Okay, here's the deal...
I am a single mother of two great kids...my son is five and my daughter is four. They are usually very, very obedient, friendly, kind...loving. All those wonderful things. I am so very proud of them.
This past week, my son has been acting STRANGELY. He refuses to listen to me. Period. I tell him to pick up his toys, and he flat-out refuses. I ask him what he wants for dinner, give him two or three choices, and he gets upset because he wants something else...even when those choices are all his favorites! When I told him to come inside this evening, he threw a tantrum. A real, honest-to-God tantrum. When I told him to close the door, he looked at me and deliberately opened it wider. I was amazed at his behavior, which is nothing like the boy I have raised!
There is nothing adverse going on at school...I checked with his teacher, and he has been just like always, no problems at all. He is in counseling after my ex-fiance and I ended our relationship a few months ago, and his counselor says he hasn't been acting differently in their sessions. She was quite puzzled by his behavior as well, and will try to draw him out a little about it at their next session, which is about a week away.
I should also mention that he has never been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD or anything along those lines, and he is not on any medications for anything.
Right now, in fact, he is in his room...in another 'time out'. This time it was because I told him to come inside when it got dark and he not only refused, but ran into the backyard and yelled that he would NOT come inside. No matter what I ask him to do, he refuses. It is like an extreme show of independence...though it is getting ridiculous. It has been a week, and this power struggle is wearing us both down.
I'm looking for ideas on what to do here. He has never acted this way before, and I am at a loss. I know all the advice about ignoring the tantrums, putting him in time-out, all that...but damn. I don't know how to handle a five-year-old who is determined to live life his OWN way and not listen to mommy anymore. *sigh*
What can I do?
S.
I am a single mother of two great kids...my son is five and my daughter is four. They are usually very, very obedient, friendly, kind...loving. All those wonderful things. I am so very proud of them.
This past week, my son has been acting STRANGELY. He refuses to listen to me. Period. I tell him to pick up his toys, and he flat-out refuses. I ask him what he wants for dinner, give him two or three choices, and he gets upset because he wants something else...even when those choices are all his favorites! When I told him to come inside this evening, he threw a tantrum. A real, honest-to-God tantrum. When I told him to close the door, he looked at me and deliberately opened it wider. I was amazed at his behavior, which is nothing like the boy I have raised!
There is nothing adverse going on at school...I checked with his teacher, and he has been just like always, no problems at all. He is in counseling after my ex-fiance and I ended our relationship a few months ago, and his counselor says he hasn't been acting differently in their sessions. She was quite puzzled by his behavior as well, and will try to draw him out a little about it at their next session, which is about a week away.
I should also mention that he has never been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD or anything along those lines, and he is not on any medications for anything.
Right now, in fact, he is in his room...in another 'time out'. This time it was because I told him to come inside when it got dark and he not only refused, but ran into the backyard and yelled that he would NOT come inside. No matter what I ask him to do, he refuses. It is like an extreme show of independence...though it is getting ridiculous. It has been a week, and this power struggle is wearing us both down.
I'm looking for ideas on what to do here. He has never acted this way before, and I am at a loss. I know all the advice about ignoring the tantrums, putting him in time-out, all that...but damn. I don't know how to handle a five-year-old who is determined to live life his OWN way and not listen to mommy anymore. *sigh*
What can I do?
S.