All Comments on 'Truth & Consequences'

Started out well but quickly became a long monologue wherein the wife found reason to heap blame on her husband. A waste of time for the reader.

She finally gave him the answer he was waiting for. The answer he needs to help him understand why she cheated. My feeling as long as she never answered him how could he forgive her. Now it's like she is being to blame him for the e mess she created even though she said it was her fault. Counseling is the only way to get help at this point. A third neutral party 4 stars for effort.

Come on people it just a story from an author that thinks that women deserve to fuck around on their husbands it's the thing on this site. There are more guys that are screwed over than women. It's the nature of the beast. The north fault divorce. Created by an overworked judiciary and the women in the background that were tiered of the reverse. You reap what you sow. Men sowed the whirlwind and now they are harvesting it.

Don't pay any attention to me I am just a old washed up policlitica appointee, fired for doing my job by the power change. There are many more like me and to them I say good luck.

Where is the reply?

Janet still doesn’t get it. The last line is in passive voice: “wish that this had never happened.” That’s not taking responsibility. If she was truly penitent, she would say “I wish that I didn’t do it because it was wrong.”

Beware of people and groups who refuse to accept accountability for their choices!

ZK

She alone is to blame.

Janet apologised then pointed the finger at Jeff and the innocent Phil, she could never truly take responsiblity for her cheating.

From her letter Phil became a distant husband post-affair, he tried to stay married but rightly couldnt let go of her betrayal. She said she learned her lesson and wouldnt cheat again but she promised the same thing on her wedding so I couldnt stop laughing.

I would say that marriage is already over, she is delusional, and he now just sees here as a useful whore. It if he was wiser, he should just walk away and file without further contact. But people can do surprising things or even out of character when badly betrayed. He changed after her serious infidelity and she was too delusional to see it.

Come on people this is just a story written by a disillusioned person with their head up their ass so far all they can see is the crap that they spue. He wrote about a woman that wanted to cheat on her husband and did for some excitement and romance from a guy that she knew was a jerk from the word go.

A friend of her husband and hers. Now isn't that just peachy.

Then telling her husband she'll make it up to him. How, invent an unfuckme machine? How do you undo a blowjob? Can you put the cum back in his balls? No I don't think you can make it up to him.

Men and women that fuck around on their families are fools they cut their own throats. In my years as a court councilor women who cheat create more problems for themselves than men, they make that emotional attachment that lingers and ends up causing divorce and drug and alcohol problems. They never allow themselves to heal.

She accuses hm of not fighting for her. He was trying to decide if she was worth fighting for. Clearly he was trying to decide whether he could ever trust her again. She failed the test. He said he would not divorce her and suggested trying to save the marriage. He lied to her about trying to save the marriage. He was simply punishing her for what she had done. Giving him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he did not start the reconciliation attempt that way but that is the way it ended up. She cheated twice at two widely separate points in time. He has every right to assume she would do it again. She needs to accept that about herself. Time for them to go their separate ways.

What type of BS is this?clearly the cheating slut is delusional...once a slut ALWAYS a slut

Total bs. Her entire premise is “why didn’t YOU stop ME from wanting to screw around on YOU?” It’s nonsense to try to have a spouse that you can only trust when you can see them. You fight ALONG WITH your spouse. You shouldn’t have to fight FOR them - they’re already supposed to be yours.

Why would any sane man fight for a slut? A wife has to be worth fighting for for a husband to make an effort for her. This author is clearly delusional.

She fucked someone other than her husband what did she expect to happen. Did she want metal or something. She acts like it , but in own new society where we have a all volunteer service and not enough military to stave off an attack from Mexico. Where our leader get us involved wars over oil and not politics. Most of the 911 bomers were from Saudi Arabia did we attack them hell no. We continued to kiss their ass until we made a fool of ourselves in n front of the whole world. Oh and our allies England home of the Russian Oligarchy like they really want to help us anymore. France fuck France. France has always taken care of number one France ask Ireland. Who unleash 1,000 former foreign Ligonier on the Irish UN troops in the Congo, Charles De Gall President of France. He wanted lithium and other minerals the Congo held. Like the women in this story she only cared a about herself.

Oh but lighten up it's only a story. Unlike the other information above which is fact also Biden has left our commercial fleet bare ass naked in the Indian Ocean, while even France has sent warship to escort it merchants vessels. Oh well as the French say Se la ve!

What a vain person she is. Why didn't you fight for me? Well why should he fight for a wife that is committing adultery. It should be the wife, in this case, that should be fighting for her marriage. "Do you want to go to bed with me?" "Ok then." The husband is correct, in all her rambling she did not say why she did it and the reason is, she has no care care about things, no fight, no honour, no commitment, no loyalty, and she walks out on the husband. Well now he has no wife all he has to worry about is the kicking and screaming of the divorce.

Dear self centred bitch, I am divorcing you for apathy.

What a total crock of total BS!! She deliberately cheated and had an affair knowing that her husband would be hugely upset but blames him for not fighting for her!! Why would he? If he interfered (fought for her) the chances are likely that she would deny everything and then take more precautions to hide it from him rather than quitting rather than quit!! The only thing the husband is guilty of is not having the guts to pull the pin, kick the bitch o the curb and get a divorce!! Everything she writes just points to one way for him to proceed….BTB!!!

So what was the point of the writing of this? It appears to be a futile attempt and unworthy of sending it or writing it. No sincere effort to make an effort to provide action that would be of any value to the party of the 1st party from the 2nd party. no stars.

Wife cheated multiple times shes a cunt that needs divorce papers, that woman is untrustworthy and husband let her make her own decisions and she decided to cheat by the time he found out she already cheated and is worthless. Her letter is typical of a woman she blamed himself then her exes seduction then her innocent husband, why didnt you fight for me? Cheating bitch like you is not worth fighting for.

Another timetable of when the wronged spouse should forgive and go back to once was within a time frame. Sorry but ppl have diff ways to cope and timetable to grief

The style of this story was really irritating. Maybe you should have posted in Letters and Transcripts? Trying to place any blame on the husband seemed like something straight out of the cheaters handbook. With her moving out the divorce should be a slam dunk. When you make a mistake in life, you correct it, move on and try NOT to make the same mistake again. He should let her go. No trusting her again and without trust there is no marriage.

Two people destroyed by three, Jeff was the catalyst but Janet and Phil allowed themselves to be drawn into the game. Janet quite willingly and Phil of his own device. His stupidity was to let the game go to the point where his wife became pregnant then puff up like a toad when he found out her wasn't the father biological. To bad for the boy because it looks like biodad left him a short stack to draw from.( Believe me I know the feeling). Then he talked about getting back with his wife until she figured the game out. One ass, two jokers in a game of five card stud with nothing wild. You lose.

I detest people who, after their bad behavior, try to turn it around on you and make it your fault. The only thing

I was convinced of in Janet's missive was that it would likely happen again.

The turnaround at the conclusion of the story is simply more self serving bullshit!!!

Sugar coated crap from Chester's Handbook

Can be rated negative

Rated 2* because of writing skills

LOL it was actually his fault.

Where is his response?!

She took blame But also tried to blame him !?

Was he at fault? One time to many!

Then no. If can forgive a one time lapse then he should have confronted her the first time,!

I am undecided

she cheated him but putting blame on her husband is like psyco.

I would do anything for love, but i won't...

...take responsibility for my actions, take the blame, not try yo blameshift, not try to find excuses, put the effort in

Excuses, excuses, excuses. This story went nowhere. Blaming her husband repeatedly for her infidelity is just poor writing.

Synopsis: Stupid, selfish bitch gets caught cheating and still manages to hold hubby at fault for not stopping her. I think he lost his love for her when he first learned of the betrayal. It seems likely he was giving her opportunity to come clean, on her own. Clearly, she had no intention of doing so.

The premise for the story is ok, but the verbose ramblings that a woman offers as a ‘reason’ is tiring. Women seem to be the ones with a need to explain how things happened. Here’s a hint; guys does care how it happened… we care that it happened in the first place. Damage done, at that point, and it has been shown that resolution is rarely possible, and certainly never satisfying. It remains a shadow that, due to our own insecurities, never goes away. Self-preservation trumps all else, when it comes down to it.

Bullshit.

Janet does go on-and-on and on-and-on, Why? To what end. I wish I could have spoken to her. I would ask "And your point is?"

Why didn't you fight for me? The anthem of sluts united.

Most of the wife’s words are self serving. The why is shallow and the only thing she admits is she is “to blame” but adds he should have stopped her. I do not understand what he is thinking as she is mostly “beyond salvage”. Move on and let her inflict her self absorbed attitude on someone else.

What a selfish cunt

Stupid delusional bitch who is completely self-centered, now blames husband for not fighting for her? How about he starts fucking around on her to see if she'll fight for him? Never happen. She'd dump him in five seconds flat and try to clean him out in the divorce. Cheating skank slut loves only herself. Can't believe husband would stay anywhere near this evil whore. He should pack her bags, toss her in the car, drive to Jeff's and dump her in his front yard on her ass. Let him live with this narcissistic trash who will fuck around on him and then proceed to tell him why it's his fault. A good follow up would be how she continued in her betraying ways, got some good STD's and made the world a better place by departing.

Paul's fault, Paul's fault that's part of her justification. why didn't he fight for her. They were married. the fight for her should have ended with "I DO." Married how long she cheats and expect the miracle of him getting over her betrayal in just 6 months. NOT GONNA HAPPEN

Story was good,,,, things that most cheaters should follow of what to do and say.

This being published in 2005 may be behind today's ability to obtain a post nup agreement but that agreement needs to be for both parties as in this story BOTH parties screwed up and both parties need to outline a narrow playing field going forward and going forward is absolutely in the cards for these two. A note on making rules... that is what the wedding vows are supposed to be. They each have a decision to make. A written agreement in the form of a pre or post nup agreement should not be needed but is an option. Even if the such an agreement was to be made up it physically shows that both parties do not have the soul to pull their differences together and to restore the emotion that embodied their initial love that created the marriage in the beginning. When you offer more rope to a person who never makes good use of the rope given both simply need to coil up the rope and go their separate ways.

To bad because i'm sure this is applicable in all marriages and this story is repeated thousands of times each day in all marriages.

story was very good all points considered. Since it was published in 2005 it's probably clear that nothing more has happened and indeed, the marriage probably ended. It's a shame that it came to that point. Both of you messed up. Both of you failed in various ways. It's easy to understand that readers probably side one way or another but none get the point that eventually each of you needed to call a time out and talk and need a third party to maintain focus on points critical to a solution. At the very least, if all is lost each need to tell the other that the event is over and your lives as a team are also over.

Good story though ,, sad, but probably very accurate of todays lifestyle among married couples.

When confronted with the facts, the only acceptable response is complete truth, without evasion. Making your spouse dig through endless layers of lies reinforces the fact that you ultimately cannot be trusted.

Instead of sharing a life together, the cheater hides their true self behind a mask of falsehoods, pretending to love and care for their spouse.

You don’t know them. You think you do, but they are pretending to be the person you married.

When you ask for the truth and get more lies, get out.

3 stars. -1 star for all the BS (he shouldn't have had to "fight for her" - he already did that to get her to marry him), He shouldn't have had to act like her friend when she ripped his heart out. He shouldn't have had to "look at her with love" after she repeatedly cheated on him, lied to him and hurt him. -2 stars for him not finding a happy end with a deserving woman (and notice that the selfish cunt ONLY talks about how if they divorce she cares about HER next relationship. So much for admitting she's selfish and claiming she shouldn't be). +1 stars for her finally admitting to him her excuses were selfish BS, and being honest, AND for - what seems - giving him a fair divorce if he asks.

Reading again and this was a really entitled and blame shifting bitch.

I do agree with her on one point though, he needs to leave this loser in his rearview mirror and quit playing stupid games.

She's just a slow witted goat in heat.

Phil sees their relationship is between adults. He shows his respect to her by letting her decide. But she might be right. His love for her is gone.

I can't believe she tried to put blame on her faithful husband

She was still a self-centred bitch. (I want us to, IE you to,) like she has already done something. Oh she did. Travel 5,000 miles to fuck her boyfriend. It's over girl you shot first and your bullet was fatal, he returned fire and got in a lucky hit and you bled out and are bitching about it.

Experts say it takes between one to two years after the affair to find a 'new normal'. So she's not giving him enough time. Sure he should get some counseling, but he needs to be ready for it.

As to why he didn't 'fight' for her, the battle was already over!! They are married. The fighting is basically done. She's the one who decided to leave the marriage. He's just left with the mess. He's not to far from the norm for what he's gone through. She's the one who needs to be seeing a counselor and figure herself out. Maybe by that time he might be ready to get some help. She can't put him on some timeline and say 'you need to get over this by x date and time'. He's the injured party. He gets better when he gets better.

Story was well written.

Result?

Fuck her cheating ass in the ass and leave her on a deserted highway outpost.

All of the B.S. HERE is too much.

In my world, fuckers get fucked.

Well written as she fully excepted responsibility for her action , as for her husband he had the proof to confront her and stop the liason but instead of going with her he decided to see how long this would continue and after the confrontation still dragged out whether they would divorce or reconcile.

The ball is now in his court on how they move forward .

Obviously, she was wrong, but, by not challenging hare at the beginning, he became complicit in the affair. If he loved her and wanted to save the marriage, he should have taken steps to stop the affair. Leading her on and torturing her was unconscionable, either forgive her or get a divorce.

Cheater throughout the world almost use the same phrase as it was written in the letter.

Cheater never thought about the consequences in the first place.

And when they get caught, first they use those sweet words of their loving relationships if that doesn't work then they try to blame their partner.

But they never try to control themselves before cheating for just to enjoy the illicit sex with someone else.

People like them are not trustworthy specially those who do it deliberately if given a chance.

@ibuguser you've been drinking the feminazi/white knight kool aid.

The entitled slut looked hard and managed to find a way to blame others for her actions and the consequences that came of them.

Why should he fight for her anymore? The whole point of the marital vows is that one belongs to the other. You treasure each other but none have yo fight for the others attention, respect, love, fidelity, honesty and so on.

In fact he was giving the unworthy cunt chance after chance to come clean, to seek forgiveness, to show remorse, she showed none. More than that she points to him as the untrustworthy one.

What a despicable human being, if you can call such a person that. He should just send everything to the family, friends and acquaintances of both the scum so the the world knows what kind of scum they are.

Very nice. The last part of the mail, husband's actions, or inactions, is spot on. Stay or leave. But either way, commit to your decision.

Someone said when seeking revenge, dig 2 graves. One for yourself.

Creative and poignant story told through a letter. However, her kneed betrayal not only atnthe conference but the six month long cyber affair is a hideous betrayal, not to mention her falling for Jeff again in September ad if it was some inexorable result. Bs. That being said, the husband acted weird. He knew she lied multiple time at the convention and did not confront her on the lies during her time there or after. Doing so would have likely disrupted the affair, though after the second time she felt no guilt and her all her dumb rationalizations set up, and was more than willing to lie further. So that is debatable but to be clear 95% of guys would bitch about the obvious lies even if it triggered arguments. But what is beyond my comprehension is his reading her emails and not intervening then. He has proof of a cybersexual affair and I am sure written proof of their extramarital sex at the first conference. That is a no brainer. You don't need photographic evidence. But even weirder is he doesn't confront, warn, or travel with her to the September conference six months later. Some will argue nit his job to prevent. But why not scare the shit out of her by telling her you know what she has been doing with Jeff. And then yo top it off, he finally confronts her (lamely through a hotel door) and then all of sudden wants to save their marriage. Huh? His "wait and see" strategy is terrible with no benefits to him in any way. Makes no sense. Uggh.

Well thought out narrative. Those who think that marriage isn’t something that has to be worked at have never had a successful marriage or are in an abusive one. The cheating here wasn’t the problem but the possibly final fatal symptom.

As soon as the author wrote “why didn’t you fight for me”, he had to know he’d stir up a hornet’s nest of “cuck shit anons” who would ignore the rest of the story and focus on it.

What caught my attention as the fact that Phil suspected the affair during the first convention and subsequently had knowledge of the emails between Janet and Jeff leading up to the second convention. He had all the evidence needed to file for divorce based on adultery but instead decides to “catch them in the act” at the second convention. This in spite of the fact that Janet pleaded with him to attend the convention with her! What kind of prick does that.? Clearly Phil’s motive was never to reconcile but rather to inflict vengeance. Then by pretending to want to save their marriage he continues to punish her .

Janet willingly, repeatedly and maliciously committed adultery. She deserves no pity. Phil is a vengeful prick. Janet deserves to be cast aside and getting away from Phil is in her own best interests.

I cheated but it's your fault for not stopping me. FUCK YOU, BITCH!

What a delusional slutty whore of a wife. Phil ca do a hell of a lot better than her, let her go.

Not hubbies job. The fighting, winning over, contract creation already done previously. The attitude here is oh so typical of modern society. Author is totally off the mark.

Cunt. Capital cunt. A delusional bitch, self-centered, and unable to accept blame. He isn't too much better. 2 stars, it really made me ill. the Bear does not approve.

The BEAR

The signature: just "Janet," no "love," not even a "sincerely," tells the story. She's already gone.

Different and thoughtful.

Why didn’t you fight for me, you bastard!!!!

Really???

Your reasoning here is fucked up totally Capecod.

He never needed to fight for her again, he’d already done that.

Tha ball is firmly in her court, she has to do all the fighting, and she didn’t. All she’s done is write a long whining letter of pathetic excuses. She deep down cannot really face up to what she’s done. She says she has but she hasn’t. Now in truly manipulative way she is trying to seek the moral high ground at the end of the marriage.

What a pathetic bitch she is.

She seriously needs ditching.

In any divorce she’d be quick to be in there fighting for every miserable cent she can get, the hypocrite.

Given the pain she caused she should file and take little from the divorce. If she was honest that’s what she should do to show true remorse.

But she won’t do that will she, the cunt!!!!

Rescored from 2/5 to 1/5

what a self serving BITCH

Nothing wrong with waiting to see exactly who you happen to be married to. Now, after the first few fucks writing her off and moving on would be much better than the timeline shown here, as others have said, strange, limp-wristed behavior there. But as far as treating her like a child that needs boundaries and spousal pressure to make the right choices? I just don’t buy it, these are adults, not babies. The only person who should be doing damage control is the one deciding to damage in the first place.

Sermonizing claptrap.

Well that was as one big steaming pile of shit. The cunt cheated and then blames her husband for giving up on her. She asked him why he didn’t fight for her. Because any married man that fights for his wife is an idiot fighting for a prize that’s not worth having. A married person shouldn’t have to fight to keep their spouse. Anyone who would want to keep the bitch is a pathetic loser.

@anonymous 6 below, speaking sociopaths, “mirror,” and, “hello kettle, pot calling.”

This is good on many levels, but predictably it is chum in the water for the haters. I love that you wrote this thought provoking piece, but if you do something similar again do way with the comments. All that does is clear a pathway for the haters to vent and spew, mindlessly.

There is no reflection chip in them. The wife s right here, she fully caused this to happen and deserves whatever consequences befall her. But she also is right that the husband sat back in his ass, knowing what was happening and just let it happen, and let it get worse when she was asking for his help. What kind of lovin spouse sits around and watches the person they love dig a deeper and deeper hole?, just collectingbevudencevlievfucking Columbo. That’s not a loving spouse that’s just a vengeful score keeper. Frankly, this is the wife’s fault but I think she’s better off without this passive candy ass. If my wife was tempted to cheat, I’d be pretty pissed by it but I’d also be in full

Damage control mode; unhappy about her inclination, but looking to stop what I could rather thsn collecting evidence for the executioner, especially when she specifically asked for my help. Sitting on your hands is a doofus move. A putz she can do without. Who stands by and simply let’s their wife fall off a Cliff saying well, “it’s her fault she was behaving like an idiot” the wife is right, I wouldn’t trust a spouse who stood around watching me implode just to get all the evidence. A simpleton twat for sure.

What a dirtbag wife - she cheated and wants to blame the husband for not fighting…. She wants no consequences, she lies like all shearers do… she wanted her cake and to eat it too….dump that piece of trash … she is a worthless slut!!!!

If she couldn't stop herself from repeating him betrayal of her own accord, what is the wife she of staying with a weak, stupid, selfish, dishonorable slut who can't control herself, she doesn't deserve a faithful husband, she deserves the type scumbag she cheated with.

What the stupid slut should do is accept the punishment for her betrayal that she earned, 6 months is nothing, she can expect to be a suspect for years, not month because of her self-centered acts and lack she of understanding that he won't be trusting her for a long time to come. She still just wants him to forgive, forget and move on with no pain for her, screw that.

The premise of the story "Forgiveness must be earned" is false!

Forgiveness is an unselfish heart, willing to put aside the offence and even though remembered, not bring it up again or use it against another.

The selfish heart wants payment!, wants to punish!

The ramblings of a selfserving bitch of a wife that any man would be lucky to be rid of. A hypocrite from start to finish. If only he had her suffer an accident, something like kidnap her, drug her and perform some cosmetic surgeries on her, like breast reduction (to zero), vagina-ectomy, cutting off the labia an clitoris, the works. After all, she is to be treated as she deserves. This way, she's a true shell of a person with a platic nub (with a twist on cap) to pee from and an asshole. Everything else is off the table.

Another commenter said "realistic emotions", yes, very real, the realistic "emotions" of a sociopath.

Good riddance bitch. Now that your gone please stay gone

Well written and realistic emotions. While I get some of the commenters below upset by what is near the end of the letter, it is true that the husband needs to come to grips with why he is not participating in reconciling when he says he wants to save their marriage. Also he needs to understand why he did not intervene at any point. I can kind of understand why he did not intervene in October or go with her. He wanted to see if she would go through with it and catch her. But that should only be if he plays to have her served or something, and wants some measure of revenge to shock her. If his plan is to reconcile (so he says) then he absolutely should have gone to the conference with her when she asked, seeing it as a sign for support and help. He read the emails. Maybe I can see why he did not intervene after the first conference, but not calling her out on her lies seems cowardly and as she said would have at least put the affair in the ground. But once he read the emails. Has the proof and sees her vacillating and then engaging in cyber sex. Well that is retarded. You can argue it wasn't his responsibility, as she is a grown woman. Bullshit. Something is wrong. Jeff is clearly working her. He read the emails. He would are no malice on her part. She is his wife. Part of his vow is to cherish and protect her. I get that he is emotionally conflicted but even if you don't take him to task for failing to fight for her, then you have to admit he is a total idiot or had his own affair on the side. Well written.

I'm not sure he is at fault for not confronting her early on or for not fighting for her. He is definitely at fault for refusing to put forth any effort in fixing their marriage. Counseling is an automatic given and just a start down the road towards healing and forgiveness. You can't just say it, actions need to happen as well. Fish or cut bait.

Story was flowing nicely until the victim blaming started, oh well.

So he should fight for his wife? What a delusional despicable person she is. So it’s all his fault for not stopping her doing what she should have stopped herself from doing? What a whore!

Janet, Good bye, Phil (your ex-Bastard)

The thing is that I did confront my wife when I found out. The affair was already over. We worked together because we did love each other and wanted to keep our family together. I have a brother that went through a divorce. His wife cheated and said that she didn't love him anymore. She wanted him to leave because her aunt and uncle owned where they lived. I said told him if she wanted out she should leave. She said if I can't have the children I just as well be dead. I said she needed mental help. A lot more of that divorce I thought he should have fought. The funny thing was that the asshole she cheated with was not the asshole she married. The poor children floated between 4 home WOW I didn't want that for sure. We are still together. There has been tough times that I was pissed at her when I would have flash backs. She said a few times can't you forgive me. I would say I have or I would not be here. Sometimes she would say don't you love me? I would say I do or I wouldn't be here. Life has been good except for a few rough times.

Slut wife fucks around and does not like her husbands reaction or treatment. How about dont spread your legs and this does not happen

Why has the writer no longer submitting stories you may ask?

Simple .... the "vast" majority of readers on this site refuse to accept his/her's "cheating WHORE wife Apologist" agenda!

Btw capecodmercury, don't forget to say allow to Matt Moreau! You two should get along "swimmingly"

She's dumping too much of her guilt, weakness, betrayal and disrepect back on her husband. And she has provided nothing to show that she still isn't a weak, immoral slut that wouldn't do it again.

She is trying to re-write history to want him to accept a big portion of blame for her affair.

His actions, as she has indicated are not ones of a person looking to get back together.

If there was ever PROOF of her selfish, arrogant attitude, and that he needed to move on, it's right there in that god awful letter. Hit the road, Jack.

and why is this pig still walking around with teeth in her skull?

The fucking cunt tries to blame her husband for her being a cheating whore. He should have dumped her immediately.

He did fight for her, and they were married. He should not have to constantly prove his love other than being a good and loving husband. Why didn't he confront you with his knowledge of your affair? The same reason as you had. Perhaps this was a onetime slip, perhaps you wouldn't respond to Jeff 's emails and blandishments. He gave you your freedom and you chose to trash your vows again. Yes, you were weak, but what are the chances of your being weak again? You still don't seem to understand what you put him through. The final few paragraphs of your letter prove that you give him equal blame for your indiscretions.

She's a self centered bitch even in her letter. Why didn't he confront her after the first time? She had already damaged the marriage beyond repair, that's why. However, it's fair for her to question why he has chosen to continue. She doesn't have the right to call him out for the pain she is now in however because she brought that upon herself when she cheated the first time.

It was a little wordy TBH. You could have cut the word count by at least 25%. You effectively reiterate several things several (more) times than necessary.

What a bunch of fucking tripe. Just how fucking stupid does she think her husband is? My opinion: he should get a divorce lawyer, serve her ass, and get a permanent restraining order on her just to make she she doesn't try contacting him except by going through his lawyer. Ever.

As for the rest: as soon as she gets involved with another guy, "someone" should give her new man a heads up about what he's sticking his dick into.

Inflict maximum pain. I think doing that to her for rest of her life will just about cover it.

"I want us to get back to where we were when we first got married." Really? A very nice sentiment. BTW we all hope your head doesn't hurt too badly after falling on it. Presenting a story in the form of a tiresomely detailed letter almost never works. This story is no exception. Reading this got old very quickly. Please try again but this tale gets no more than 3 stars and the third is there only because you made the effort to write something presentable. Thank you for that much.

cheating slut blaming her husband. call he Tell Her to Drop Dead

Typical female logic here. I fucked up, you need to get over it, and hey, a lot of this is your fault because you didn't stop me from being a slut. Then she gives him a time limit and ultimatum. Any self respecting man would boot the cunt to the kerb and never look back.

Wow, hard to believe this story's been on here for 17 years. It hits a narrative problem that still really plagues LW. As Bacchant2 and JohnAmalfi4104 (among others) point out below, as much as Janet is a whiny, self-indulgent jackass, she has a point. Slow investigation and testing is a recurring theme in LW: often, the betrayed husband gathers evidence, prepares his case, contacts his lawyer, moves money around, etc., without ever actually confronting his wife.

Some authors offer up a reason for this--if she finds out that I know, she won't act the way she usually does, or she'll foil my plans for revenge, or I'll never know if she WOULD have cheated, etc. At the end of the day, though, those justifications still leave us with a problem. After all, if your marriage is the most important thing in your life, and the trust you share with your wife is paramount, why wouldn't you display that trust here, and why wouldn't you do everything in your power to change her path before it's too late?

This isn't to say that there's never a reason for the main character to keep his investigation hidden--actually, almost any of the excuses in the last paragraph would probably justify secrecy. But it's still important to jump through the hoops of that narrative justification, if only to make the MC appear to be the rational, loving husband that he usually insists he is.

well written but leaving the ending open made the reading a waste of time

A slut who thinks her marriage could be put back together quickly and stay as it was prior to her cheating ways

Hopefully he used the six months to hide as much money as possible before the divorce.

I have come back to this story and read it with new eyes. The wife's statements at the end were poignant but also very short sighted. Asking why he didn't confront her immediately and so forth. She doesn't understand at all why her husband who loved her very much didn't fight for her?

I refuse to believe that she wrote and figured everything else out so well that she cannot reason out his choices in that regard. For that simple fact of her lack of compassion? He should move forward with the divorce after he explains his reasons. Hopefully she will learn better in her second marriage. A shame really.

The guy then tosses the the letter into the nearest trash can he finds as the letter is nothing but trash.

First of you dumb slut you thought sex would fix this return the intimacy. Not a chance the intimacy is no longer special to him. As it was shared with another man, it no longer means anything its just sex now. That is why he fucked you,

Second you trying to pass the buck saying that the affair was only a symptom of a much deeper problem with the marriage. No you my dear slut you wanted more cock, looked for it found it,

I hate sluts who try to share blame when they know it was all on them.

"I would like to tell you to take all of the time you need, but I cannot wait forever and neither can you."

Translation: "Go ahead and eat your shit sandwich and get over it already. I'm ready to move on with or without you."

Gee, an entitled cheater who feels entitled to forgiveness and reconciliation and expects it according to their time table. Who would have expected that?

Janet's entire letter is self serving and self pitying. According to professionals, there is no time limit neither upwards or downwards to "getting over" infidelity, Just like there's any time limit to overcome a breakup, to recover from a layoff at work or to overcome the grief over the death of a loved one. Times are very personal when it comes to emotions and in infidelity the hurricane of emotions. Janet's demand here is indicative of her selfishness and entitlement.

Phil does need to just divorce the selfish entitled cunt as she hasn't learned anything is still just as selfish and entitled as she ever was.

Clearly Phil's most appropriate response is to never have contact with the selfish, self excusing slut ever again. After all, it's what she said she wanted. Good riddance.