monster666
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Recently, many posts on this forum spread over several threads have dealt with abuse issues. Additionally, a recent event that I don't feel I can talk about in an open forum has caused me to come face to face with a particular abuse situation involving someone else. That situation appears pretty grim on the surface. At first, I was caught way offguard, I had no idea how to reply. Before I did, I did a little homework to find some help orgs.
As a result, I'd like to start this thread to discuss issues related to abuse without going into the semantics of whether or not it's part of BDSM. One thing I think we can agree on, abuse abounds, and that it is unacceptable in any situation. I'd like this thread to discuss these issues and point victims toward help organizations.
Here are a few things I'd like put out to start off:
* If you or someone you know is a victim of violent abuse, contact an appropriate local support group RIGHT NOW. If you don't know of one, then contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. If it's a person you know and that person consents, make the call yourself if you have enough first hand information. The NDVH can also be reached on the web at www.ndvh.org for general information and additional contact info.
* I can't think of a single good reason to continue an abusive relationship. Especially if you are a victim of a violent relationship, get out of it NOW. If you know of such a victim, encourage them to get out of it NOW.
* Inexpensive lodging can usually be had at various shelters or at the local YMCA. It may not be the Ritz, but it's generally safer than eating teeth, peeing blood or covering bruises with sunglassess or makeup.
* No one should suffer abuse unwillingly at the hands of another.
* No one hurt should be denied healthcare in case of any injury. This is clearly abuse.
* Abuse comes in many forms, not just physical.
* Men are victims too. Don't dismiss someone's claim because of gender.
* Help exists, but the victim must be willing to accept it. Otherwise, there is little that can be done.
* Abusers need to be stopped/helped too. Once the victim is safe, these people need to be dealt with to stop them from victimizing someone else. These people generally don't stop abusing just because one victim has been removed from a situation. They often go on to abuse others.
I'd like to point out that I am no expert on domestic violence. I just think everyone has a right to be concerned and that we all have a responsiblity to make sure it doesn't happen our watch if at all possible. Please post anything that can be added to offer information or help.
One more thing: don't let your discomfort with a situation cause you to ignore it as I almost did. Point out that help is available and WHERE. It's not too hard, and it could make a huge difference.
Thanks for listening.
As a result, I'd like to start this thread to discuss issues related to abuse without going into the semantics of whether or not it's part of BDSM. One thing I think we can agree on, abuse abounds, and that it is unacceptable in any situation. I'd like this thread to discuss these issues and point victims toward help organizations.
Here are a few things I'd like put out to start off:
* If you or someone you know is a victim of violent abuse, contact an appropriate local support group RIGHT NOW. If you don't know of one, then contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. If it's a person you know and that person consents, make the call yourself if you have enough first hand information. The NDVH can also be reached on the web at www.ndvh.org for general information and additional contact info.
* I can't think of a single good reason to continue an abusive relationship. Especially if you are a victim of a violent relationship, get out of it NOW. If you know of such a victim, encourage them to get out of it NOW.
* Inexpensive lodging can usually be had at various shelters or at the local YMCA. It may not be the Ritz, but it's generally safer than eating teeth, peeing blood or covering bruises with sunglassess or makeup.
* No one should suffer abuse unwillingly at the hands of another.
* No one hurt should be denied healthcare in case of any injury. This is clearly abuse.
* Abuse comes in many forms, not just physical.
* Men are victims too. Don't dismiss someone's claim because of gender.
* Help exists, but the victim must be willing to accept it. Otherwise, there is little that can be done.
* Abusers need to be stopped/helped too. Once the victim is safe, these people need to be dealt with to stop them from victimizing someone else. These people generally don't stop abusing just because one victim has been removed from a situation. They often go on to abuse others.
I'd like to point out that I am no expert on domestic violence. I just think everyone has a right to be concerned and that we all have a responsiblity to make sure it doesn't happen our watch if at all possible. Please post anything that can be added to offer information or help.
One more thing: don't let your discomfort with a situation cause you to ignore it as I almost did. Point out that help is available and WHERE. It's not too hard, and it could make a huge difference.
Thanks for listening.
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