All Comments on 'The Ideal Sex Scene?'

I've been trying to find the right way to write a sex scene since I started on this site and I'm still convinced I'm missing the mark. I think you're right about what I call the "clinical" or "technical" approach vs. the "Romantic" or what I think of as the "implied" approach. Hitchcock continually proved that "less is more" and the subtle approach could evoke more emotion than the head-on full-blast approach so common today.

I think your ideas are worth a try and the readers will decide how it turns out.

It's true, when simply describing a sex scene it can come across as just a recitation of body parts rubbing against each other. Much more effective (if you can manage it) to try and get across the sensations and feelings.

I have many drafts of sexual encounters and all try to capture feeling from my perspective. I struggle to break beyond the mere factual and elicit the emotional as you describe. I offer that what is challenging is that we are forced to use words to create the images in the mind, images drawn from the reader's memory. I have erred on too much detail to complete the scene but try my best to leave something in those details for imagination to take over. I will keep working at it. Thanks for the challenge!