All Comments on 'The Good Therapist'

A very fine piece of writing. Full of hope and healing. Thanks for sharing your story.

Thanks for sharing your story!

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I like this, i probably would have wanted to find out why she had her tubes tied as that seemed to be the first major disruption, obviously just like in real life you can live on without knowing everything ;))

Very touching.

It's perfectly normal to have questions.

But paradoxically, I learned that we often have the answers to our questions. Only, they are not easily accessible.

I also strongly believe in personal responsibility. So yes, we can influence or guide choices and decisions through words, an attitude, a behavior, but in the end, choices and decisions (good or bad) are all personal.

On the other hand, I have a question or else I did not understand the scene well.

Your wife has a blood alcohol problem and at her request, you leave her in a bar, alone with people you don't know?

In a bar ?

only?

An alcoholic?

And you leave without checking, without monitoring?

There, I really did not understand.

Wow! Really bared your soul. Excellent writing. 5 stars.

This story is a lot more honest than the BTB and RAAC. Great job.

5 BIG ONES!

Very well written. Thanks for sharing your story.

Very good. Although as someone who has alcoholics in my family, after attending Al-ANON the MC should have known better than to have a beer together at the crab shack. Even one beer in unacceptable. An alcoholic cannot have even that. In order to support that person's sobriety, you also have to abstain. Unless you are also an alcoholic, that should not be a big challenge.

Dealing with a crazy spouse (and alcoholics are a species of crazy) is horrible.

Thanks for sharing this piece of reality with us.

A powerful, well written story. Congratulations on finding your way back from a very dark place.

Not a fun read for sure.. 5 stars an too many memories. Opioid addiction may even be worse and the guilt of thinking you are an "enabler". TY for the story I will never be able to write mine.

5* Thank you for sharing this

That's a tough one. Can't say I really liked it because it is very dark but hope it is therapeutic.

Alcoholism ruins so many lifes it is scary.

Would it be crass if I said 'better you than me'? Okay, I wont say it. I do find it reassuring that you have put it behind you and are moving on. Having family that stands with you is not only a comfort, it can be a life saver. Glad things are working out for you and thanks for sharing your story.

Dark. But he has moved on, so he is better. Both the adulterers were confirmed alcoholics. Everything they did, and that includes infidelity happened through the haze of alcoholic stupor.

And that's why I am unable to hate them outright.

Right on target. Very similar story. Same feelings in the end I just walked away. Karma is a bitch and and did all the dirty work.

Author’s name checks out.

"Sometimes the best revenge is just to walk away."

“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could’ve, would’ve happened… or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on.”

I never did get answers to many of the questions that drove me to seek a therapist, questions like "Why?"

Why do People cheat? The answer you'll never get from your therapist.....People cheat because they can!.

And, believe it or not, sometimes it passes and you both heal up. But, even then, the "Why" is never resolved and you just have to let it pass.

Dammm....

If I ever had to face the same circumstance, I would like to think this is how I would handle it. Well done sir.

Wow, what pain. Best to walk with your head held high, knowing you were the far better person. Regardless of how you try, you can't stop some people form destructive behavior. Powerful and very Sad.

The real guilty Party in these betrayal is not the man. He's meerly is a scum bag opportunest.

The woman made the choice and is totally to blame. Forget the man, he's not worth the effort.

Several transgressions is beyond forgiveness, or future trust.

Get a lawyer, punch the election seat and rebuilt your life elsewhere.

Do listen to her "reasons" or other BS.

Closure is idiotic and is a fictional self delusion. She did it. That's enough all by itself. Period.

Good narrative, but just lacked any real emotional outcome at the end

It felt real. I understand intimately the need people have to ask WHY. Unfortunately, I think the answer is rarely satisfying, usually obscure and ill-defined, and ultimately meaningless. The answer, all too often begins with the word “because” which is almost invariably an excuse for a lack of moral self-worth. It was refreshing that he did not need to ask that elusive question. She did and that was all the reason required to close the book. A cheating spouse is not a recipe that requires introspection.

Yeah, this is real. I could feel the pain. Thanks for sharing, hope this helped you move forward. It sucks that there are such selfish damaged people out there.

Another masterpiece from the master. I agree with AnotherChapter's comment. It's natural to ask "Why" because of our innate need to try and make sense of something that doesn't make sense but ultimately it's an exercise in futility because the question can never be satisfactorily answered and it doesn't really matter anyway.

I suspect this is a very realistic account of how things really are with a good therapist. He's right i think about not wanting to know anything about the lover. If he did then he would give power to that person because he'd want to do something to them. I can understand revenge for being wronged but ultimately it usually hurts the person doing it to. An ancient saying goes " Before setting out for vengeance first dig two graves" one of them is for yourself because some part of you dies if you exact personal revenge. Again another excellent story well worth top ratings. BardnotBard

Very well written! Thank you. 5 BIG ASS FUCKING HUGE FLAMING NOVA STARS.

Excellent story. Highly realistic. Her getting her tube tied after a planned surgical procedure to check her reproductive health is big, red flag. Not saying she was cheating then, but that she has psych issues at the very least. Alcoholism is rough, but then compound that with a FWB at one of the AA meetings and you get a forest fire. She was never going to be happy. She though that a secret affair with a drunk, alcoholic maintenence man in an apartment complex was going to spice up her life and make her happy. Anyways the MC survived. She was clearly a mentally disturbed person with addiction problems (Sean was another addiction). While I like the MC, he was a soft touch and how he let her jsut get away with ditching him in the restaurant and NOT letting him say hello, and came back six hours later is just beyond. At that point she knew she could get away with anything. Still he is string enough to survive. The darker side of me woukd have maybe preferred something more than her relationship with Sean imploding. Maybe something more like a nasty car accident where Sean was drunk and they have some real physical and legal problems. But meh the ending was OK. 5 stars.