Pro Dommes - and ... Pro Doms??

I was just watching a TV show where the team has to figure out what a job the guests are having.

Guess what they had tonight: A Domina (=Pro Domme)

Since it is a family rated show they didn't really say much about what she really is doing - but it was .. tell-tale to hear/see the silly reaction of the audience.

Anyway - not really the stuff for a thread now, is it? Although it was quite entertaining

Anyway - what I would like to hear are experiences or opinions re Pro Dommes. I guess I am still somewhat stuck with a "prostitute image" which this Lady didn't support at all (in her studio there is no sex eg.) and which I am fighting hard to get rid of.

Another question: do Pro Doms exist?

Just a few random thoughts - and then they always say TV doesn't educate you!

Hecate said:

I was just watching a TV show where the team has to figure out what a job the guests are having.

Guess what they had tonight: A Domina (=Pro Domme)

Since it is a family rated show they didn't really say much about what she really is doing - but it was .. tell-tale to hear/see the silly reaction of the audience.

Anyway - not really the stuff for a thread now, is it? Although it was quite entertaining

Anyway - what I would like to hear are experiences or opinions re Pro Dommes. I guess I am still somewhat stuck with a "prostitute image" which this Lady didn't support at all (in her studio there is no sex eg.) and which I am fighting hard to get rid of.

Another question: do Pro Doms exist?

Just a few random thoughts - and then they always say TV doesn't educate you!

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Oh I think they exist. But I think I'd have a hard time getting what I crave from a "pro" domme. My thing DOES include sex.

I want a domme there because she wants to be there, not simply because I am paying her. My thing is her pleasure, unless her pleasure is simply taking my money, and I'll never know the difference with a professional. There's nothing erotic about that to me.

On the other hand, I am sure some pros can be instructional, caring people, and serve a purpose for many. I am sure for everyone that feels the way I do, there's another who doesn't.

Bottom line: Whatever floats someone's boat is fine, but a pro domme is not for me.

Pro doms

Sorry, I misread your question. It ACTUALLY read pro Dom, not Domme. I have never heard of a pro Dom.

I know of a Pro-Dom in Hamburg.

We've a famous Ex-Pro-Domme in Hamburg, Domenica. She has been working as a Pro for several years and is now helping prostitutes who want to leave their trade. Even politicians "dare" to talk to her in public, and her attitude makes them listen.
She's doing a lot of good work and is respected by the prostitutes and by the authorities as well.

Monika

It'll be a zillion years before an enlightened, tolerant attitude like the one in Hamburg toward the work that Domenica is doing makes it to the U.S., Monika.

We're still stuck with puritanical, witch hunt mindset here, a mindset that permeates the attitudes of the majority of our lawmakers and seems to get more and more hidebound with every passing year.

cymbidia said:

It'll be a zillion years before an enlightened, tolerant attitude like the one in Hamburg toward the work that Domenica is doing makes it to the U.S., Monika.

We're still stuck with puritanical, witch hunt mindset here, a mindset that permeates the attitudes of the majority of our lawmakers and seems to get more and more hidebound with every passing year.

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I hope not.

Even though paying someone is not the route that works for me, I have no problem with other people using such services, and I recognize the good that can be done from people trying to make a difference the way Domenica is.

There are a few male pro Doms around. The Max Fisch Domina Guide lists about 2 dozen of them.

cymbidia said:

It'll be a zillion years before an enlightened, tolerant attitude like the one in Hamburg toward the work that Domenica is doing makes it to the U.S., Monika.

We're still stuck with puritanical, witch hunt mindset here, a mindset that permeates the attitudes of the majority of our lawmakers and seems to get more and more hidebound with every passing year.

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Hamburg is a very tolerant town, our famous red light district St. Pauli is very popular by tourists and there are sex businesses for everyone. The gay scene is pretty active too. (They are located mostly in St. Georg, though.) Our local politicians even show up at the CSD parade and don't even flinch when our notorious drag queen Lilo Wanders comes along and smooches them. And there's always a Leather float on that parade.
The BDSM scene is active as well, there's a play party almost each weekend, regular meetings, munches.

The attitude of most people here is: "live and let live" And that's why I like living in Hamburg. It's different in smaller towns, though. Just talk to Hecate about it.

BDSM has entered mainstream, there are ads that have a BDSM theme, a Pro Domme in a prime time family oriented TV show. And those marketing managers wouldn't do such things, if they need to fear negative results. Take a look at http://www.altoids.de/ and browse the Ad Gallery.

Monika

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asyouwish2

I suggest that you and they hire an escort then, you can find someone to orally please and worship for hours. That's really not my bag, and that's not how most men can casually "please" me best. I only find oral sex pleasing when I have a certain amount of attraction to that person, and it's not a criminal activity in most states, but just about anyone licking my toes will send me, too. I don't have any particular distaste for escorts, I'm just not one and I don't care to be one.

I agree that part of my power comes from my eroticism, but part of my power comes from my college education, my skills, and my willingness to throw punches to the body without landing a guy in the ER.

Re: Re: Pro Dommes - and ... Pro Doms??

asyouwish2 said:

I agree, I'm not a fan of Pro Dommes. In fact, becasue they bend over backwards not to consider themselves a prostitute, they take out all the eroticness of Femdom. Everyone has their own opinion, but part of the Dommes power comes from their sexuality. To take that out of the equation just leaves someone to administer pain and only if you pay them. Plus, while I'd definitely want to put my Mistress's needs first, it would be nice to get some sort of reward for humiliating myself and fulfulling her wants and desires. While there are many submissive males out there who visit pros and enjoy there services, I'll bet almost everyone of them would love the chance to orally worship and please their Domme sexually. They settle for what they can get.

asyouwish2

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On the contrary I think much of the erotic, if not at times all, can be portrayed and enjoyed without any hint of sexual one on one taking place. Admittedly it requires talent, and if fortunate a good dose of natural charisma as well, but is not impossible. As to the reward for humiliating oneself, it is hoped that firstly the client would be there of their own free choice because they seek what they receive, and secondly in receiving that which they seek from a pro Dom/me they would have been 'rewarded'. How are they to know if that pleases the Dom/me sexually, it may well be, but I get the impression the one who is seeking the paid service is not ordinarily in a position to expect or demand to get more than what they paid for, nor fulfil their desires outside the business relationship agreement.

Catalina

LOL, finally!!! After my telling my lovely daughter over the past year she would make a fantastic Pro Domme, it may just happen. She was spotted by a guy who owns many interests in the adult industry and is about to open another which will be professional dungeons. When he walked into one of the shops he owns and found her browsing the merchandise, he wasted no time in asking the manager of the shop if she was known to them and on finding out she is a regular and well liked and respected, asked to be introduced to her. He has offered to put her through a complete training course as a Dominatrix at which point on completing, if she wants it she will be given a dungeon and full list of clients etc.

She is rapt as not only has he expressed his confidence in her and desire to have her be the first Dominatrix with more following as the business grows, but he also is legit and made it clear she will not be offering sexual services with domination as a cover. Added to that she has heard he is a great employer. She had already enrolled to attend her first weekend Midori workshop in March before this, so is doubly excited over attending that now. He asked her if she felt comfortable in doing this line of work and if it would create any problems for her.....roflmao, she said first thing she told him then was her mother would be overjoyed and explained I was a slave and living the lifestyle 24/7 on the opposite side of the globe and had been encouraging her to explore her options in this direction. Of course, as she is already in the habit of adding leather, latex, and PVC garments to her wardrobe on an almost weekly basis, the latest being AU$500, she is mentally seeing a huge increase in buying and being able to claim it back in taxes......her dream come true!!!

Catalina

Pro Dommes okay in my book

catalina_francisco said:

On the contrary I think much of the erotic, if not at times all, can be portrayed and enjoyed without any hint of sexual one on one taking place. Admittedly it requires talent, and if fortunate a good dose of natural charisma as well, but is not impossible. As to the reward for humiliating oneself, it is hoped that firstly the client would be there of their own free choice because they seek what they receive, and secondly in receiving that which they seek from a pro Dom/me they would have been 'rewarded'. How are they to know if that pleases the Dom/me sexually, it may well be, but I get the impression the one who is seeking the paid service is not ordinarily in a position to expect or demand to get more than what they paid for, nor fulfil their desires outside the business relationship agreement.
Catalina

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I saw this a while back and decided to put in my comment here. Now that I have time I will. Thanks for your comments Catalina....here are my thoughts.

I travel all over the world and many times it is very hard to find a Domme in the places I visit.

However, I can find Pro Dommes very easily by going to www.maxfisch.com and other sites. I do spend lots of time looking to the Pro Domme that I connect with which usually involves talking on the phone and email before I will consider having a session with her.

The Pro Dommes I have seen are VERY experienced and have been in the scene for years. They truly LOVE what they do. They make sure they are up on all the newest, kinky devices and how to use them. This is what I pay them for their expertease and their Dungeon and equipment.

As far as the sex goes, I know what I am getting into and understand there is no sex but I feel it is still very fun to session with a good Pro! I have had some very very intense sessions with Pros and sometimes I orgasmed three or four times! The key is to find someone you really connect with mentally, develop trust, and the sky is the limit. The session is just fun and I don't mind giving her money at all!

The closest thing to sex for me is strapon sessions. Most of the Dommes I have seen are into strapon sex and some even get off on it. It is really fun, she fucks me with the strapon we both cum and we never exchanged any bodily fluids! Pretty Safe actually!

eroticspank

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Catalina: Well Done!!! I hope your proud your daughter is going to become just another nobrot in a sea of money for sexual titilation for the highest bidder helped by her pimp.

Twat.

Yeh

Its all about the fuking money isnt it u stupid shits. If I was persuing your daughter I would want to kill that motherfuker pimp, or I would just say fuk that dumb whoring bitch I'm outta here.

So she wants loads of leather gear and stuff does she? why not get a fuking real job instead of perverting submission into something that is only worth making your wardrobe more classy?

See my point? no! course u dont ure a fuking inconsiderate moron.

Has anyone read between the lines and been able to tell that I really fuking hate Pro Dommes? lol
Great your daughters gonna be one too! Fantastic, yet another fuker for me to take a wide birth from in the fetish clubs etc!

Another reason I hate them so very fuking much is cos they seem to think that cos there are so many of them they must be right. There are so many of them simply because its a fuking easy way to make lots of money.

STUPID LITTLE GIRLS!!!

Now that post is just funny.

Lord knows, why would anyone choose a career that would provide them a living income? Oh yea... that's just really stupid.

LMAO

And you're just really funny.

Erm......It would be my guess that if she werent a Pro Domme she might not dominate at all.
What is it about these sad women that dont have any talent to make a living other than whipping old cronies?

Jelly123 said:

Erm......It would be my guess that if she werent a Pro Domme she might not dominate at all.
What is it about these sad women that dont have any talent to make a living other than whipping old cronies?

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You know, somehow I knew that your attempts at illiteracy were just that... attempts and poor ones, at that.

Unlike you apparently, I have a job. So you have a nice day with your rants. I have real things to do.

SeeYa!

LOL my post is funny? how about yours? you seem to think that whatever you do so long as it makes money it can be defined as a living. What if I punched someone in the face real hard for some money becauase there was a demand from someone that wanted me to? is that a living?

Ok so what if Pro Domming is a 'living' Im still just as offended at it in the same way some others are offended by drug companies, lawyers ,estate agents etc.

nobrot

So your going to focus on illiteracy now are u? how lame. is that all u can point out? you think that someones spelling makes their opinions less or more worthy?
You even accuse me of not having a job too! lol

Why do u pick up on such lame arguments? you dumbass smug know it all.

Who says that if u have a job u are a friking super-star ?!! lol I know of plenty of people who have jobs who are also nob jockeys.

Jelly123 said:

Erm......It would be my guess that if she werent a Pro Domme she might not dominate at all.
What is it about these sad women that dont have any talent to make a living other than whipping old cronies?

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See, your ignorance and lack of life experience is showing here....she bought her first flogger at around 16-17 from memory and has managed to cast a spell over just about every male she has ever come into contact with, and all without even trying. As to not having enough talent to make a living otherwise....hmmm, let's see, she regularly earns enough each week to spend several hundred dollars on clothes, shoes, exclusive furniture (per week), live in an exclusive secured complex, and pay others to work for her...I expect if she goes into this new area of work that she has been requested to consider she will make even more money and have just as noted a reputation for excellence, integrity, and class. LOL, and this is not the only career choice she has been offered because of her diverse talents and intelligence. Now don't you just wish you had an ounce of that such talent and charisma yourself?!!

Catalina