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A welcome article from a woman's perspective. I remember hearing a woman doctor saying the vagina has nerves only for the first 3 or 4 inches, as you also state. "Dead above that," the doctor said. Too many guys equate size with pleasure. A lot of women seem to as well. Too bad. As a guy of average length I suffered for years unnecessarily from feeling inadequate even though the women never complained about my size and I was able to give them orgasms. I love women and love making them come. Maybe that is what really counts. Learning the facts helps too.
Another thing
In humans, the size of the flaccid penis bears little relationship to the size of the penis when fully erect. There are numerous scientific studies on this. Showers vs. growers.
This is an age old question still being asked today...
So use a question mark at the end of it!
Your article is correct in terms of physicality, but you do NOT address the issue of the mind, a woman's mental response to seeing and feeling a big one (be it positive or even negative), nor does it address such things as prefernces, fetishes etc, which are all very relevant to the argument. Sex for humans is unlike that for any other species, in that it's not just about the physical mechanics of the act. That has to be factored in, and in the end, size may not matter to some women, but maybe very important for others.
Perhaps the question should be, "Given the choice between a skillful lover with an average sized cock or a skillful lover with a large cock, what would you chose?"
Would size not matter then?
Total truth
I can say that although I have over 6 1/2 inches, I have never had a women orgasm with my penis alone. Of course, I've only had sex with 10-12 different women in my entire life so that isn't much to go on. I asked my wife about her past and she said her first husband had a very large cock and it hurt her. She was never able to orgasm on his either so I have to believe large penises are overrated. She truly love my tongue, though.
Regarding the psychological response vs. physical response to penis size
As a previous commenter noted, this article only addresses a woman's physical response to penis size, not her psychological response. For the sake of qualification, I have a BS in psychology and have done several research projects/presentations on the psychology of human desire. From what I have read, among women, visual and psychological arousal from large penis size (and by large, I mean pornstar size) is mainly reported by bisexual women. Even more interesting, it has been shown in several eye-tracker/plethysmography studies of heterosexual men and women while watching porn, heterosexual men paid far more attention to the penis than women did, which is one of the many reasons why heterosexual women generally don't enjoy visual porn. Women pay greater attention to facial features/expressions, height, musculature, and clothing than to the particular size and shape of the penis. If you think about it, it makes sense, considering that getting a date with a woman doesn't generally entail whipping out your cock for inspection before she'll say yes. God help us all if it comes to that!
In the end, it mostly comes down to a question of self-perception. A lot of the reason why men pay so much attention to penis size is because size in general (meaning body size as well) is primally tied to male perception of social dominance, which is determined far before mate selection ever occurs. Basically, following direct physical competition, the biggest or strongest male is voluntarily deferred to by the males that are too small to physically compete at all, which means that dominance is ultimately determined by strength and ability, not cock size or sexual prowess, and contrary to popular belief, having high testosterone has no correlation with penis size. Social dominance is tied to sexual dominance, therefore, if you are defeated in the social arena, chances are you are going to perceive yourself as less capable in the sexual arena as well, even before you step into the ring. This is why confidence is so important, but here's something else to remember - it doesn't matter how you got it, as long you have it. So if having a 4.0 GPA rather than a 100 notches on your bedpost makes you feel good about yourself, act like it's something to be proud of (because it is), project confidence in yourself and your abilities and women will start paying attention. If a girl sees your cock and tells you it isn't big enough for her - congratulations! Now you can go and find a girl who doesn't have a pussy as wide as the grand canyon or character as shallow as a politician's promise.
Thanks everyone!
Thanks everyone for reading my piece and also those who have favorited it. Any constructive feedback or alternative viewpoints are welcome, I will only respond to make changes when viewpoints are supported by reliable source materials. I knew this would be a hot topic so I did expect some diversity in response... :) thanks again.
About source materials
I forgot to mention it in my earlier comment, but I got my information from a book titled "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam. In the book, two computational neuroscientists used statistical techniques on data gleaned from internet usage in order to create a loose portrait of what actually turns people on and why. They also cited a ton of behavioral research and there is a huge appendix at the back of the book where they go into detail about their own sources. It's a fascinating book and I highly recommend it. I myself read it three times and even gave a presentation on it in a course on the psychology of gender. There is also a website with a lot of their findings boiled down into blog posts. Just google "A Billion Wicked Thoughts" and you can find it easily.
Interesting, But Not Entirely Accurate
You left out a very important key factor. Length is irrelevant because it's the thickness of the shaft that stimulates pleasure. The width rubs the vaginal walls which is why sex is enjoyable. Focusing on that aspect would have made going on about length a needless endeavor. Length does not usually matter. Thickness does. Even if you possess a ten inch cock, if it resembles a pencil, your partner will not enjoy the sensation very much. Nice essay, I just don't think you explained things in a way that makes it sound like plausible, or reliable information.
Thank you
Thanks for clearing my misconceptions. I spent 5 years of my life worrying about not being able to satisfy a woman. My penis is 4 and 1/2 inches when erect.
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