Anatomy of a Cheating Divorcee

At least this time

You credited the source of your inspiration. You covered the cheating divorcee, now lets read the ex husbands side.

Should have left it be

Nothing gained from the story as the 1st was very powerful and this was rather flat. Love your work

Liked the realism.

This details the realistic side of divorce. I was just wondering how all the supper freaky sex she was wanting to have was going on if she only got off on weekends. I thought her kids were so important and then they just drop out. Also it was funny that she never caught on about not going to his house and getting it on. Liked the follow up and I agree that hearing the ex-husband side would be interesting. From what I read he knew about it about 2 to 3 months in when he started doing nice things for her when she was wiggin out with guilt not trying to get caught. Good story can't wait for your next one.

Unvarnished & Unflinching Portrait of a Dim Bulb

Some people just have to learn the hard way about the value of hewing to the middle of the road. cpete is taking the road less glib here. A measure of credit should be accorded for him taking tongue out of cheek and doing a Dragnet " just the facts ma'm" recitation of the story. The path is just as valid as anything he's ever done, albeit less diverting.

Consequence story

Good consequence story chips. 5 *****

Amazing

My wife's sister went through exactly the same thing. It is like you wrote her biography. Today she goes to work and goes home- alone. Her kids have grown up and left. They still hold a grudge against her for ruining their childhood. They all have problems in relationships. She seems to be perpetually depressed. She has gained quite a bit of weight over the years too. Sad to say, but I have tried to keep my family away from her because she is in fact a terrible influence. After she got caught she blamed her husband for not giving her a second chance. I made it clear to my wife that her last chance was at the altar, there were no other chances in a marriage. I did not want my kids aunts behavior being seen as acceptable in any way. We still see her occasionally, but I am watchful. My wife knows her sister is a fuck up and has not objected to my reaction. Neither one of us want to live with a cheating spouse, so we do not really want to be around someone who would do that. When you have kids as well as a husband you really are cheating on your whole family. It is sickening to think about how selfish you have to be to do that. The only thing that makes it worse is when you claim to live them after you get caught. By the way, her ex did get remarried to a cute woman that he met at work. She was divorced from her own cheater and very grateful to find a man like him. They even had a kid. I see them every now and then. They look very happy. Men seem to do better after divorce. They are more marketable.

good

Very well thought out and well written. Keep up the good work. I like your work and am looking forward to more from you.

Good Story 4*

"Number one: It's not all my fault. He chose to end the marriage."

She is a stupid whore,She blames her ex-husband

this was worthy of the 25 points i would give

Karma is indeed a vengefull bitch.

food for thought

You got it all in your followup. Well thought out piece. Cell phone cameras are changing America.....

Loved it!

The husband makes no appearance and yet I feel very sorry for him. She just didn't get it. Karma is right.

"as my husband, my soul mate, the man I wished to spend the rest of my days with will not even speak with me."

Really? Where was that sentiment when she was fucking around?

Hmm

The first part was a very thoughtful look at how an affair impacts a person's life. I thought it was fantastic. The second is more like the typical 'btb' wishful thinking.

Divorce is catastrophe, yes. But blame has no impact on results. Children suffer the loss of a genuine father figure (the very idea of the 'weekend dad' is a reduction of what it means to parent), and are presented with an idea that they are unprepared to handle emotionally: "just because mommy and daddy love someone today does not mean they will love them tomorrow...gnight, sweetie." They are more prone to suicide and depression, even years later. Meanwhile, dad becomes wealthier due to his tendency to bury his pain and the absence of his children in his work. He is more likely to remarry poorly (he dates less, remarries sooner, and his second marriage will have a far greater likelihood of ending in another divorce). How significant is the impact of this first divorce? divorce men average shorter lifespans even if they remarry happily.

Emotionally speaking, Mom is likely to receive greater support from friends and family even if she initiated the divorce (sad, but overwhelmingly true), and is typically remarried (quite happily) within five years. Her second husband will become a large part of the children's lives (Dads new wife often will not) and statistically the marriage is usually a happy ordeal.

Oh, and of you fast forward to when the children of the divorce are grown...they report far more contact time with mom than dad, regardless of the reason for the divorce.

I understand the appeal of these revenge/consequence stories, but their overwhelming prevalence is becoming such that we might as well be writing about fairies and dragons. The best thing you did in this series was to show that sometimes the affair itself becomes a consequence of sorts.

Sir T has the rights stats, but..

The wrong category.

SINGLE females have a much better go of it after a divorce than a man. This is due mainly because ladies tend to have and keep a much larger network of friends and social connections then men. (Truthfully how many guys can name three GOOD friends they could call on if needed). A single female after divorce will more likely be remarried in less than five years as Sir T stated.

A divorced MOTHER with children has very dim prospects. National stats show even with child support, the double duty of primary caregiver and breadwinner leaves little time for seeking a mate. Most divorced females with children enter into a relationship with a male that also is the primary caregiver, (i.e.” blended families” -US Census 2010). These tend to last, but are more of mutual support systems.

On the flip side Sir T is correct about divorced men without children tend to be wealthier, marry poorly and have higher rate of 2nd divorces. However divorced men where there were children involved, have a much higher success rate in the second marriage, marry single females, and start their own family (Again US Census 2010). Although evidence points out these men generally are much less involved with the “original” marriage children.

Well Done!

"When it is time to pay the piper- the coin of the realm is expensive."

That quote alone was worth four stars.

Selfishness

One common aspect of the cheaters that I have met is an abiding selfishness. This characteristic is present in all their relationships. Often their selfish natures lead to the destruction of their other relationships as well. Cheaters make crappy coworkers, terrible bosses and untrustworthy friends. If your spouse and kids can't trust you, who can?

New phenomenon the dating websites

Exactly is in Europe. A single (younger) woman has better choice to find a second chance. However the dating websites changed everything. There are a new phenomen many single men in Western Europe look for new wife from South East Asia, India, China, Latin America and the earlier Sovietunion and left their cultural circle for wife. There is this in the USA with lower percentage. Cpete, Likegoodvine and Cantbuymy have some excellent stories about this new phenomenon.
I recommend for everybody this video from YOU TUBE:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bIvJms3wlaY
A North Caroline guy wrote the next to his video:
..Beautiful Filipina .mfstew· 64 videó
I was married to an American bitch for 18 years. She got away with fraud and turned my oldest daughter against me. Going through divorce in my mid 40's I decided to look for love in a country that was family oriented. I married a beautiful 18 yr old Filipina and now I feel young again and in love!!!
They have a beautiful daughter.

are women really that dumb?

I have read many stories on the LW site about women screwing up their relationships by cheating including one screwing 3 guys on her honeymoon, a couple stories about not being able to help themselves from screwing old highschool boyfriends even after 16 years of marriage, and many about wives not being able to control themselves after getting a little attention from soneone at work or a neighbor. One story had the woman running off to Europe with her lover, leaving her husband and child with a Dear John note, never to contact ex or child again until she was dieing. What most of these stories have in common is the women are depicted as being totally clueless about the consequences of their actions and they hardly ever take responsibility for their actions, but blame the husband. Are women really as shallow and dumb as they are being depicted in these stories. Has the sexual revolution we fought and won (I'm 69) liberating women and emasulating many men resulted in women being like those in the LW stories?

I turn to the new trend

I have 4 story plans and in 2 stories I write dating website for finding the second chance women.
One of the dating website wives will come from Laos.

Excellent

Tremendous portrayal of what happens when a woman thinks with her pussy and not with her heart. In the end she discovered what her husband felt when he discovered her adulterous ways. Well written and very realistic. Thanks.

Totally asinine.

That is not anatomy of a divorce..this is plain vindictiveness on the part of the author. Believe it or not, spouses can AND do move on. As a serial Chester who divorced her first husband and after a succession of men found husband number two...I am happily married for 10years.

So do us a favor, don't per down our backs and tell us it's raining.

yes Rogn most women are this shallow and cunt thinkers wanting money

whether they admit it or not many women consider marriage a form of prostitution, you pay for my lifestyle, you pay for what i want and you get sex. Many women wont freely have sex with their husbands but will with people outside the marriage because they dont want the man paying for their lifestyle to consider them common sluts and prostitutes which in realiy they are. Granted some women arent like this and really do marry a man they are really in love with instead of in lust with or for status standing. The woman in this story was not actually punished enough, were the world really fair the husband would owe her nothing and he would have both the home and the children. Society as most know has changed, now the victim is at fault and pays not the criminal who gets free room and board, education, and medical care. The victims here are the husband, the children, and the families. What is this idiot woman complaining about?

great read

this story rang a lot of truths.. she really screwed up for an affair and never dreamed of the consequences.. the wife almost always becomes poorer and has to really struggle.. in this case she brought it on herself.. poor kids and her life is hell.

YOU WANT PEOPLE TO SEE YOU FOR YOURSELF

which is hard to do, since what they see is what you gave appearance to. TK U MLJ LV NV

#2 SELF PITY DOES NOT BECOME ANYONE

and with your new found freedom with a chance to become??????What happens now you give them a new person to observe. NOT.....TK U MLJ LV NV

This was a good first start to explain the aftermath of a discovered affair

Much of the dialogue explained the pain this woman spread to all she knew after she was discovered and then her family was ripped apart. However if you read her comments closely there is one thing that is glaringly missing. She feels quite sorry for what she did that caused the pain to her, we read this again and again. But one thing more obvious to anyone reading her story is the total lack of remorse for the pain she gave her husband that precipitated the entire debacle. This is quite evident of a personality disorder where the only person that is important is her. Therefore it is all about the pain she felt and totally missing his the huge "I'm sorry" to her ex-husband of course an emotion she is incapable of. Therefore in the final analysis overall in the most important point of her tale she falls dreadfully short and in turn reveals a great deal about her self centered attitude to her life.

And the sooner she dies, the better

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I guess I was a little disappointed...

I'm not saying it was bad...I enjoyed it; but I think you could have put some more emotion into it, more feelings rather than the circumstances.

Also, you or your editor needs to be more careful; there were numerous mistakes in the short piece that distracted from power you were trying put convey.

Enjoyed the story

but I thought you were going to cut her some slack. She fucked up, paid the price, now let her go on type of thing. You didn't and I don't know how I feel about it. I still don't feel this story is proprly finished.

Well written; realistic

CP captured clearly the emotions that happen all too well. Poignant twist at the end.

Really a Fantasy? At least it makes it sound as if she was paid in full!

The normal story may be quite different, but not if the woman is as self-centred and weak-willed as this person is presented. Nice work CPete, you faked me out! I thought you would end up following the once a cheater always a cheater mantra.
This is more of what goes around comes around.

i am glad she has no happiness

Cheaters deserve no happiness and if i knew her the first thing i would do is inform her new bf she cheated on her last man and fucked up their life so do you really trust her then i would walk away.

I would do it to a guy to so i am not bias.

To Rogn123

I spend some time on marriage websites to get a feel for what is realistic in infidelity and other aspects of marriage. Very dramatic stuff.

Sad to say, a certain percentage of your sisters in solidarity ARE exactly this way. Perhaps not a high percentage, but it is telling. Women with MULITPLE year affairs. Men raising cuckoos. Swinging on the sly.

Women have shown that with freedom, they are the equal to men in bad behavior. Well done the Revolution!

That being said...I would expect ACCURATE and SYMPATHETIC depictions of women here as much as I expect ACCURATE and SYMPATHETIC depictions of men on Lifetime: where the men are all cheaters, addicts, abusers of various stripes, or just clueless.

Conflict brings drama and adds tension. So on a AMATURE PORN SITE (no offense to any of the writers here. Many of them do good jobs), one would expect a certain amount of...melodrama.

Karma is a bitch

Hard to imagine that the divorcee in this tale could have gotten in THAT deeply with her NEXT true love without noticing scheduling issues and telephone call restrictions that would YELL 'married cad!' loud and clear!
Other than that, it was a decent story of indecent 'self-excusing' attitude and behavior! Good riddance!

Divorce is Hell

You can almost tell the one's who have been divorced or have had marital problem from the comemts they make and the bitternes that you see in them. There is nothing more gut wrenching than to go threw all that pain. Even worse is to see it comming and can do nothing about it. All you can do is to hope that time will ease some of the pain and try not to let it make you too bitter. I guess trying not to be bitter is the hardest part..

5* It hurts because it is too realistic to some

Might like to see the ex-husband's POV, though...

Great Job CP

Hey you guys left out guys who get custody of their kids and marry beautiful psychotics women afterwards. Great job and this seems like you've developed your own new story category.

I agree with the general summation -

ALL woman should die in pain not just cheaters. 4765*

Doesn't have a lot of luck, does she?

Gedts involved in a stupid affair - loses dumb husband who doesn't even try to communicate - then gets taken in by a total asshole of a cheating married man (who, I'd suggest, would benefit from having his nuts cut off).
Much sadder than the first one.

Read this one

After you have read this, do yourself a favor and read this one: cpete's "Average and Regular". It will fix you up after bumming over crappy cheating women.

BTW: Your story evoke quite a lot of emotion from your readers. Powerful.

at least no blaming others and acceptance of blame - as where it may lay. those choices and consequences

Pretty accurate

Both the first part and this one, the feelings ring true from what I know. In the first part she comes to realize the emptiness of what she is doing, how much she really loved her husband and how she deluded herself into believing what she was doing was real.

I have to agree with another poster, though, that the second part is more of the BTB side of things, that the evil woman who has done this thing reaps the rewards of her sin, etc, a bit too pat.....the emotions of missing her kids, of missing her spouse, are very real as is the emptiness and yes, the financial cost of divorce. The ending, though, is a bit contrived, it assumes magically she will attract a man who is a cheater, and I wonder about that, she would be all too aware, as someone else posted, of the signs of what was going on.

As far as her saying she was sorry to her spouse, Cpete leaves that out in the story, the husband pulls the plug and basically refuses to talk to her about it, so she never gets a chance. It seems like by the end of her affair she realized how hollow it was and the pain she probably caused him, but I suspect the issue that blew them apart, if you talked to the husband, was she didn't come clean, even after ending it. Again, overall, Cpete has caught a lot of the emotions of a cheater, in this case wife, I just think the BTB aspect of it, the karma kind of thing with the cheating boyfriend, is just a bit too much. I would be interesting to hear the ex's perspective, why he decided this was over.....was he a 'one time and it is over' kind of guy? Was he hurt because it was long term? Did he pull the plug because she never came clean? Did he feel that she had taken herself out of the family, had pulled away from him?

Careful

This story has received its share of thoughtful, critical comments and most are positive. Despite the attention of an editor, you've got to learn when to use "whom," you know, the objective case of who.

Thanks**

For the story.

depressing

not really erotic. depressing

I would think this is a pretty accurate portrayal of someone who is going through a divorce, and through no one's fault but their own. Does she deserve a Torch the Bitch? Not any more than her love in the first part or her "boyfriend" in this one who were both cheating on their wives.

Didn't Care for the Choppy Flash Style

Might have been compelling in a story format.

STUPIDITY REIGNS

Not you, Pete, but these idiots who cannot recognize truth when it is right in front of their eyes, and take the written lesson to heart as a REAL "Ah-Hah" moment. It must be true that 90% of them or just here to jack or jill off.

Good story

This truly is the anatomy of a cheating slut. Karma is a bitch! 5*

Realistic.

Good read. The woman is still feeling sorry for herslf. Even blaming the ex for not getting past her "oopsie". She enjoyed her fling- not just a drunken one night stand. Hubby wasn't supposed to find out, it was supposed to be her secret pleasent memory and even if he did find out she figured he wouldn't divorce her. Poor her. I notice she doesn't seem torn with guilt about how she betrayed her husband. Probably too busy spreading blame for ending her marriage.

Very good...

5* from me.