Fingers?

I have always masturbated with either a vibrator or a hand held shower massager. I was wondering if anyone had any tips on how to get off with my fingers, so far it's been a no-go.

My first time with fingers was a no-go too. I found 2 things work well...1- doing it in the bathtub..the swishing water feels great.. and 2- A washcloth. I use a cool one, but that's just my preference..The extra texture is oh so yummy!

Practice makes perfect

My first times were with fingers, but after discovering the wonderful world of toys, I pretty much stopped using my hands alone. However, I was staying with friends a couple years ago, and felt the urge to pleasure myself. Since I had no toys at hand, I was forced to resort to manual stimulation, and after much rubbing, petting, stroking... it all worked out.

I ended up using a shower massage to get off for a really long time because I couldn't with my fingers, but that's besides the point. I find that sometimes after I use a vibrator to get off, I can use my fingers to do the same until a good amount of time later, like a few days or even a week. I think because of the more intense stimulation, it sort of "desensitizes" the clit, and I usually have to give it a rest to get it's sensitivity back. I wish you luck!

Like College_geek, I get desensitized using the shower massage too, and have to lay off a few days before I can cum with my fingers again.

I use some lube, and don't go right for my clit. I spend some time teasing/feeling/stroking my pussy lips......finger myself a bit, and get really horny before I touch my clit at all. You'll be able to tell pretty quickly what feels best for you!

But seriously, don't use any toy or the shower massage for a few days before you try again.

Good luck!

Four_Inch_Heels said:

Like College_geek, I get desensitized using the shower massage too, and have to lay off a few days before I can cum with my fingers again.

I use some lube, and don't go right for my clit. I spend some time teasing/feeling/stroking my pussy lips......finger myself a bit, and get really horny before I touch my clit at all. You'll be able to tell pretty quickly what feels best for you!

But seriously, don't use any toy or the shower massage for a few days before you try again.

Good luck!

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Ever since I was a little girl, I've used other means to masturbate. And, while I love how good my orgasms are and how it feels, I would love to be able to masturbate with my fingers while out in public (away from my place/personal things).

I have never had an orgasm from my fingers. Ever. How long did it take you to teach yourself to masturbate with your fingers? And, did you just experiment? Or, did you read something? I'm clueless.

It's so weird for me reading this...I must be in the minority here...I learned to masturbate with my fingers, and to this day it is my preferred way of pleasing myself.

I generally find that lube is nice to start out...I think I am typically a little on the dry side of things. For me, it feels best to start out by teasing my labia and clit gently, get a good fantasy going and see where it takes me. I rarely use my own fingers for penetration, but sometimes it feels good. After a while, I get a nice fairly firm stroking motion going as I rub a finger or two over and around my clit. Never fails to get me off.

I think if you are used to using vibrators, etc. It is really hard to get off with your fingers. The desensitizing that everyone is speaking of is a true problem for me. I mean who can beat the old Waterpik shower massager from the 80's......Remember? With the long silver cord that pinched if you didn't watch it?LOL Ahhhhh......Anyway, I can't do anything with my fingers if I've used my toys in the past week or so. And I always seem to use them, But I prefer the O I get with them over my fingers anyhow. Just my two cents...

I like my toys but I prefer my fingers. I have the best orgasms that way and its the only way I can get off during sex. I have to rub my clit with my fingers while I am getting fucked.

I ended up experimenting, myself. I had read somewhere that most women used their fingers, or started by using their fingers. I would rub myself at night before bed, but the best I could do was starting to involuntarily spasm. Looking back at it, I think it was a case of not being able to go over the edge, and I had to stop because it was too good. It was really odd, to me, that a year later I was suddenly able to use my fingers on my first try. Sometimes if I want to masturbate using my finger and I don't want it to take as long as it usually does to get off by it, I'll wait two weeks without orgasming to make sure that my body is prepared and really wanting one by then.

I started with finger and have pretty much stayed with them. I agree that lube is a real helpful item. Seems that if you can glide over the clit easily you can maintain an acceptable spead.
As for inserting fingers. For some reason they always end up there when I hit my peak. Just have to have something touching the insides when I release.

You girls are so awesome ! I'lll try your advice out pronto and report back within the next few days. Thanks a bunch!

It makes me frustrated because sometimes a girl fingering herself can be so much more fun than a toy. My girl will finger herself, but she'd prefer to rub her clit. I bought her a toy for penetration when she's masturbating, but she doesn't use it much. She keeps her fingernails pretty long which I think is part of it, but not entirely her whole problem.....and btw, getting fingered when she's on her hands and knees is the easiest and best way to get her off, so I don't understand why she isn't very interested in fingerfucking herself I gotta work on that cuz its one of my biggest turn ons.

post some pics of what you're doing so we can analyze the problem more fully

Italian Goddess said:

Ever since I was a little girl, I've used other means to masturbate. And, while I love how good my orgasms are and how it feels, I would love to be able to masturbate with my fingers while out in public (away from my place/personal things).

I have never had an orgasm from my fingers. Ever. How long did it take you to teach yourself to masturbate with your fingers? And, did you just experiment? Or, did you read something? I'm clueless.

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Hhmmm.....you've made me think back! Although I don't remember, I'm sure I must have been taught that touching yourself was "dirty". I used to cum by humping on the floor, but one day I decided it was MY body, and I could touch it if I wanted to! I think the only way you'll be able to cum like that is by experimenting, since every woman is different. I'm pretty sure everything I've ever read gave the same advice....experiment, and find out what feels best for you. I don't recall the first time I came with my fingers, but I'm sure it wasn't the very first time I tried it. I think the first few times my hand probably got too tired, and I just went back to my vibe to finish. Watching porn at the same time definitely helps. My advice would be to not have orgasm as your goal in the beginning......just learn what feels best to you, use lube, get to know yourself "down there".....feel how silky and soft your pussy lips are.....how the inside of your pussy feels kinda like chopped liver....lol. Practice does make perfect. You'll get the hang of it, it just takes time!

mattenno said:

post some pics of what you're doing so we can analyze the problem more fully

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mattenno said:

post some pics of what you're doing so we can analyze the problem more fully

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Perv!

I wrap mine around the shaft and move them in gentle then quickened up and down motion. Works for me. Well it used to until Wife said I wasn't allowed to masturbate any more...

Wait, maybe I'm missing the direction of this thread...

fingers

i've only ever used my fingers - maybe that's why it works for me... but i find an indirect around-the-clit rubbing kinda stimulation seems to do it for me. i don't know, it just always has - and yes, it's quite handy knowing how to get yourself off w/ just your fingers, in case you're in a dark auditorium, a plane, a dorm room... anywhere you dont' have access to other means...

Well... I definitely started out with fingers and still just use fingers, because I'm a paranoid cheapskate and thus have no toys at all. Plus for me fingers work fine.

Here's the thing: sometimes you get off fast, sometimes you don't. Waiting like other people suggested helps. But basically the way I first discovered orgasm was just by sort of poking around, checking out my equipment, and eventually hitting on some movements that felt reeeeally good. I don't know if this sounds strange but I like to put my clit between two fingers and then move them up and down, alternating (that is, one finger goes up while the other goes down, then reverse). It works really well for me.

Also, some visual stimulation might help? Look at some pics or something to get the internal fantasy thing going, that way you're getting hot from more than just manual stimulation... patience, good things come to those who are persistent!

Good luck!

Lie on a bed or the edge of a bed and rub your cunt against it... if you're on the bed use a pillow and if you're on the edge, well - the edge Make sure the edge rubs your pussy nice... while you're doing this reach down with your hand and play with your pussy... rub the lips, circle your clit, whatever you can... you'll cum in no time. It will be easier to get to your hole while on the bed rubbing a pillow.

But the edge is harder and gives you extra pressure

man's viewpoint

Ladies hope you don't mind, but I must be weird as I tend to pay attention to what the ladies I've been with do, what makes them feel good and makes them cum to various degrees, then I do my best to do the same for them afterwards, so I hope my thoughts might help some as well.

Some I've been with might use their fingers but to really get off either I need to use my own or they'd just get things started durring foreplay. Others had no problem using their fingers as the photo grouping shows.
She's loves fingering herself and as you'll notice the more fingers she can get inside her the better. She'll run her clip soft to hard, depending on the buildup, and stroke up and down between the folds of her lips. Of course if I'm telling her what to do and when to do it that seems to greatly add to her pleasure and pending climax.
Once she started to cum she damn near was ramming her fingers in to a point where I worried she'd injure herself but she would gush and most times squirt, just from fingers. Granted when she'd add a vib it was much more powerful. But these shots show just how wet she got.

Another lady (current ) also uses her fingers only most of the time and her orgasms are so intense she shakes afterwards, and when I joined mine with hers, all I'll say was it was a earth shattering moment. She cums much harder using just her fingers than when a toy is used. Well, now that she obtained a bullet upon my request, she has discovered just how great they are too


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Italian Goddess said:

Ever since I was a little girl, I've used other means to masturbate. And, while I love how good my orgasms are and how it feels, I would love to be able to masturbate with my fingers while out in public (away from my place/personal things).

I have never had an orgasm from my fingers. Ever. How long did it take you to teach yourself to masturbate with your fingers? And, did you just experiment? Or, did you read something? I'm clueless.

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I always used a pillow but when I got married, wanted to be able to come during intercourse and the pillow would have gotten in the way:> So next time I masturbated, I slipped my hand in between the pillow and my pussy and tried to recreate the sensation I'd gotten from the pillow alone. At first I left my hand limp and rubbed against it like the pillow, then I figured out i'd been pressing against a certain spot and concentrated my fingers there, still like the corner of the pillow, rather than using them as fingers. That's the sort of thing I'd try to go from using waterspray. Put your fingers in the area but don't think about using them at first. Little by little I figured our what I'd abeen doing all those years unconsciously. That, for instance, I start on the right side of my clit and press in and to the left. It really only took me a couple of days to figure all this out. I also figured out that I'd been applying a lot more pressure with that pillow than I'd been aware of, since pillows are soft. All of this info came in handy in figuring out how to come without fingers a couple of times, too, by being on top and rubbing and pressing against my dh's pubic bone during sex.

Just assume success, and don't take it too seriously, as long as you have Some way to cum.

Well, since I'm in a confessing mood tonight...

I have two basic finger techniques. Sometime I do both, sometimes just one or the other.

Usually if I'm just using my hand I start out by cupping myself and just rubbing around in circles - it kind of gets me going. Sometimes I'll use some lube, other times I just use my own moisture.

Anyway, when I get nice and aroused, sometimes I put a finger on either side of my clitoris (usually index and middle) on top of my clitoral hood. Then I rub down towards my vagina, mostly. When I get closer I start going up and down the shaft a little, but I keep the skin of the hood wrapped around my clitoris. My clitoris doesn't have a real long shaft, so sometimes it's kind of both even if I'm trying to just do it one way. This way usually works best if my clitoris is real tender and I'm really horny.

Other times, and I usually use some lube for this, I'll pull back the hood and rub my index finger around and around, and then up and down the shaft, and a little bit over the very tip, but that's usually pretty sensitive.

Usually I don't have anything in my vagina when I masturbate this way, but I like to try lots of different stuff, so I've done this with a dildo or a vibrator in me, and once in a while when I'm on top and my spouse is inside me and neither of us feels like moving a lot.

Both ways give me real nice orgasms - sometimes quickly, but usually it takes some time.

When I first noticed it was there - I'd use a towel - roll it into a ball and then roll myself on it - that way noone knew what I was doing - as for fingers - well they can be fun as well with toys - try using the toy on vibe and leaving it in your pussy while your hand/fingers circle your clit or vice versa.