First let me introduce myself a little. I am a very happily married man, 45 years old and I work for a global IT services company. I've been married for 23 years on Sunday to a truly wonderful woman. We've been together a total of 27 years on Monday. We've raised 3 children who are now young adults in their own right - and one of them has even presented us with a darling grand-daughter. Our sex-life over the years has gone up and down - frequency has declined over the years and due to illnesses over the past 10 - 15 years sometimes we have gone months without having sex. We seem to be over that now though and probably have sex about once or twice a week on average - mostly at weekends since I work away from home.
My wife never has had an orgasm through intercourse - fairly early on we worked out that she could however have an orgasm very readily through oral sex. As a young man, heaven only knows why, but I saw this as a chore ... now nothing turns me on more than kissing and licking her. I love doing it. She tastes great, it is so intimate and I just love giving her orgasms. So for the better part of 27 years now - we've relied on this. And it has never failed us. We don't have penetrative sex everytime - sometimes we do and we both enjoy that - it tends to come after my wife has had her orgasm. Sometimes she'll return the oral favour or sometimes she'll give me a handjob. I love it all - whatever we do it is great.
Now - then so what's this all about you're wondering. Well, I don't know why - perhaps it is that the kids are grown up. But we have a bit more time at home alone these days and we seem to have been having a bit more fun with sex recently. About a year ago I bought my wife a vibrator for a present - this was at a time when I was lll and my libido was non-existent. I didn't really ask - but recently she did say that she used it occasionally. Then about a month ago she went to a party at a friend's house where there was someone selling adult toys etc. My wife asked if I wanted her to buy anything - I suggested that she get some lingerie of her choosing and why not get some toy or other. She said what about you? I jokingly said "Oh get me a vibrating cock-ring or something". Well she took me at my word.
Anyhow - last weekend these toys arrived and we had some fun with them. Well with the cock-ring ... my wife was having her period at the time so she didn't want to have intercourse. But we put the cock-ring on me and used the vibrator on it and it was great. I then said - well what about you? She was near the end of her period ... and to be honest I am not that squeamish but she preferred not to have me licking down there. So I said OK then what about using the vibrator - she was a bit reluctant at first. But after a little gentle persuasion .. she did. And I sucked her nipples while she was doing it.
What happened next amazed me. After about a minute she said "there that's it" ... I didn't believe that she had come and said "Really". She laughed and assured me that she had. I felt like I had blinked and missed it. It didn't seem very intense. Now I know my wife is an honest person - and if she says that she orgasmed then she almost certainly did. The only shadow of doubt in my mind is that she was reluctant initially to use the vibrator with me there... but I don't think she was lying to me, just to shut me up. She's always very sensitive after she orgasms and doesn't want to be touched on her clitoris ... no big surprise ... and she said "try touching me if you like". But I didn't ... I believed her. I was just so taken aback - not so much by how quickly, but how "low key" it seemed.
Compared with - when I give her oral sex - depending upon our mood - it can take anything from a few minutes to half an hour or more. And sure - sometimes it is more intense for her than others - but I have never experienced her orgasm in such a low key way before. With oral sex - there has never been any doubt in my mind.
Just wondered if this was unusual and would welcome any advice from you lovely people here.
I hope that my wife and I will continue to have fun enhancing our sex lives with these toys - I am sure that we will. I have a plan up my sleeve to perhaps use the vibrator in conjunction with me giving her oral sex. I'll let you know how that works out !!
Take care,
GG
My wife never has had an orgasm through intercourse - fairly early on we worked out that she could however have an orgasm very readily through oral sex. As a young man, heaven only knows why, but I saw this as a chore ... now nothing turns me on more than kissing and licking her. I love doing it. She tastes great, it is so intimate and I just love giving her orgasms. So for the better part of 27 years now - we've relied on this. And it has never failed us. We don't have penetrative sex everytime - sometimes we do and we both enjoy that - it tends to come after my wife has had her orgasm. Sometimes she'll return the oral favour or sometimes she'll give me a handjob. I love it all - whatever we do it is great.
Now - then so what's this all about you're wondering. Well, I don't know why - perhaps it is that the kids are grown up. But we have a bit more time at home alone these days and we seem to have been having a bit more fun with sex recently. About a year ago I bought my wife a vibrator for a present - this was at a time when I was lll and my libido was non-existent. I didn't really ask - but recently she did say that she used it occasionally. Then about a month ago she went to a party at a friend's house where there was someone selling adult toys etc. My wife asked if I wanted her to buy anything - I suggested that she get some lingerie of her choosing and why not get some toy or other. She said what about you? I jokingly said "Oh get me a vibrating cock-ring or something". Well she took me at my word.
Anyhow - last weekend these toys arrived and we had some fun with them. Well with the cock-ring ... my wife was having her period at the time so she didn't want to have intercourse. But we put the cock-ring on me and used the vibrator on it and it was great. I then said - well what about you? She was near the end of her period ... and to be honest I am not that squeamish but she preferred not to have me licking down there. So I said OK then what about using the vibrator - she was a bit reluctant at first. But after a little gentle persuasion .. she did. And I sucked her nipples while she was doing it.
What happened next amazed me. After about a minute she said "there that's it" ... I didn't believe that she had come and said "Really". She laughed and assured me that she had. I felt like I had blinked and missed it. It didn't seem very intense. Now I know my wife is an honest person - and if she says that she orgasmed then she almost certainly did. The only shadow of doubt in my mind is that she was reluctant initially to use the vibrator with me there... but I don't think she was lying to me, just to shut me up. She's always very sensitive after she orgasms and doesn't want to be touched on her clitoris ... no big surprise ... and she said "try touching me if you like". But I didn't ... I believed her. I was just so taken aback - not so much by how quickly, but how "low key" it seemed.
Compared with - when I give her oral sex - depending upon our mood - it can take anything from a few minutes to half an hour or more. And sure - sometimes it is more intense for her than others - but I have never experienced her orgasm in such a low key way before. With oral sex - there has never been any doubt in my mind.
Just wondered if this was unusual and would welcome any advice from you lovely people here.
I hope that my wife and I will continue to have fun enhancing our sex lives with these toys - I am sure that we will. I have a plan up my sleeve to perhaps use the vibrator in conjunction with me giving her oral sex. I'll let you know how that works out !!
Take care,
GG