All Comments on 'Can't Get Used To Losing Her...'

Its pretty common that marriages break when a child is lost , unless there is more than one. This was really sad, it was a shame he didn't talk to her and find out what she had to say it ruined the story that didn't happen. Also her commiting suicide or dieing of the cancer leaves the ending in a bad place.

Stupid; no testing. What good comes out of being so misinformed, or underinformed?

Ex-wife for a amazing daughter is a great trade.

Hard when you can't communicate

Good trade.

Pro-tip: She's not his daughter.

Utterly depressing.

I understand. Came home from a god forsaken hell hole in 1969 to find the love of my life and little daughter gone. Thanks to the internet found her in 2013. My daughter had died in 1992, but i had 2 grandchildren that didn't know me or want to know me. I don't know today if the cunt is alive now or not. Remindes me of her. Hate is very easy to live with.

Deceitful bitch to the lasr.

Sucked

Well, at least the bitch died...

She never gave an explanation why she left him. In the sixties divorce was not that prevalent or easy, so she must have had some compelling reason to leave Brian. And, Brian never *insisted* on knowing "WHY!?!?"

As others had noted, a dull story. Not bad, but, dull. 3 stars.

too depressing and he wimped out. Back then a blood test was not a real decent paternity test. Don't know if he would want that done right now in modern times. She walked out, finds out she is diving, and passes off the kid to make certain it had a future as all her lovers don't want or need a kid. Good for her.

I would have told my parents if you believe her and want her then you raise the kid. And I would have left for good. They are divorced! It is only early 60's so he can easily disappear as no social media or internet or DNA. Just go away!

While a nice, but sad little story, it was kind of dull. It needed some conflict/drama, His parents betray Brian by having the ex there without warning and that is, for the most part hunky-dory? Dull story.

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Brian should have just said 'NO'. This kid is your problem Belle, you deal with it without me. If she tells him she needs him to take care of Katy after she dies, he tells her to put Katy up for adoption. She deserted him, at a time of great sorrow, (death of their son), and now she wants his help? NO!!!! His parents may want to take the kid in, but, at their age are they capable? Let her die worried about Katy's life will be like without Belle.

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Pasqual

decent story, sort of, but it had nothing to do with the Kennedy assassination other than to cast a somber hue over the story.

Can’t really blame Belle. She made sure that her daughter was taken care of before she left.

Not even remotely his kid .

The whore got rejected by her lover/lovers whom she divorced her loving husband for after she fell pregnant THEN wants to force her bastard on her long suffering wimp of an ex husband ?

Not just no

But HELL no

Pathetic wimp .

abo blood test been around a while. story like life. many times unanswered. LOVE slap hapy papy #9

Now I'm thinking the daughter is his. Think about that! She kept them apart for 4 years based on what grievance? That woman is not likable.

Second read.

Etchiboy put me right on my earlier comment.

He has my thanks for that.

DNA tests were just a dream back then.

Silly of me not seeing that.

If bloodtype, eye color and facial signs

didn't clash with our guy,

he had no way of knowing if he was the father.

Words of a bitch changed nothing.

She wasn't trustworthy.

And before we judge the parents too harshly,

we must remember it was the time

where "Father knows best".

These parents were like so many others at that time.

Bad parents.

This was a dark story.

But powerful and captivating too.

So to corret my former error,

I change my four stars to five.

They're divorced at the start of the story. Other than his Mother and Father, there is no loving wife in this story. Both of them were thoroughly unlikable people. He can't move on and she disappears with his child for years and then reappears ONLY because she knows the kid needs at least one parent. Can you say "fucked up"? I had no sympathy for Belle. She was a horrible, self centered bitch. That poor kid will never be right. This belongs in non-erotic. Or "Sad sack shit". Not the type of story I want to read.

Too many holes. 2 stars only for the effort.

Sorry, but I am out. Mic drop, changed jobs, lived under a bridge. Fuck the lot of them.

She leaves. She moves on, despite having a child that is apparently his. Then she doesn't write him, doesn't contact him to let him know he has a child and that she's dying. She just shows up, having gotten the idiotic co-operation of his parents to just spring the ex and the child on him as a surprise instead of being straightforward and telling him.

Even after he's so upset, his father says the girl is his but nobody tells him the ex has cancer.

I can't imagine why he'd want to have anything to do with the ex or with his parents. That sort of behavior is almost unimagineable. Why can't these characters just come out with the truth?

The story was presented in a very stilted, retroactive manner. Every interaction that was at all interesting happened off stage, giving us nothing but Brian's stunned emotional reaction to read about. Belle and Brian's father were incredibly selfish, ugly people; completely unlikable. No explanations were given to this man in order to prepare him for what was happening to him, yet everyone around him put pressure on him to act. His father wanted him to man up, his mother wanted him to help her keep peace in the family, his disgusting ex wanted him to get to know the child she'd kept secret from him for years... hell, even his grandmother pressured him to visit more often. And Gailene wanted a raise!

The absolute worst part of this was definitely Belle's repulsive selfishness. She abandons him after they lose their son then bears his daughter but never tells him they have a child. Let's face it, had she been with another man when she found out she had cancer Brian NEVER would have found out he had a child. This selfish cunt wouldn't have given him the time of day, she would have just left Katy with whatever guy she'd trolled up. She doesn't even warn him that she's sick so he can prepare to become a single father properly. This is one thoroughly fucked up bitch.

All in all I can't find much to like about this story. The characterizations are realistic and the situation is well portrayed but there's nothing redeeming or entertaining about it. In the end all reading this story left me with was a sense of frustration. Brian was cheated of his marriage, his son, and the first years of his daughter's childhood. We, the readers, were cheated of reading all the most interesting parts of the drama and left with nothing but questions that will never be answered and a deep sense of dissatisfaction.

Another soul fucked by the fickled finger of fate. Great writing, depressing as hell.

Like the story much more the second time through. Still can't get a grasp on Belle's actions though.

As they say, no DNA back then, no GPS, no voice-activated recording devices, just words and actions. He was a good and decent man and the story was inspiring. Also, I don't believe for a minute the child is his.

I gave it 5 stars because the guy was right. DNA tests weren't available back then and blood tests could in many circumstances only eliminate some parents based on blood type. Good story but I don't understand why everyone was so evasive.

So yes, he had never heard of a DNA test.

Holy crap, all sorts of clues this was the early ‘60s: Kennedy, presidential funeral, Johnson, Ladybird Johnson, the Edsel, the date November 1963. I can see missing one clue, but at least 6 ???

The test would have been by blood-typing. Not necessarily proof OF paternity, but can definitely prove proof of NOT paternity.

Fabulous and sad story. 5-stars (though I accidentally hit 4 and can’t change it).

That guy was the dumbest mother fucker on the planet

I really liked this story.

Would've given it full rating,

if he had checked if she was his daughter.

Why should he believe the ex?

Even less reason believing her

since she was dying and just looking

for someone to raise her child.

The guy had never heard of a DNA test?

Difficult to believe that.

So 4 out of 5 from me.

Very nicely told. I liked how you held the last card back to shift the story away from wife, mom & dad in the past to Katy in the future. The moment when he has to decide what matters, become a father or go, was perfect. 5*

We need her story to get a better idea on what really happened:

1. He says his father is an asshole, but I don't see any hint of it. Maybe he is a bit rough around the edges and not giving him enough space to come to the conclusion the father wanted, which was him acknowledging and accepting responsibility for his son, but let's remember this is a man that was probably raised during the Great Depression. In my view he would have been an asshole if he turned his back on his granddaughter and he did exactly the opposite.

2. We don't know why Belle left him. I can't imagine losing a child and I can imagine the parent that loses a child just shuts down and wants to be away from everything that reminds you of that lost child. People go through a divorce and want to move to a different town, away from people that knew them both and start completely fresh. That could be one possibility why Belle did it. Another could be she somehow blamed her husband for Billy's death. Maybe she blamed herself for not being able to protect the child. We have no clue why she left. We only have the perspective of the hurt man who obviously going to have a biased opinion.

3. Her not letting him know about his having a daughter was the only shitty thing I can see. We don't know why she wanted a divorce and to leave, but adults get to make that decision. We all get the chance for a do-over, for whatever reason, even if it's a bad one. But since we don't know why she left we don't know if she didn't tell her husband about the child because she wanted to protect the new one. She may have had a valid reason to think he had something to do with the child's death or even a completely illogical reason, but again we have no clue because the author only gives us his perspective.

Very sad story. I commend any parents that are able to even take steps forward and not just compeletely crumble. I think of myself as a very positive person and nothing could get me down, but I cannot imagine losing a child. I can easily imagine completely either shutting down or running away from everything that reminds me of the child to even have a chance to survive.

and one hopes he has a huge umbrella. TK U MLJ LV NV

Depressing, dark, nothing redeeming about the majority of the characters. The only ones I didn't hate and had even some redeeming qualities were protagonist (can you blame him?), his mom (mostly, anyway...), the grandmother Gailene and the innocent Katy

Fuck Belle and fuck his father. So she only came back because she was dying? I don't wish death on anyone, but what a selfish bitch. All this 'I realized that I was wrong' bullshit was just that - bullshit. Five years she was out there, with a kid that may or may not be his (get a fucking DNA test!) and was clearly moving on, fucking around. What was he doing? And after ALL of that, he STILL can't get over her? Very few people live like that. 'True romance' my ass! Most people can and do move on with their lives, because guess what? It's the natural thng to do! Why is he wasting his life away over a woman who fucked him over? If Katy's his daughter, great, raise her. But you CAN find someone else who you could love just as much (hopefully better) than a two-bit tramp!

... was the father having an affair with his ex-daughter-in-law? That's the only rational basis I can see for him being such an asshole about the situation, not giving his son a heads-up, and being so touchy-feely with the ex-wife.

Assuming I take what the wife says at face value, I'm not sure how much I blame her for the divorce. A child's death can shatter a marriage, without anyone being at fault. It can take years of grieving to get over it, and everyone grieves in a different way, which can pull the husband and wife in different directions. Unlike similar situations (e.g., the death of a spouse's parent), *both* of them are grieving, so it's hard for either of them to be the rock for the other.

(And that she had sex with other people after the divorce? Who cares, they're divorced, and she's only back in his life for the kid, not because she's trying to get back together.)

... but I don't know if I believe her: The "five years" number seems to be from the divorce, and the description of what happened pre-divorce doesn't really sound like there was a lot of sex going on during that process. (OTOH, the husband at least seems to think that it's *plausible* for him to be the father, so maybe that's just sloppy writing.)

But even if I don't blame her about the divorce, hiding a child from him is unforgivable, even in normal circumstances. In the context of someone whose life fell apart because his first child died? I don't think there's a hell hot enough for what she deserves.

Another good one from shuttlepilot. I, too, wonder if she would have come back if not for the cancer. She was gone for five years with no contact at all. He should deny his father a relationship with the granddaughter, his disloyalty was unforgivable. Belle was a ciward, her way was to run from everything. She did it one final time.

I'm okay when family tries, gently, to help. A$$holes like his Father showing up at his office trying to force his compliance make me sick. That Belle killed herself is sad, and maybe selfish. Knowing that if she hadn't gotten sick she would have probably NEVER told him about his daughter is just awful.

You got it right the first time.

I hate stories like this where the family is disloyal to the husband.

""Now see what you've done?" my father furiously said, reaching for Katy and taking her into his lap."

Come on, seriously?! The bitch of a wife just abandoned him and refused to have any more contact, so this is the first time they've got together to talk... and these idiots don't expect the husband to be furious at Belle? Why the hell would you bring a child along to that kind of explosive situation?

Belle had no contact with him for years and basically admitted to fucking other guys... but she was pregnant with his child when she left! Why the hell didn't she let him know? She stole four years of being a father to that little girl (if she was actually his daughter). His parents should have been furious that Belle kept their granddaughter away from them for four years as well...

Not only that but Belle never once apologises for the terrible way she treated him, then just tops herself and dumps responsibility for Katy in his lap. What an unbelievably selfish cunt.

When I gave it 3, I was looking for "Burn the Bitch".

Six months have passed, and I realized I had under appreciated this story.

It should have been a 5. I'm sorry

A tragedy so well written. Thank you for sharing with us.

Did you (A) Have someone piss down your back and then say OH LOOK IT'S RAININ

(B) Someone steal your favorite teddie only to find women wear teddies now (C) Got caught flogging yourself and you had them take that away from You ! Because this story is wrong wrong wrong! As punishment you have to watch 24 hrs straight of Jery Springer Show JERRY, JERRY, JERRY We'll be watching You ★★☆ WOOF!

I know that feeling of abandonment. It was 26 yrs ago. Life went on and things did get better but nothing has ever either filled or closed that hole.

Your writing style is economical and assumes your readers are intelligent. Thank you! This story may be a bit too real for some, but life is often bittersweet. Human emotions are complicated and nonlinear. There is a large area of gray between the black and white borders. First time I've read this but it's one of the best. I remember Nov 22, 1963. This year went by without a mention of that day. Sad.

She leaves him for no really reason since she knows that she is carrying his child. Screws around then she had the audacity five years later to drop the kid back on him because she had cancer. What a horrible mother she was. She was such a wimp that she took the easy way out of life!

I have not changed my mind that this sad tale deserves a five and I agree with both Annoys that posted comments on 8/30/16.

I have not changed my mind that this sad tale deserves a five and imager with both Annoys that posted comments on 8/30/16.

She brought her son to my house. She told me it was my son. She took him back home to her husband. A few weeks later she died. Another man raised my son to adulthood. And I am left asking Why?

My sentiments are the same as Anonymous of 8/30/16.

Didn't his parents know the ex wife had cancer? What did he have to lose by talking to her? Just a bunch of childish lack of or no communication, with no point to the breakup nor the return. A vehicle to create emotion and pathos, but very clumsily steered.

Keep trying, but do better.

breast cancer lololololollol hope the kid gets it and dies

wimpy shit.

Pretty good period piece from a painful time in American history that the writer uses as an allegory for what his narrator is going through. Not every couple that loses a young child splits up, but they must be of strong character to get through it and stay together. With this couple, and their obvious lack of communication with each other, that would have been impossible. As for Anonymous of 7/27/16, I think the implication at the end was that she committed suicide because she couldn't live with the pain of her breast cancer. All in all, a bit of a downer, but well-written and thought-provoking.

Do the research, jackasses!! When a young child dies, the psychologists and psychiatrists tell us, the husband and wife are going to break up! Why?? None of the docs know for sure! Remember "Physician" as a profession is about 4000 years old. But it wasn't until the middle of the 19th century that statistically, the doc was going to actually HELP the patient. Psychiatry as a profesion is only about 150 years old. (Sigmund Freud). They're still not much better than witch doctors; so they can tell you husband and wife are very likely to split after the death of a young child, but they can't explain exactly why.

Do you understand how your computer takes an on/off signal, (actually several quintillion of on/off signals in a fraction of a second) and turns that into what you see on your computer monitor? No? But you accept it, right? And believe what you see on the screen? Well, accept the fact that the mental health professionals tell us when husband and wife have a young child who dies, the couple are most likely going to break up, even if they can't fully explain why.

Nothing in the story said the wife was cheating. The dates of split and new child's birth are not spelled out clearly. Four year old child could be four years and fifty-one weeks old. Wife's gestation could have been 37 weeks or 42 weeks, which are the usual minimum and maximum gestation periods. Husband clearly could have fathered Katy.

Don't jump to conclusions, you misogynistic, knuckle dragging sixth-cenury A.D. bums.

the blood line will triumph, TK U MLJ LV NV

In the 60s, breast cancer would not have been a "one day she was just dead" thing.

As hell. Wished I hadn't read it.

my god that was so sad. And so frustrating! We have no answers and a stack of questions. Belle was such a selfish person, I'm having trouble even understanding her at all. Brian, so understandably hurt and scarred that he couldn't get through the pain to find the answered he needed. His family is fucked up too, I don't think I would ever be able to have a relationship with people like that.

I wish this story would continue so that we at least know why she did what she did.

I wish I had found it earlier. Well written and well conceived.

Thank you!

Your minimalist style was idealy suited to this sad little tale. Very nicely executed.

Don't know her and she is only here because you are dying. Take her with you she is nothing to me.

Reread the story fuc wad.....bill

It's life, make it a 5 and do the best you can...

the paternity of the child would be impossible to prove in 1963, blood test just prove that it is possible or not, compatibility of blood types and all. However, the way the father, mother and grandmother are acting proves that something is amiss in this situation. I would say that the probability of his father being the sperm donor is high. Would explain why she left so abruptly, why she came back and why the sanctimonious bastard was in the son's ass about the girl's paternity. One thing I can agree with the other commenters on is that bed sores would be in the dad's future and the cheapest, most neglectful nursing home I could find would house both the parents.

Good riddance.

that is not the time to ask for repentance. TK U MLJ LV NV

He stopped loving her today.

Messed up time line and a messed up family.

I think you treated the bitch exactly how she deserved to be treated.. I would have lost no sleep. Nor would I attend the funeral.

do peoples perspective change and that which they gave up and gave away begin to seek it back, TK U MLJ LV NV

Why is this story on this site?.

There are plenty of other sites that this would be appropriately placed on.

is there something confusing about the name literotica.

A real sad tale of lost love, lost time, lost childhood with a father !

I don't like a lot of characters in LW , but it's a good story. I think too often people take it out on the author unless the story turns out the way they want.

... Personally, I think her deathbed note was very revealing. Belle referred to Katy as her little girl. Remember, back in the dark ages, before DNA testing, it was Mama's baby and Daddy's maybe.

Did she want him back in her life, or did she come back only because she had cancer and needed someone to care for her daughter?

Dude you got fucked over by a cheating skank. Your parent are ace number one dumb asses. Skank wife dead, time line don`t add up. You need to stick a shoe up you old mans ass. Now the kid is yours fool. Kennedy`s like lead.

The story is set up as cheating wife abandons husband and disappears for 5 years.

Cheating wife returns and is greeted with unqualified rapture by his family. Loving family is angry at him because hubby does not greet return of cheating wife happily and family does not seem to be at all understanding of his distress. Child is rapturously accepted as his by loving family without question. In 1963, being blonde like dad and even having the same blood type means nothing. Proof of paternity is zero. So far the most reasonable action by ex-hubby is to declare a curse on all your houses and have nothing to do with bitch ex-wife, her child of questionable paternity, and his incredibly stupidly besotted parents. Oops sprinkle fairy dust and he starts to treat child as his. Oops, wife dies of cancer induced suicide and all is clear. The reason the author deserves some break is that the story is somewhat different and if the knowledge of the cancer is flipped to the beginning third of the story rather than the end, a pretty good story could exist. As written, I would put hubby's loving family in the cheapest nursing home available and never visit.

Gave the story a five cause it was worth it. Didn't like it much, but the story was well worth reading.

Dude, you need serious help.

Wow. Glad I'm not related to you. You would put your parents in a nursing home and throw away the key? There are a lot of things that my parents do that i don't agree with, but there is nothing that they could do for me to completely cut them out of my life. Plus, they weren't chosing the cheating wife over their own son. She was dying. They were trying to make sure that their innocent grandchild, who never asked to be put in this situation, was taken care of after the mom died. Some people may want to read more into the story than what the author put there and say that the kid wasn't his, but if that were an important part of the story then the author would have mentioned it. Since he did not, we have to judge the situation by what is actually written down. In this story, the kid is his. So, if your anger issues would have you be unforgiving to a dying person, locking up your parents and never speaking to them again, and throwing away an innocent child that is yours, then you have a very lonely and bitter life ahead of you. Do you think you may need to sit down and talk to someone for an hour?

Fuck all this guilt shit. She made her bed; she can lay in it.

And if mommy and daddy can't understand that then they can go fuck themselves too.

She is dying she gets a cake walk, a free-pass, oh yes she is the victim, I'd kick the shit out of the dad and tell "mom" to fuck off, and then she kills her self as in running off again, and leaves a note, typical NA woman, if i cant have it all, im done (hence the divorce rate), dying is between you and god, but fuck you if you think it gives you a free pass to be a slut and then come back with a bastard child and say oops, watch the bastard for me will you (now that i am dying pity me) ....it might be yours, so its boarding school for you bastard child..dont call me, ill call you(ps it will just crush his parents..4 years like they didnt know...hmmmm, kick that dad of his in the balls again hahaha)

because of all the questions-was she his? did the parents know about the illness? etc..

Still enjoyed the tale

a death of a child makes parents go crazy. some divorce, others hurt them self.

blame either spoken or not is the minds of ever one. the writer never made it

clear what was going on. half a tale.

Only a fucking idiot can not see that. He lets his horrible parents shit all over him and they loved the Cunt and not their son. (I would have them put in a cut rate nursing home locked the door threw away the key and never looked back) and He lets his cunt x-wife use him by dumping her daughter off on him when any one who can do math knows its not his. She left 5 years ago and the kid is just 4. Pregnancies do not take 12 months and it is obvious that she was already cheating on him. More then likely with his scumbag dad. He doesn't even ask many questions get a blood test done at the least he just believes what the Cunt tells him. He doesn't standup for himself he just bends over and asks to have another. That equals no balls Loser! Now if he did have the blood test done and made the Cunt prove it was his and making her take him to court to provide it, then he should take the kid. But he never had the balls to standup to the Cunt. He should have never went to his horrible parents house in the first place. But no balls cowards take the abuse.

This one just seemed fragmented with no real clear direction. I'm a fan of your writing but this one just didn't do it for me 4 stars

I enjoyed ready your story.

Good stories are not written... they are rewritten.

You have something here, it has the potential to be transformed into a great story. Others have pointed out some flaws (weak characterization, plot holes etc) and bear in mind that stories are not real life, realism is not enough. You have to build towards a climax, have a resolution, explain everything in the end for the reader. Reality may not provide all the answers, it may not bring closure. However in storytelling, you have to give something to your readers. Too many unanswered questions, too many unexplicable actions makes the story unconvincing.

The whole setup by his parents and their attitude in general, his ex-wife's lack of a serious attempt to communicate even though she came back for a purpose, the emotional coldness the story radiates, are only a few things that need to be addressed.

Thanks for sharping.

5*

And please do ignore Splitlickers comments. He's one of the more retarded individuals on this site. littlecordelera likes him though, despite all his "shortcummings".

Excellent story but very dark. It is clearly a 5*.

Thank you

Too many holes in this story. 2*

why was this story in LW?

we all have a melting point. TK U MLJ LV NV

But a little darker than I expected

You left a lot of loose strings flapping around until the last.

Belle obviously did not want him back, but knew she would die of cancer and also knew the only way to protect her daughter was get her back to her dad in plenty of time to have them begin a relationship.

That tied all the loose string for me and made the story of good impact. I gave you 5* because you controlled the information so well, and you closed the doors of doubt well to anyone who was reading closely.

Good job. Thanks for writing this.

-Regards,

Pultoy.

Good the whore died, she deserved for what she did to her husband. But I would make damn sure the daughter was mine before raising her

I had a friend who worked with me who's daughter was killed in an auto accident that the mother was driving the car, As hard as they tried and all the help there was back in the late 70's They could not get over it and divorced with in two years. such a loss to over come .