Now that my wife's libido is on it's way back into town, things are looking up.
(background.)
I'd really like to open up our borders, and start having anal sex. Or at least a little more anal play. Who wouldn't? I can be patient though, and I will be.
When I'm performing oral on her, she likes it when I pay some attention to her ass. She won't come out and say it, but I can tell she enjoys it.
I think she is nervous about me wanting to proceed too quickly though.
That or she's feeling guilty about enjoying what I'm doing to her.
I say this because she has asked me to "not play so much down there" once or twice. (she hints that she just wants me to focus on her clit)
The funny thing is, the first time I gave her a rimming, it was unintentional: I got a little agressive with my licking (her on all fours) and she jumped and moaned. Hmmm. Lets try that again. Same result. I ended up licking her asshole and thumbing her clit until she had a VERY strong orgasm. Clearly she liked that!
A few other times during oral play she's let me push/play/rub on her asshole while I lick her clit. She's even pushed back a few times, but always recedes before my finger makes it past the second sphincter
She has to be really turned on for this to be an option, as I'm guessing her inhibitions are forgotten in the heat of the moment.
OK, we've established that she likes anal play, now the hard part: Talking to her about taking it further.
Why is it hard to talk to her about it? I don't know. It shouldn't be.
She is very conservative in nature. She is easily embarassed, and is not uber-confident about herself. She's somewhat sensitive about her post-childbirth body (I do my best to reassure her).
I think she'd really open up to this, if she would let herself. I'd let her experiment on me if she wanted to, but I don't think that would interest her. She's very much a sexual introvert. I'm ok with that, as long as she lets me keep myself busy by exploring her!
How do you suggest I talk to her about proceeding with this play? (that she won't openly admit she likes.)
What can I do to really convince her that I'll let her control the pace?
I'd really like to expand our horizons, and I KNOW she'd enjoy it. I'm not just thinking of getting my rocks off, and sticking it in her ass. This would be good for both of us, and fun to boot.
Advice?
(background.)
I'd really like to open up our borders, and start having anal sex. Or at least a little more anal play. Who wouldn't? I can be patient though, and I will be.
When I'm performing oral on her, she likes it when I pay some attention to her ass. She won't come out and say it, but I can tell she enjoys it.
I think she is nervous about me wanting to proceed too quickly though.
That or she's feeling guilty about enjoying what I'm doing to her.
I say this because she has asked me to "not play so much down there" once or twice. (she hints that she just wants me to focus on her clit)
The funny thing is, the first time I gave her a rimming, it was unintentional: I got a little agressive with my licking (her on all fours) and she jumped and moaned. Hmmm. Lets try that again. Same result. I ended up licking her asshole and thumbing her clit until she had a VERY strong orgasm. Clearly she liked that!
A few other times during oral play she's let me push/play/rub on her asshole while I lick her clit. She's even pushed back a few times, but always recedes before my finger makes it past the second sphincter
She has to be really turned on for this to be an option, as I'm guessing her inhibitions are forgotten in the heat of the moment.
OK, we've established that she likes anal play, now the hard part: Talking to her about taking it further.
Why is it hard to talk to her about it? I don't know. It shouldn't be.
She is very conservative in nature. She is easily embarassed, and is not uber-confident about herself. She's somewhat sensitive about her post-childbirth body (I do my best to reassure her).
I think she'd really open up to this, if she would let herself. I'd let her experiment on me if she wanted to, but I don't think that would interest her. She's very much a sexual introvert. I'm ok with that, as long as she lets me keep myself busy by exploring her!
How do you suggest I talk to her about proceeding with this play? (that she won't openly admit she likes.)
What can I do to really convince her that I'll let her control the pace?
I'd really like to expand our horizons, and I KNOW she'd enjoy it. I'm not just thinking of getting my rocks off, and sticking it in her ass. This would be good for both of us, and fun to boot.
Advice?
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