Writing Real Sex

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The answer to "How Do You Write Such HOT Sex Scenes?"
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Selena_Kitt
Selena_Kitt
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"How do you write such hot sex scenes?"

This is the erotic writer's equivalent to the question, "Where do you get your ideas?"

My response? "Hell if I know!"

I'm an intuitive writer. I sit down and I write. I'm not entirely sure how I do what I do, and when someone asks me to try to break it down, I'm often at a loss. For me, it's like telling someone how to breathe. You just...do it.

But if I'm forced to try to explain how it is I get from point A to point B (I'm having scary ninth grade "show your work" math flashbacks now) I can do it. Eventually. So this is how I do it. It may not be how you do it, or how anyone else should do it. It's just how I do it, and maybe that will help you, or someone else, get there too.

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THEY'RE ALIVE!
Your characters are alive and they are not the sum of their parts. They aren't measurements or hair color or penis size. I've done sex scenes without mentioning any of the above. Don't ask, "What would my character do in this situation?" Let them act. Let them decide. Let them speak. Let them feel. Especially let them feel.

GET TURNED ON
If you're bored writing a sex scene, your readers will be bored. If you're turned on, your reader will be turned on. The emotion you are feeling will be conveyed on paper. It's a natural law of the writer universe. (This applies to any scene, not just sex ones, by the way. If it moves you to tears, it will move the reader as well).

DON'T STOP
If you're turned on during a sex scene, really getting into it, your fingers flying over the keyboard, unless the house is on fire or we're under nuclear attack, DON'T STOP. Never, ever stop in the middle of a sex scene. (This rule also applies well to actual sex). You will lose your momentum, and it won't be the same when you come back to it. Your mood will have shifted, and the reader will feel it.

LUST
Human beings want. Our entire culture and economy is based on desire. We lust after the things we want. We dream about them. We fantasize about them. We want. And we want. And we want some more. Our bodies and our brains are hardwired for desire. We don't just eat once and then we're done. We don't just have one orgasm and then it's all over. We continue to crave what we want. Our emotions rule us, especially when it comes to sex. They're naturally going to rule your sex scene, too. We don't insert tab A into slot B because we're following a blueprint manual. There's a reason behind our physical responses, and that reason is always, always tied to emotion. Remember that. Use it.

Desire is what makes the sex hot. Make your readers wait for it. Foreplay begins with seduction, not with sex acts. It begins with eye contact. Flirting. Innuendo. It progresses, but slowly. Tease your readers. Tease yourself. Draw it out. Make it a long, slow burn. The best orgasms are the ones we wait a long time for. It's no different when writing sex than it is doing it, really.

DON'T BE AFRAID
Don't be afraid of the sex. Don't be afraid of the fluids, the flesh, the human expression of our bodies. It is what it is. Some writers will tell you not to ever speak of bodily fluids. They're above all that messy stuff. Thankfully, erotica and erotic romance have come a long way, baby. We can use the words cock and pussy now, and I would encourage you to do so. I wouldn't suggest using the medical terms, however (i.e. penis and vagina) or euphemisms like "member" or "sheath." Cock and Pussy are good. Think of them like peas and carrots. They go together. A few (and I mean a FEW) other words can work for a little variety. Prick or dick for example. Or cunt. No, don't be afraid of the words we use during sex. It's okay to talk dirty. "Please," or "Now," or "Suck me," or "Lick me," or "Harder. There. More." These are words we've all spoken (I hope!) They naturally arouse. That's a good thing. I'm not afraid of cum -- I'm not even afraid of spelling it "wrong." You shouldn't be either.

THE GRAND FINALE
Once you reach the point of no return, you've built up to the sex, you've teased your readers (and your poor characters) enough, now it's time to give them what they want. This is not the time to skimp. You can't gloss over the orgasm. (Or orgasmS). We all (hopefully!) know what an orgasm feels like. Description doesn't have to be technical here. There are spasms and contractions, there is throbbing and trembling, gasps, moans—the combinations are endless. You can and should include those, but don't be afraid to move into the realm of metaphor. Sex can be like flying. It can be like falling. It can be like dying. This is the culmination of everything, the point you've been waiting for, working toward. Let your imagination go as wild as you would during an actual orgasm. Let yourself free.

DEFYING THE LAWS OF PHYSICS AND OTHER MISHAPS
On a practical note -- your characters shouldn't defy the laws of physics. Women cannot take twelve inches of hot man meat down their throats. An average vagina is only four inches deep. 44DD breasts cannot defy gravity. And if you're using any of the above descriptions in your sex scenes, you need a basic writing course, not a primer on sex scenes. Also, don't let your character's clothes go missing. She can't be wearing pantyhose one second and be taking it from behind the next. The clothes have to come off and be accounted for somehow. Trust me, your readers will notice if they aren't.

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So that's it. It's not rocket science (or ninth grade math). That's how I get from point A to point B—from a blank page to hot, sweaty sex scenes. Really, it's no different from any other type of writing. I don't write sex scenes any differently than I do scary ones or sad ones or violent ones. It comes from a place within me that is beyond me, beyond all of us, and I think as writers, we all know when we have tapped into that place. It feels a little like flying. Like falling. Like sex. Trust yourself. Breathe. And write. If your characters are alive, if you live and feel the sex scenes in the story yourself, I promise you that they will also come to life for your readers.

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yarnspinnerryarnspinnerr8 months ago

Thank you Selena. I actually have the same process, I just do it. And often my stories will go places I never expected.

Sometimes that's a good thing, sometimes I am not so sure, lol

I totally agree with your rule on not stopping during the sex scenes, and would have to add, don't stop when the story is flowing, sex scene or not.

I've had to do it, and no the house wasn't on fire and we weren't under nuclear attack. I was simply going to be late for work. And let's face it, writing porn doesn't pay the bills for most of us.

But when I have had to stop, and I came back to it, I never try to simply pick up where I left off.

Because you are right, the mood will usually be different.

I force myself to go back to the beginning. Proofread what I have. Get back into the minds of those characters. Get myself, and my characters back to where we were.

And let the fun resume! ;->

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LargoKittLargoKittabout 4 years ago
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Selena, my sister, I would only add one key note to this fine primer: be spectific. That is, let us see the particular details of an actual person. "... kissed the tiny teardop-shaped mole at the left corner of her mouth ..." "She found herself rubbing his bald spot as she came again." "Her blue-eyed ginger cat never stopped looking at him as he ..." A pink condom. A skull ring on the finger entering her. You get the idea.

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