I remember at the end of the first long-term vanilla relationship, having a serious conversation with my partner. When I said, quite sincerely that I wanted slaves, I was immediately told I was sick and don't ever let anyone hear me talking that way! I honestly, felt completely at ease with my desire. That was about the eighteenth nail in the coffin of that relationship!
I don't self-define as a bondage queen, needle nut, cane commando, or pain princess! I can do all of those quite well. But, my single tail prowess is not me entirely.
What makes me flourish is being in control. From simple tasks such as appearance, sleep habits, and self-esteem, to holding the end of the rope that will either release you or tighten you, as I see fit.
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Vermont