BlueSugar
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An acquaintance of mine found out the middle of last month that she was almost 3 months pregnant. They were using condoms but weren't being careful ... ya'll know the deal.
She has no health insurance, she is 23 and dropped out of college last year or so. She isn't working, she smokes pot (but is quitting since she found out), she is manic, she is bipolar, isn't on medication, she doens't have many female friends, shes a child in mind- isn't on her feet ... shes my boyfriend's roommate's sister. (lets call her "R") I don't talk to R much, but I am very very concerned for her health and the health of the child.
R'srelationship isn't an awesome one. They care for each other, but when the going gets tough, I can see him bailing out on her, they fight alot. She doesn't have the option to go home, her mother isn't well (drugs are a part of that)... they got kicked out of their apartment bc of his selling pot I believe and something about owning a cat and not being allowed to. Currently, they're paying "rent" at a hotel so to say... and he is sort of going to classes, but has now picked up more hours for more money to support them. They live in Vermont, in a TINY TINY town (pop. maybe 2,000 counting the college in town)
As I said before, she has no health insurance, hasn't seen a doctor, ... really, doesn't know what she is doing or should be doing (just mother's tales and the obvious things like no alcohol etc..) as far as I know. I've felt bad for not getting to know her for the past six months +...( her childness, immaturity, different of interests really- it wasn't bc shes a bitch or bad person) she doesn't really have many female friends... and needs one now, so I'm going to step in and say hey. usually we all just keep to ourselves, but it isn't fair for her ... so here I am at Lit.
I don't know myself much about being pregnant or not having health insurance, where she should be/what she should be doing at 3 months or so... and i just want to help, be a friend and all. I don't want to get involved in their situation (money wise or anything...) but I do want to help her out, make a friendship and all because besides needing one - I know I can help her out as well.
I want to get her a book, they're inexpensive and it'll really help her. Anyone know a good couple I can look into?
I need info also, on the free clinics or the free care she can obtain for herself and the child ... or close to free, affordable.
Anything I can tell her besides no smoking, no coffee, eat vitimine rich foods, excerzise , no alcohol, best thing to do during morning sickness (which i know is coming for her soon, unless shes one of the lucky ones that wont experience it) ... ?
I just want a little bit more info so I can have a conversation with her w/o sounding too clinical and all. Start off on the right foot.
any other words of heart to heart wisdom other then all the rudeness that many people are able to produce in situations of "not being careful" ? What has happened, happened ... now the steps to deal and survive need to be taken.
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yes, I posted this on the GB, but I enjoy the wisdom that HT has, and the close bond and genuine kindness that you have offered.
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this is REALLY for a friend of mine, if it was me I would be open and honest for it and practically keep a thread/chart of how I was doing on Lit probably right here on the HT.
She has no health insurance, she is 23 and dropped out of college last year or so. She isn't working, she smokes pot (but is quitting since she found out), she is manic, she is bipolar, isn't on medication, she doens't have many female friends, shes a child in mind- isn't on her feet ... shes my boyfriend's roommate's sister. (lets call her "R") I don't talk to R much, but I am very very concerned for her health and the health of the child.
R'srelationship isn't an awesome one. They care for each other, but when the going gets tough, I can see him bailing out on her, they fight alot. She doesn't have the option to go home, her mother isn't well (drugs are a part of that)... they got kicked out of their apartment bc of his selling pot I believe and something about owning a cat and not being allowed to. Currently, they're paying "rent" at a hotel so to say... and he is sort of going to classes, but has now picked up more hours for more money to support them. They live in Vermont, in a TINY TINY town (pop. maybe 2,000 counting the college in town)
As I said before, she has no health insurance, hasn't seen a doctor, ... really, doesn't know what she is doing or should be doing (just mother's tales and the obvious things like no alcohol etc..) as far as I know. I've felt bad for not getting to know her for the past six months +...( her childness, immaturity, different of interests really- it wasn't bc shes a bitch or bad person) she doesn't really have many female friends... and needs one now, so I'm going to step in and say hey. usually we all just keep to ourselves, but it isn't fair for her ... so here I am at Lit.
I don't know myself much about being pregnant or not having health insurance, where she should be/what she should be doing at 3 months or so... and i just want to help, be a friend and all. I don't want to get involved in their situation (money wise or anything...) but I do want to help her out, make a friendship and all because besides needing one - I know I can help her out as well.
I want to get her a book, they're inexpensive and it'll really help her. Anyone know a good couple I can look into?
I need info also, on the free clinics or the free care she can obtain for herself and the child ... or close to free, affordable.
Anything I can tell her besides no smoking, no coffee, eat vitimine rich foods, excerzise , no alcohol, best thing to do during morning sickness (which i know is coming for her soon, unless shes one of the lucky ones that wont experience it) ... ?
I just want a little bit more info so I can have a conversation with her w/o sounding too clinical and all. Start off on the right foot.
any other words of heart to heart wisdom other then all the rudeness that many people are able to produce in situations of "not being careful" ? What has happened, happened ... now the steps to deal and survive need to be taken.
---
yes, I posted this on the GB, but I enjoy the wisdom that HT has, and the close bond and genuine kindness that you have offered.
---
this is REALLY for a friend of mine, if it was me I would be open and honest for it and practically keep a thread/chart of how I was doing on Lit probably right here on the HT.