How To Seduce A Woman

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Guys, let’s get real. Very few of us look like Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt, and none of us does as well with women as we’re sure they do. These are facts, and if you think otherwise, stop reading now.

That said, I can’t believe the average man doesn’t do better with women. I’m average in looks, never been married, forty-something-years-old, drive a car that’s several years old, and don’t have that much money, but I do all right with women. To be truthful, I do better than all right with women, but I have a secret that is so obvious it eludes most men.

First, let me give you example of what I’m talking about when I say most men are clueless about women. A friend of mind thinks he’s such a catch that he believes every woman wants him. I’ve seen a woman he’s treated like dirt come up to him in a bar, slap him silly and call him scum and worse, but when she walks away, he always turns to his drinking buddies and says, “She still wants me. She’s hot for my body.”

Now, I’m not the sharpest tack in the box, but when a woman tells me off and slaps my face so hard it still hurts two days later, I never think she’s hot for my body.

This friend of mine is not an Adonis, not even close, but he can’t walk past a mirror without stopping to check himself out and preen. Sad but true.

Guys, if this sounds familiar to you, you are in need of some serious help

Why do I succeed where my friend does nothing but make the women angry at him?

It’s simple really. A woman doesn’t want a guy who’s more hung up on himself than on her. A woman wants a man who thinks of her first and makes her feel safe and secure, and you should have learned this in high school.

You do remember high school, don’t you? I must admit most of high school is hazy, even to me, but what I do remember has stayed with me all my life. In my high school, the jocks or members of some other group you didn’t belong to always got the babes, and most of the time, all you got was rosy palm and her five sisters. Once in a while you got lucky and got laid, but what you didn’t know was the girl had already gone to bed with all the other guys in school and you were the last one on her list. But you never thought about why she was fucking you, you were just happy to be fucking a woman and a real one at that.

If it hadn’t been for dear old dad’s Playboy magazines and the lock on the bathroom door, most of us would have gone through high school drooling zombies from the hormones making us get a stiff dick every time we saw a girl’s erect nipples or down her blouse or caught a glimpse of a girl’s panties when she crossed her legs. Hell, some of us got stiff just imagining what a girl would look like nude.

High school is supposed to be where you learn the basics to get you through life, but what I remember most vividly about high school is what I learned in study hall; and it wasn’t from teachers. Study hall was where the girls let their hair down and talked about boys the way boys talked about girls but with brutal honesty. The girls in study hall taught me what they liked and disliked sexually, and it’s where I found out the jocks weren’t the studs they thought they were, at least not by the girls’standards. The jocks strutted around high school like peacocks, but according to the girls in study hall, most jocks climbed on a girl, pumped three times and were done but still expected the girl to thank him for a job well done. The poor guys didn’t know they were the butt of jokes in the girls’ locker room, and I suspect some of them still have no idea they are duds in bed not studs. By senior year, these fast eddy jocks had to go after the freshmen girls for dates because every girl in the three upper grades knew what they were like in bed and freshmen girls were too young to know better. But even freshmen girls soon learned these jocks were washouts in bed and spread the word to their sisters, aunts, cousins, and every woman they met. The jocks left high school eventually, but years later they were still jocks in bed because they continued to listen to themselves and not to the women.

I always listen to women and have used this knowledge to my advantage from high school to the present day. Women will do anything you ask if you listen to them. Don’t be shy, ask your woman what pleases her in bed. If asked, she’ll tell you, but you have to ask. So come on guys, ask your woman what pleases her and you’ll be surprised at what she tells you. When it comes to love-making you must listen to the woman and use what she tells you to make her feel as if she is the only woman in the world.

The biggest complaint I hear from women is that men don’t draw out the sex long enough. You guys know what they mean. You jump on the woman, hump her for a few minutes, pump her and come, then you roll off and go to sleep, thinking you’re some legendary stud because you have a woman in your bed. Well, guess again. Women don’t want a sprinter, they want a marathon runner. Let me put it this way, if you want good sex, you have to give good sex first. And remember this, if you’re not doing your homework, somebody like me will do it for you.

Women like different things because not all woman are the same. That would make for a dull world and the world of women is far from dull.

It takes at least five dates or nights to seduce a woman properly. The first couple of dates we go out to eat or drink and I find out what she likes in the way of sex and what turns her off completely. To do this you might have to tell her you’re doing research for a book or some other lie, but it doesn’t matter; get the information. I don’t make any stupid or sudden moves on the first two dates and this gains the woman’s trust. On our third date I bring the woman back to my place to watch a movie, and as the evening progresses, I can tell whether we’re going to end up in bed or not. We kiss and cuddle in the living room, but once we move into the bedroom, the woman is naked and ready. I ask her if she would like a massage, and of course she does. Every woman likes to be pampered, and I get out the scented lotion and warm it up by running hot water over the bottle. With the lotion in hand, I ask the woman if she would like to be blindfolded, and surprisingly enough, most women agree because it excites them. I blindfold her, start the massage and work my way down her back starting at the nape of her neck and going down to her toes. Doing this properly takes about an hour, and when I finished her back, I roll her over and do the same thing to the front of her. We talk as I massage her and this relaxes her. It doesn’t matter what we talk about as I masage her as long as it’s what she wants to talk about. I still have my clothes on, and I usually surprise the women when I tell them we’re not going to make love that night. I just hint at what we’ll do the next night and send them home.

Now some of you might think I blew it but don’t believe it. The woman will be back the next night, and this time I fix a meal and put on some soft music to set the mode as we eat dinner and chat. After dinner, I do the dishes real slow to tease her and make her want to make love. Then we go off to the bedroom. Once again she gets naked, I blindfold her, and she is ready. I massage her as I did the night before, but when I finish the massage, I go to work on her erogenous zones. I kiss and suck her neck, her nipples, and of course her clitoris, and I tongue her into oblivion by spending a lot of time working on these areas.

I still have my clothes on like the night before, and no matter how much she begs, I leave my clothes on. I save that for the next night, and believe me, she will be back the next night because I’ve had women show up at my door wearing nothing but a trench coat, heels and a smile.

On the third night, I massage her as I did the previous two nights but this time I take off my clothes and we finish up by making love. But take your time making love. Don’t go off in three minutes and then roll off and go to sleep. Take time to tell her that it was the best sex you ever had and she inspired you to new heights. Cuddle with her. Hold her in you arms. Make her feel as if you had a religious experience when she had an orgasm, but the key is for her to have an orgasm before you do or time things so you have orgasms at the same time.

In the example above, I was talking about single women. Seducing married women requires a different approach, and the reason is simple, married woman have children.

A married woman with a teenage boy will be ready to be seduced because her son’s friends, young and always horny, can’t resist flirting with every female they meet, and the mother will be turned and excited by their attention. Approach her at the right time, flatter her, prove to her there’s no way she’ll get caught, and you can skip the three days of massage and go right to bed. It sounds easy but if you want her to keep coming back to your bed, you have to pay attention to her needs and make her feel appreciated.

A married woman with a teenage daughter is a different matter all together. When the daughter reaches dating age and starts bringing home her boy friends, the mother sees her daughter as competition and starts flirting with the young men. The horny young men will respond, of course, and flirt with her, but she will never follow through with the young men and winds up frustrated and horny, especially when she looks at her husband and wonders why he doesn’t fuck her more often. Approach her when she’s like this, tell her she’s sexy and desirable, and she will start thinking about having an affair. Continue to do this every time you see her, and sooner or later, she’ll look in a mirror, think she’s still got one hell of figure, and wonder why her daughter is getting laid and she’s not. And when she’s in this state of mind, she’ll track you down and drag you into bed, but remember, pay attention to what she wants or it will be a one night stand.

The only trouble you might have with seducing married women can be a big one, if you let it. The married woman will start the affair by saying she doesn’t want any strings attached, she’s in your bed strictly for the sex, but be forewarned, they may say this but they don’t mean it. After three or four times together, she will get possessive and start making demands on your time and freedom. She’ll start calling everyday to check up on you, and if she has trouble reaching you, the next time she calls she’ll give you the third degree and want to know where you were and what you were doing.

This is the time to call it quits before she starts saying she wants to divorce her husband so she can be with you all the time. This is fine if you love her, but if you don’t, let her down gently. Remind her she’s the one who wanted no strings attached, has children who need her, and a husband she loved at one time, but most importantly, be honest and tell her you don’t want to break up a home or get married. This brings most women to their senses, and the break will be clean with no acrimony.

Guys, if you’re married and reading this, listen up; what I described above can happen to you, and if it does, it will be your fault. Put the romance back in your marriage. Never take your wife for granted. Take the time to make your wife feel special and loved. You have everything to gain by doing these things, and a lot to lose if you don’t.

You single guys need to take to heart what I’ve written and your love life will improve immensely. Single women crave love and attention, as we all do, and if you listen to a single woman and take your time seducing her, she will reward you with the best sex you ever had. Married women are the same as single women, but they’re also eager to learn and more willing to try new things. Married women think life has passed them by, and you can release the sexual animal inside them if you treat them the right way.

Let me give you an example of what I mean about married women. I worked with a married women once at a nature center a few miles from my home. She was forty and had been married fifteen years, and I was thirty-five and single. Everyday we worked together mapping animal trails, and one day she started flirting with me. I flirted back, and after three or four days of this, we were making love on the grass. She was the most honest woman I ever met and told me she’d started flirting with me because her marriage had fallen into a rut. All I did in the beginning was ask her what she wanted to do sexually, and from then on, she was willing to try anything and everything; the wilder the better. Most of what we did was her idea, but I can tell you it was some of the best sex I ever had. We lived out every sexual fantasy she’d ever thought about, and by the second week, she was coming to my place every morning before work and every night afger work before she had to drive home to hubby and her kids. I finally broke off our relationship when she got possessive but those five months were intense. There is something to be said for older women because it has been my experience they are more than willing to try new things.

There is an unlimited and untapped field of sexual delights out there if you men would just pay attention to what I’ve written and listen to the women you meet.

Good hunting and have safe sex.

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ludo19ludo19about 3 years ago
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AnonymousAnonymousover 3 years ago
Will follow your guidance

Will try it and see what happens

thebobwalkerthebobwalkerabout 6 years ago
How to seduce HOT real women of your dreams

How to have sex with REAL women of your dreams, like even your super hot liitle sexy sister in law. Yeah momma! Oh b hav!

AnonymousAnonymousalmost 9 years ago

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AnonymousAnonymousalmost 9 years ago
biggups bro

I just changed my Game...woohoo

AnonymousAnonymousover 9 years ago
Ignorant

You started off by labeling every jock as a scumbag... That just sounded dumb. As the comment above talked about, you ask her what she likes in bed over dinner and lie about why you are asking? Why not just wait until you are in bed to ask her. If she is in bed with you, I can't think of a single reason why she wouldn't want to tell you. Maybe during one of the 3, hour long massages given?. All for giving massages but your very detailed thought out explaination here seemed rather, as the comment above kind of mentioned, fantasized.

AnonymousAnonymousover 9 years ago

Both the writer here, and the jock commenter, are emotionally damaged scumbags with the brains and morals of a horny chimp. They may both have PhDs for all I know, but they have proven their stupidity. Granted, stupid people sure do reproduce a lot... perhaps we will get lucky, and they will both be hit by transit buses.

AnonymousAnonymousalmost 10 years ago
Puhlease ... This is the worst advise

As a woman I was interested to find about if any living male found out about secrets of pleasuring us... Completely disappointed at the absurdity of advise and foolishness of assumptions. This sounds like an infomercial with cock and bull story.

For example ... Author proclaims that guys should find about what a woman likes in the bed by making an excuse of doing a research for a book Gosh... Unless it's some powdered white trash ( who actually may not worry about passing the STD) No woman worth her essence will fall to such lame excuse.

Author may have read a lot of books but in terms of solid advise - I did not see anything substantial- contrary to the title this is complete bull shit and fantasy land article which will help guys getting kicked out of considerations faster than they can say can I buy you a drink! Ugh

Well I wish author and other men luck -

AnonymousAnonymousover 10 years ago

I'm 4

AnonymousAnonymousover 12 years ago
this describes a "player" to a Tee

A man who at 45 has finally figured out how to please women and has never had a real comitted relationship or family is a "player" in my eyes. What he describes is that he services his subjects and plays to many women's weakness, which is to be idolized. These women want and need to be idolized and they are obviously getting close to menopause and so are looking for the attention that may be lacking at home and they feel entitled to. I think it is interesting that he becomes their slave initially by providing massages, entertainment and cooking for them before he even gets any himself. I fail to see what he gets out of this charade, other than notches on his belt. In Europe they would call this a gigolo and he would get paid for it. I love the closing of "play safe". With every partner that you have, you increase the chance of transmitting/receiving disease. I doubt that he uses a dental damm when giving them oral?

AnonymousAnonymousover 12 years ago
for more information about this

for the guys that want more information about this topic: there is a lot of information out there from the "Pick Up Artists" (I really don't like this term). David de Angelo(my favorite), The Mystery Method, etc.

You just need to see what you resonate with. Take those information as a guide, you can always put them into practice in your own way.

You just have to want to find put more. But remember that this is about learning, developing yourself. It is a process, not a one time thing.

AnonymousAnonymousalmost 16 years ago
LasVegas is the guy I would cheat ON

This article is very to the point and correct. Jock from Las Vegas is the guy I'd probably marry for money and status, also arm candy, but he's also the guy I would be forced to cheat on (probably with the author). Guys that are too reliant on their egos may get a blow job once, but if they can't bring on the orgasms by licking clits and pleasing, are duds. Jocks are the worst lovers by far.

sp9rkssp9rksover 16 years ago
Here's to my wife

I guess whatever our beliefs or wishful thinking, seductions and affairs happen. I dont cheat but I dont really blame those who do if its because they are unfulfilled. You can romance and indulge your partner all you like, but sometimes folks are just not equal in libido. Accept your partner for how they are. Talk about it if you can without acusation. Perhaps its a matter of finding the switch that turns your partner on! I have had this happen to me.

Ive found women sometimes say they dont like something, and go on about it, and I realise after experimenting, that that is exactly what they like.

I thought this article was a bit general and perhaps not true advice for all situations. But the advice to married men I tend to aplaud. For the men who cant be faithful, why not try to involve your partner in your pursuit of satisfaction. One thing that annoys me are those people who grandstand at others who flirt or fantasise. This activity need not be interpreted as unfaithful but as an effort to sustain a marriage and keep the spice.

Not having a go at anyone here just contributing to the discussion.

AnonymousAnonymousover 17 years ago
Bottom Line is ....

You're telling men to seduce women by lying to them and manipulating them: by telling them its the best sex they ever had etc and also teaching them that just cos a woman is married means jack shit and that she is in the playing field too. That's so fucked up to provoke people to mess with a persons feelings like that just to dip your wick.

According to your article all women are clingy and needy. Get out of the dark ages man. We dont all need a man 24/7 to feel confident and fulfilled in life. Believe it or not, we do enjoy the 'fuck buddy' relationships of no strings attached too. I say you're getting laid regularly cos you're not fussy who it is, not because of your bullshit casanova antics.

AnonymousAnonymousover 17 years ago
Interesting article......

The article was quite interesting. More to the point, however, was the preceding comment (below). Jeezus, what a wanker!

AnonymousAnonymousover 18 years ago
Full of Self indulgent, repressed looser bull s@#t

Ok you obviously know what you are doing once you get a woman to actually have sex with you, it is clear that you have skills. But lets cut the crap...the idea that the hot girls are making fun of the jocks...and that all jocks are 3 pump wonders is the stereotype that all of you looser nerds have about strong alpha males. It is the way you compensate for your indadequacy. I was and am a jock, a good looking guy, physically intimidating to other men, your basic tall and muscular nightmare with a good smile. I graduated from college with honors, got a great job, became the regional pres before 30. Started my own firm, and I am now a partner in one of the worlds largest hospitality and gaming firms, and I drive a brand new DB9 (if you dont know what that is, thats ok) I am happily married. And I DONT CHEAT... But I could. In my position, with my appearance, with my success, women approach me regularly. And by the way, nerd boy this has been going on since high school. While you were in study hall, making friends with the hot girls. I was in the basement of the school everyday getting a blowjob from one of the drill teamers.... every day... for three years. In the summer she drove to my house and waited for my folks to leave for work before knocking. After practice almost every day I hooked up with my regular girl. In high school while you were with rosy and her 5 sisters, I had over a thousand blowjobs. I had sex over 300 times. You may have learned some tricks... but there is no substitue for the afrodisiacs that are; good looks, power, money, kindness, and sexual experience. Women are not the stupid pliable lugs you seem to think, they choose who they want... usually they want guys like me.... sorry thats just how it is.

AnonymousAnonymousabout 19 years ago
very nice...

love the article - i think it'll help me a lot ! thanks once again...

AnonymousAnonymousabout 19 years ago
Thanks for the Info

I read this entry to know what not to fall for. All the tactics, the lines...It's just a video game to you guys. You do all the right things, and you win - and then the game is over. How do you make platonic friends with other males? I bet you don't lie and manipulate them, you want to be able to rely on the guy, and be comfortable when hanging out; that would be a more honest - and successful - way to treat a girl. Just with less belching.

AnonymousAnonymousalmost 20 years ago
Good Advice

Great advice for men of all ages. Its good to know there is at least one man out there that knows how to treat a woman. Are you still single?

AnonymousAnonymousalmost 20 years ago
I agree wirh some of it

I agree with you somewhat but the part about seducing a married women I didn't. There shouldn't be a lesson on how to seduce these women because you shouldn't be trying to have an affair with them to begin with. When you get married you made a vowl to love, honor, and cherish this person and with that comes being faithful. If she's unhappy with her sex life then she either needs to work with her husband to try and fix it, or she needs to get a divorce.

Also i'd like to add one more thing. Men all over this world are always saying that women are the biggest mystery ever to come across. You want to know the weird thing?

There is no mystery to solve. Women are confusing to men because thats how it's supposed to be. If men and women were the same things would be boring. In my opinion the best way to seduce a female is patience, and love. If you make her feel loved, and important then thats all you really need. Whatever you do though don't pretend to love her to get sex. If you do this then I assure you the relationship will end sooner or later.

No matter how hard it may seem sometimes not to get horny around women. If you show her that your in no rush, and that you want everything to happen naturally instead of suddenly you'll have her wanting more, and more each time you see her.

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