breast play

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the women i've been w/ were very varied in the kind of play they liked: some preferred aggressive, harsh treatment; while others preferred gentler play. i believe this is again a completely subjective thing for each woman.

ed

I'm with Ed, it has been my experience that women's tastes in this regard vary widely. While this is true of how women respond to all types of stimulus, I think it is especially true with a woman's breasts. I think this is because sensitivity of the breasts/nipples varies more between women than does say clitoral sensitivity. Just like anything though, the only way to find out is experiment and ask her what she likes.

Oh and best to start with gentle stimulus and work up. Ladies with senstiive nipples aren't gonna like the vice grip and twist technique.

I'll admit though I'm intrigued to hear some of the responses. I mean there's certainly more ways to stimulate the nipples than just grabbing on and twisting like a radio. Any ladies got an "inventive" ways they like their breasts lavished?

At the risk of being completely unhelpful. . .

I think it depends on the woman, and because of the hormonal changes that we go through during our menstrual cycles, some of us have different preferences at different times. Sometimes I like lots of sucking and biting; other times even the gentlest touch is uncomfortable. And when I was pregnant with my first child, I couldn't even stand to have my bra touch my breasts!

It's just like with men and their balls. My husband loves it when I squeeze his balls really hard (hard enough to hurt) as he's about to cum. However, I wouldn't dare try that with some other guy, nor would I recommend doing it to someone if you're not sure how he'll react. Peeling people off ceilings is messy work.

It's all about knowing someone really well, IMO.

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Eilan said:

It's just like with men and their balls. My husband loves it when I squeeze his balls really hard (hard enough to hurt) as he's about to cum. However, I wouldn't dare try that with some other guy, nor would I recommend doing it to someone if you're not sure how he'll react. Peeling people off ceilings is messy work.

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ROFLMAO! Yeah that would put me on the ceiling alright!

Funny though, I think your balls to breasts comparison is a pretty good one. Now that's something I never thought I'd hear myself saying!

o, kahuna...once again, you've perverted the conversation into a size thing...

ed

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grungalunga said:

I guess men are trying to imitate what they saw on porno's from when they were younger. My first porns always had the woman riding on top (i think its called the cow-girl position) - all my fantasies revolve around that. The idea of being on top of a woman just doesnt sound comfortable to me. Maybe your guy's 1st porns had nipple twisting, and it stuck with them somehow.

So just dont suck the nipple, where else can we stiumlate? The areola? the top of the breast? underdeath? where else on a breast is fun to stimulate?

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I could write a book on all the things men should not do with breasts.

At the same time, I could also write a book on all the things men don't do with breasts. You'd think that with all the emphasis men put on breasts, they'd pay more attention to them!

My primary peeve about men and breasts is that they ignore them for the most part during sex. Hard to believe, but a lick and a tweak before they get down to fucking does not quite do the job. It honestly amazes me at how little men actually care about breasts when having sex. Like, once the dick is out, we can forget the tits.

Ok, enough rant. Slowly running your finger along the sides and underneath the breast gives me chills and makes my nipples hard and feels wonderful all through my body. Gentle flicking/rubbing with the tip of your finger or thumb works wonders to rev me up. Licking and sucking is a huge turn on, as is licking then blowing cool or hot air on them.

As things get more heated, I like slighty rougher play - I didn't say rough, just not as delicate as when first starting to play. So, this is where a little pinching and twisting is good. In the stages just before orgasm, more pressure feels good, but be careful because you can leave us with sore nipples!

If you're licking her pussy, don't forget to touch her nipples. If she's on top, touch her breasts - caressing, squeezing, playing with her nipples. If you're in doggy, reach around and cup her breasts or squeeze.

Personally, I also really, really like to be woken up with nipple play, much as a guy likes to wake up to a blowjob.

Bottom line, pay almost as much attention to my breasts/nipples as you do my clit - mine must be hard-wired as I need the nipple stimulation to come no matter what you're doing to my clit! Breasts should be a part of everything, not lonely and ignored!

I for one really like light licking/kissing underneath the breast and along the sides where the breast meets the chest. I suggest a lot of exploration because many women have sensitive spots that they may not even know about it. Lots of touching, licking, kissing and listen to responses and body movement.

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grungalunga said:

Okay ladies - there are tons of threads about how to eat pussy, how to finger a woman, how to make her squirt, how to perform the perfect handjob.

But i cant find anything on breast play. So tell us guys how you like your breasts played with. Help give us a guide,

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Okay..so basically what everyone else said...even with just myself..it varies. Poor hubby......sometimes I like to have them slapped, nibbled, bitten....etc. Other times....especially approaching "that time" I can barley stand to wear a bra as I am so tender. Best bet...ask her what she wants and go for it. Or ask her to play with them..and then follow her lead.

Oh yeah..not to confuse you any more than necessary..but sometimes...soft...just equals tickling...and for me....that isn't really a sexual thing...more like annoying. That sounds awful..but...as he would say...it is what it is.

Hisbabydoll26 said:

Oh yeah..not to confuse you any more than necessary..but sometimes...soft...just equals tickling...and for me....that isn't really a sexual thing...more like annoying. That sounds awful..but...as he would say...it is what it is.

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That's good advice! My wife is also bothered by being ticklish, and before we learned to be honest with each other......well.....I'd do the soft thing, in the wrong places, and she'd squirm and moan......man, I thought I was doing sooo good.....when really I was driving her insane. It's funny now. But back then it was pure torture for her.

So just talk and above all, be honest.

fantasylover said:

I personally like a soft approach. Twisting the nipple just sounds awful! And do men really LIKE doing that? But then again some women do, too. I don't get it. Anyway, gently kneading them is great, and lots of kissing, all around. Light nibbles on the nipples. Some men just go straight for the nipple, suck, and think that's all there is to it....not that sucking doesn't feel nice, but please pay attention to both and it may even be arousing....

That's just my own personal thing....

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Great advice so far!

For me, some of the best play can be with something (bra/lingerie, shirt, sheet, etc.) ON, so I'd encourage you to take your time exploring with strokes, kisses, rubbing, nibbling, very gentle nipple pinching, etc. before "liberating" her breasts.

Circling very slowly from the outside in with kisses, licks, and grazing fingertips can be amazing. You can also circle her nipples with the top, bottom, and tip of your tongue, maybe flicking the tip over, or sucking them gently every so often.

If she's game, you may want to try some different sensations...a feather, silk, something slightly rough, sucking with a little piece of ice in your mouth, alternating ice with warm tea... you get the idea.

This may seem obvious, but it's nice when a partner pays attention to both at the same time. I don't expect elaborate coordination, just gentle stroking (this is another place the lightest touch with fingertips can really come in handy) or something equally simple while they're pleasing the other orally.

You might also want to think about how different parts of your body can create various sensations for both of you: brushing her nipples with the center of your palms, inside of wrists and forearms, nuzzling with your cheek, brushing her with your chest... just try new things, pay attention to her responses, and remember you're making love to the entire woman.

In my experience woman's breasts definitely need more attention from men. Most of this is due to ignorance but alot of it can be the fault of lack of communication between partners and lack of exploration. I am by no means an expert or anything but I personally love breasts and have found a multitude of ways for my partner and I to really enjoy their breasts during sex. I love everything about breasts, small ones, big ones, round ones, flat ones, I don't care. What man wouldn't love breasts to some degree. They exemplify everything our inner nature desires about a woman, softness, curves, sensuality, maternity (dont mean that in a perverse way). Always something to enjoy and as long as you enjoy that and the woman sees that, it goes a LONG way to making her feel comfortable and feel good about herself. There are very few parts if any that can make a woman feel uncomfortable with her body like the breasts and ass. My love for giving breast and butt massages is a great start if I do say so myself

Some of the worst things you can do IMO is just the typical lick and run. Basically a little foreplay with them then just focus on bustin a nut... That's a surefire way to dissatisfy many woman and worse, sometimes make them feel selfconcious. I find even alot of woman don't recognize that fact until they have had some lavish attention put on their breasts (and derrier) in a positive appreciative way that lets them know you love them and it turns you on and it physically felt good for them. Me personally, I often start gentle and go as forcefully as they want. As long as you take it slow, you'll find their safety limits as to what makes them uncomfortable or hurts them (the ones who may wants some pain will usually be vocal enough to tell you). Pay attention to your woman, pay attention to their body language, their sounds, their moans. It doesn't take a yelling "OUCH" or "STOP!" to tell you she isn't having whatever you are doing. A sudden stop in moaning or, quick short breath, slight movement, pull up/back can tell you that you did something a bit uncomfortable to them.

When it comes to attention to breasts, "honking" them or diving into the nipple is not usually the best approach I find. Look at all the breasts have to offer. The supple curves, the softness, firmness, beautiful areolas and erect nipples. My favorite part of the breast is that soft round curve on the outside of the breast toward the side of their body. That wonderful curve that sticks out softly from the side of the body and gently curves it's way down and around. It's glorified in a million photos and romantic paintings.
oh yea...
mmm... curves

Touch, lick, taste the sides of a breast. Twirl your tongue around an areola. Bite a erect nipple with your lips. Firmly, deeply massage her breasts. Focus and have fun with it, enjoy and I'm sure she will too. Breasts a fantastic thing we men don't have but can easily appreciate.



grungalunga: wait till you try a reverse cowgirl, I've never met a man that didn't love that beyond words -myself included. I like the woman on top for a lot of reasons. It gives the woman control if she is discovering herself and comfort with me, also it lets her control the level of penetration which can be good for someone who is alot bigger then a woman might be comfortable with (not that I am). Also I, like many men have a bad back. Specifically I have damage to my lower back from a very bad hockey injury several years ago but it causes me pain to where it can become unbearable over a long time, and it usually takes me a really long time to cum making my back usually go out before I do. This is a reasoning for alot of people though, not just pain, sometimes just being tired, it's nice to have the other person on top doing most of the work. It can also make some woman feel very aroused mentally with a feeling of empowerment which is also good. Alot of reasons to try it and different ways to try it

Norajane said:

Ok, enough rant. Slowly running your finger along the sides and underneath the breast gives me chills and makes my nipples hard and feels wonderful all through my body. Gentle flicking/rubbing with the tip of your finger or thumb works wonders to rev me up. Licking and sucking is a huge turn on, as is licking then blowing cool or hot air on them.
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I keep a litle cocoa butter/oil and mineral oil (baby oil but non perfumed as the smell of a diaper, clean or not does not arouse me ) around at all times. A little dab on the thumb and press in and around her areolas while holding, sometimes putting pressure on the sides of her breasts with my fingers. Often times too much stimulation on the nipple directly can be too much I find so working around is a great way. Easy to do whether I am on top or she is. Just gotta watch out for my guitar picking nails on my right hand sometimes.

The oil is great for the skin too!

regarding the tickling: I find alot of time, not always, that more pressure/firmness can overcome a ticklish person. All depends on how you approach it. Also wetness like oils or whatever... is.. wet.. can help overcome *some forms* of ticklishness too. Often the skin doesn't seem to be as ticklish when there's a slight layer of protection but can be just as sensitive. I think this has to do with the fine hairs on the skin.

Eilan said:

At the risk of being completely unhelpful. . .

I think it depends on the woman, and because of the hormonal changes that we go through during our menstrual cycles, some of us have different preferences at different times. Sometimes I like lots of sucking and biting; other times even the gentlest touch is uncomfortable. And when I was pregnant with my first child, I couldn't even stand to have my bra touch my breasts!

It's just like with men and their balls. My husband loves it when I squeeze his balls really hard (hard enough to hurt) as he's about to cum. However, I wouldn't dare try that with some other guy, nor would I recommend doing it to someone if you're not sure how he'll react. Peeling people off ceilings is messy work.

It's all about knowing someone really well, IMO.

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Exactly! Balls too Only difference here is: no kids.

fantasylover said:

I personally like a soft approach. Twisting the nipple just sounds awful! And do men really LIKE doing that? But then again some women do, too. I don't get it. Anyway, gently kneading them is great, and lots of kissing, all around. Light nibbles on the nipples. Some men just go straight for the nipple, suck, and think that's all there is to it....not that sucking doesn't feel nice, but please pay attention to both and it may even be arousing....

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I couldn't have stated it better. I'd never had a guy twist my nipples until a few years ago. I nearly gave him a black eye! I mean, WTF? It's just *weird.* Of course, there's bound to be plenty of women who like that, tho, so it shouldn't be dismissed.

Kneading? Good, good. Kissing? Even better. Licking, hard sucking? Mmm ... yessss. Biting? Sure, after a little while when arousal is approaching the 3rd standard deviation of orgasm.

But 30 seconds attention to one, then the other, before moving on to the "good stuff"? Bzzzt!! Wrong answer, buster.

Please keep touching them for awhile, during, after. Satisfy them! Play with them ... enjoy them. That's what they're there for, right? I really never get tired of caresses.

But as we are oft of saying here: ask your partner how she likes it.

My SO says that breast play can be very satisfying if she is aroused. I think the key is to allow plenty of time for a slow build up. Take your time and be gentle. Remember that a breast is more than just a nipple (use gentle caresses and kisses over the entire breast...I like to work my way from the outside into the nipple and then back out again. I have also found that mixing breast play with manual stimulation of her nether regions can really rev things up. Just understand that every woman is unique and you have to be willing to take lots of time to learn what yours likes...open communication and lots of practice is the key to success!

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OK first off thanks to grungalunga for starting this thread! It's interesting to the see the similarities, yet subtle differences between the responses. As a lover of breasts, I find this all quite fascinating.

As for some feedback, I noticed something last night about my wife that I never had before. Someone mentioned their nipples being hardwired to their clit. Well, last night I noticed that during intercourse the intensity of my wife's response(at least her vocalization of said response) seemed to increase if I was stimulating her breasts. So I asked her and she confirmed than me paying attention to her breasts, particularly sucking on her nipples during intercourse actually heightens the sensations she gets from the penetration. Now this is something I guess I have always done but in the 12 years we've been together I never really consciously thought about it.

So I have a new question for the ladies here. DO you find your breasts are more sensitive when there is some other kind of stimulation going on, say oral or penetration, than when they are being stimulated exclusively?

Eilan said:

It's just like with men and their balls. My husband loves it when I squeeze his balls really hard (hard enough to hurt) as he's about to cum. However, I wouldn't dare try that with some other guy, nor would I recommend doing it to someone if you're not sure how he'll react. Peeling people off ceilings is messy work.

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OK WTF! If I hadn't been with her all night I'd swear my wife snuck on and read this thread! Last night, out of nowhere, she decides to grab my balls in the middle of intercourse...hard!

So after she peeled me off the ceiling...

I swear Eilan sent her an e-mail or something.

Breast play is the best play...

Suck on my nipples and I'll follow you anywhere.
This could be because it is something I can't really do myself.

The biggest turn-on for me is one nipple being sucked, his hand massaging my clit and me massaging the other nipple. Its the trifecta. Definitely for me the clit is directly related to nipple stimulation and vice-versa.

I'm also a big fan of oral sex while he fondles both of my nipples at the same time. This is easiest if I am helping out by holding the lips open to facilitate the oral.

Hope this helps.

I get that "hard-wired" feeling . A direct line from my right nipple only (WTF?) to the clit. It can be electric sometimes - last night I was treated to some high-quality oral fun and while he usually concentrates on the business at hand (or face, in this case) he reached up and played with both of my nipples - index finger over the top of them, rubbing upward with the thumb - meduim firm - I lost it

Yes - please please please do all you can to stimulate both at the same time. I guess that's why I really get into the multiple thing

And I'm not sure who said it - but that outer lower curve..mmm - someone puts their face there and I just melt.

TBKahuna123 said:

So I have a new question for the ladies here. DO you find your breasts are more sensitive when there is some other kind of stimulation going on, say oral or penetration, than when they are being stimulated exclusively?

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I been giving my SO little 'tours' of my erogenous zones recently, and the breast portion of the tour started out like this: Do not understimate the power of the breasts!

For me, breast play gets me revved up, even if moments before I was thinking about doing the dishes. In fact, if I'm doing the dishes, and he comes up behind me and gently started caressing and tickling my breasts and nipples while kissing the back of my neck, I'll melt into a puddle right there.

Usually by the time we get around to oral and penetration, I'm already very turned on if my breasts have been getting lots of attention. I wouldn't say they are more sensitive during oral or penetration.

It's more like increasing the total arousal level when you add breast play during oral and penetration. And it gets me to orgasm quicker if breasts are included in the fun throughout. Think of it as turning things up a notch.

This is turning into a classic thread already.

It's occuring to me that, yes dammit!, my breasts have been seriously short-changed of attention. I wish I had spoken up cause maybe then some of the nice but so-so sessions could've been a little more, erm, rockin'.

As for Norajane's mention of giving her man a tour of her moan zones, that's such a great way for a couple to connect at a deeper level.