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Anatomy of a Cheating Divorcee



Great Thanks to the always awesome mikothebaby for her editing magic, and patience with grammar, spelling and punctuation. Her valiant attempts to make my stories readable are much appreciated. As Always, any and all errors are mine, and mine alone.


I've had MANY requests (OK more like demands and threats) to write a follow-up to the flash tale "Anatomy of an Affair", so here goes. Also while this saga is in story form, the attribution of this fable had a lot of "help" from the same place as Anatomy of an Affair.


We all know that about half of marriages end in divorce, but not a single one of us ever thinks it will happen to us, which is why it felt all the more unreal and heartbreaking when I was served divorce papers by my husband. Of course, I never thought I would have an affair either. It was just a long fling I ended months ago. I was so careful! Did he find out? How did he find out? Everything is going through lawyers now. It was like I was living word for word the "18 things no one tells you about Divorce" from ivillage, as my husband, my soul mate, the man I wished to spend the rest of my days with will not even speak with me.


Tazz once wrote "When it is time to pay the piper-the coin of the realm is expensive."

Informing the kids was the hardest moment of my life. I wanted us to tell the kids, share the news together as a united front. It was a trial to just get my husband to agree to be there, but only so I would not try to demean or shift the burden onto him. I know it was my own mess to clean up. The children blamed themselves first, which was the hardest. Then they blamed me outright. I was not prepared for anger, tears, screaming, then silence. My youngest a preschooler, did not get it right away. Which means I'll have to have some version of this conversation again and again.

I do not know how my husband did it, but he did not bad-mouth me to the kids. I hope he never does. I know what I did to my ex in the marriage but I want my kids to love me. I just pray he will not make snide remarks about I did, it just won't help them. It will cause confusion, pain and more heartache than they need. The goal now is to present as united a front as possible, and I can't do that if he is constantly tearing me down, although I know deep inside I do not deserve his consideration.


Even when I have treated their father with nothing but respect in the children's presence, the kids have started to point fingers. They may have overheard something or jumped to a conclusion or just misunderstand. All I can do is gently correct the facts, remind them that I love them no matter what, and do my best not to take it personally. I know children go through their own grieving and sorting-out process and this is just part of it. But God it hurts when my children have taken sides against me.


Wow, I never knew how the big "D", divorce, made people so uncomfortable, and their wish not to be around me. It is so unfair, as friendships I genuinely shared with my now ex-spouse just up and left me. The husbands all felt I would be a "bad influence" on their wives. I thought the days of the scarlet "A" were over, but friends that did not disappear, all seemed to take his side. When we split, I thought "my" people would go with me. I tried to surround myself with people who could see me for me, but it is hard, as all I seemed to attract were other cheating divorcees, or sleazy married men looking for a quick screw.


I cannot believe how tight money is. Neither one of us were millionaires, and even with the child support my standard of living has really dropped. I had to sell the home I loved so much, and downsize to a smaller crackerbox house. The precious savings evaporated to cover the legal bills. I wanted to be a full-time stay-at-home mom, now I am back at work. I do my best to keep an eye on the budget, but I only pray the added financial pressures won't last forever. I am exhausted just trying to make ends meet.


Why do I cry spontaneously all the time? The trigger could be anything: A family walking down the street. A pregnant woman. A co-worker announcing her engagement. Or the fact that the dumb cable people were three hours late. Why can't something just go right?!

You would think after I let it out that I'd feel better, but I don't! There are some things I just do not feel like doing, especially if it involves celebrating someone's marriage or baby. I tried to go anyway, well one time I did...what a disaster! Every time I approached a group, the conversation would lag or go silent. Yes, I put on my game face, but my friends, who've I thought would have been there for me are nowhere to be found.

Breaking up really is hard to do. My therapist said the experience of divorce is second only to the death of a child in terms of stressfulness and associated pain. That is so true.


I never knew the tremendous amount of guilt divorce comes with. It's hard to not blame myself for, well, pretty much everything. I keep trying to tell myself, Number one: It's not all my fault. He chose to end the marriage. But why? Why did he not agree to counseling at least. Nobody chooses to end a marriage unless they've wrung their heart dry with trying.

Why did he want move forward so quickly and leave me behind. Other couples have gotten over a partners ...indiscretions. Am I not worth another chance? I am so depressed and nothing seems to help, I tried to spend time with my few remaining friends. Even going for walks and splurging on a spa day. Will the guilt of divorce and my actions to cause it ever go away?


Seeing my kids on a schedule feels completely wrong. I'll never get used to the new normal. Due to my husband's travel and work schedule, we have a version of traditional see-Dad-on-the-weekend schedule. There are days in my week when I don't get to put my children to bed or be there to wake them up. (Some clueless people say, "Oh, but at least you get a built-in break!" This is not the way I hoped to get a break from my kids.) I miss them and the house feels empty, I HATE that "The Schedule" has simply becomes "Life"


I through I had gotten through all the big stuff; telling the kids, my husband moving out, taking off my rings, packing away the wedding pictures, signing the papers (each had their own kind of hell) and I thought, "Okay, it's finally over."

But then I miss the first family event with my former in-laws who I love. Then my kids spending the first holiday without me. I have to catch my breath all over again. When we married, I imagined decades of events and moments that we would share together as a family. Now I can only mourn them because they're gone. Divorce is a thousand little goodbyes


I was out with a few work friends and suddenly found myself talking with a guy. And flirting. After a few drinks we were making out like a couple of college kids. Yes, me of the three kids and minivan and "broken marriage", the "cheater". Well why not? I could be just a kissing bandit for while. It was tons of fun and I enjoyed the attention.


There's something altogether different about post divorce sex. For one, especially when in a new relationship, it is hot with a capital H. The newness, the freedom, the excitement of being with a person you're really attracted to makes for some serious Os. But what's also different is that perhaps for the first time...or at least the first time in a long time...I get to be in charge of my sex life. And that confidence is allowing me to connect deeply with my new partner and with myself in a whole new way. He sees me for who I am, not some cheating whore.


Now that I've fallen in love again, I have the chance to do things differently. I never made sex a priority before, I will now! I used to constantly fight over money, I swear to find a better way to communicate. It's a second chance to have the life I hoped for -- but in order to get that, I need to understand past mistakes and take the steps to avoid them again. I just know he is only for me, and me for him.


I cannot believe this day has come, it is sooner than I imagine possible. I have reached the moment when I know the life I have now is the one I've been waiting for since that day I was served divorce papers. My new man is wonderful, I am in a good place and want to spend some time there in that special place. After all that has happened, I deserve it! I have moved forward, only to circle back and leap ahead.


My new "Boyfriend", the man in my life, the "one" who I thought was the light at the end of the tunnel. That light turned out to be the headlight of an oncoming train.

His WIFE, with two crying kids in tow, (all of who I never knew even existed!) came to my work. My goddamn place of business!

She called me names I did not even know were words, all the while throwing around dozens of the most pornographic of pictures with me and her husband. Cell phone shots my "boyfriend" had taken with the new smart phone I had bought him. Our most intimate moments that were only to be just for "US". Everyone at work sat stunned, or was laughing as security pulled this screaming women out of the building.

Mumbling "I didn't know he was married", I scrambled, mortified, to gather up the pictures of my smiling face looking back, with my lovers dick embedded up my ass, that were scattered all over the floor. At first, I was grateful for help of several employees, until I saw them walking off with the pictures. It got worse as some of the men asked me to sign these embarrassing printouts.

Rushing out the door crying, all I could think of was:

Karma is a bitch, then you Die."


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by tazz31709/12/17


the aftermath and outcome is dependent on A Situation, TK U MLJ LV NV

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by boatbumm09/12/17

Saw That Train Coming!

Thanks for the follow-up!

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