Hey, all.
I'm looking for some personal slants here, on what is probably a very sensitive issue for some.
I have a wonderful friend, a man I have gotten to know much better in the last few weeks. He has a pretty significant history of cocaine and heroin addiction. There was a time, right before he 'got his ass hauled into recovery', as he put it, when he had a habit of taking a hit every few hours, all day and all night. He was an addict from the time he was in his mid-twenties. He is 35 now, and has been clean for three years.
He tells me this is something he struggles with every single day, and probably will continue to struggle with for the rest of his life. He IS clean, but sometimes it is very hard, and he says he might be literally one breath away from taking another hit before his common sense kicks in.
He and I have talked about it quite a bit, especially over the last few days. He tries to describe what it was like to be in the grips of the addiction, to deal with the shock of giving it up, and now being strong when sometimes all he wants is another hit. But no matter how hard he tries to explain it to me, he simply can't say what he needs to say...he can't find the words. And he desperately wants me to understand that part of him. I want to understand, too. His strength in the aftermath is one of the things that makes up who he is, and that fact alone makes me want to learn more.
I did do an extensive search on cocaine and heroin addiction, and came up with the usual suspects...lists of symptoms and effects, lists of support groups and the like...
What I'm wondering is this: What happens inside a person who has an addiction? What does that craving feel like? What kind of emotions and changes do you go through when you finally kick the habit and face life without the drug?
And most importantly...for those who have had a friend or a loved one go through this manner of hell and then come out clean on the other side...what was the best support you could give? What did you offer to him/her that was helpful?
Thanks, all.
S.
I'm looking for some personal slants here, on what is probably a very sensitive issue for some.
I have a wonderful friend, a man I have gotten to know much better in the last few weeks. He has a pretty significant history of cocaine and heroin addiction. There was a time, right before he 'got his ass hauled into recovery', as he put it, when he had a habit of taking a hit every few hours, all day and all night. He was an addict from the time he was in his mid-twenties. He is 35 now, and has been clean for three years.
He tells me this is something he struggles with every single day, and probably will continue to struggle with for the rest of his life. He IS clean, but sometimes it is very hard, and he says he might be literally one breath away from taking another hit before his common sense kicks in.
He and I have talked about it quite a bit, especially over the last few days. He tries to describe what it was like to be in the grips of the addiction, to deal with the shock of giving it up, and now being strong when sometimes all he wants is another hit. But no matter how hard he tries to explain it to me, he simply can't say what he needs to say...he can't find the words. And he desperately wants me to understand that part of him. I want to understand, too. His strength in the aftermath is one of the things that makes up who he is, and that fact alone makes me want to learn more.
I did do an extensive search on cocaine and heroin addiction, and came up with the usual suspects...lists of symptoms and effects, lists of support groups and the like...
What I'm wondering is this: What happens inside a person who has an addiction? What does that craving feel like? What kind of emotions and changes do you go through when you finally kick the habit and face life without the drug?
And most importantly...for those who have had a friend or a loved one go through this manner of hell and then come out clean on the other side...what was the best support you could give? What did you offer to him/her that was helpful?
Thanks, all.
S.