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O.K I gotta problem and I could use a little help, and that problem would be premature ejaculation. Now with that said I already no one of the ideas you will say, first would be to masterbate before hand. Problem is, is that once I go, I lose all sexual drive period that and my SO is a little shy and not into oral.... I also tried the stupid desensitizing sprays and cock rings with no change. I am really bummed because I read all the storys of other people have long sessions with a partner. I always try to satisfy my SO with a BOB, oral, or the good ol rigid digit before I even attepmt penitration But I would like to last longer then 30 freakin seconds :( Anyways anyone have any good ideas or is there a drug like Viagra that would help?
 
I've taken a drug called effexor before that made it hard for me to cum as a side effect. I didn't like it so much, since I wasn't that 'quick' to begin with all the time. Made the lady happy though.

But I wouldn't reccomend self-medicating. Use your hands, mouth, be creative. There's more to sex than the 'ole in-out ;)

Having multiple sessions (one of my favorite things) in quick succession works well too.
 
yes please i would also like to know how to stop this as i have the same problem........hence my gf leaving me so hurry help
 
Err... I may not be the most knowledgeable on this subject, but...

...a quick mechanic fix might be wearing some nice thick condoms, or two, to reduce sensation. But that is rather uncomfortable.

...what you should really do is be very clear and open with your SO about this, talk about what could be the reason, try to relax and be understanding...and, well...probably try some meditation, maybe take a leaf from the tantric book so to speak.

Like I said, can't give more than general pointers...anybody else have any more specific solutions?

PS - I still don't believe this is something to solve with drugs or thick condoms, it probably lodges in the psyche - so its really a question of knowing and understanding yourself - which is probably the hardest thing to do.
 
SummerMorning said:
Like I said, can't give more than general pointers...anybody else have any more specific solutions?
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Other than the effexor thing...

How often do you guys have sex with your SO's?

I have found, personally, that if I haven't had sex in a long time (like now, heh) the first few times I do so will be quick. But if I'm doing it regularly, I dunno, I guess I get kinda back into the groove of things. Maybe the frequency de-sensitizes things a bit?

As said before, use your hands, mouth, everything else on her. Concentrate on her pleasure, not yours. She'll thank you for it later ;)
 
People have studied this problem almost interminably, as it is a very common occurrence. Three techniques that get wide use are:

1) As you approach orgasm, pull one or both testicles straight down, fairly sharply. This should take you back a bit in your arousal and give you some more time.

2) As you approach orgasm, queeze your penis just below the ridge of the glans (the head), with a finger in front and your thumb in the back (the surface that usually rests against the body when you're not erect). As with the above technique, this will slow down your arousal.

3) Pay attention as you have sex or as you masturbate. Learn what it feels like to approach orgasm. As you do, squeeze your pc muscle (the one you use to refrain from urinating when you need to go badly). If your pc muscle is strong enough, this will hold you back for a while. Get plenty of practice holding your pc muscle tight when you are approaching orgasm and soon you will be able to last much, much longer.

Also, having sex while you are on your back (woman superior) generally reduces the stimulation on the man and should enable you to last longer.

Finally, consider involving your partner in these efforts. After all, she has a vested interest and ought to be willing to help you.

Good luck.
 
Yeah the more often you have sex the better you get into a groove. Like for me when she is on her week the first time is quicker but she knows its going to be. But what i do is think about something else like the chair in the room just keep thinking about it like whats it feels like what its made of and shit keep your mind off what your penis is doing. I just think of other things i and at this point i can last as long as i want or as quick as i want. I know the thinking helps because my friend had your problem and i told him to try it and he is banging if g/f good now!!!
 
SIC said:
Yeah the more often you have sex the better you get into a groove. Like for me when she is on her week the first time is quicker but she knows its going to be. But what i do is think about something else like the chair in the room just keep thinking about it like whats it feels like what its made of and shit keep your mind off what your penis is doing. I just think of other things i and at this point i can last as long as i want or as quick as i want. I know the thinking helps because my friend had your problem and i told him to try it and he is banging if g/f good now!!!
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Exactly. It's all a mind game. Pull your mind away for a bit and you'll last longer. I've said it before, I'll say it again: MATH. Do some problems in you head.

And keep your eyes closed! What ever you do, don't look at her face and think how beautiful she is at that moment (as all women are) or you're done for!
 
Why don't you try masturbating a few hours before having sex. This will allow you to get horny again (as is not the case you said if you masturbate directly before sex)

The other thing I would suggest is when you masturbate you need to learn how to keep yourself from cumming.

Not being a guy, it's hard for me to describe how to do this exactly. But a sexologist that I heard give a talk said that you should try to last a while while masturbating. Bring youself close and deny yourself the orgasm. This helps you get to know your body, and will help you last longer during sex.

I noticed someone else suggested that you use two condoms. I would suggest against that because using two condoms greatly increases the chances that it will break.

I know there are special condoms that are designed to help you last longer.

Good Luck!!
 
<<<<<<is there a drug like Viagra that would help>>>>>>>>>>

Actually, Viagra does help a lot of men with their PE problem.

I had been plagued by PE for years. After reading some articles about it, i decided to try 1/4 of a viagra and use one of those strechy cock rings. To my surprise, I got 2 benefits. Sex was awesome because I was super horny, and I lasted a long time - NO PE!
 
what is your favorite subject

Hobby other then sex. I don't have a quick trigger but when I want to last longer I think of baseball. If there is a man on second and one out. The ball is hit to short right field - what do ALL the players do. List them off in my head.


Another thing comunicate with your SO and tell her where you are at. Say use a scale of 1 to 10. With 10 being climax. When you get to 6 or 7. Do something different. Pull out and change positions. Do anything that breaks up the proccess. Tell her that you want her to tell you when to cum and then cum for her.


Most of all ( this is the hardest part ) have fun and relax.

Holden
 
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HoldenMcCrank said:
Most of all ( this is the hardest part ) have fun and relax.

Holden
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Pardon me sir, but I have to ask.................. is that you in your avatar??

:devil:
 
incognito989 said:
How often do you guys have sex with your SO's?
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At least every other day, most of the time more except when "aunt flow" is in town. As for the masterbation part I have tried that with no luck, I think it made the problem worse:( Also did the "thinking about other things" but no luck! Man this really sucks:confused:
 
cutrat said:
At least every other day, most of the time more except when "aunt flow" is in town. As for the masterbation part I have tried that with no luck, I think it made the problem worse:( Also did the "thinking about other things" but no luck! Man this really sucks:confused:
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As a *last* resort, see your doctor about the things you've learned about meds in this thread.

Other than that, the only thing I can really say is to possibly try to strengthen that ole pc muscle. Though I hate linking to the 'cosmo for men' site askmen.com, here's an article about some ways to do that:

http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html
 
cutrat said:
At least every other day, most of the time more except when "aunt flow" is in town. As for the masterbation part I have tried that with no luck, I think it made the problem worse:( Also did the "thinking about other things" but no luck! Man this really sucks:confused:
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Not to sound ignorant .. but my SO seems like sex during her period, if not more. and i am happy to oblige. why are most guys so turned off by a little blood?

anyhow on to the topic at hand, have you ever tryed self hypnosis, or meditation? i used to have a PE problem... like couldnt even penetrate ... and now after a few years of meditation, and self hypnosis, i can happily go on for hours if need be or cum on the spot. i would suggest researching a bit ways to control your erection too. i have noticed the harder i am the faster i can/will cum. im talking the skin busting painful erections my SO loves so much. im not one to use drugs to stem the flow so to speak. My SO usualy helps me out when im in a poor place but playing with my balls for a bit, and that usualy settles me down a bit because its very relaxing. perhaps you are too tense? too much anticepation? im kinda shooting in the dark here, just offering My 0.02$ worth.

-A-
 
I just think about my mother in law.... cant cum if my life depended on it ! seriously..try thinking of something else to take your mind off of it.... like fishing or foot odor or the train being late or a flat tire.... you get the idea:D
 
Relentless said:
Exactly. It's all a mind game. Pull your mind away for a bit and you'll last longer. I've said it before, I'll say it again: MATH. Do some problems in you head.

And keep your eyes closed! What ever you do, don't look at her face and think how beautiful she is at that moment (as all women are) or you're done for!
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MATH?
My god, man, he's trying to delay orgasm, not fall asleep!:D
Just kidding.

One other thing that might help you is to try changing the pace before it's too late. Slow it down a bit, use shorter strokes for awhile, and try to practice control every time you have sex.
Good luck!
 
ok go to www.jackinworld.com there is a technique that is called stop and go what you do is masturbate til you fell like your about to cum and then completly stop let it reside then go back at it and then continue and repeat then when you have had enough say to your self your gonna cum and then cum make sure you decide when too cum or you are just prolonging the sensation and not working on cuming when you want to.


Try giving her an a comple of orgasms then when you cum she fills satifies probably not the best thing to think about sex b/c then you have the thought oh shit he is gonna score!!!! maybe plays songs that you like and say the lyrics in your head you will concenrate on that and not sex. ALso try getting hard then but some benedryl it will desensive your cock really good or so i hear also learned that from jackinworld since it numbs the bite pain it will numb your cock good
Hope everything works out will.

But when in doubt eat her out.

lol i just made that up lol
 
cutrat said:
I always try to satisfy my SO with a BOB, oral, or the good ol rigid digit before I even attepmt penitration
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Okay, what's a BOB in this context? I looked it up at AcronymFinder.com and the closest I could get was Battery Operated Boyfriend.

Which I assume is a vibrator. So did you mean a vibrator, or something else?
 
Like LuvAznNurses says stop and go worked for me as a teen
I was a cronic masterbater-I would sit for hours and stroke
myself right to the brink.Then let myself calm down and start
all over again.

I didn't know what I was doing then,but now I do and I have
myself pretty well trained.I can still masterbate and cum in less
then a minute,but when I am with my wife I can last for hours.
Sometimes she says it takes me to long,and that can also be a
problem.I can't just cum whenever I want.
 
Yup works like a charm. Like Jim's dad says from american pie, jim masturbation is like practicing for the big game or somethign like that lol
 
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Etoile said:
Okay, what's a BOB in this context? I looked it up at AcronymFinder.com and the closest I could get was Battery Operated Boyfriend.

Which I assume is a vibrator. So did you mean a vibrator, or something else?
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Not to speak for cutrat, Etoile, but the definition you found is correct...a vibrator. :kiss: :rose:
 
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Owlz said:
Not to speak for cutrat, Etoile, but the definition you found is correct...a vibrator. :kiss: :rose:
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Yeesh. I wish people would just say what they mean! :rolleyes:
Especially on a sex board. It's not like this place is PG13 and we have to obfuscate everything.
 
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Etoile said:
Yeesh. I wish people would just say what they mean! :rolleyes:
Especially on a sex board. It's not like this place is PG13 and we have to obfuscate everything.
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My apologies.
 
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