All Comments on 'Blowjobs for Dummies'

i absolutely loved this tutorial!! you are a fantastic writer.

No mention of Pre-cum. My wife simply can’t resist my pre-cum. We’ve been married a long time so not as often now, but when she does suck it she still likes to fondle my balls just to make my cock flex and leak more and more down her throat. She never plans on swallowing my sperm load but with every fondle and flex she swallows more and more pre-cum and that as I get closer to climax it grows thicker and it makes her hungry for it. I know she doesn’t specifically like the he taste cum but she says it’s he pre-cum seduces her or conditions her to swallow.

Not everyone enjoys the same things. Talk to your man and ask him what he likes.

Oh my gosh thank you this is super helpful

Extremely informative--fun, to ! She oved it....

Very good light hearted writing with a message. Enjoyed it a lot.

I'm fucking a guy at work, so we don't have a lot of time for fear of getting caught. How can I blow his mind in a hurry?

Loved the humor of it as well!

You overlooked the fact that not all men are circumcised.

Basically my biggest BJ problem is my boyfriend can go for up to an hour at times. I want to make him cum but I can't use my hands or mouth and seem to get him to blow. I just need something to get that final push help!

I’m 23 and have been giving BJ’s for quite some time now. For the first FIVE YEARS I didn’t know to use pressure with my lips :( Fast forward to a year and a half into my new relationship and my bf (politely) tells me what to do.

Since then I haven’t even wanted to give him a bj because I felt like I sucked (lol) at it. Super excited to surprise him with some of this next time I see him 😏

In my 20s I was single girl from anytown, USA who just went wild in the Big City. I was completely sleep deprived, but I was building a career somehow. I loved the nightlife and the attention I got from men. I didn't have a 'type' and when I partied like that I became morally flexible. It started out as guilt-like if I was treated to a night out I felt like I owed something...but I sought out the types that thought that way for a reason. I know that a lady owes a gentleman nothing in return for anything...that a true gentleman sees an investment in a woman's time a privilege...and with civilized adults that goes both ways. But during that period...i didn't want respect...oh no. I wanted...the antithesis of. I loved being an easy pick up...and hearing the blissful moans of men who thought they were getting theirs? I loved feeling powerful...giving pleasure. And if the called me foul names all the better. I became an unashamed connoisseur of cock.

Well...we all settle down if we are focused and I ended up meeting a man...i liked enough NOT to sleep with. We were work friends...and that was it...huge crush. I said yes to dinner...8 years...lol later. Then the weirdest thing happened...i fell in live with the dudes OTHER head too!!! FML, right? lol hell nah. Both those heads and all he is turned a dick sucking slut into a woman who just feels like...she bought her experience home the minute we locked down all monogamous & shit and here it has stayed. Yes. I looovvvve one man and his dick and even after 20 years hitched I can make make him cry out. And it's not a power trip anymore...its just being good to man I love who is a total reciprocator on every life level. But damn! I THOUGHT I KNEW it all. I did. Nobody ever discouraged me from juggling balls but I got no you go girls, either....present and long time quiet man included. :) Oh the balls...the glorious balls...i let just...slip...thru my hands. Oh the hard-manatee. 😜hmphf!! I can see a talk about balls this weekend that extends beyond our usually juvenile blue balls jokes..and at this age too. It's time to act my age and give my ol man an appropriate ball slurping. Dilly dilly. lol

Seriously tho. Thanks. Slobbin nobbin...check. Drive him...nuts? Check. :)

Char

A personal favorite for me when I go down on my man is, after taking him deep in my throat add far as I can (we both love at least A little gagging) and slobbering it up real good, I gold the base firmly with one hand, and while taking the tip in my mouth and alternate between bobbing just the tip with slightly suction and released and over to swirling my tongue again over just the tip, I use my other hand in the ok position and move up and down the shaft but when I get close to the tip or base bend my wrist. That results in hand swirling motion while jerking the shaft, holding the base with the other, and get a good grip! And tickling just the tip, swirling and suction on an off. It's an art form and I'm an artist ;)

Good piece. Since you did acknowledge in it that gay folks do exist, perhaps you should do a courtesy to your readers and include them in the action too. That may be disturbing your imagination, but this is supposed to be an informative piece. I'm a man and I love cock as much as love pussy! Straight folks don't keep making us feel our attractions are not normal. Non-straight sexual behaviour(gay, etc) is not a punchline to straight people's jokes. And I'm even gonna start talking about the bisexual denial taking place in a situation where a guy is in bed with a woman, considers the deviance of putting a finger in his ass, as challenging to his sexual identity immediately to the opposite of spectrum; gayness). I also laugh at straight guys who think they are so sexually edgy to've let a finger be put in their asshole.

Peace and good sucking y' all!

I did as told and yes, I let him cum all over my face. He was telling me how I'm a goddess in bed. So thank you!!!! I think we'll be having sex more often now.

its as much a turn on for me as him to feel him get hard in my mouth.My lips and tongue and hands..., and I know ill be the real winner; the better I do.. sometimes giving head gets me off and I dont need penetration because made him feel so good its satisfied me

DOES NOT LIKE A BLOWJOB?

Yes! Finally an article written by a man that doesn't feel like ' Cosmo Fluff '

I would love to know more about what to do at the end of the bj. Aside from letting him cum in my mouth (obviously) is is really best to just keep the same rhythm? Is there a tip that could make this part just a little bit better (suck harder, squeeze shaft...)

Side note: I've NEVER left a comment on the Internet...ever. Interesting that this is where I make my debut 😳

This is a bit stream of consciousness and so it's not organized at all but I think you'll love reading it anyway

Wetness wetness wetness

Ok ?

wetness is very important

Watch some videos online and see different techniques

There's hundreds of them

They all work

Here are some of my favorites

With cock in mouth getting sucked up and down or bottomed out in her throat, do this - Both hands scratching balls and scrotum and below (taint) from both sides feels AWESOME !!!

Just make sure area is nice and wet

Caress thighs and general area or run fingernails oooh shiver :-)

Scratch balls all around especially on the sides at the seams where legs meet

All up and down the sides and then the front of the sack

I even like it when she pinches some scrotum skin and pull sir a little bit and just rubs it between her fingertips a little roughly or twists it and pulls it

Then tiny bites all over the scrotum feel fantastic

All around the anus with licks sucking-kisses nibbles is oh so damn good

If he's amenable some prostate massage gently is welcome

So yeah the whole damn area from asshole to perineum to scrotum to balls to base of cock to shaft to head/frenulum ahould be wet and stroked scratched kissed licked nibbled on bitten chewed upon sucked

there should be some moaning too so we can tell you are enjoying doing this for us

You Making the right noises drives me wild

Use your throat- take it in till his cockhead hits your throat and use it to squeeze that head and just contract around it if you can.

Alternatively do short strokes making the head hit your throat as that may make him cum

When sucking sometimes go all the way down and all the way up

It's great 👍🏼

Sometime stay down there for a bit feeling his full cock in your mouth and advanced cocksuckers / gifted women can actually stick out their tongue there and lick balls

It's fucking amazing 😉!!!

When using hands use a lot of lube or oil or spit and Milk the cock with one hand or with two

Either going up or going down usually slow

It's absolutely delightful

One hand at the base of the cock in a V or encircled is usually very nice and stabilizing and also feels good

Sometimes one hand on top as a roof just putting pressure on the cockhead

Sometimes make a cage of one hand with four fingers down and use it up and down hitting cockhead with the palm

Sometimes just use one hands or twist and play with the head and frenulum while the other hand strokes shaft and balls

While sucking take a break and Jerk off the cock now and then

Use different speeds

Use one hand then the other

Use different grips regular and then overhand or backwards (thumb down)

Do it while sitting on top of him facing him

On top Facing away from him

Sitting behind him jacking it

Laying down in front of him on your stomach

On your knees

See how he responds and adjust

Sometime surprise him and do what you want

Sometimes go very very sloooow or jackhammer fast

But make sure he is enjoying it

when getting close to orgasm put into turbo mode until he comes if he prefers

Or suck it faster up and down

Some like to add a twist on the way up or on the way down or both

Twist with your hand or your mouth 👄

All are good 😊

Anyway Then don't stop until he blows

TALK DIRTY

When he starts to cum keep going unless he asks you to stop or slow or let go (very rare)

Swallow every drop

Milk it / suck it / stroke it / push out from balls to head for a minute afterwards as well unless too sensitive because there's usually a few more drops in there that you absolutely want

Let it come out and take it on the tip of your tongue

Its just beautiful

Look at him Smile and thank him

Don't try to kiss him

You can cuddle if both like that

If he wants Bring him some food or let him rest sleep relax etc

The after effects are best with no stress no talk no nothing

Either he is energized or he is totally drained and relaxed. Both are fine. It happens.

By the way, This ejaculate sweet white creamy cum is highly nutritious and has a lot of healing life force energy. Don't waste this energy. Always swallow.

It will only help you in myriad ways

:-)

Th above is how I like to get a blow job and I usually come screaming and then I laugh for a good twenty seconds or more because it was so fucking great !!!

Thank you, ladies. I'm grateful.

So yea um I dont think this knowlege is beneficial to me but blowjobs sound kinda complex now and complex scares me so i think ill keep my dick away from mouths...o.o

My husband is in prison and we mostly we have phonemes. never have we had sex yet, two more years for special visits.

I am originally Brazilian so English is a second language. Bottom line is that we stick to phone sex for now, but my vocal is not that great sexually nor imagination. I found your article very played out and helpful with new words! also has some humor to it from the beginning which we both enjoyed! thanks!

This is the part I love, I know all guys can't handle this, but as for me it's the sensitive head after I come, I love to have only the sensitive head suck or teased by hand after I come, that is the best part for me I love it😉

Wow. This was great, I have never given a blow job but I REALLY want to try. Now I know how! Thank you

My husband and I have been married over a dozen years. As in most marriages, we started off hot & heavy, having amazing adventuresome sex every single day for the first 3-4 years. Work, kids, a hysterectomy and the routine stresses of life began to interfere over time and in the last five or so years it slowly tapered off to maybe once every two weeks if he was lucky. Very recently, we made a commitment to finding our way back to that newlywed excitement. This site has been a lot of fun for both of us. As a typically insecure at times female, I wasn't down with us watching porn together. There is something very different about reading stories together, though. I don't have to worry about my body bring compared to those 19 year old porn queens. I'm delighted to discover that even at my age, I am capable of learning a few new tricks to please the love of my life. Awesome article! Well written & something I've often wondered about but never felt comfortable asking any of my male friends. Great job! I have a feeling Hubs will be a happy happy man tonight.

Not trying to toot my own horn but every guy I've been with says I give the most amazing blow jobs. And I have to say what I do is to a point on here. Except you forgot about the taint!!!! You lick the the asshole to the taint and put his balls in you mouth you'll see faces you never knew about!!!! But ladies please always to oral on your man it will increase his sex drive and drive him crazy for you! Also lastly the easiest thing to think of his suck his tip like a lollypop (just don't bite) and occasionally pop it out that suction feels amazing for him! Anyways all done by hope that helped!

I once wrapped his penis in a Fruit-by-the-Foot candy from head to bottom of shaft and ate/sucked it off while handling his balls. Pretty messy but wayy fun and he loved it. Also, once I blew him under water in a hot tub bath... Obviously I gotta come up for air but you should've seen the look on his face the entire time. This is especially great for him when you've been drinking iced alcohol ;)

I can't believe I just read a how to on BJ's that describes and names the parts of the Penis, yet entirely neglects to mention the foreskin. I know a lot of men in the states are cut, but hey America, *waves* it's us the rest of the world. Playing with and teasing the foreskin is one f the best parts of sucking cock. And the Frenulum you mentioned is not what you think it is, what you described is simply what is left after the Frenulum is severed in order to remove the foreskin. It is indeed one of if not the most sensitive part of the penis. But that V is just a tiny little fragment of what is supposed to be there. Sad indeed. I feel sorry for all you guys that don't know what they lost when someone decided to slice a pleasure giving part of their anatomy off.

I'm sure I'm not the only bicurious male reading this over and over just in case I ever get the chance to come face to cock with a willing partner! He'll owe you a ""thank you!"

I'm more anxious to experience the pleasure of giving head now than ever before. Here's hoping!

Firstly, you are an amazing writer. Seriously, hats off to you and the awesome way that you write. Keeping it light and real.

I had a friend who would always make me laugh whenever he talked. I miss the conversations with him. The way you communicated through your article... it just felt as though he was talking... thank you for this...

Keep writing.

My new boyfriend gets rock hard at first, then gets soft and can't cum even for a blowjob let alone being able to fuck me. No woman he had been with liked going down on him so he hardly ever got blowjobs and never had a woman swallow before.

He said this is new and started shortly before he met me. .

I love giving head. So though it took about an hour or so, I did get him to cum in my mouth.

But in consequent loving, he only very occasionally can cum. He's terrific at giving head and fingering me - very giving, sensual, and loving. Though he says he just loves the intimacy and watching me cum multiple times, I know that he will eventually, if not already, start resisting me loving him because of his ED problem. Any suggestions?. Those pills have big-time side effects and don't necessarily work, I've read. It seems like I keep bringing him to the very edge... but then he just can't get all that energy to ... explode and then eventually, he just gets soft and frustrated. He's 66 years old.

Any help re techniques or whatever, would be much appreciated. I just can't imagine a man being content with not cuming,. and I'm starting to think I shouldn't start with him, because he will feel inadequate the more I make love to him.

Signed:

Missing his orgasm

I must have read this article about 50 times in the past 5/6 years. The advice has been invaluable and I've always received amazing compliments on my technique. A bit of deep throat and using two hands in a twisting motion (in opposite directions while jacking a welll lubed cock) have also served me well! With the eye contact I think guys get a kick from the visual aspect of deep throat when it's mixed with everything else. I love giving blowjobs and bringing the guy im with so much pleasure this way. Great article!

i dont u.derstand how to not leave teeth mark on his dick.thanks for info.

I can't stand the taste of his cum. I'm always really keen, and I really do love giving him head, but the taste of him cum triggers a horrible nauseous feeling for me. What can I do?

Some Interesting tips ruined slightly by persistant sexist tone.

Thanks so much! My boyfriend is always asking for head and to be honest, I was scared for the soul reason of not knowing how. You helped me so, so much and I am proud to say I will be taking all the advice in the near futur. Thank you!

I needed this tutorial! 😇 I needed a brush up course!

Well written but might i suggest that swallowing is only good for lovers/husbands/people who have been checked for STDs recently. While its true that semen cant harm you, it can carry some pretty gross diseases. Safe sex people! Its the best ;)

some great tips here hubby says I suck cock like a champ but I feel like it's losing its flair, you know? Definitely going to try a few new things tonight....he gets home in a matter of minutes ;)

Its really enlightening.tnks

This is the kind of jewel i was looking for, I've been in the depths of porn websites to learn how to give better bjs to my boyfriend and my research always left me standing where I started. But now I see the light! Thank you very much kind sir!

My boyfriend an I have been exploring different ways to please each other. I hae never given a blow job in my life. And frankly, didn't know how. This helped me clear up a lot I needed to know about how to please him. Thanks!

Great to get a guy's view on bjs. Thank you very much

You're a Master! Entertaining to read and nicely broken up by humour.

I like to add that my guy really likes it when I use his cock to slap my cheek

and pout at him. Yes the good ol' turkey slap can be sexy. Also it drives him wild to

poke my tongue out to show him all of the cum in my mouth before I swallow it.

Can't wait until the next instalment! - Kit

My boyfriend asked me to learn how to give a better blow job and I was really nervous. I have been trying to improve for a long time and was having difficulty. I looked all over the web and everything was either too vague or too complicated (glossing over needed tidbits). So, I went in search of videos. That did not help either. Again, too vague, too complicated, or, too much like porn to be of much help (too much showing off/acting and not enough educating). You have managed to do what I thought only a video could do and more! I feel so much more confident. Now, because I know what to do (in detail, and even how to address awkwardness!), I know all I need is time and practice.

See, I've always been the girl to suck and lick on the balls, I'm not scared of the "taint" nor am I scared to stick a lil bit of my pinky in there. I've been told multiple times before I was amazing, grand, outstanding, I've been able to do it in under 5 minutes. I've made porn addicted guys cum hard. However, my lovely, sweet boyfriend who is always eating my pussy, well, its hard for him to cum from a BJ. But here is my theory...if he just took those scissors you mentioned and cut down the damn forest, I'd be able to lick and suck his perfect balls and sexy (I think, I've never had the pleasure to see it just yet) taint. Wait, can a taint be sexy? Oh well, anyways. I just feel, ya know, like he isn't getting what he fully deserves but I cant hint enough, or force him, to trim the hedges. Should I just deal with the hair and do it anyway cause I really wanna...like, bad. I want him to burst in my mouth.

This article was extremely funny. I loved it. I'm glad to say I'm one of the lucky ones. I know exactly what I'm doing. (Many blow jobs later) This article was still nice to read. I truly think there should be millions of articles on sex tips that are humorous like this one. Doesn't make you feel uncomfortable to read. Keep up the good work ;)

I think I finally became brave about trying licking the perineum after reading your how to suggestions ....the guy acted like I had discovered paradise. Had never had it done and though it was the absolute best thing in the world....I could make him cum just from licking him down there. I really doubt he ever got another BJ with out asking the girl to lick his perineum...Thanks loved reading you!

Loved the article and bits of humor thrown in. I've enjoyed bjs for the men in my life and now my husband gets to be the center of my attention. Good to know I've done most things right (hard not to notice with my guy), but also good to have a few new "tricks" up my sleeve. Thank you.

Thanks for your wonderful advice! As a first-timer, I can't wait to use these tricks on my sexually experienced man. He is in for a delightful surprise :)

I'm one of those rare females who enjoy giving head and have been known to be the best by many so I figured that I would share a few of my little secrets.

One. I can deep throat like a champ and I am very aware that many women aren't very good at this but if you just practice by taking it a little bit at a time eventually you may swallow him whole! Best way to do this is when he's laying down and you are kneeling next to him that way you can control your gag reflex!

Two. My favorite thing to do which is what I call the twister is while I'm sucking on the head and massaging it with my tongue and he's soaked with my saliva I will jerk him off starting at the base with a firm grip but I will twist my hand as I go up and down and even do this to the very tip while diving him back into my mouth as I go back down. The nerve endings on the head will have him clawing the sheets.

And last but not least my favorite thing to do is while a guy starts to cum I will suck on the head of his pens hard enough to suck a golf ball through a hose while moaning. This will and I can guarantee have his toes curling and ass rising off the bed with probably a few moans groans or 'Oh Fuck's mixed in.

Trust me I have never ever in my life been told I give bad head. So try these things!! Every woman should blow their man time to time. It keeps them wanting more! & loving you forever!! ;)

Enjoyable to read and even though I already knew all of this, it was very enjoyable to read through. The small humorous comments made this a very fun experience. Keep it up, man!! :-] <3

Great article. I'll only add a small thing. Do not get cum in your eyes, it stings for about an hour and can ruin a caring mans feeling of orgasm. It does no damage to your eyes, it just stings. I speak from experience, don't get cum in your eyes.

I know how to treat my man - Everything you mention is spot on -

make love to his penis - show him the enjoyment u r having - be slow & with sounds coming from you - look up into his eyes as u manipulate your tongue & lips on his love tool - u will feel the pulsating of cum from the base of his shaft - love every moment - he will to -

Annette

Thanks for that - I thought I was a natural at it but now I know how to do it properly!!

So... I love to give head! I read your guide last night and found out that apparently I am not as great as I thought I was. I brought up the fact that I read this story tonight as we settled into bed and he of course was super intrigued by what I had learned. I explained that I had no idea that it didn't all just feel the same and that I should make it wet and sloppy. He questioned it so I pulled out my phone and started to read word for word taking in his reaction to each subject.

Well tonight he had his toes curled and was moaning like a (female) pornstar! He was soooo hard and on the tip of orgasm. I then started with his "taint" and a little south from there. Threw in some mint water based lube and he couldn't help but to squeal! He loved every second of it. I could tell he actually wanted it when he lifted his hips and pushed his asshole into my mouth. I wanted to try this before but I was always afraid. Maybe the mint lube helped? I don't know. Maybe anal play is next. I highly encourage you to write a how to on anal play with your man. I don't even know where or how to start. I am VERY open to new things but VERY submissive and shy to initiate new things on my own. I have read a lot on the subject but nothing gave me the confidence that you give me. I feel like an ass licking blow job giving super hero now! I beg you to write on this topic!

Keep writing! These little tips are great to now. I love your writing style and how you banter with your readers. It's fun to read when you get carried away and sometimes turn yourself on with what you are writing. That's pretty hot and exciting. My husband loves reaping the benefits of me being more educated and turned on. ;)

I have been doing it the same way for years (and I was bored with it when I used to love it so much) and didn't know how to begin to try something different, since most guys are just so happy to get one they aren't going to give much instructions on alternatives. Thanks so much this article was just what I was looking for.

I have been with my man for a little over a year now. While he likes my bjs a lot, I tried some of your tips and it sent him soaring! Thanks so much for your pointers.

Ive never given a bj before, and I like how you make it sound so easy and natural. Hopefully, I'll be able to make my man happy, and surprise him tonight!

This is extremely helpful! Thank you!

Should be required reading for anyone who likes to receive oral, as well as give!

That was a nice one thanks. And another thing, make him feel comfortable. You have his most precious thing in your hands and have control of a very sensitive body part so don't make him feel uncomfortable. Especially if you play with his anus. Rub his upper legs belly sometimes reach upwards to his nipples. Caress him be gentle don't make him feel in danger by attacking his cock.

I actually looove doing bjs... and a little twist is when you do all that and change temperatures... like drinking something really cold so your tongue gets chilly for a few secs while taking it all in... I've received pretty good feedback on that! :-)

Loved your how-to!

Hmmmmmm, gonna give hubbie a BJ tonight :D

...don't deserve blowjobs.

I like to think of myself as a pretty good cock-sucker already, but I've picked up a couple of great tips from reading this so thank you!

This is a great article!!!!y man loves when he cums in my mouth n i seallow it

Thank you for the details, I learned a thing or two ;)

I appreciate having an article written so informative and lighthearted about pleasing a man The proper way.

I have what I guess you could call a fear of not doing well enough of something of that nature. But with this article I believe that I could do some wonders. I am gonna try this soon!

Those balls. My friends and have had many discussions about them and what role they play while giving a blow job. I myself have massacre and caressed them while going down on a man but have never actually put them in my mouth. Not out of fear, I assure you, but just not knowing what to do with them. This article is very helpful! I'll definitely be sharing this with my friends.

Lol my guy emailed me da link to this... Guess I'm taking notes

I used to swallow my hubby's cum but each time I have had a severe reaction to it and am sick for days. He knows this, and doesn't expect me to, but is there a more graceful way of pulling away?

He had the most intense orgasm so far. How do I top this?

Nice , i liked it :)

Dont for get to have her tickle your balls... or, did I miss that part,,, tickling your balls with her fingernails, omg yes!

I loved this article!

But my problem has always been, getting a runny nose during a blowjob. I don't know whether his dick is hitting my mucus palate in the back of my throat, or if my breathing is off, but I always get a runny nose. Sometimes it is a complete hindrance and cuts off my breathing, and sometimes its a slight run that goes away in seconds.

I can't be the only one with this problem, any tips to make it go away?

Love the way you write. Can't wait to read more. I read this to see if there was anything I was missing or could improve on. I love giving my man head, spending an hour on my knees for him is pleasure for us both.

A fantastic read all the way through. Thank you kindly. :)

I thought this was a great guide because you pointed out all the things people have done wrong and told us how to fix it without sounding like a douchebag because you added a lot of humor in it. Also, since there is humor in it if you give it to someone and they get mad you can say it was just a joke and that you thought they might find it funny. But thank you very much for this guide.

Nice! thanks for the tips and tricks. Yes my guy like the anal play along with his bj foreplay. Yeah baby!!!

Not only do I thank you for a few new tips I picked up but my husband REALLY thanks you! Really, a great article with worth while pointers.

just wanted to say that your writen instruction is amazing and that i would love to give you a really life bj. testing the theroy on you would be an eye opener

As a writer myself, I enjoyed your article and the way it was written. While it wasn't a linear step-by-step, not that I think it ought to be, it is well-written and nicely organized. Now, to touch on why I found the article in the first place, since it's obvious it wasn't for the writing, I found it incredibly informative.

Seven years ago, I got myself into a relationship that was, to say the least, one-sided and destructive. The guy I was with was abusive physically, emotionally and yes, sexually. Oftentimes, I found myself, if nothing more, pressured to perform fallatio for him. I never enjoyed myself and I was, in fact, still relatively new at it. That is to say I'd only done it a few times before. He tried to give me tips, teach me how to please him. I rarely listened since I really didn't want to do it. In fact, I hated it.

After I left him, for the benefit of the daughter he gave me, the one good thing that came from that piece of...nevermind, it took a long time to get over him. When I met my current boyfriend and love of my life, I thought I was totally fine, over my ex and all the resulting baggage. Boy, was I wrong. I wanted to go down on him because I knew he was asorally fixated as I am. However, I found that that was more difficult than I thought it would be. Whenever I got near his cock, I would be repulsed; I'd get scared, nervous, anxious and my heart would race and not in the way it's supposed to in the bedroom. I tried numerous times but even when I could get down there, forcibly as it was, I could last maybe a minute at most. It got really frustrating for both of us, though I think more so for me since I'd explained everything to him.

Then he was deployed for a year. When he came back, we moved in together and we couldn't be happier. Still, I had the same problem, though it was admittedly easier (probably due to more time to get over shit). He's been home two months (yep, just two months) and he says I'm getting much better, very quickly. He's enjoying it much more and what's more, so am I.

Your article gave me more tips on how to improve upon what I already know. I greatly appretiate this in and of itself. However, what I want to thank you follows. I still have a huge issue with semen. I gag at the taste of pre-cum and he doesn't even taste bad. I think it's just the psychological damage. Last night I told him to just hold my head there and cum down my throat since that's what he really wants to do. He said no because he didn't want me to throw up on him. We had a little laugh and continued on with our sexcapades. Earlier today I told him that at some point today, I wouldn't tell him when, I was going to give him head just because I want to. After reading your article, I realize that I can't rely on him to hold me down to get me past my fears. I have to take the bull by the horn myself first so that he knows that I'm truely ok and can act out his fantasy sans puke. I don't really know what it was in the article that got me to that realization, truth be told this comment was going to be a lot shorter and different but I realized that while I was writing to you.

For all that and the tips, I'd truely like to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Keep writing. Seeing that this was written a long time ago, I hope that you see this comment, I really do, because I really want you to know how thankful I am and how thankful he's bound to be lagter tonight.

This is something I rarely did in my younger days, and now that I am older I really enjoy it now. My husband of twenty years lets me know how great giving him head has become for both of us. Major turn on to do this for him, and as you stated there is always something to learn or try new!

You have managed to explain this very well and with a good sense of humor.

Love your article first off! Thank you :D

In vids they show women spitting on their cocks a lot....I understand the benefits of getting their cock wet, yes very wet but I find spitting to be quite well "unlady like" for lack of a better word/term. So my question is do men find that sexy?.....to see a woman spitting on their cock? Or is getting it very wet with my mouth and drool just as good?

Thanks for your help! ;)

Good article, entertaining to read :-) i havent read all the comments so i apologise if its been mentioned, but i like to totally blow my husbands mind with an icy bj. (On special occasions like bdays) have you tried this? Using ice cubes gently rubbing up and down the shaft as you give head makes him harder for longer and the result is a fantastic orgasim at the finale! Apparently the cold vs warm sensations are interesting too :-)

I feel so ashamed of my past blowjobs now. I had no idea about most of this, and quite frankly, I'm mad that the guys I've been with have never given me any pointers!

SO THANK YOU, SIR.

Next time I blow a guy, shit's getting real

How would you learn to deep throat?

Never been the greatest fan of giving bj's......but have recently discovered I was seriously mistaken. Have a new man in my life, who at 45 has never had a bj, and he and I have discovered the joys of together. I am loving his cock....it is amazing(I even like to swallow......shocker for me). Can't wait to do it again with your very useful tips and advise. Thx a mill!

Such great advice - even just great to know I've been sort of on the right track, but now I've got a few new tricks up my sleeve. Thank you so much!

Ps a how to talk dirty WOULD be excellent. My partner loves it but I feel like I'm a bit too repetitive...

THANK YOU! I'm pretty shy about how inexperienced i am and this helped me feel less wierd and more excited. thank you for your humor and your tips. your writing style is delightful! hey, id make you a italian dinner! ;)

So the first guy I was with I had heard about the perineum and knew the location and tried to massage it on him but he freaked out I guess it was too close to his butt. I dont know. But this has made me leery of trying it on another guy. I'll be honest. I love giving blowjobs so would it be best to try licking the area first to see if he is okay with it before trying to massage it with my finger. Maybe my ex was just weird about this but I am genuinely curious since it is the only part of your article I don't have a lot of experience doing.

another thing that you can do is ( if you cfan deep throat) usethe musclesat the back of your throat to massage the head of the cock while you lick his balls other wise get it in as far as you can and got for it if you can lick his balls while sucking him off you'll get a gold star for sure

Wow, that was great! I've been looking SPECIFICALLY for a "BJ How To" written by a man. I want to pleasure a man, so it makes the most sense to learn what a man likes.

What if your nose starts to run?

thanks for the information & how-to tips...very informative & helpful!!

So let me explain my title. I was in a 6 year relationship and my boyfriend and I were very sexual and extremely comfortable and familiar with each other. I loved sucking his dick. It was about 7 inches and gloriously thick. I loved the way I could make him feel. Now that relationship has ended and I am in a new one. Its been a year and we are not very comfortable at all. His dick is about 4 inches and semi-thick. But he's not a bad partner sexually. His size doesn't bother me. He wo.t do any oral on me but I try with him. My last boyfriend loved it when i gave him head. He always wanted it and always praised my "skills". New boyfriend hates it even though I'm doing a lot of the things you mentioned.

What I want to know is if there is a difference in areas of sensitivity and/or techniques I should use on a smaller dick.

This was detailed and VERY helpful! I can't wait to try out some of these new tips and tricks. Thanks so much for writing this for all of us :)

Loved it! I already knew all of it, but I loved it anyway! I hope BJs all over the world because of this.

Although to each their own with anus play, spread the word on the do's and don'ts and improve the goodwill of man. :)

well, THANK YOU so much, I don't really have experience in this task, so atleast now I know what to do and what not to do and I'm looking forward to try what I just learned ;) again: thank u!