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How To Hypnotise


Let's pop the fantasies and misconceptions first.

Hypnosis isn't magic.

You can't put someone into a trance unless they are aware and willing.

Once in a trance, you can't get them to do something they'd refuse to do in a waking state (though the limits get more elastic). So those stories about hypnotizing the secretary and getting blow jobs? Pure fantasy, unless she already wanted to, in which case it would have been simpler to just ask.

It's common to believe that people are either susceptible to hypnotism or they aren't. In practice it's not that straightforward. Some people are slightly susceptible, some moderately, and a few are deeply susceptible. Probably, some can't be hypnotized at all.

And the biggest untruth: hypnotism is a power of the mind and only certain people can hypnotize others. This is exactly backward. Hypnotism is a power of the subject's mind, and virtually anyone can induce a trance in someone willing to be hypnotized. You aren't "projecting your will" or engaging in any other mysticism. The first time I hypnotized someone I did it more or less as a joke, with no knowledge of technique. I was in junior high school. The subject went into a deep trance in a matter of minutes.

An early and well-known hypnotist, Franz Mesmer, put forward the idea that hypnotism (then, mesmerism) was a force or invisible substance that flowed from him into his subjects. How much he believed this (the science of the 1700's was shaky on magnetism and biological processes), and how much he was cashing in on the erotic payload of domination and manipulation, isn't known. Contemporizes corrected deduced that hypnotism was a phenomena happening entirely in the subject's mind, but it's Mesmer's views (and the phrase "animal magnetism") that have come down to us, as the fiction that hypnotism is an external force.

But post-hypnotic suggestions are real things, and with the right subject they can have dramatic effects.

There are large sections of erotica sites dedicated to Mind Control fantasies. Real hypnosis doesn't look like any of it.

This essay will discuss hypnosis with occasional reference to Dominant/submissive relationships. I connect them because hypnosis is a form of dominance. If you've hypnotized someone, you're doing D/s, even if the outcomes are not sexual. That said, hypnosis can be fun for people who don't consider themselves to be in that form of relationship (or any at all). Trust is required; nothing else is.

Ideal Subjects

In my experience, the ideal candidate is bright, has a very active imagination, is capable of focusing for extended periods, and is submissive. I don't know how essential the submissiveness is, but all my subjects have tended that way.

If someone is mentally scattered and constantly going off on tangents, you'll get a shallow, fragile trance or none at all.

The ideal subject trusts you. Without that, nothing happens.

How it's done

I have only hypnotized females. I assume males are no different. But I will refer to the subject as female when gender is needed.

I use a form called progressive induction. It involves slowly lulling the subject into giving up control.

If the person is willing, it almost doesn't matter how you induce them. The "secret" of hypnotism is that willing subjects essentially put themselves into a trance, as long as you provide encouragement and a calm environment. I do it over the internet, using nothing but my voice. Swinging watches, staring into the eyes, blinking lights, massages, repeating noises - none of it is necessary, and in fact it can be too distracting. Having them simply close their eyes is often helpful at first.

The subject should always be sitting comfortably to start. (I once had a subject slide off the couch, and off camera, as she went under, because I wasn't paying enough attention to how she was sitting.) Phones and other distractions should be turned off. Other than having her sit, you want the environment to be like one she'd prefer for falling asleep or reading a book.

For inductions done online, I don't generally allow the subject to see me, as that's distracting and unnecessary. I consider being able to see them absolutely essential; if they have a bad reaction, you want to be able to wake them immediately.

Dominant forms of speech work best; even when I discuss hypnotizing someone, I make definitive statements. "You've mentioned you're interested in hypnosis. I want to try it with you. I've had excellent success with others and you appear to be a good candidate, shall we try it now?" This is going to work better than "I think I'd like to try to hypnotize you. I bet you'd really like it." The reasons are simple - a subject is going to be letting down her guard, and to do that she needs to trust you. If you don't seem certain of things, she'll assume you don't know what you are doing, and that doesn't lead to trust.

My pattern usually starts with "Listen to my voice. Nothing else matters right now, just focus on the words. Let everything else drift away. My voice is soft and soothing. Focus only on my words. There is only you and I, and my voice is soft and calming, but compelling. Listen only to it..."

About all the technique I employ is to talk calmly, and more and more softly as I go, forcing them to concentrate more closely over time, and to slow down my speech as they appear to be getting drifty. The pattern of words can be repetitive in theme, but don't simply repeat the same phrase over and over.

If something distracts them, simply fall silent until they can focus again. If you're trying to compete for their attention, you can't succeed in hypnotizing them. They have to want to give it to you.

At some point in the patter their head will inevitably drop, and that's the signal that they've entered a trance. My patter sifts to "Well done. Continue to listen to my voice. Drift deeper. Let go of everything but my words..."

The central theme of the patter is that the subject is to focus on your words and nothing else. You are reducing the world to two people and excluding everything else. Phrases like "nothing but my voice matters" and "my voice fills your body, you hear nothing else but me" set the tone. Remind them to relax, and suggest they need to keep relaxing. "Let go of your worries. Your body is relaxed, you are at peace. There is nothing here but you and I, and my words are compelling, soft, and insistent. You cannot help but listen, and they become everything you hear. Let yourself go limp. Listen only to my words. Yield and obey my words. Relax, obey, and be at peace. You are drifting deeper and all else is fading away. Let go of everything but my words. Listen to my commands..."

Remember: in all things you are presenting them with calmness and confidence - if you sound rattled, they'll likely wake up.

It's a very peaceful process. They may actually appear to fall asleep, but they continue to hear every word. (Never assume they aren't listening, even if they seem unresponsive.)

The process can take a few minutes, perhaps as long as a half hour, the first time. Have water handy, because this can amount to a lot of talking, and taking a break to find a drink will ruin the effect. Subsequent hypnosis goes faster; in a sense they've learned the mental pathway that leads to trance and they rapidly get better at walking it. And, yes, you can teach them a trigger word which will put them under in a matter of a second or two, once you've induced them a few times. If you do this - and you will, simply to save time - be extremely clear about what the trigger is: "Listen carefully. When I, and only I, say the word 'Trangie' to you, you will immediately fall into a relaxing, deep trance." I don't know if the "and only I" phrase is necessary - people do not become idiots under hypnotic suggestion and they can probably be counted on to understand the context of your statements. But I don't take chances. Hypnosis opens up vulnerabilities in people and I'd never risk having a trance happen by accident.

For trigger words, I like town names that the subject isn't likely to visit or talk about. It allows trances to be triggered with natural sounding sentences. "So. Should we take a trip to... Trangie?" But any word or sound is as good as any other, as long as it's only used by you and your subject for this purpose.

There's another form of induction - rapid. I don't use it. The hypnotist forcefully and quickly snaps commands and demands at a subject, creating stresses that make it attractive for the subject to retreat into a suggestive state. This is how stage magicians operate; it works well when the subject is in view of many people and feels pressure to conform to the expectations of the hypnotist and crowd. The effect of being overwhelmed and suddenly giving over control, can be very erotic for some subjects, but it has downsides. The stage hypnotist might hold someone in a trance for a few minutes and will never see the subject again, so it doesn't matter if the hypnotic effect is fragile and inconsistent, which rapid induction is likely to produce. It clearly works fine for getting someone to cluck like a chicken. But a slow, steady and in a real sense seductive induction is going to get better and more interesting results.

What Hypnosis Is

Science has theories about it all, but despite EEGs and MRIs, there isn't a lot of hard data. Hypnosis is much closer to daydreaming than sleep. Brainwave patterns for sleep and hypnotism are markedly different; under hypnosis, the subject is very focused and aware.

But there's variation from subject to subject. One of my subjects entered a state that looked and acted closer to sleep, and her physical responses were more like sleepwalking.

Some amount of inhibition vanishes. (Yes, you really might be able to get her to take clothing off for you, since that's what you're here to find out.) But hard ethical limits and a need for safety stay in place. Just because she'll let you look, doesn't mean she'll let you touch. That point needs to be reiterated. Hypnosis is not a shortcut to getting a Yes from a female.

So what's the point, many males might ask. Well, it's entertaining. And in a developing relationship it adds depth and eroticism. For many people, yielding control without knowing exactly what will happen (but having a clear sense it will be sexual) is incredibly intense. While a hypnotist should know that hypnotism is an effect of the subject's mind, the subject may feel strongly that the hypnotist is a commanding and powerful figure, and for many women the fantasy of yielding to and obeying power is deeply entrenched. For a time, you are her sultan, her mind master, her darkly erotic seducer. Just being hypnotized is in and of itself, arousing. The combination of arousal, and the loosening of inhibitions hypnosis causes, can make the situation highly sexual very quickly. And the effect of post hypnotic suggests, discussed later, can have intense and lingering effects.

In short, hypnosis is not a shortcut to Yes. But it can be a shortcut to Yes Oh Yes Oh Yes Please Yes Yes Yes.

How it's Undone

Hypnosis is a state assumed willingly by the subject, and if they get uncomfortable enough, they will find a way to wake themselves. That's never what you want to happen. But in general, a hypnotized subject wants to obey you, and will do what she can to comply with requests. That includes staying in a trance as long as you clearly want that. It's up to you to definitively end a session. But there's no magic to it; you are simply giving them permission to return to normal cognition. There's no long procedure required. It will take a few moments for the subject to switch gears, so often I'll announce I am going to wake them up, and then call out "Three... two... one... awaken." But I make it clear to them, while they are in trance, that just the word "Awaken" gives them permission to wake. You always want the option of being able to wake someone quickly.

Note that even in an experienced subject, entering and exiting a trance takes a few moments. I don't know what's going on in the brain during the transitions, but my best subject needed about a full second to switch. I could take her in and out of trances mid-sentence in a conversation - and if she was coming out of the trance, the sentence wouldn't get finished - but the pause never got shorter no matter how I lead her in or out. Other subjects took two to three seconds on average.

Resistance Play

Some people love the thought of fighting control and then succumbing; it's the basis of many non-consent or reluctance fantasies. Once someone is clearly enjoying being a subject, you can ask her if she'd enjoy trying to resist an induction. You set a reasonable time limit, perhaps twice as long as it normally takes them to go under, and start inducing normally.

What happens depends on the subject and your relationship, but in every case I've tried this, the subject slipped into a trance moments before the time limit expired. Each time they visibly fought going under - jerking their head back up, eyes going wide in surprise at how difficult it was, even whimpering. The game is of course rigged - a subject that enjoys the eroticism and romance of slipping under your control, doesn't have a motivation to fight your control and won't want to disappoint you by successfully resisting. But after a few inductions, the subject may not realize how very much she wants to enter the trance state, and may be legitimately surprised at how much of a struggle it is to resist. When she succumbs, your reputation as a powerful and perhaps delightfully unscrupulous hypnotist is cemented, and the experience becomes that much more erotic.

Hypnosis into Sleep

Don't. You can instruct a tranced person to fall into a real sleep, and if they're tired they'll generally succeed. But in my limited experience it seems to cause strange dreams, and disorientation on waking. It's simpler to suggest they need sleep, awaken them from the trance and then let them fall asleep normally.

Problems with Internet Hypnosis

If you aren't physically with the person you are hypnotizing, you must give her blanket permission to leave the trance on her own. You are responsible for her safety when she's in a trance, and if you aren't physically with her, she has to be left free to wake herself if something unexpected happens. One too-common situation is that an internet connection breaks, leaving her stranded in a trance. The first suggestion I teach my subjects is that if I fall silent for a time, she is to assume the connection failed, and wake herself. Just once, I had the internet go out the very first time I'd put someone into a trance, and before I'd explained about waking themselves up. By the time I'd gotten the connection back, she'd woken herself back up, but she was extremely disoriented and somewhat shaken. (I lead her back into a trance, explained things, gave her time to calm down, apologized, and woke her again.)

Don't ask the subject to use a candle as a focal point. It's romantic, but if something goes wrong, the candle can become a fire hazard.


Different people evince a trance in different ways. One subject I did regular hypnosis with would present her trance as sleep, and she'd become nearly incapable of speech, but she'd be able to move her limbs and follow commands. The lack of speech made conversations difficult; I'd have her lick her lips to signal a Yes.

Another regular subject was fully conscious when in a trance - completely conversational, aware and alert. She was so natural under hypnosis that I would occasionally forget she was in a trance, and we'd have conversations; I'd say goodnight and she'd dutifully remind me she was still entranced.

Most people will fall somewhere in between - responsive to commands and conversation, but reactions and conversation may be slowed down. In general, after a few sessions of hypnosis, the subject learns the ins and outs of their trance and what they are capable of. If the subject doesn't speak clearly in a trance after four extended trances, they probably won't learn to.

A subject that is restless and distracted will not stay hypnotized; you should either try to lead them deeper into the trance, or wake them up.

What can you do with it? Overview

At the end of the day, erotic hypnosis is just another form of play in a Dominant/submissive relationship. The subject is agreeing to give up control to the hypnotist, and for some subjects the effect is dramatic.

I tell subjects that they will not remember what happens under a trance, and it has always worked. They don't actually forget what happened; they just refuse to think about it when they are awake. (The memories apparently live wherever post-hypnotic suggestions go.) When I put the subject back into a trance, they generally have normal recall of what happened in other trances, and can discuss the effect of post-hypnotic triggers. I find it fascinating how perfectly this mechanism works. You can have ongoing conversations with a subject in a series of trances, that they simply don't remember awake.

You can allow them to remember everything, simply by giving them permission, while in the trance, or even afterwards. In one situation, I had a subject in a trance over the internet, and her friend entered the room. She had standing permission to interact normally with other people while staying in a trance, so she said hello and started a brief conversation with her friend. It became obvious the conversation was turning important, so I decided to wake her. When I did, she did a double-take - she had no memory of her friend entering the room, and it was immediately apparent she had no recollection of any of the ongoing conversation. But I whispered "remember everything from the trance" and within a couple seconds she was able to put everything together and continue the conversation.

For erotic purposes, both being allowed to remember, and not being able to remember, are useful. There's a darkly erotic romanticism for many subjects in knowing they did something for you, but not knowing what it was. But it can also be highly erotic to suddenly give them detailed recall of exactly what they did, especially if what they did stretched limits they thought they held firm. Nothing quite increases your apparent power as a master hypnotist as making someone realize they helplessly obeyed in a way they didn't expect. (But see Downsides).

Note, though, that there are some things that can't be plausibly hidden. You can tell someone to forget the orgasm they just had, but if they are still panting when you wake them, they are going to suspect. And while you can tell them not to notice other evidence, like wetness on fingers, there's a limit to how much you can hide. I've successfully planted a post hypnotic suggestion to cause a naked woman to believe she was clothed (and it's fun to make her suddenly realize the truth), but I'd never expect to be able to make a woman step outside naked and still believe she was dressed (and I don't recommend anyone try it.)

Post hypnotic suggestions - and when they fail

You can create a post hypnotic suggestion as simply as telling them "When you awake, you will..." and filling in your wishes. The trigger can be something complex, like "When you are next alone for a few minutes..." or "At five o'clock on Thursday..."

A post-hypnotic suggestion lasts as long as it seems relevant to the subject - which means as long as the suggestion's effects seem important to the hypnotist and the hypnotist is important to the subject, they can continue to work.

Relevance is everything. If you tell a subject to quack every day at noon, and aren't there each noon to see it happen, it will be forgotten quickly, and the power of your hypnotic "spell" will diminish as well. Behavioral changes have to be important and relevant if you want then to stick; hypnosis doesn't negate that simple fact.

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