Anatomy of a Cheating Divorcee

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You do the crime you do the time. A cheating slut.

Well that was ugly

Not the writing. And not the presentation. But damn! For a story on a porn web site this was WAY too truthful and honest about what happens during a divorce.

First chapter had some substance ...

while this chapter had nothing.

And yet

She still blames everyone but herself. Fucking selfish bitch. I HATE cheaters!

Sad tale

Sad tale. I know that she cheated and she is paying for her choice. Hopefully she will be able to move on with her life. I know that people who read these stories want the cheating wife to suffer for the rest of her life. That will satisfy their sense of justice. But the real world doesn't work like that. I for one am glad. You make a mistake, you pay for it, and you move on. That's comforting. I know that I'm not innocent and have done things that have been wrong. I'm glad that I don't have to pay for them for the rest of my life. People often want justice for everyone else, but want mercy for themselves.

krosis666

She DID NOT blame everyone else!

She wondered and wished her ex would have given her a chance at their recovery

She explained the sad and sorrowful side of being the divorced adulterer and...

BTW, it is harder on a divorced woman with children than a man!!!

Oh, and BTW - notice he didn't even allow a moments discussion with her, just left...Period and she had ended the affair quite some time before so...she cheated - yes but she woke up and realized she had a husband and children that she cared for so...what the hell was with his cold, hard, speechless departure, male ego, some man and again...BTW, I am a man!

Also, I gathered that their friends had no idea so I'm guessing Mr. good guy informed them....some man. I'm not suggesting he didn't have a right to being hurt and upset but turning their friends against her...come on - low self esteem asshole!

Finally, she was wrong and paying a hell of a price for many, many years and yes she brought it on all by herself - guilty. Her somewhat redemption from me - she woke up, cared about her family and quit the affair!

Thanks for the story cpete, you never cease to entertain and this one was well done. We all have our opinions and as you can read, I think she has more than suffered and I think in the long run, she is better off without the ex who made sure everyone knew the story. You didn't write that but losing her friends told the behind the scenes knowledge which could only come from him.

Good anatomy of divorce results - Thanks again!

@ anon

Where was her consideration of HER husband when she was cheating? You spout all that crap about the VICTIM husband being heartless and ego driven. What a crock of shit! you say she woke up and realised what she had to lose? Bullshit. She got CAUGHT! It`s easy to say sorry when you`re discovered. If she was remorseful, then she would have stopped and confessed of her own volition. Her only regret is being caught. She says "How did he find out?" That doesn`t sound like a truly remorseful confession, only regret over being found out, and having to pay the price. She didn`t make a mistake. A mistake is dialling the wrong number, of picking up a can of Coke instead of Pepsi! Cheating involves a conscious decision, making it planned. You can`t plan a mistake!
And yes, she DOES blame everyone. She blames her husband, saying; "He chose to end the marriage" , "He didn`t even try" and "I deserved more consideration". Sounds like blame to me. She blames the kids for not picking her side, she blames their friends for not siding with her. She blames her new lovers WIFE for ruining her affair with him! What about her consideration of her husband and children while she was fucking around? She knew going in that there would be severe consequences for her family, yet she still chose to cheat! He didn`t even try? Why should he? Did she ever try keeping her knees (and therefore her family) together? Why should it all fall onto the innocent husband to burden the fallout? Just put aside his feelings and move on as if his hurt is meaningless, just to make the person he trusted most, the person that hurt him and betrayed him most, feel better?
Anon, you said that a divorce is always harder on a woman with kids than on a man? Personal experience? How can you claim to know exactly what other people feel? Are you a mind reader? That`s a bullshit claim! Men and women are indeed different, but they are not differing species! Everyone has feelings, and everyone experiences every event in their life differently to anyone else. Are you claiming that Fathers don`t love their children? That men don`t feel the pain of having their kids taken away from them, as is the case in 99% of divorces? Are you claiming that only a woman is capable of love?
You say that you are a man. That is a little white lie, isn`t it? It is more likely that you are a woman, claiming to be a man in order to sell your point to men, making rationalisations in order to defend the act of cheating! Did you know that if you pay enough attention to what people write, that in 9 out of 10 cases you can tell the sex of that person? It`s in the phraseology and wording! It`s the same as hand writing, usually easy to tell, so stop pretending to be what your not, and be honest with the world!

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Anon 3/10/14

She did utter the words It's not my fault. She whined many times throughout. SHE broke the bonds and trust. BTW how do you get off saying that divorce is harder on a woman? THAT is YOUR opinion, it depends on the situation. Your little spiel leads me to believe that you lack the morals and understanding to be a faithful committed partner in a marriage.

No Bad People

First of all, I would like to congratulate cpete on his writing talent and his empathic abilities. I wish more people were able to put themselves in other peoples' shoes. Obviously, people are flawed. There is no such thing as a perfect person and the parameters for being "normal" is so vast that what it basically comes down to is, can a person successfully live in society without breaking any laws.. Plus, norms are constantly changing with the addition of new laws every year.. Neither of these people are bad people. The husband was hurt by her cheating so he just walked away. Many people are like that. He doesn't care about revenge, his wife hurt him so he just cut her out of his life just like everything else that has hurt him in his past. That's how he learned to survive (deal with the pain) when he was growing up. As far as the wife is concerned there are a lot of very skilled seducers or sex predators out there that target attractive wives and unless you have learned to be objective an spot these people anyone can be seduced. Since we weren't given a lot of details on why the wife cheated or who seduced who we can only go back to the principles of behavior. Short term consequences are always stronger than long term consequences. In the case of cheating the long term consequences are only a factor if you're caught. Just like stealing. Short term is obvious. The body flooded of all the pleasurable hormones that comes from sex which are usually heightened with a new partner. The only way long term consequences are stronger than short term is if the person has learned how to stay focused on long tern consequences (goals) and ignore short term consequences. Yes, this is learned. Sometimes from mistakes. This is true when it comes to sex, eating, smoking basically every behavior there is. It all goes back to your learning history (childhood). So, when you see someone doing something inappropriate don't assume they are a bad person it is just how they have learned to survive and cope with given situations. When you look at people you have to separate the behavior from the person. People learn how to behave from those that raise them. So, be careful who you let take care of your kids and if you have any bad behaviors work on correcting them because if you don't you will definitely pass them on to your kids. That's the simple version. It's actually a lot more complex. Why do people smoke even when they know there is a high probability that they will get lung cancer. Short term consequences control behavior more effectively than long term consequences. UNFORTUNATELY, this is only an explanation of behavior not an excuse. We are all responsible for our own behavior and it's consequences. No matter who your parents were. Thanks again for the great story, cpete.

Excellent

As the expression goes, "Ye reap what ye sow." Or there is another expression, "What goes around, comes around." To finish, Karma's a bitch.

Oh Yeah

Wait

And then you die.
Then they throw dirt on your face.

To my good friend Selstim!

You are a long winded bastard. Please consider either condensing what you write into something more manageable, or shutting the fuck up entirely....either option would be a vast improvement.

Have a great day!

An excellent story

Showing the side of the cheater is a new loving wives approach. I like it

Although the story was a bit sad for the woman.

Thanks for thee read

SOME PEOPLE ARE SLOW LEARNERS

and trust and verify is not in their curriculum. tk u mlj lv nv

Divorced women

Men know they are lonely and desperate. You can smell it on them. They want to "fix" their lives and get married again. The shame of not having a man is too much for them. They will do next to anything to achieve that. There are a lot of men who take advantage of these desperate women situations.

Horribly sad story...

People do make mistakes that hurt others, as well as themselves. Forgiveness is in truth divine and I believe in staying married for several reasons. A long term marriage is two people who get through all the different types of betrayals. There are many more other than cheating. Caring for and hating each other at times is present in all relationships over time. You know...I often hear the figure of over 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Yet, I also know that some people get divorced more than once. So is that statistic considered in this figure? I was divorced too after 15 years of marriage. Yet, I have been married to another woman for 35 years. So am I part of that statistic. If so...if I was to get divorced again, would that influence it? We all love to read these stories because many of us have been cheated on. We wonder why she did it, what we did to bring it about. I know that I personally did not have much in common with my first wife. I ignored her most of the time, working, or doing my thing with other males in my spare time. Of course, I was a young and self-centered young man in many ways. I was a Marine combat veteran that had come back and became a State Cop. We had also lost 3 children through miscarriages and troubles with birth. What did all that play into our marriage I wonder? I realize that I can't just blame my ex-wife for our failed union even though she was the one who started cheating. I met another young beauty and we produced two beautiful girls after that. I did much better with my second wife because I committed more of myself to her and her happiness. I want to say that she too has betrayed me at times too. Just in different ways. You know...like overspending our money, alcoholism, failure to communicate her fears and stresses. etc. You see, she is an introvert, as compared to my being an extrovert. She was also 10 years younger and inexperienced about life when I met her. Yet, we have put up with each others issues throughout the years. We made it through life both loving and depending on each other. I am near death now, and yet she says she will never replace me with another man. My Mother said the same thing when my Dad died, so I understand the both of them wanting some freedom after enduring a life with a man. Especially so, after having and raising children, granting sex privileges whether they are in the mood or not, staying silent when in disagreement with the strong male provider, etc. You all know of what I am saying... I don't why I have ranted so much, since these stories are just fiction. I also realize that most of these comments are just about how people perceive the when it relates to their own personal views. Yet. I invoke an old saying... "Opinions are like assholes and we all have one!" Of course everyone else's but ours stinks...right? Anyway, I enjoyed the story above as a good consequences story. Yet again...why would you want her to be so miserable? A woman you loved and bore your children? Your ego is that damaged?

Good job author. OldMarineVet Ron wood

Side?

“friends that did not disappear, all seemed to take his side.” – Well, why wouldn’t they? HE was the cheated upon spouse, why should they take her side?

I thought this was a great story

Have to agree with anon 01.04.16 SHE FUCKED UP. So why was she surprised when she became little more than an unpaid whore for another cheater.
I have seen this happen in real life and so would have no sympathy for her whatsoever.
Otherwise I thought this was a well crafted story and although at the end I could begin to see what was going to happen, it was refreshing that the author didn't go down the" and they lived happily ever after" route.

5 stars, well done!

Truth is

No matter what a cheater says once she-he is exposed the FACT IS THEY DID NOT CARE ABOUT THEIRSPOUSE OR FAMILY.
THEY ARE-WERE SELFISH
RATIONALIZATIONS ARE EASY
CONSEQUENCES ARE HARD
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Someone who has yet to figure that out.
Actually she has stated ''I can do anything I want and,I DON'T CARE ABOUT THE DESTRUCTION I CAUSE IN OTHER PEOPLE'S LIFES!!''
MIGHT WANT TO VISIT THAT PROFILE AND READ ABOUT LIFE SHE INTENTIONALLY AND HAPPILY DESTROYED

ok a few things.

Why the hell was the divorce so damn expensive? Narrator says MOST went to the lawyers, WHY? Dumb, I been thru it. It is actually relatively cheap (in law fees!,, not in finances) unless it gets vicious which the author shows absolutely no indication that it did, in fact just the opposite.

Why is the husband standing by why the kids move to a shitty house? These are his children he needs to look after. Either increase child support (demanding accounting) so that his children grow up in a decent safe home, or petition for custody.

Forget the third thing, but I can't be arsed to bother with it.