Letter From My Ex-Wife

The pain is too real!

Didn't someone famous say the saddest word in English was If?

Perhaps it was something like "what might have been."

Hated the pain, loved the story!

Sad ending.

In spite of the tear-jerk ending - I so enjoyed reading this story. A lot of endearing sentiments well expressed.

memories

This story caused me to reflect on my own marriage failure, and how I may have contributed. I don't spend much time looking back but sometimes I think, what might have been. A story is a mirror held up to our lives and this one is highly polished. Thank you.

Stupid dead SLUT

I gave the story high marks because the writing was awesome, and the letter realistic. However, I fucking hated what this stupid fucking slut would have been like if she was still alive to waste our precious oxygen. Unfortunately, death was too good for her. I mean where do you start? The fucking shit way she repeatedly patronised the entire male gender, by saying things like "I went behind your back and did something that I know, as a man, you could never accept, yes...". I mean yeah, off course he's just a man... the same as the FUCKING LOSER she picked up to get her fucking cunt filled with! Or how about the way this idiot blamed him for NOT FORGIVING HER!?!? - Who the fuck did she think this guy was? Her father? Her brother? Her priest? One of her friends? Fucking dumb slut didn't deserve life. She was too stupid and self centered to be considered human...

As usual

Your ability to paint a vivid picture with words is second to none on this site. But also, so is your habit of leaving blank spots on the canvas. You never asked the question....


Why did they miss each other? No intimacy, no communication? What's the point? No man goes two years without sex at that age (short of severe medical reasons), lying next to a woman he desires. Your bad math keeps showing also. You said the wife was "fortyish" but the couple had met fifteen years ago when she was twenty-three.

Conflicts and regrets even on the death bad

After reading a short part from the story I had to give it a rest. I left it for later sensing its intensity. I was right, It sure was intense. What added to the intensity other than the loaded themes (betrayal; death) was my sense that it was eerily realistic. The qualities which made it so realistic were counted by others as draw backs or inconsistencies, but this is exactly what could be expected from a letter written by a real human being; not a hero, someone who is certainly flawed and knows it; someone who is not strong enough to fully own her short comings in all the places where she had badly hurt her husband, so even on her death bed she resorts to the classic defensive mode: “Yes, but”, not realizing that between herself her actions and her conscious there are no mitigating factors. We all act under opaque circumstances and make decisions -which are totally ours.
Her letter seems so realistic when she is irritating. More than once she contradicts herself, like when in the same breath she says that she was wrong in taking a lover and but that she is also upset at her husband for not protecting her from herself.
The strongest, and the most touching part of the letter was her account of the losses she accumulated on account of her betrayal –and/or her husband divorcing her. It was heart breaking to read her account of the children she never had not growing old with him etc.
While her emotional pathos was the strongest part her ethos or her ethical calculations of who is to blame where petty self serving and at places simply illogical, but that part was explained in many ways by others.
Still, or maybe even because of these contradictory, uneven quality of the whole, in this case, the combination gives it a strong sense of credibility. It comes across as complex as someone’s real life which could not be summarized in one sentence, or as the life long conflicted love hate relations of one couple could be expected to be reflected in one letter.

thanks.

your awesome..........please keep writing.

Nice writing but a terrible twist of the knife

into the man who loved her, but an unfaithful, adulterous slut. Yep I am dying but I will use my last thoughts to make you feel bad again, after all I die knowing you will suffer again! A shame some people are so vindictive. She simply could have said I still love you goodbye, it would have been something to soothe her and his soul.

Great writing

He should have told Avril you goto hell for whay she did to him and there marriage.

Brief but beautiful

Apparently I don'y have the literary insight to understand all that is wrong with this story. I thought it was one of the most beautiful, heartbreaking stories of a loving couple destroyed by poor communications or by typical human failing that I have ever read. My congratulations to you celt. I envy your talent for writing . Please keep up the fine work.
60 year old George

women always know

Women know exactly how to inflict the maximum damage.

Thoughts after reading "Letter from my ex-wife"

Where is humanity among the people who write these comments?

She cheated, so screw her!

No matter that she realized her error and repented. No matter that he loves her, and she loves him.

His pride is hurt, so he can't bring himself to forgive and live a happy life with someone whom he loves and who loves him.

Is it unmanly to seek counseling and say, "I'm hurt. My trust in her is shattered. I love AND hate her. My pride is wounded. BUT I WANT TO GET PAST THIS! Please help me take her back."? Is it unmanly to avoid destroying someone even if she deserves better and even if you destroy yourself in the process?

I guess to the self-righteous people who say "Throw her cheatin' ass out!" I'd say, "She's too good for you! You don't deserve her."

As to this particular story, what an asshole he must be to "love" a woman who, he knows, loves her, and let her go through dying alone? This guy doesn't know what it is to love someone!

As far as that goes, the "Throw her cheatin' ass out" crowd seems to have no ides what it to love and to forgive.

Maybe people who think like I do just don't reply to these stories. That's too bad, because it abandons the field to the wrong kind of thinking.

Rich

To Err Is Human

Pride: The sin of Adam that we can be perfect and powerful like a god, instead of what we are human.

Is love so simple that we can say that it is always on or off? How can love ever work in such a mechanical fashion? When did life become just black or white with no shades of gray, no colors, no filters and no distractions? When did forgiveness become lost as a virtue? I ask questions. I seek answers.

Fin

Actually, the sin of Adam.

is that he was created by a schizophrenic god who could not make up his mind.

Beautiful

A beautiful story. So much emotion. A well told tale.

perseverating bitch

The author did an excellent job of portraying the ex-wife as a perseverating bitch -- I didn't see anything romantic about the story, but I suppose that's a matter of interpretation. First she cuckolded him, and then she rubbed his nose in her adultery. Her final jab at her long-suffering ex husband was an attempt to lay a significant guilt trip on the poor bastard as she lay dying. However, instead of fouling a great-sounding retreat at the lake, he ought to scatter her ashes at his dog's favorite piss spot and have a good laugh, "Ha, you stupid cunt! You tried to get in the last word and lay a guilt trip on me but it didn't work. Piss on you."

Don't like what the wife did.

Why would she continue to hurt him knowingly before she went to meet her maker? It's kind of evil to bring up their shared dreams of a family that is never to be and to lay partial blame at his feet for her affair (wasn't sure whether it was once or a many time event) even though she freely admitted that she lacked in the communication department. Still though I got the feeling that she did love him to her end and that he still loved her what with his saying so and him finishing the letter even though she gave him an out. Think he forgave her even though it was never said which is why I strongly like this story. Looking forward to more of your works.

its his fault

she cleansed her conscious, since she did that stuff and never raised the concerns to him. if he had known, then maybe fault would have been -- but he was there and therefore in the wrong. did she pay expenses for dan too ?

In the end...

To those who offered thoughtful and insightful comments: notice that in the end she succeeded. He understood and forgave her, as she (despite her clever statement, seemingly to the contrary), forgave him.


To thecelt: Thanks so much for your stories, especially this one. What an unexpected thing to come to a place looking for...well, whatever we come here to find, and to discover instead stories that make a difference.


To myself: the truth of the story lies in this: "...in the end she was forgiven, for she loved much."

Just my opinion

wll crafted and caused emotion.not authers fault made me want to beat the wife to death with her i.v pole.

Interesting and well written

though I'm not sure about how I feel about it. She shouldn't have cheated, she should have told him of her concerns before she cheated, the letter while initially comming across as mean spirited is in the end an apology for dying before sew could win him back! But you know, even if she shouldn't have cheated, THEY HADN"T MADE LOVE IN 2 YEARS! Shit, who can blame her for cheating! If my wife hadn't put out for 2 years I'd cheat to! Or well, divorce her first and get laid second, but the principle's the same.

Well written

Like many people facing the end they see their mistakes and what those mistakes cost. The story (letter) was well written and built the characters well. I cared about both of them.
Thanks.

AN EXCELLENT READ!

GAD! I love this stuff. No cum stained face, no wife cheating with black guys, white gals or German Shepherds. :-) Just a well written little vignette. Poignant (the best and most accurate word I could think of!), soul hitting and relevant but without being sniveling.

Simply one of the best here! If you have a heart, read it!

Regards
Chagrined

Touching

I shed some tears reading this
Fran26

Leave it too a cheating slut to get the last word.

The bitch was in denial to her death. At least she died in agony or drugged out of her mind.

So sad. So very sad.

I cried through this letter for both of them, but especially the husband. As a man I can understand how his pride, his ego got the better of him.

One quick comment.

I have read this story twice now and it still sounds like a bitch cunt of a wife trying to blame her husband for the divorce.

WOW!

A story of total denial of her own actions. If she believes in God, I wonder if her denial will save her?????

Just because she is dead

If we altered the circumstances and she was not dead or dying and she sent this letter to her ex-husband would what she said be OK? Not in my opinion. So why should it be OK because she died? I do believe in redemption so she will hopefully have forgiveness in the afterlife. But she blames him for letting her lover come between them, saying he was nothing. She totally fails to recognize it probably wasn't the lover, it was HER. As she says, the other guy was a tool. But if someone use a sledgehammer to wreck your house you don't get upset at the sledgehammer, you get upset with the person who wields it. In this case her! She is the betrayer, the disappointer, the destroyer. And she doesn't get it. Oops, sorry. Let's just get past it. Just like a dent in the car, we'll just get it fixed. He should just forgive her for her little faux pas. Bull, some bad actions aren't fixable.

Complete Denial!

Yes, I wronged you, over and over, but you should have fogiven me over and over and over again, as I trampled on your dignity. What a bitch!

Wow!!!

Being that I lost my wife to complications freom gastric cancer in November of 2009, I'm sure you'll understand that it is very hard for me to comment on this story. I can only thank God, if there is one, that I didn't receive such a letter. Devastation is hardly a strong enough word. Wonderfully diverse story. I may yet bestow that "genius" label on you.

He was a selfish husband.

He neglected him wife because things were more important than his wife and the children he will never have. He should have forgiving her and start putting her first; it would have been so easy and made him happy. However, he was far to cruel and stubborn.

SPELLING AND DEFINITIONS

HEY CELT, PLEASE LEARN HOW TO USE "TO" & "TOO" UNLESS THEY WERE TYPOS, TK U MLJ LV NV P/S EXCELLENT LETTER

gave it a 3 star

Dwornock, write a story about your life as a cuckold and as a child of a cuckold father. You can tell everyone about how your dad gave up his right as a man to your mom's lovers. And how your raising your wife's lover's kids. You should feel right at home with this.

Delusional

She still didn't get it. It's all about her. She's even delusional from the grave. There's only one person to blame and that's she herself. She cheated. And reaped the consequences of it. She threw away the marriage, not him. It were her actions which deprived her of children, not his.

Just like a woman...

It doesn't matter how bad she does him, in some small way, it just had to be a little his fault too, huh? Screw her.

Good Read

Thanks for sharing.

Mental Illness

Not only did she cheat but in her mind and on her death bed she wrote about hating her husband for not forgiving her. She definitely had some form of psychosis but lets make it easy to understand.
SHE WAS FUCKING NUTS!!!

HA

What The F**K???

Me Me Me!!! Even in death she couldn't ask for forgivness. Nope, I hate you because you won't forgive me, even if I won't ask for that forgivness.

YAY!! Revenge story gone right!

This one is a good revenge story!!
That cancer he gave her was pretty sneaky!!!

And those tears of joy at the end were priceless...

** for the horrid ending.

The dumb cheater never got it.

One More Thing To Add

FUCKING CUNT!!!

Wow what a fucking bitch!

Even dead she's still playing the blame game...

JHC

What a horrible woman. Selfish and self-serving to the bitter end. I don't think she will be waiting in heaven. Anyway, as anyone familiar with Christianity and the bible knows, "men and women will not be given to each other in heaven as they are on earth".

I went to the office. Here is a letter for you from your x wife.
Thank you I say. Do you have a paper shreader? I drop the unread letter into it and hit the on button.
Have a good day I say as my new wife and I leave the office. She blows me on the way home.

It's Complicated

'Tough read, clearly exposing raw nerves born of something that the author has gone through, whether or not it bears any relation to "reality" as we usually term it. Like with all human relations, it's complicated, and the story reveals that. 'Sounds like there was plenty of blame to go around if that's what was sought, but also sounds like these two missed many opportunities to heal and love, so a shame. To the author: ignore the name callers and simplistic interpreters. And move on to better places, which dwelling on this won't help.

Don´t you dare...

stop writing. This one had just the right mixture of emotion and tragedy.
What can I say - it´s worth all the stars I cqan give. Great moving story.

evil bitch

To the last, I will grapple with thee... from Hell's heart, I stab at thee! For hate's sake, I spit my last breath at thee! thats what she did with the letter

Deep heavy emotional last cry from dying ex-wife.

This story was saturated with deep rooted emotion. The issues brought out was the wife's plea for forgiveness and the enlightenment achieved by her impending demise. Perhaps a clarity of thought on her life shared events with her ex partner/husband are clear and present. The author reached to great depths that captured the nuances of a crying desperate soul that begged for redemption. Of course that ship has sailed but the love was never extinguished in its vanity. Love betrayed is still love when it was true. It has tainted blemishes but it is irrevocable as this author clearly artfully displayed emotion in its profound glory. Thank you 5 stars.

Excellent writing

The letter only tells us about the woman. The husband that we see is one that she sees, which is not necessarily the "ding em sich"
Observation: he was guilty of divorcing her because she would never ask for a divorce and she left him no other option. (Fascinating)

Another Stoopid Bitch!

She feels there is something lacking in their marriage, and instead of talking to her husband she cheats, then won't forgive HIM for not forgiving HER?!

And they always say "I never meant to hurt you." WTF did she think would happen?

Would she have accepted such a self-serving statement from HIM in similar circumstances?