I find it exciting to share with someone else my desires and experiences and hear theirs as well.
Often, people just want to have a two sentence exchange...see a pic...masturbate and move on...
But that's not me; I feel that although we probably can't be physically together, we could still get together mentally and emotionally. I find getting into intimate conversation with someone can be incredibly exciting and erotic.
Oh, and here's a biographical tidbit:
The first time I licked a woman's labia, I was still clothed; and the moment my tongue slipped between those warm, wet lips, I ejaculated spontaneously!
Location
So Cal