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I still think Lit is my best discovery of last year. A wealth of information and education on subjects you won't just ask anyone about...
Looking at all the questions and "problems" people have (and my own reaction to them sometimes) I came to the conclusion that all those questions and "problems" probably stem from the many different ways different people define "normal".
Sure, my parents told me something about sex, but mainly that it was for making babies and such. A bit was hinted about the emotions and feelings but not much. I don't think in my mother's opinion sex was ever for fun, so all the fun things you could do without wanting to make babies were some sort of a taboo. Different generation I guess, I don't know....
Still... without my parents telling me about oral sex or basically anything else than PIV sex as a way of making babies.... how did I develop MY sense of what was normal and what was not? Why do I have certain preferences and how did I conclude what could be expected of me and what not (as a matter of speaking.... you don't have to answer THIS one... )
For instance: anal sex and sex/pain were something I always considered to be awkward at the least. Spending all this time on Lit I must say I'm starting to open up to other possibilities (so to speak).
Still, and this is my question, I have a cadre of reference and there are things I consider to be normal while there are other things I would consider weird or gross. If I see questions about those things I can't even imagine people would wanna go there.
So.... what is normal? And how does "normal" work in a (sexual) relationship?
Go ahead.....
Looking at all the questions and "problems" people have (and my own reaction to them sometimes) I came to the conclusion that all those questions and "problems" probably stem from the many different ways different people define "normal".
Sure, my parents told me something about sex, but mainly that it was for making babies and such. A bit was hinted about the emotions and feelings but not much. I don't think in my mother's opinion sex was ever for fun, so all the fun things you could do without wanting to make babies were some sort of a taboo. Different generation I guess, I don't know....
Still... without my parents telling me about oral sex or basically anything else than PIV sex as a way of making babies.... how did I develop MY sense of what was normal and what was not? Why do I have certain preferences and how did I conclude what could be expected of me and what not (as a matter of speaking.... you don't have to answer THIS one... )
For instance: anal sex and sex/pain were something I always considered to be awkward at the least. Spending all this time on Lit I must say I'm starting to open up to other possibilities (so to speak).
Still, and this is my question, I have a cadre of reference and there are things I consider to be normal while there are other things I would consider weird or gross. If I see questions about those things I can't even imagine people would wanna go there.
So.... what is normal? And how does "normal" work in a (sexual) relationship?
Go ahead.....
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