- All
Comments (23) - Add a
Comment - Send
Feedback Send private anonymous feedback to the author (click here to post a public comment instead).
| Literotica Toy Store ADULT TOY & DVD STORE FAST & DISCREET |
Literotica XXX Webcams 24/7 LIVE CAMS - FREE PREVIEW W/AUDIO! |
Literotica Adult Movies STREAMING ADULT MOVIES PAY PER MINUTE |
English
:)
Just for laughs, I thought I'd read this (since I'm a woman, and so obviously feel like I don't need to learn this sortof thing). I thought it was a cute guide, but I wished you had included in the "don'ts" one my biggest pet peeves in this area - DON'T LIE! While it may work for one time, if they want it repeat it won't. Plus, most of the time you can usually tell if they are lying (you love me after we've known eachother for one evening, hunh?). Anyway, great job. :)
Thank You, Thank You and Thank You
Much appreciate for your time in sharing your and possible ALL female side of thought and your candor.
Sexual Intercourse is not everything in a relationship. There is more to the physcial aspect in a loving relationship.
Young
Male Aged 36.
.."..he didn't get sex that night.."
Good God!! After all that! How did you restrain yourself after the 'full body massage'? Your man must be a saint...and you must have been so tired you drifted off to sleep...
Young lovers will appreciate your advice..or should I say young would-be lovers.
Thank you for youe essay.
please
alternatively,save yourself the bother,go to parlour,do your thing and save the the extramoney,(thats right,the extra) for a case of beer.
From experience...
All of these suggestions are very good ones and usually work well to a man's advantage. One thing, as a man in his thirties, that I've also learned is to maintain eye contact. You're taking her out to a nice dinner, she's dressed to the nines and you're enjoying some quiet conversation while the veal parmesean is being carefully prepared by the chef. DO NOT attempt to ogle the very nice cleavage she is showing off in that very nice dress. When she is looking at you, make and keep eye contact and listen to every word she says. When she's not looking, go ahead and ogle the cleavage- sure- but be quick about it. Women apparently know very well when a man is undressing them with their eyes- it's like a gender-biased radar or something. But your eyes should meet hers at every opportunity, even when she looks away and blushes. Many women believe that old saying "eyes are the windows to the soul", so let her have a look and make sure she knows that she has your undivided attention.
THAT will help loads.
No thanks, that's double standards.
So... jumping through hoops, worshiping a girl as your goddess and you'll be well on your way to getting her into bed.
No thanks. That's ploying for a reward. A reward that should always be there in a healthy relationship.
If you have to rely on these ploys to put the spark back in, then it's no longer an equal relationship. I don't know about you, but I won't allow myself to put you on a pedestal in order for sex, which is beneficial for both of us. It's degrading and immature.
How's this for an idea, you girls do the same thing to men. Bring us flowers, clean our rooms, watch sports with us- experience what it's like to completely deny your own values and beliefs in order to make us feel better.
I don't know about you, but I don't expect this from a girl I'm with in order to experience something we should both enjoy.
And neither should you.
No thanks, that's double standards.
So... jumping through hoops, worshiping a girl as your goddess and you'll be well on your way to getting her into bed.
No thanks. That's ploying for a reward. A reward that should always be there in a healthy relationship.
If you have to rely on these ploys to put the spark back in, then it's no longer an equal relationship. I don't know about you, but I won't allow myself to put you on a pedestal in order for sex, which is beneficial for both of us. It's degrading and immature.
How's this for an idea, you girls do the same thing to men. Bring us flowers, clean our rooms, watch sports with us- experience what it's like to completely deny your own values and beliefs in order to make us feel better.
I don't know about you, but I don't expect this from a girl I'm with in order to experience something we should both enjoy.
And neither should you.
a note from the author
COULD EVERYONE PLEASE STOP ASSUMING THAT I'M ONLY GOING TO WRITE THESE FOR THE MEN?????????????????
i appreciate the men who DIDN'T make that assumption and who realized that these things go both way.
I am NOT trying to say that all men need to bow down to women in order to get teh sexual relationship that they want. the first chapter of the COMPANION to this trilogy has been submitted, it's called "Getting The Lover You Want" and it's for women in a relationship and it's the EXACT SAME THING AS THESE.
Thank you.
STOP THE ASSUMPTIONS PLEASE! argh!
Us men need lots of help because we goof up a lot
I liked your submission, as us men have sex drives that get impatient.
No one teaches us social and sexual foreplay, and it's usually the older men who have come to realise from the experience of life how important the things are that you have mentioned.
Young guys are hormone driven, with the urge to "go forth and multiple", without the knowledge of the "old bull" who says there is plenty of time for loving, no need to be a two-minute man with no foreplay or caresses afterwards.
Okay, young guys stuff it up, but they don't know any better. Very few can be wonderful lovers. Boys at puberty have 20 times the testosterone that a girl has circulating in her blood.
It's difficult for a young man in the flush of excitement with having his first girlfriend, to not be too eager to be with her every minute of the day, when she has other things she needs to do, and other friends to spend with time with.
And it has been scientifically proven that a man's brain has not fully developed until age 25, and perhaps he should not marry younger than that.
That's why your submissions are so valuable, and why young guys need this information as early as possible in their lives.
Teasing a girl to build emotion and mystery, surprises without expectation of rewards, confidence in self and career, giving the gift of missing him, not ringing too often to flood her space, showing respect for who she is and where she hopes to go, not trying to control her, letting sexual tension build on its own, not being too needy or desperate for love....not being a pushover or too eager to please.....all take time to learn. Its the older man who is often the better lover.
There is nothing nicer than the emotions of foreplay that builds over many hours or days...it shouldn't start just in the bedroom, nor should it stop there either.
Men, sometimes would like women to seduce them, it shouldn't always be one-sided. Men like a bit of spoiling too, and shouldn't always pay the bill.
When a man approaches a woman, she probably puts him into a category box. A - marriage prospect, B - a lover, C - one-night stand, D - a friend, E - reject, F - weirdo.
Pat yourself on the back. The world needs women like you to tell us "how it is".
They call it "getting lucky", because most men don't really understand why they got sex one night, but not another. It is a mystery to them.
Yawn
Yawn... This story is *so* eigthies... Sex is somethig that two consenting adults should do when they both feel like it, not some kind of reward for things done. This woman gives real bad advice.
Wow
This is the most accurate advice i have seen. Im a woman and this article just read my mind. If the guy isnt desperate for sex and you have to work him for it, not only is it much more likely that he will get it, but also its much better for the woman :P
some guys just don't get it
"i_am_darkness", you're kinda dumb. up until maybe 40 or 50 years ago, it was ALL about what men wanted. it will be fine for you to complain once women are deemed more important for a couple of centuries, okay?
No... Just, no!
This almost mad me cry! We shouldn't have to treat our women like fucking roiality to have sex. Sex is the main key to keep a healthy relationship, it's what bonds a man and a women togather, and shouldn't be treated as a reward! Guys don't listen to her, if your women is going to treat you like her slave, giving sexual rewards, if you work your ass off, you're better off dumping her. Men have feelings too! I'm over 18 (Well in the minority *rolls eyes*). And sex shouldn't be a sexual gratification, sure I'm interesting in sex, but I want it to be with the women I love with all my heart, someone that's there for me for the rest of my life and visversa.
Wow
I can't believe some people are so simple-minded. I mean seriously this was a great story, and it was just a guideline it's not like you HAVE to do this stuff. Hey if they think they can do it without anything and that they're just THAT attractive they don't need to CARE about other people they can go right ahead, see how far it gets them. It was just a good guideline for a guy looking for some extra ways to make his woman happy.
fuck
what d fuck is dis.....man u got mad.....i cant do all this....u follow your own rules while i fuck ur girl....refresh ur knowledge
Perfect!
Now if only I could get me guy to read this without making him upset LOL
Hey guys
You gentlemen that left negative comments are making a mistake. If you love a woman it is not demeaning to make her feel special. I used to be like you and I was losing my wife. Until I got very similar advice and now years later our marriage is better and filled with more passion than when we were young. When all else fails remember this: A woman falls in love based on how she feels when she is with you not how macho you think you are.
Seriously.
This is for the guys: Seriously? The main theme here was do nice things for your girl, and she will do nice things back. Relationships, and by extension meaningful sex, Don't come without effort.
Many of you make the point that sex is a part of a healthy relationship, but so is deriving pleasure from making the other happy. The only reason this way of going about things results in sex is that it brings you closer, which makes sex more appealing and enjoyable.
what do you do?
So what is the wife or girlfriend supposed to do to make herself worth all this effot? This is what I am dealing with.
Often forgotten?
Women like sex too. The best opening line that ever worked for me was "Hi!"
After that, be normal.
One time way back I spotted a gal at a party, fixing a drink. . I said "Hi!" She said "Hi." "What's that you are making?" "Bailey's and Coffee." "That sounds interesting." "Want me to make you one?" "Sure, I will try anything."
Really wild conversation, huh? Sexy and full of all sorts of seduction techniques.
I married that one, Dotty was her name. Yes, women like sex too, especially when a man makes an effort, plus they usually make an effort right back.
Just MHO.
Thanks,
MGM
@Anonymous 5/13/13
You said "what do you do?
So what is the wife or girlfriend supposed to do to make herself worth all this effort? This is what I am dealing with."
This has nothing to do with *this* conversation, which is about advice *for men*. You want to talk about advice *for women*, write your own essays.
PS...I'm a man, and I get what the author is saying here...and my woman responds very positively to the things I do. I do my part, and expect here to do her part. It's much easier for her to do her part when I'm doing mine.
Thanks but no thanks
This guide was a sad but predictable read. You should rename it 'How to please Miss Entitled Princess with your very own Circus'
The irony is that if you did find a guy who would do all of these things, you wouldn't have found a man haha. It's funny how you never hear a thing about what women bring to the table but regardless, this sort of 'Me me me, more me ME' narcissistic attitude is exactly why so many guys are opting out.
An interesting guide
That reveals how women really are.
Thanks for your honesty. I couldn't help but notice the number of inconsistencies in the female mind illustrated in your examples.
FTR, I am a romantic at heart. Sometimes it's rewarded/encouraged/appreciated, other times not. I finally got through to my lady recently when I told her, "I give up. I don't know how to reach you." The last week has been amazing. Go figure.
Click here to leave your own comment on this submission! or
Back to Getting Her In Bed or
More submissions by Goldeniangel.