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I was a male virgin on my 19th birthday, but not on my 20th.

You can "get lucky." You can wheedle and cajole. You can buy someone enough flowers or drinks. You can pay for it in cash.

BUT, in my humble opinion, there is nothing like building a loving relationship to the point where both of you would rather be in each other's arms and in the same bed.

I was a male virgin on my 33rd birthday, but not on my 34th.

It may take a while to find her.....but if that someone is TRULY special, she will be worth the wait.

Mine certainly was.

If you are to be believed, that it is your focus to find the "right" girl (trustworthy, honest, you have feelings for her......love???), then you ARE going about it in the best way. For me, I was 16, and she was 17, and we had a VERY magical summer before she left to go to college out of state (I still had my senior year left). I'll never regret it, because it felt right in everyway. I had a chance before that, but it wouldn't have been the same. THAT girl wanted sex for the WRONG reasons, and I didn't have any feelings for her beyond basic friendship. High school is a fucked up time, but college gets worse. In college I had LOTS more opportunities for casual, supposedly guilt-free sex, and I resisted most, because the few times I said to myself, "why not, she wants it, right?" , It wasn't nearly as good as when I had been in love, or at least committed to making love to my partner. I am neither stunt cock, nor dildo, but I do like to give pleasure. However, any sexual contact is SUPPOSED to be an expression of feelings. If you can't express that between two people, then the experience is empty. It is unfullfilling, and causes resentment, hurt feelings, and pain.

It is much better to wait, not so much for marriage, or even for "THE ONE", but for a girl you can really share feelings with, and enjoy your time together. Although, you do need to try to understand women better than your essay suggests you do, you'll never learn anything by being a hermit. That said, meaningless sex, and one-night stands won't help you figure anything out either. Be friends, be outgoing. Keep an open mind. Be committed to learning as much about yourself, as you are about learning of others. Be nice. Don't be a push-over. Respect yourself as much as others. Be honest. Be all that, and the "right girl" just might find YOU!

Good luck. Shitty writing, but great topic. Thanks!

I appreciate the support, and your viewpoint on this. And yeah I know my writing isn't very good, but who knows? Maybe it might get better as time goes on. Thank you for showing some respect.

You are right. Patience is a must for something like this. I appreciate the respectful comment.