It is so very much a romance and at the same time incredibly sad. A great piece of writing and I look forward to reading the next episode.
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Anonymous06/16/15
5***** Definitively Romantic
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Anonymous06/17/15
Agree not romance
Firstly, he already has this "ho bag's" cell phone number before he watches this "permission" video (I called Toni's cell phone and told her I watched the DVD). So, he is not honorable in any way. How pathetic that in the course of a 25 year marriage he is DTF the first "sympathetic" *itch he has a conversation with in a bar!?! If the wife would have died suddenly instead I wonder if he had waited until the corpse was cold? I worked for a brief time at an assisted living facility/nursing home and one husband who had health problems lived there with his wife. She was completely non-verbal and confined to a wheelchair. He never left her side and was fiercely protective of her. That is romance and that is love. Take some notes.
...think again!
First, understand that "Romance" is NOT the same as "seduction".
The romance here is between the husband and wife.
Toni is also, in an odd way, having a romance with the wife too.
Romance is the ongoing living expression of love - the love of a man for his wife, the love of a true friend for another true friend, among a few other varieties. There is not necessarily an overlap between that living expression of love and the arena of sexual behavior.
Also, God works in ways as mysterious as those described here.
So, I find few faults with either the premise or execution of the writing, with my hat off to senorlongo for this very nice description of how love can really work in very strange ways sometimes.
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Anonymous06/17/15
Not find many wives like this?
As a boomer that has been around hospice and geratic care workers, I can say that you are hanging around a 'limited' crowd. Many but not all people are uncomfortable with their or their loved ones loss. They know that life will go on. I know 3 widowers and a widow as well as several couples that have or are losing their partners to dementia. Yes,life is rough for them but most of tbe partners were able to verbalize that life has to go on for their healthy partner. The one that didnot was caught up in her own impending death. This story was more explicit, but true to reality for many.
Damn, and here I thought I was the cynical one. We are human beings. We have evolved over the last 8 million or so years as highly social, highly empathetic beings (well, SOME of us). To exclude the companionship of another human, even in the most trying of circumstances, is not really natural for us. We NEED other human beings to function properly. I've read studies of humans who have been without the companionship of other humans, and their brains have to a great extent wasted away. Ironic, I suppose, considering the subject matter of this story.
You really have no idea about Alzheimer's. Both of my parent died from it (dad was 89 and mom was 92). There were never lucid times. They slowly lost their memory from today or immediate and slowly slipped back through their entire lifetime. I can recall talking to my dad when he slipped to his childhood. I had shown him an 1925 picture of a park beside his old home (his age was about 5). He stated to me that he use to play here and then he pointed to another area on the photo and said he would go there. My 63 year old boss got Alzheimer's and he died really quickly, less than 2 years. You should research your subject better next time.
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Anonymous04/18/16
Not all Alzheimers is the same
I suspect that you know that, as you're writing with enough details to the situation that you likely know someone with the problem.
My grandmother just passed last week after being in the state where she's convinced she's a child for many, many years. They had to move her to a secured wing of the retirement home after she had wandered off a few times. (To visit her parents ... who had died more than 40 years ago).
My dad, however, has Early Onset, and has mostly retreated from society ... didn't even go to my brother's wedding, as he didn't want to deal with stress from seeing people who don't know the situation, or crowds of people in general. As he lives 8hrs away, I don't know if he was periods in and out of lucidity. I do know that there are times when I would call him, and he wouldn't call back for days. (or he'd write a letter in response ... as he didn't tell us what was going on). It's been at least 15 years since he withdrew (possibly due to other medical complications that forced him to retire early), amd he told me last summer that he's on some drugs to try to slow down the effects.
If anything, my only surprises were that she didn't know what to do with the bread (as many sufferers can remember things they leaarned as kids), and that they knew what it was so soon after her collapse. I at first assumed that maybe she had known but was keeping it from her husband, but that seems out of character. So it's more surprising that it was diagnosed so quickly.
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1* NOT ROMANCE!
It is a romance
It is so very much a romance and at the same time incredibly sad. A great piece of writing and I look forward to reading the next episode.
5***** Definitively Romantic
Agree not romance
Firstly, he already has this "ho bag's" cell phone number before he watches this "permission" video (I called Toni's cell phone and told her I watched the DVD). So, he is not honorable in any way. How pathetic that in the course of a 25 year marriage he is DTF the first "sympathetic" *itch he has a conversation with in a bar!?! If the wife would have died suddenly instead I wonder if he had waited until the corpse was cold? I worked for a brief time at an assisted living facility/nursing home and one husband who had health problems lived there with his wife. She was completely non-verbal and confined to a wheelchair. He never left her side and was fiercely protective of her. That is romance and that is love. Take some notes.
NOT A ROMANCE, you say?
...think again!
First, understand that "Romance" is NOT the same as "seduction".
The romance here is between the husband and wife.
Toni is also, in an odd way, having a romance with the wife too.
Romance is the ongoing living expression of love - the love of a man for his wife, the love of a true friend for another true friend, among a few other varieties. There is not necessarily an overlap between that living expression of love and the arena of sexual behavior.
Also, God works in ways as mysterious as those described here.
So, I find few faults with either the premise or execution of the writing, with my hat off to senorlongo for this very nice description of how love can really work in very strange ways sometimes.
Not find many wives like this?
As a boomer that has been around hospice and geratic care workers, I can say that you are hanging around a 'limited' crowd. Many but not all people are uncomfortable with their or their loved ones loss. They know that life will go on. I know 3 widowers and a widow as well as several couples that have or are losing their partners to dementia. Yes,life is rough for them but most of tbe partners were able to verbalize that life has to go on for their healthy partner. The one that didnot was caught up in her own impending death. This story was more explicit, but true to reality for many.
Not romantic?
Damn, and here I thought I was the cynical one. We are human beings. We have evolved over the last 8 million or so years as highly social, highly empathetic beings (well, SOME of us). To exclude the companionship of another human, even in the most trying of circumstances, is not really natural for us. We NEED other human beings to function properly. I've read studies of humans who have been without the companionship of other humans, and their brains have to a great extent wasted away. Ironic, I suppose, considering the subject matter of this story.
Good story so far. Looking forward to the rest.
Horribly depressing but really sweet.
Alzheimer's
You really have no idea about Alzheimer's. Both of my parent died from it (dad was 89 and mom was 92). There were never lucid times. They slowly lost their memory from today or immediate and slowly slipped back through their entire lifetime. I can recall talking to my dad when he slipped to his childhood. I had shown him an 1925 picture of a park beside his old home (his age was about 5). He stated to me that he use to play here and then he pointed to another area on the photo and said he would go there. My 63 year old boss got Alzheimer's and he died really quickly, less than 2 years. You should research your subject better next time.
Not all Alzheimers is the same
I suspect that you know that, as you're writing with enough details to the situation that you likely know someone with the problem.
My grandmother just passed last week after being in the state where she's convinced she's a child for many, many years. They had to move her to a secured wing of the retirement home after she had wandered off a few times. (To visit her parents ... who had died more than 40 years ago).
My dad, however, has Early Onset, and has mostly retreated from society ... didn't even go to my brother's wedding, as he didn't want to deal with stress from seeing people who don't know the situation, or crowds of people in general. As he lives 8hrs away, I don't know if he was periods in and out of lucidity. I do know that there are times when I would call him, and he wouldn't call back for days. (or he'd write a letter in response ... as he didn't tell us what was going on). It's been at least 15 years since he withdrew (possibly due to other medical complications that forced him to retire early), amd he told me last summer that he's on some drugs to try to slow down the effects.
If anything, my only surprises were that she didn't know what to do with the bread (as many sufferers can remember things they leaarned as kids), and that they knew what it was so soon after her collapse. I at first assumed that maybe she had known but was keeping it from her husband, but that seems out of character. So it's more surprising that it was diagnosed so quickly.
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