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- Am I a Slut?
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Click hereWell, am I? I really enjoy casual sex with a variety of men, usually one at a time but I have gotten it on with two at once and, on one occasion, with three guys who wanted me to take on all of them at the same time. I'm pretty sure I could have done what they wanted but I thought it would probably be more pain than pleasure so I declined. Instead, they took turns with me and I reveled in every minute of fucking each and every one of those guys. I don't know what the male equivalent of that would be but, whatever it is, a man who accomplished any of that with two or three different women, one right after the other, would be known among his peers as some kind of super stud.
I remember late one night I was watching an old rerun of "Cheers." The men in the bar were sitting around bemoaning the lack of heroes in their lives when Sam Malone walked through the doorway with four beautiful and sexy women. "Hey you guys," he announced. "These are my dates for tonight."
The barflies all cheered and chanted his name. Those losers envied and idolized Sam in that episode and every other night, as I recall. If that had been Rebecca Howe with four handsome dudes and she had identified all of them as her dates that night, she would have been called a slut and a whore and a bitch and whatever other insulting name the guys in the bar could think of. And, judging from what I have heard, most other men would call her the same kind of names. I realize this was just a sitcom, not the real world but reactions like the one I described involving Sam and the hypothetical one with Rebecca would be the same in the real world: he's a superstud and she's a slut.
Why should that be? It's not right and it's not fair. Why should a man who is successfully promiscuous be almost revered by his fellows while a woman who is his opposite number be slut-shamed?
Those are not just rhetorical questions. I think I know the answer.
We've all heard of "penis envy," a junk psychology expression I consider to be bogus. Supposedly, it describes those women who compete with men in sports or education or employment or any other field of primarily masculine endeavor as actually wishing they were men. This is obviously nonsense but there are some people, mostly men, who actually give credence to the notion instead of considering such associations to be nothing more than normal competition or even cooperation.
In fact, I believe in the opposite - that, in matters sexual, men suffer from what I call "pussy envy." Any woman who so desires can easily do what men can only do in their wildest and most erotic fantasies. A few years ago, I read of a female porno star who had fucked five hundred or so men in a row. No man who ever existed could have done that except in his imagination and men are envious of women who can. It doesn't even have to be 500 guys. Any Hell's Angel mama can pull a train of twenty bikers but none of those men would be able to fuck that many women without taking several rest breaks of a at least a day each.
And, it's not only quantity; it's quality as well. The Sam Malones of this world feel pretty good about themselves and are envied because they can score with a good percentage of the chicks they hit on. Big, Fat, Hairy Deal. The Rebecca Howes of this world would be able to score with just about any dude they want, which is why they can afford to be picky. If a woman has thousands of guys all wanting to get into her pants, she can choose the best and disregard the rest.
Men who try to be players are well aware of this because they can easily see the big difference in success rates between themselves and their female opposite numbers and it drives them to gnash their teeth in frustration. It leads them to do something else too, and that is usually described as "slut-shaming." Even though women don't usually think of themselves as being in a competition to see who can fuck the most people, many male players do. They are envious of people whose success rate is greater than theirs so they lash out at some of those people.
They can't say anything negative to the Sam Malones because guys like them would just laugh it off. Therefore, they must insult women to make up for their own inadequacies. Women who enjoy full and satisfying sex lives outside of marriage are reviled by envious men and the most common insult is "slut." Men who aren't getting much deride the women who are getting enough as sluts, among other epithets. That being the case, those women who getting all they want should revel in their sluttiness.
So, to get back to the question I asked earlier, "Am I a slut?" Well, yes, I am, and proud of it. I expect to continue being a slut for as long as I can which, hopefully, will be many years.
- COMMENTS
Bodingtonabout 2 months agoBeing of the male persuasion I agree with the sentiments expressed regarding the double standard in applying adjectives to persons having indiscriminate and frequent sex. However, I disagree with your concept of origins of ‘penis envy’. To my mind the notion has nothing to do with wishing to be a man or competing with men. Instead, it simply means that it is more efficient and less bothersome to urinate having a penis than peeing from the urethra opening of a women’s body.
Anonymousover 4 years ago"If a woman has thousands of guys all wanting to get into her pants, she can choose the best and disregard the rest....The males are envious of people whose success rate is greater than theirs so they lash out at some of those people." - So good an observant. Bang on! I missed on this one aspect of why women heroes are sluts but man heroes are studs.
This is an identical extension of financially independent women are bitches but men are leaders, cooking/sewing women are unproductive docile domestic slaves but men are chefs/tailors, women who choose work over family are home-wreckers but men are bread-earners, women who marry for money are gold-diggers but men who marry for dowry are suitors.
The basic premise of all these arguments is that when one thing a woman does, she is abused, while the same activity when done by man is honored. This is essentially patriarchy, men have historically due to wars and security issues, been moving about in important positions as soldiers, traders, kings/presidents, hence it is obvious that "we all men" are saviors while women need "saving".
But your argument is very valid that there is intensive intra-competition between men w.r.t earnings, wives, network, repute, business, sexuality, gossip, etc. that is relatively non-existent among women. And this competition among men makes them slight away other "wimp of a man" and women in order to put themselves at no. 1 spot, shaming everyone else. For among women it is PRIDE in their beauty and husband department that makes them stand in support of these two areas with other women, rarely can it be termed a competition, because competition cannot sustain when beauty and husband are largely unchangeable things.
Tw0Cr0wsover 7 years agoLook around and you will see 'sluts' that are fat, ugly and have bad hygiene.
Being a slut is easy, all you need to do is spread your legs and someone will get between them.
Now look around and try to find a 'stud' that is fat, ugly and has bad hygiene.
Not saying don't enjoy sex.
Saying don't expect that others will see having something just handed to you as the equal of earning it.
Anonymousover 8 years agoNo You are a woman that has a high sex drive and knows what she wants . These names are made up by people that don't want to live like we do but Want To Judge Us for living it.
maddictalmost 9 years agoIf you need any help. I don't want to be one of nine hundered and ninty nine.
I am glad women are more discerning than men, that's something we love about you. Otherwise I might as well be gay (ack).
We know Sam is full of it, were hoping that one of the four will see us and not want to be one in waiting. Wait this is kind of wordie. You go girlfriend, and don't worry what the world thinks, your not making an announcement are you ?
Anonymousabout 9 years agoWhen you feel the need to post an essay about such matters it is more of a problem for you then anyone else
Anonymousover 9 years agoSince we been keeping records women have been nothing but property, now that you have come into your own,men still think you've nothing but eye candy.. That being said, you are still one notch over property. As eye candy men think you still should follow set rules. That being ' what's good for the gander is not good for the goose.'
Therefore independent thinking women are not looked upon with favor.. that being said understand one thing and only one thing. You live your own life no one else
Can do it for you. You make your own mistakes you pay the price. What other folks think should flow off you like water off a duck.. When you look in the mirror you are looking at yourself and no one else. Question Is did I enjoy to the fullest.
Where ever you are.. do nothing else but ENJOY Life there are no reruns.
Coneger
virtualatheistover 9 years agoI see no reason at all why a woman shouldn't enjoy sex with as many partners s she feels comfortable without fear or risking society's wrath at her disgusting behaviour.
It is a double standard that has bothered me almost my entire adult life.
My current lady was quick to tell me about the very low number of previous partners she had been involved with and had difficulty understanding my position on the subject.
I DON'T CARE!
She could have been a shivering virgin, had one or two sexual partners or she could have taken on the entire massed bands of the Royal Guards.
Not only is it not my business, it is not my concern. All I care about is that she kept herself safe and that whilst she is with me, she is exclusively with me.
And that is something I do care about.
Thankfully she is a lovely and gorgeous lady with equally strong views about fidelity and with a comparable lack of forgiveness for cheating... And I wouldn't have it any other way.
MotherDaughterLoverover 9 years agoYes you are ...but I don't see that as a bad thing or a bad term. The ones that use it as a derogatory term are just jealous like you said. You enjoy your sexuality and that's ok as I see it. I have been with many women over the years and as many as 4 at one time....I consider myself a man whore an I'm ok with it. I've done thing most guys only dream of .... You did miss that most women are more quickly to judge other women for being "whores" faster than any man...most of them are either jealous, hate men or hate themselves because their parents engrained in them that sex is dirty and only "whores" enjoy it yada yada. Keep having fun for as long as can and let the envious talk...I tend to feel sorry for them....they obviously aren't enjoying life as much as we are....Yours a fellow slut.
Anonymousover 9 years agoWhether you're a "slut" or not is neither here nor there. I don't care for the term.
However just fucking as many guys as you can doesn't mean much. Anyone can do that. Doesn't mean it's any good.
You know, it's kinda like your stories: you keep churning out mediocre crap. It's a case of Quantity over Quality, with MAYBE once in a while you stumble on a good story/ a good fuck.
Supposedly, you can get as many guys as you want and can therefore, what, be picky and select "the best?" Doubt it. You're probably fucking any old random dudes all rated 4.17 or less.
