cock" Never heard that one before lol.
Maybe I do have a beautiful cock?? who knows?
I have a very high sex drive, I masturbate at least 5 times a week. Is this bad? I look at it like this, when I cum before we fuck, I have plenty of stamina later...
anymore opinions?
 
If you don't know how to tell her, or are uneasy asking for it:

tell her you had an amazing dream last night where she was giving you a messy blowjob and it turned you on alot and you didn't think it would ask her to try it ... maybe it'll ease her into the idea of being neat ... hell... maybe shes suppressing wanting to go crazy on you and all she can come up with w/o feeling whorish is "you have a beautiful cock" (though, i have had some beautiful cocks myself hehe) ... incourage her.

and if not:
lightly/more roughly wherever you are in bed now .. push on her head, comb your fingers through her hair, tug it a lil... incourage her and it'll happen w/o a problem :)
 
BlueSugar said:
If you don't know how to tell her, or are uneasy asking for it:

tell her you had an amazing dream last night where she was giving you a messy blowjob and it turned you on alot and you didn't think it would ask her to try it ... maybe it'll ease her into the idea of being neat ... hell... maybe shes suppressing wanting to go crazy on you and all she can come up with w/o feeling whorish is "you have a beautiful cock" (though, i have had some beautiful cocks myself hehe) ... incourage her.

and if not:
lightly/more roughly wherever you are in bed now .. push on her head, comb your fingers through her hair, tug it a lil... incourage her and it'll happen w/o a problem :)
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Bluesugar,
Thank you for the reply first. I feel a little weird asking some of the questions I have, but ah well. I have never been a member of a site like this. (although I like it) seems like I am constantly sporting a hard on around the office. ( after hours of course)
I have begged her to let me put it in her ass, and she finally is about to let me. :cool: So, that leads me to think that I could "talk her into" a bit nastier bj.
Thanks again and I will try your advice.
PS.
Got any tips for anal sex?
Should I cum in her ass or pull out?
What do girls like?
 
Bossman...try doing a search of 'anal' on the How To forum...or just look at the titles for a few pages ...there is all sorts of info on anal sex here.
 
try not to look at it as what you can talk her into....maybe more like new things you can explore together. you must of known that she wasnt into these kinky things when you married her Im assuming...so dont get to upset if she doesnt want to go for your new ideas. AS for anal...lots of lube...oral...push her to the brink of coming so she is very VERY relaxed. A good way to maybe make bj's sloppier is to maybe try some edible oil...maybe whipped cream...hershys syrup...the idea of giving a drooly, wet bj is sorta nasty until you try it. Using some sort of food gives her the chance to try it out, get messy and gives you the opportunity to let her see...not have you just tell her...how much you loved it. Good luck:)
 
Mr. Bossman said:
I am wondering something. ladies, maybe you can help me with this. My wife, love her heart, gives me head regularly, but it isnt all what I want. I want her to give me those porn style blowjobs. you know the slurpy/nasty/handjob/ blows. The messier the better, how can I implement this into our sex lives???
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Get her drunk first? :D j/k

Boy, that's a toughie. Some women may not like the idea of modeling their blow jobs after a porn movie. Have you talked with her about this? Have you asked her to do just one thing differently, then moved onwards and upwards from there?

I like both cumming in my ass and on my ass cheeks. It depends on my mood. Of course, I pretty much have to abide by whatever Barry wants. :)
 
Can't stress enough.....don't in any way say anything that will have her feeling there's something wrong with the way she sucks you now!

I prefer him cumming in my ass.......you can feel the squirting sooo much better!
 
Mr. Bossman said:
Bluesugar,
Thank you for the reply first. I feel a little weird asking some of the questions I have, but ah well. I have never been a member of a site like this. (although I like it) seems like I am constantly sporting a hard on around the office. ( after hours of course)
I have begged her to let me put it in her ass, and she finally is about to let me. :cool: So, that leads me to think that I could "talk her into" a bit nastier bj.
Thanks again and I will try your advice.
PS.
Got any tips for anal sex?
Should I cum in her ass or pull out?
What do girls like?
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You're asking the wrong Lit member about anal... it isn't my thing. And I just hopped on your wife's side so :: raspberries:: two votes no anal, one vote yes. lol. j/k , To Each Their Own!!

yeah.. there are about... 1,002 anal threads all over Lit. have fun :)
 
Mr. Bossman said:
Will do wicked woman, thank you!
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One thing about the anal, do use pleanty of lube and start slowly......dont do it missionary style.....that can hurt a anal virgin.....it doesnt go in properly.......also try it spoon style......that sometimes is the most comfortable....and you can be playing with her clit or using a vibrator at the same time.......
You have to remember that those women in the porn movies arent really enjoying the sex,,,they are performing and a lot are coked up.........I would just say something lightly and see what she does but leave it alone........I may not make much noise but I enjoy doing it and I would think that is what should be happening.....


:heart: :rose: :heart:
 
Just say, "Oh god, your mouth feels so hot...so wet...it feels so good drooling down like that..." The better she feels about what she's doing, the more experimental she'll get.
 
Just consider yourself a lucky man. There are a lot of wives that will not and never will give a blowjob to their husbands. They just don't like it.
I had a friend of mine tell me one time "Sex and blowjobs are like pizza. Even when it's bad, it's pretty good."
He's a pretty crass guy.
In a nutshell, enjoy what your wife is giving you, and remember, it's because she loves you.
Reloader.
 
Don't Get Greedy

Seriously, remember that the best thing that you can do during every interaction with your wife is to be thinking about HER pleasure. Do those things for HER that will keep her coming back to YOU for more for the rest of your lives.

Let's face it, it's pretty easy to turn us guys on and to keep us sexually satisfied. It's the women in our lives who tend to become disinterested. This usually happens after 2 kids and between 7 to 10 years in the relationship. More than 50% of these relationships dissolve during this time.

Look, your short-term desire for anal sex and different kinds of blow jobs are natural. BUT, don't forget that you are in this with her for life. Take good care of her now, and you'll get rewarded forever. Fail to get outside yourself and your desires, and you will soon face the natural consequences.

Tell her that you absolutely love it when she goes down on you and ask her how you can make the experience more enjoyable for her.

Tell her that you love the feeling of her pussy, but would like to try anal only IF and when she's ready for it. Don't make her feel like there's any pressure to do it by telling her that if she decides against it, that you'll honor her wishes.

This is my recipe for a true long-term relationship.

Gotta go . . . Good luck.
 
Original tread:

" I am wondering something. ladies, maybe you can help me with this. My wife, love her heart, gives me head regularly, but it isnt all what I want. I want her to give me those porn style blowjobs. you know the slurpy/nasty/handjob/ blows. The messier the better, how can I implement this into our sex lives???"

Communicate with her! If you have honest, open, sincere and trustworthy relationship, tell her you desires. Maybe even share some blowjob videos you liked with her.

Also, make sure to give her pleasure as well in return for the pleasures she gives you!
 
Mulenga225 said:
Original tread:

" I am wondering something. ladies, maybe you can help me with this. My wife, love her heart, gives me head regularly, but it isnt all what I want. I want her to give me those porn style blowjobs. you know the slurpy/nasty/handjob/ blows. The messier the better, how can I implement this into our sex lives???"

Communicate with her! If you have honest, open, sincere and trustworthy relationship, tell her you desires. Maybe even share some blowjob videos you liked with her.

Also, make sure to give her pleasure as well in return for the pleasures she gives you!
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Can you please not resurrect any more dead threads?
 
so many

so many how to questions ask how to get wife or husband to do something, if you are not mature enough to have a conversation with your other half then you don't deserve the blow job you desire.

Harsh?
 
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