Marriage Material?

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Good essay! Smart. Well written. I will try some of your stories.

Another Type to Avoid

The eternal playboy--the only part of you he wants to get to know is your intimate body parts. His talk turns to sex very early upon meeting and it seems to be the only thing on his mind. He is really only interested in satisfying one thing, and in the end is really is all about him.

Playboys?

I love sex with my wife, but then you are talking about the single guys who take the wham bam thank you ma'am to a whole new level. I for one tell my wife i am thankful for her wanting me in her life. Now her side of the coin she is worried that one day after having a baby i won't want her anymore. Some part of me resents that i have to keep reassuring her, but then the other small part reminds that you always ask her for reaffirmation of her love for you. It was a good essay and i am passing it on to her to see what she thinks. There is one thing i know she will worry on, that her breasts are too small compared to other woman. So that might be one thing to put on there... But i love every inch of her body, to me she is perfect match to the piece that is missing from my heart.

2 starz. Its almost awful.

I'm married 41 years to the same woman. I have 5 sisters, and all of them have multiple marriages hanging from their muskets. Females trade partners as often as they trade homes.

Several of my grandsons are now adults, and my advice to them is this: Prioritize your life like this; Get the training you need for the work you love, keep yourself healthy and fit, cultivate pasttimes and interests you enjoy, acquire prosperity. DONT EVEN THINK ABOUT FEMALES. IF SHE WANTS YOU SHE'LL COME GET YOU. THEYRE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR NEW FOOLS. DONT ENCOURAGE THE LOSERS. The right girl will find you, so make yourself attractive.

Atik missed the boat!

I think Chiara Atik needed to produce some fodder to fill her space that day, and this was the result. Granted that her choices are interesting to think about, but she missed the important stuff. The foremost of which is trust. You don't have any business having a sexual relationship with a man until you know him enough to determine that he's trustworthy. And much of what she wrote is BS. Of course your man will want and need you to admire him. That is what motivates him to get up every morning and go to work, believing he has what it takes. If you really want to read something worthwhile about relationships and can stomach honest, straight talk, allow me to suggest "What Really Works With Men" by A. Justin Sterling.

You really nailed it about the 'man who's obsessed with his mother' usually being worse the other way around. My own mother certainly fits that bill and I've already had to tell her that as far as my relationships go (really my life in general), she can keep her damn mouth shut and stay the hell out of it. Her own mother ruined both of her marriages by constantly meddling and telling her that she could do so much better, so I've already learned to tune both of them out. It does make me sad that I have to be so stern with her, because I understand that I'm her only child and really the only person she has in her life anymore, but I am not about to let her ruin my own life worrying over hers. She knows that I'll always take care of her - but from a healthy distance. I just hope my future wife (wherever she is) can understand and accept the fact that I'm going to have to shell out a "Mom tax" for the rest of my life to keep the woman comfortable and far enough away from us to not drive us insane.

As far as the one about the guy who never lets you meet his friends, what about a guy who just doesn't have any? I mean I have acquantainces, but I don't have any close friends who I enjoy hanging out with. It's not that I'm unsociable or unpleasant, I just prefer to be alone. I do, however, worry that I won't be able to keep a woman 'entertained'. Hopefully she'll be the fun one.