Fluttering_Pink
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Ok, how do I explain this without writing a novel...?
Let's see. Last weekend I attended a nude party with some friends. They're separate from my main group of friends, but I know them fairly well and like them. The party was not meant to be an orgy or anything, but no one was adverse to things being less than innocent. Which they turned out to be, later. Some things happened, no sex, but some touching and all that good stuff. And... it was AMAZING. The most exciting thing I have ever done. I still go hot and cold all over thinking about it.
The problem: I have a boyfriend. I didn't go too far (no one went TOO far, and I think this was because of me and my insistance that I couldn't) but, still I went farther than my boyfriend would have liked. I don't want to lose him. This was amazing, but I'm not going to throw away my whole future for it.
But... I would like it if my boyfriend allowed me to do some experimenting. No sex, not even kissing. Just some of that nice, naked cuddling. I hinted at this, and he made it clear that he wouldn't like it, he'd be jealous. Well of course I have to respect his feelings. Of course. But is this desire going to eat away at me until I go nuts? Is this the same as the desire to cheat with just one person (which I have never had). If I want to stay with him, I'll need to respect his feelings, so how do I put aside how much I want this? How do married couples deal with having a crush? Is it very wrong to push just a little bit for him to let me do this? I believe sex is special; I don't want to give myself to anyone but him. But I want other things. I don't want to be selfish. I've tried putting myself in his shoes and I'm not sure how jealous I would be. Part of me is kind of excited to think of him touching another woman... as long as he LOVES me and wants only me to share his life with.
One of my friends says he is polyamorous. How do I know if I'm polyamorous too, or just slutty?
I'm not even sure what my question is. Is it wrong to try to convince my boyfriend to let me do this? Am I just being selfish? If I need to give up on the idea, how do I do it?
Be nice, please. I already feel bad about what I have done and don't plan on doing it again without permission.
Let's see. Last weekend I attended a nude party with some friends. They're separate from my main group of friends, but I know them fairly well and like them. The party was not meant to be an orgy or anything, but no one was adverse to things being less than innocent. Which they turned out to be, later. Some things happened, no sex, but some touching and all that good stuff. And... it was AMAZING. The most exciting thing I have ever done. I still go hot and cold all over thinking about it.
The problem: I have a boyfriend. I didn't go too far (no one went TOO far, and I think this was because of me and my insistance that I couldn't) but, still I went farther than my boyfriend would have liked. I don't want to lose him. This was amazing, but I'm not going to throw away my whole future for it.
But... I would like it if my boyfriend allowed me to do some experimenting. No sex, not even kissing. Just some of that nice, naked cuddling. I hinted at this, and he made it clear that he wouldn't like it, he'd be jealous. Well of course I have to respect his feelings. Of course. But is this desire going to eat away at me until I go nuts? Is this the same as the desire to cheat with just one person (which I have never had). If I want to stay with him, I'll need to respect his feelings, so how do I put aside how much I want this? How do married couples deal with having a crush? Is it very wrong to push just a little bit for him to let me do this? I believe sex is special; I don't want to give myself to anyone but him. But I want other things. I don't want to be selfish. I've tried putting myself in his shoes and I'm not sure how jealous I would be. Part of me is kind of excited to think of him touching another woman... as long as he LOVES me and wants only me to share his life with.
One of my friends says he is polyamorous. How do I know if I'm polyamorous too, or just slutty?
I'm not even sure what my question is. Is it wrong to try to convince my boyfriend to let me do this? Am I just being selfish? If I need to give up on the idea, how do I do it?
Be nice, please. I already feel bad about what I have done and don't plan on doing it again without permission.