Slut Wife - One Woman's Guide

LOL

Very good!
I believe you are trying to incite a comment riot. That can be very entertaining.
Otherwise this would be in non-erotic.
I like your sense of humor policywank, lol. Sick!


AMerryman

A guide full of bullshit...

A guide full of bullshit...And written in order to sustain the writer's point of view, stressing the points that help his theory, and forgetting the ones that would destroy it...Some examples: 1st - why the wife wants to be an Alpha to her husband and a Beta to her multiple lovers, if "I suggest that all aspiring hot wives start with the personal realization that you as a woman are sexually superior to all men"? 2nd - where in all this we can find: Love, Respect and Trust? nowhere in this guide...So why in hell did that kind of women marry? 3rd - What happens if the husband divorce her? How will this kind of women survive and support themselves? Becoming whores? and so on...1*

Well argued and very provocative

This is a first rate piece of writing, although the prescripts of the final page(s) strain (past the breaking point, I think) the limits of my ability to suspend disbelief.

I hope the comments the author provokes are more literate than the one already posted by - of course - anonymous who expresses his disdain by use of ALL CAPS and some name calling.

Interesting submission.

What you describe is an ideal, a porno with all the ugly parts edited out. Reality is always messy and far more complicated because we are messy and complicated.

If you're marriage is based on commitment without a basis in love or emotions, then your proposal will work. You are two separate, distinct people who enjoy each other's company and live together pooling resources and occasionally satisfying each other's carnal urges. Nothing wrong with what you are proposing if all parties involved agree.

But what happens when love is involved? Love makes us do stupid things, we leave our spouses, our children and our lives and with no regard for the consequences. We leave a trail or hurt and disappointment in our wake because we have fallen in love.

It is demoralizing for anyone to realize they are not sufficient to please their spouse and if men's physical needs aren't met, they will find it somewhere else. If a woman's emotional needs aren't met, they will go somewhere else. It's all fine to say you won't say no to your husband but you will because you're sore or tired or suffering a yeast infection or any myriad of legitimate reasons and they will conspire to eat away at your husbands love and trust and it has been proven in many studies that men who are continually refused will stop asking. And if there is no sex, if the person he wants doesn't want him...then what's the point of being married?

Likewise, what happens when you fall in love with a man who rocks your world? Handsome, funny, smart and he's fallen for you? When you establish a connection with another person, you take that risk and as I said before love makes us stupid. So now your husband is hurt and lonely and doesn't seem to be interested in sex and this new man is confident, enthusiastic and connected to you and what's more, both of you are meeting your emotional and physical needs. Your husband is a wet blanket and rather than cultivate your relationship with Mr. Wet Blanket, you ignore it because it's not about him but you and before you know it, you've left him, emotionally if not physically, and divorce is a small step away but what does it matter because your sex is all about you.


I know you want to believe that it couldn't happen but as I said, relationships are complicated and messy because we are complicated and messy.

This was obviously written

by an intelligent and articulate woman. The only questions I have are - why get married in the first place if not only to exercise control over another person, and what happens if she falls pregnant whether by her husband or a so called `lover`. Hardly a home environment suitable for bringing up a family, I would have thought.

Hey annony you retard!! It's a fictional story

on a porn site! Get a fucking life. 5 to help the score

I just can't stop laughing!!!!!

Somebody has a very vivid imagination!!! It is well written. Why not just be swingers, everyone gets some! To play with that kind of control is like a time bomb waiting to go off. You wonder why the divorce rate is so high, it's thinking like this!!!!!

Hey bonnietaylor

Get with the program. It's not a story, but rather a personal guide by an author in this type of lifestyle. Just goes to show the readers that you score based on bias, not reality. Your war on anonymous comments, is causing a lot of one star ratings for these authors.
Too bad they don't realize that. Their loss. Only skimmed through this opinionated guide, since I'm not interested in the cuckolding lifestyle. Personally, men that go along with this, are in my world, really not men, but puppets on a string with low esteem. In another words, gutless wimps. That's my opinion. Don't agree? That's your right. To each his own, since it doesn't affect me one way or another.

Is life worth living?

Besides the obvious intellegent level of this essay, Is there anything in this writers life besides being in control of the basic urges in her body. Her turn will come when the URGES rapidly diminish and the flesh will sag........Think ahead.....

Agree or Disagree..

it was a well written piece on the experiences of the writer with current outcome and how this could be applied to others relationships.

The step by step procedure on training the spouse reminded me a lot of "how to boil a frog"-you do not throw a frog into a pot of boiling water, but rather turn the heat up little by little by little...

Seek an advantage

You do not mention that any change must have an advantage for you. No point in going from one unsatisfactory arrangement to another that is just the same. A lesbian told me this 30 years ago and it probably still applies for adventurous women.

Interesting essay and comments

First ditto what cpete commented - both the quality of writing and boiling a frog. Second, I think the author (or lead character in the essay) has a very abnormally high sex drive and likely has no children. IRL there are jobs and kids and traffic and bills and debts and assholes at work and parents and siblings etc. - there isn't time or energy for sex to be as important as described here for most mortals. Third, I love my wife but would not put up with withholding of sex to manipulate me - been there, done that, got the divorce. Fourth, no matter how good the sex is and how erotic her imagination is, my response to a cock cage would be a close encounter with my hammer and the trash can.

interesting....

There is a very well worded argument against cheating on the first page.
The writer is correct in that, it isn't about the sex.

Some issues with this one

Category was poorly chosen. Should be "How To", or "Reviews & Essays," or "Fetish," but not "Loving Wives." Cream pie eating and chastity seem like fetishes to me, and I think most readers would agree. The editing could be improved--numerous examples include use of "site" instead of "cite," use of "too" instead of "to," and improper double use of the verb "to be" in at least two instances (example: last page . . . "that I am should be obliged . . . ").

There is an inherent contradiction in the use of a chastity device to restrict hubby's orgasms while asserting that all of his sexual needs are being met. If they were met, why would he need to masturbate? Obviously they are not being met, other than in the rare case where a man wants orgasm denial as part of his fetish, and that excites him. Or maybe he feels inadequate, despite "hot wife's" assertion that she reassures him that he is not. So he accepts chastity as a rationalization to not compete with her other lovers, since his penis is restrained and he is incapable.

This "treatise" really seems a rationalization/justification for a one-sided open marriage. If a male really wants that, well, who am I to dictate what's right and what's not for two consenting adults? But I dare say that most men would not stay married to a woman who felt it was her prerogative to fuck lots of other men. He is helping to support her, does not (despite her claims to the contrary) get adequate sexual release -- the cock cage gives the lie to that assertion), he does not get full companionship since she is going out on "dates," while he's home waiting to clean her cream pie and perhaps get an STD), and he risks the chance that she may trade up. Why be married?

Great read

Enjoyed your story very much

Thought provoking

My husband and I are both alphas. We've been married more than 20 years and I guess I'm a slut wife and he's a slut husband. It works for us like your system works for you. It's great that you're so open and willing to share with others, really refreshing. Thanks for a very interesting read. xoxoxoxo Annette

I Was Wit You 'Till…

…'till this:
"I suggest that all aspiring hot wives start with the personal realization that you as a woman are sexually superior to all men, not just your husband."

Ouch!!!

The Hot-Wife

Do tell,what happens when you come home one night and find an empty house with note or maybe no note explaining that he could no longer put up with or live with you and your arranged lifestyle??? That he was tired of sharing you and since you want to lead the life of a single woman he has bowed out. And what happens when the wives get CD's and DVD's showing their husbands and you fucking.

re Hot-Wife

Well if she comes home one night to that note then I guess the marriage is over isn't. Just like in the many thousands of stories and movies where a philandering man gets dumped by his wife - you know the type we find perfectly acceptable and perhaps even admirable even though he is being completely deceitful.

Where is it written that all female characters must be likeable or fit a Disney version of evil with inevitable comeuppance. The sexism here lies not in the fact that you don't find this author or her characters likeable......it lies in the premise that you think she is obliged to make them likeable rather than letting them be flawed and three dimensional.

non-readers

Seems to me a lot of people leaving comments didn't read very closely or are perhaps trying to re-inforce the points made by the author about the insidious nature of presumption.

The point is made, why be Alpha with your husband and Beta with other men? She is quite clear about the need to maintain control and there is not a single word here that advocates being beta with other men.

Putting herself in a position of superiority demonstrates a lack of love, respect and trust for her husband? That is what men have been doing to their wives since the beginning of time?

Why bother being married? You mean because enforced monogamy is the only legitimate reason to be married?

It is demoralizing to be deemed insufficient? Perhaps, but try spending your life pretending to be satisfied by a husband who is a shitty lover.....and listen to him disparage your sex drive without ever once considering that you would love to be fucked properly if he could just figure out how to do so.

STD's and pregnancy? Seriously? Every woman who refuses to be chained to one man is magically incapable of making intelligent choices to safeguard herself. And she is somehow far more prone to STDs than every philandering male character who fucks every woman in sight.

Not a place for kids. No shit but she didn't bring kids into it. And 99.99% of erotic stories or visual porn is not a place for kids. Neither are violent video games or movies.

She seems driven by her urges. Yes that is the focus of this piece. Most stories or essays tackle a specific subject or set of circumstances......they don't purport to portray every aspect of anyone's life.

No there isn't an inherent contradiction with the cage. I cage my husband as part of a D's dynamic but we are monogamous. When he was just jerking off all the time there was no sexual satisfaction for me which in turn led to an affair between him and his right hand. By bringing that under control I was able to become more engaged which in turn led to more interesting and enjoyable sex between him and I. Ultimately it is a better sex life for both of us. Attending to someone's needs is not the same thing as being a slave to their every whim and urge while your ends go ignored.

The fact that so many comments contain an underlying implication that this woman needs to be punished, as opposed to ignored or disagreed with, reinforces the point she is making.

Re: non readers

Your point of view makes no sense. Answer this.If this had been written by a man instead of a woman he would be castrated for being a chauvinistic and misogynistic jerk.But seeing as how this is written by a woman no such thing.Can you see the double standard here? If not then....... Lastly couldn't the author be considered a misandrist. Someone who truly does not like men but only uses them for her personal pleasure.I will say this was a well.written mantra for this kind of lifestyle whether I agree with it or not.

Zed

What the hell are you talking about? The internet is full of stories and pictures of men dominating and abusing women. And in most cases with far less regard for the woman than this author shows for her man.

We don't stop to talk about whether those guys are misogynists in the chatrooms. Many women believe they are and say so, but the stories and pics still exist. And you won't find these same people piling on top of the guy for being such an awful person......they will be the ones assuming its her fault and she deserves it.

I am not saying this author is virtuous or admirable or that I agree with her point of view. Maybe she is a misandrist. But she is just as entitled to her right to speak freely and offend you as any man.

5

to offset the crazy fucking retard annony's 1 vote!

Anon

Did you read what I said ? She absolutely has a right to speak her side but the last time I checked you don't see men putting chastity belts on their women.Do you? As for men abusing women on the Internet you are correct but they ARE misogynistic idiots and should be called out as such.My point was if this had been written by a man the reaction would have been totally different. Right? Should it be?

Good Read ( dont agree but good read)

That was an interesting read. Some of it is good and good insight but most of it was a one woman's wish list.
Yes woman have a greater ability for sex can have many many orgasms enjoying numerous men at one and satisfy them all.
Where this goes wrong a male may agree to a arrangement like this but no way is a Alpha male going to sit home and wait for his wife to come home no matter what sexual favors she promises. he will be out getting some also.
I agree letting your wife have extra partners in mfm or mmfm will do wonders for your sex life the same as the husband having other females the key is doing it together. That what bring the sexiness the connection the lust to another level.
Give it a 4 just for the thought stimulation. Oh and for you dont like the genre stop reading no one is making you read it. Go back to you moms basement and play your video games. This is a sex site it is suppose to push the limits.

And annony id a sshole and fag!

5 to help offset the asshole of LITs 1 vote

Amazing.

Why does it seem like your relationship has to be a zero sum game? The woman's sexual desire is constantly sated, but we don't hear anything about that happening for the man? What about the men out there that DO have higher sex drives? What if your husband isnt completely satisfied because there is more to sex than just the "happy ending". Sorry but this is a pretentious guide written by one woman with a very arrogant attitude in regards to sexuality and relationships as a whole.

Second opinion.

In response to an earlier story posted by the author, I have already expressed my view of this stated lifestyle at length some two and a half years ago, so I won't repeat it now. However, I would like to read the husband's perspective in his own words.

Zed and Vixen

Actually Zed I see men putting all kinds of things on women - collars, leashes, ball gags, many others and yes chastity belts. Seems like chastity devices are more prevalent when the male is the bottom or sub, but that is a detail in the grand scheme. There is obviously a level of fetish implied here and his consent is indicated. Should this be in fetish? Maybe, but it's not hard to imagine a few different potential categories. And the title makes it pretty clear what to expect.

Vixen I expect you are correct that an Alpha male wouldn't accept this situation. But I don't think I understand your point. The man/men referred to here are obviously not Alphas and the author makes it clear that most men will not go down this path and shouldn't be pushed. Personally I think it was incumbent upon her to better ascertain his interest and get a more explicit agreement (or not) from him. But some men are into this just like some are into being a bottom or sub. It's an observable fact.

I don't think of myself as a hater, hey diferent strokes Eh? I do choose to read lots of varied material on this site. I cannot see a "relationship" surviving where one party continually manipulates & controls the other as if property. a child or a pet to be trained & used. How the person being used/abused in this manner does not get tired, wised up and/or resentful to this treatment along with the inevitable fading of the excitement & newness is unclear to me. As this "manifesto" draws to a close the last two paragraps of step 11, show that, you are left with someone on the level of being a doormat/flunky trying to seek your favor by being a "good boy". Why would a "superior" woman bother herself with such a "nobody/nothing " that you have torn him down to be? What happens when you age & your superior attractiveness fades? You & hubby (and his probable lessening of sexual desire) might just have a reconing that might just spawn another "power exchange.

After all that, I did otherwise enjoy this and others you have written.

non haters

Seems to me that nobody thinks of themselves as a hater, but there are lots out there because people exempt themselves from that reality when they feel justified in passing judgment on other people's lives. As always with this topic the last commenter starts from the basically flawed premise that this situation can't exist without it being abusive. It has been said before by this author and others - look at a Dom/Sub relationship. There is ample evidence that some people are very happy this way. The Sub does not feel abused and the Dom does not disrespect the Sub or crave a "stronger" partner regardless of the gender of each or how it appears to outsiders.

Hot wife/cuckold is different in the details but very similar in the fact that what you are observing are practices that you can't relate to but that doesn't mean other people can't either. No matter how much you might feel abused and beaten down as the cuckold does not make it so for all other men in the world. No matter how prevalent the stereotypes there are Alpha women and Beta men who are comfortable and most happy in those roles.

Even if relationship implosion is highly likely, if what the author has written made you think about that then it is a good read. You are missing a lot of good stuff if you only ever watch or read things where the outcome is happily ever after for the good guys and comeuppance for the bad guys.

5

5 to offset this fag's 1 vote. Hey fuck wad go find a diseased cock and suck on it. Nurse it and get AIDS!!

Required reading

This essay should be required reading for any couple contemplating marriage and for any couple contemplating divorce.

Chastity Cage

When a hot wife is with her lover, her cuckold becomes very aroused thinking of her and what she is doing. In his aroused state, he masturbates and after he ejaculates, he is overwhelmed with remorse and depression. He feels that he is inadequate and inferior. That he cannot sexually gratify his wife.

When a hot wife locks her cuckold in a chastity device, she is sparing him all of these negative emotions. He is denied ejaculation which keeps him in a state of arousal and in this aroused state, he remains attentive to her.

@cuckoldguy that is some sick shit

and it's not just me saying it. What you are describing is sexual masochism, a sho' nuff psychological disorder. And the wife, at the least is enabling and facilitating the pathology. Worse she could be a sexual sadist, another psychological disorder.

If your comment reflects your reality, please get some help and please stay away from children. If you have children in your home consider putting them up for adoption. In the subsequent generation raised with the parents with the psychological you've described the kids will often grow up with much worse pathologies and exhibiting sociopathic and psychopathic behaviors.

I don't care if you get off by sticking your dick in a lamp socket and turning it on and off repeatedly. Your sickness is yours but you are responsible. Don't impose it on children, please.

Him or her?

I find it interesting anyone believes this article was written by a woman. I think it was written by a man masquerading as a woman. Many things point to this.

That said, I gave it ****.

It is my fantasy. My mistress wife and I live this life, except that I lead her there and asked for it. And now, with a new boyfriend she looks to be falling in love with, all the jealousy and rejection (for a situation that I instigated!) are rising to the fore.

One commenter above was right. Real life is a little messier than this.

Cuckold guy is right

Not only does the chastity cage keep a cuckold focussed on his wife for her benefit, but that heightened state of sexual excitement and awareness is very pleasurable for him. Only once you try it can you really understand how you will WANT to hold off your own ejaculations in order to stay in that suspended state of arousal. For the cuckold that is able to also embrace his submissive side the state of mind is further enhanced by the pleasure of submitting to your hot wife. The combination is so powerful that it affects you mentally and emotional and physically.

Most guys will never open their mind to it, but the cage is what liberated me to stop feeling compelled to play a tradition male role. Now the craving to be caged and dominated is overwhelming. Sometimes I almost feel as though the other man is being short changed because by comparison he rushes to ejaculation. To me it is almost like wolfing down a great meal rather than savouring.

1*

policywank is a DUMB CUNT and a WHORE. she belongs in an ISIS whorehouse. that'd teach her! Rate accordingly!

Just great stuff

So much great stuff here and I believe couple can us it but I see really you controlling your husband as a way to protect yourself instead of pushing him up. I do hope you take the time to remember, you controlling him secures him so you can do as you want but he will begin to silence in him the ability to explore.

Nicely done!

Very well thought out! Given the right two people this might work; but I don't recommend it. As for the cock cage it is largely symbolic and for a submissive man it will heighten his experience. Better that two sluts have an open marriage.

Insanity can border on logic

Reading this I found elements of logic but more disturbingly, a clandestine control freak. It makes me thankful I am not her husband and makes me cringe at his pitiful situation.

interesting advice

this is a difficult topic to discuss and the attempt was well worth it. It is suggestive and i can imagine a lot more erotic detail.

Brilliant, well thought and well written

Hilarious comments below from haters/deniers who love this stuff or they wouldn't be here

Sex.

From what I understand the husband ends up having less sex with you then your lovers do with you. This also means you will eventually cut him off completely and never have sex with him again.

Misunderstand

Then you misunderstand. I don't really measure how much sex I have with my husband compared to others but from our anecdotal observations of couples we know I am very attentive to his sexual needs. It is often unconventional but thoroughly enjoyable for both of us. He is a very good lover and I have no intention of cutting him off.

Really well written!

This is very thought provoking! It made me think about my own situation. I have often thought I would like to be a woman as they are so much more powerful then men. Also sexually they are in many ways, or at to some extent insatiable. I am insatiable but can't last to effectively meet all of my wife's sexual needs. It's reality!

When I was younger I could have three or four orgasms in an afternoon. She could have ten or twenty or more. What she is saying is absolute truth. I fell in love with her from reading this and could picture how she carries herself and how she walks. A super confident woman. There is nothing more sexy and erotic.

All you haters can't imagine what this is like because you are so insecure in your masculinity. Most of you don't have a cock but an overgrown clitoris. With that said go fuck yourselves. You're nothing but a cunt anyway!

Well reasoned

but this whole alpha - beta pemise is a tough pill to swallow. Leadership is predicated on style. This is pure D/s. The hierarchy is animal kingdom and our urges don't often stray far from that beaten path. The theme I get the most of from Pwank is that societal conventions are inferior to natural or animal instincts. I enjoyed the treatise and find some terrific insight. However, I keep thinking of the newly crowned Lion King devouring the offspring of his predecessor. Still 5*

Great Analysis!

This is a thoughtful and intelligent article on hot wife–cuckold marriages. Both my wife and I appreciated it immensely. It is a very clear description of human relations, psychology, sexuality and leader/follower roles. While sometimes difficult to accept, your observations are right on. Next, were the instructions for leading a husband into cuckoldry.

In our marriage, we are a great match in interests, activities, values and living compatibility. However, her sexual appetite and abilities far outmatch mine. That, coupled with the fact that she is extremely attractive, enjoys flirting and the attentions of other men, quickly led us to challenge our assumption of monogamy.

Even before our marriage, when we were just dating, we discovered it was extremely erotic when she told me how she fucked her former boyfriends and hookups. She could actually make me cum whenever she wanted to, just by narrating her former sexual exploits. Through this, she purposely set me up to have premature ejaculations and she grew to enjoy this power over me.

Furthermore, she would occasionally flirt heavily with attractive men in a social setting right in front of me. When we got home she would describe what she wanted to do with the man and make me cum after only one penetration in her pussy. She would giggle, hug me, tell me to enjoy the stories and I would get her off with a dildo.

With her coaching, I started understanding that just was not getting the job done for her. Eventually, she started taking lovers, feeding me their cream pies and face sitting me. Now, her face sitting me after she has been with her lover, is the most erotic and satisfying event in my life. To keep me from wanking off during her dates, we both agreed to a cock cage. I was actually relieved to wear it.

Where I am going with this is that, when sexual energy is in play, relationships can change quickly, often drastically. In our case, my wife is even considering allowing some of her lovers to breed her and we would raise the children as our own. She feels this is the ultimate way that she can express her own sexuality.

Women have the sexual capacity, the opportunity, and the smarts to fully exploit and enjoy their sexuality. I am very happy to be in a female-lead relationship in the sexual realm.

We, thank you for your excellent article.

Great read

Thanks for the writing. I/we are embarking in this direction at both of our desires, plus lead a FLR. This article made a lot of sense and cleared up many things in my mind. Now it is Her to keep up the forward progress as I am Her willing servant. In any and all aspects.

Up to her

You are right to defer to her leadership and accept her sexual prerogative, especially if it is an FLR. However, you need to support and facilitate within the context of your submissive role. That means something different for each couple. But don't think of it as being all up to her. Seek ways to please her and comply with her desire as to move things forward. Good luck cuckold.