Jealousy

Some things should never be assumed to be innocent

Reading many stories in the Loving Wives category, and my own experience of living with three different women for a total of forty two years, have led me to conclude that there are some activities among women that a husband should never assume to be innocent.

Prominent among actions by one's wife that should never be assumed to be innocent are "girls' nights out," going to gyms or fitness centers alone, and an even more serious red flag of waring should be seen when the wife attends work-related functions to which the husband was not invited, or does not know about, or ignorantly declines to attend.

It's good to ask one's self, just what is included in girls' night out? Dinner of course, probably followed by going to a bar or club for drinks, and probably also for dancing if it is at a club. Dancing is in large part symbolic sex, and often also the prelude to sex. If there is a stubborn commitment to girls' nights out, this is probably the reason. The same applies to social functions related to work.

It appears to me that unless one is content to share the sexual favors of his wife with others, the best course of action is to precipitate a confrontation at the first inkling that any of these things are planned, let alone actually occur. As Clausewitz said, the "best defense is a good offense," and an immediate pre-emptive strike seems to me to be the appropriate response to all these situations.more...

A well written story, that's for sure.

Got a lot of juices flowing in the comments section, and this just from descriptive writing. Good job there, but. And the but is that the wife was having an affair with Paul and she and all of her co-workers damn well knew it. She rode to these venues with Paul while leaving her car at work so she would have (get) to be alone with him at the beginning and the end of each date. And it was a date, every week. When you go to the place together, sit together, reserve your time just for each other and then leave together, it is a date. And even when hubby was there the wife paired up with Paul. It was obvious that her friends knew what was going on because the story said they acted tense and nervous around her husband. And when he did put Paul on his ass for touching him she didn't get upset that a man tried to come between her and her husband, he was already there and she had conceded that place to him. When hubby put Paul on his ass the wife and her friends ran to Paul and ignored the husband. When hubby left the wife ran after him, not to see if he was alright but to get in his face and rag his ass for hurting her honey. Also a little retribution should have been in store for the one who blocked him in with their car. Looked like a plan was in place where they watched out for the wife just in case she got caught. I am not saying don't try to work things out but I am saying that there was more going on here than she admitted to. At no time during any of this did she really give her husband any serious thought. He was out of town, she was away from home so she was single as long as she wanted to be. I can't see getting over this myself, but then everyone is different. The fact that the husband took all of the blame on himself and the bitch let him and even encouraged it shows that his marriage was seriously one sided. Hard to fight for a marriage when you are fighting your spouse. Really shouldn't have to actively compete with someone else for your spouse, by getting married you had supposedly already won. Anyway, thanks for sharing your story with us. You write them, it's up to us how we perceive them.more...

I would of left the car at the bar and gotten a cab, packed my bags, gotten a DIVORCE, and left to parts unknown.

Nice Save!

I really like this story because the husband saw the problem with his wife drifting away from him and realized he was partly to blame. However, the wife's behavior was definitely crossing the line into cheating and she didn't fully acknowledge it. She did take some blame, but really she was actively building the sexual attraction to the other guy. Dancing with someone not your spouse is not a innocent activity. The phrase "the ballroom is one step away from the bedroom" is not an empty one.

Anyway, I liked the way that the husband and wife worked together to get rid of the problem and work on reconnecting. The renewal and revival of the couples sex life is a good example on how to get the process of rebuilding/reviving a marriage!!!more...

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A spouse regulary attending social functions alone is never a good idea, and the partying spouse should refrain from such behavior
Allowing a spouse to regularly go out without you is a fools behavior. If you do not like socializing with her works mates, at least take her out on the town just the two of you instead of her attending those functions.
While both had become complacent to each other, I must state the wife was certainly actively flirting and encouraging the other guy. Her actions were those of someone dating and she and her friend were acting like a couple to anyone watching and she was aware of that fact.
Good read and glad you ended it the way you did
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