All Comments on 'Understanding The Penis Size Issue'

Thank you for writing this, my penis is an inch or two flacid and about 4 1/2 erect, your words made absolute sense and made me feel better. Size does matter to men, mentally especially.

SOME men worry. Others don't.

Concerning the last section, women have more sex than men because men will fuck anything with a pulse, which in turn doesn't really prove the idea that men would "still be in the running" just because women tend to have more sex, more often. We as men will literally let our standards plunge into the Earth's core if it means we'll get to have sex. Women don't have to settle as hard, they just need to bide their time until they find someone satisfactory enough.

The rest of the writing could've been condensed into a small portion that said "Size does matter depending on the situation but you'll more often than not be in situations where it matters. The situations where it matters will be the ones you wish you were in and got to experience and enjoy, tough luck if you can't live up to the task at hand". Seems like much of this post was just beating around the bush in order to avoid explicitly saying what everyone already knows to be true.

Small penis? Read this!

I feel sad after reading this. I knew men were overly concerned, (I think),`with penis size sexually. I didn't realize how much they have taken this to heart. It seems so ridiculous that in non-sexual, or non-nudist situations men, are mentally comparing themselves to larger or smaller endowed men, and actually basing their self-worth on it.

Guys, I just don't get it. Shift your focus as a lover away from your penis as your only erogenous zone to include your entire body. Or shift your focus, no matter what your size, to interacting with her more. For example, I've seen porn where the guy is getting sucked off. He just stands there, sometimes thrusting, but it's as if the rest of his body is frozen. Touch her hair, or face. Tell her how much you enjoy it. Say her name. Play with your nipples, and run your hands over your own body.

In terms of actual fucking yes some women like a bigger penis. So what? If she's into size, get a hollow dildo. I don't know what they are called. You put it over your cock and fuck your partner with it on.

I can't speak about swinger or nudists bc I've never been to any of those events. However, most women won't see your dick until She Has Already Decided To Have Sex With You. Get it? Your penis size wasn't a factor.

I heard a saying years ago. "If women don't find you handsome, they better find you handy." So technique-wise, set yourself up for success. Don't try to hit her cervix, (which is fucking painful, btw), in the missionionary position. If she's on top, the penetration feels deeper bc of gravity.

Focus elsewhere. Learn how to give her good head.

Tamp down your impatience. While a lot of guys can cum in minutes, a lot of women can't. Assume a sex session will take at least an hour. It may not, but that expectation reduces her worry about taking too long to orgasm. You want to be with her, right? What's the rush? You're no longer 14, jerking off in the bathroom, trying to cum before anyone notices how long you've been gone.

Be a considerate person in bed. Check in with her. In the moment is probaly better bc no one has been raised to talk about what gets them off, even in bed. READ her body. If she's not moving, and trying to shift your hand elsewhere, follow her lead, and change it up. Think of every touch as a question. Does this feel ok, ho hum, or really good?

If either of you want to be on the receptive end of anal, then like the author noted, a smaller, or thinner penis is better. If you want it, shop for dildos, and tell her what you like. If she wants it, go slow, as in multiple stretching before anything penis-like; use globs and globs of lube; enema and careful eating before; and touch other parts of her body even while focusing on the anus.

Oh, yeah...have a real talk before you even think of putting your dick in her mouth after it's been in her ass. I don't know who decided that was a thing, but it is seriously unsanitary, and may pose health risks. You need to ask if she's into it. The same with anything, penis, toys, fingers. If it's been in the ass, it does not go into the vagina until it's been washed. Why? Vag infections and bacterial transfer.

And for heaven's sake connect with her verbally. Swingers notwithstanding, most, a lot of women want to know that you are in bed with her, and want to be with Her specifically. An attitude of gratitude and appreciation will get you lots of blow jobs and butt sex, (fingers work too), in comparison acting like she's a talking fleshlight.

What else? Alt sex environments can be more adventurous, and less penis focused than others. So if you have a Dominant streak and a small penis, they are not mutally exclusive. If you can understand what a particular submissive woman wants, you can have her almost cumming before the clothes come off. Or they never come off.

If going that route, please do your homework. Being a Dominant is not an excuse to be an asshole. Learn, and build your skills. Practice. Be respectful to submissive women. Until she has agreed to play with you she is A submissive woman, not Your submissive woman. Say hello like a normal person. She hasn't agreed, and you have no right to greet her with "Hey Slut," "Babygirl," etc within 2 minutes of meeting.

I'm assuming that submissive men with small penises already know how to swim in those waters

Well that's all folks.

Im happy with my penis im about inch anda quarter soft and about four erect. Iv had comments from females like your good especially with your hands or tongue and had im used to bigger ones. I was engaged to a girl who still is now a friend with benefits as we both love public sex and having other guys join in. She is quite open that sex is good between us but she likes the fact that i take her outdoors to get her fucked by other men. She loves big cocks and tells me openly about who has them and that although i fit in the smaller catagory i always make her orgasm. I love when we are having sex and the sparkle in her eye when i expose her to others and they pull out a bigger cock than mine. We have an agreement that i take my cock out and it is replaced by the bigger cock and she will suck on mine. If the guy has similar or smaller she will suck him off while still riding my cock. I am the only guy she feels good and safe doing this with and she loves when i tell her i cant wait to taste her after another guy has came in her cunt or mouth as no other guy does this. She knows i am bisexual and she has played with girls as well and love watching each other with same sex partners. She married the guy with her dream penis but he dosnt give her the excitement i share with her good uninhibited outdoor sex even with my smaller cock.

My cock is 5 inches hard. I have been told it is cute 3 times and small once. Not a very good feeling. I had been married 7 years and knew I wasn't pleasing my wife like she should be. I ask her if she would like to have sex with another guy. At first, she was hesitant but then agreed. We found an older well-endowed married man that's wife had unfortunately let herself go. He has been pleasing my wife and himself a couple times a week for a little over 3 years now. I really enjoy watching them and having sloppy seconds. I know the lifestyle is not for everyone, but for the 3 of us it is great.

Mine is about 6 erect and maybe 5 or so circumference. I was told in the past by girlfriends that I was "big", and it made me feel good. Porn showed me a different story but I wrote it off to camera angles, huge guys with smaller girls, etc. Then my current GF and I went to a swingers resort on a whim, wanted to see what it was about. And BOY did I leave feeling inadequate. Sure there were plenty of guys with small ones, ones that barely poked out soft, etc, but the guys with the big ones got LOTS of attention. I saw my girls' eyes wander to more than a few very large cocks, soft or erect. It's left me with quite a complex, I feel like I've been lied to all my life. I know what "statistics" say about average size but I feel after seeing what I saw that it's a bunch of bullshit designed to make us smaller or average guys feel better. It's total shit. My current GF I love to pieces but I know shes been with (admittedly) 50+ men before me (probably closer to triple digits honestly...), and I'm sure a good number if not most of those men were a lot bigger. She told me about one guy she was with who she liked a lot who was 11" or so long and thick, he had her get on top and she told me she took him no problem and enjoyed it a lot. She told me once when drunk that he's the one guy she regrets letting get away. I put her to the test a few times by buying her larger dildos to play with (it turns me on I admit to watch her use large toys). She's taking 12" long 3" WIDE toys no problem at all, and cums hard. I was fisting her and she shook so hard I thought she was going to pass out. It's all bullshit, women can and DO want larger cocks and only say otherwise to appease us men they want to "be with" (for various reasons), that have small to average ones.

The whole thing is bullshit and for the last week I've been unable to get hard at all or stay hard more than a few minutes because I can't get this shit out of my head. This will probably cost me this relationship because I can no longer get past it. Being at that resort really fucked me in the head hard... My therapist even told me afterwards we never should have gone because only men with above average confidence (or size I guess) should visit those types of places. For those curious it was Hedonism 2 in Jamaica. I will never go back or do anything similar. I had been getting turned on by the idea of swinging with my GF and she has pulled a 180 and confessed many truths to me in the last month that have left me shaken. For instance she always swore she had zero interest in black men, she wasn't attracted to them. I got her to watch interracial porn and saw her get turned on more than I'd ever seen. She told me the other night (again while drunk) that she is frequently fantasizing about being gangbanged/in orgies with black/latino men. What the fuck, where do I go from here???