Anal Orgasms: My Experience

Confessions of a Natural Tantric Yogi:

Some Facts about Non-Ejaculatory Orgasms

I'll start with the take-away, in case you don't feel like reading my whole essay:

Ejaculation is not necessary to experience orgasm. Orgasm and ejaculation are two distinct physiological functions. If you care to go through the body-mind training, you can condition yourself to reach a full sexual climax without ejaculating, whether such orgasms are achieved through anal, prostatic, or penile stimulation.

Done.

I belong to a men's group of eight great guys. Last year, we were sitting around a campfire and (who knows how the conversation led to this) I told the others that I can experience full orgasms without ejaculating. Not one of my bros believed me.

One man said, "If you don't ejaculate, then why call them 'orgasms'?"

I explained, "Because they are complete sexual climaxes. In fact, they usually feel more full-bodied and pleasurable than ejaculatory orgasms."

Another man, a retired physician, said, "I have to agree with the others; if you don't ejaculate, they aren't orgasms."

At that point, I shut up. I could not tell them the kind of stuff I am about to tell you here at Literotica. (My friends and I are close, but not that close.)

I'm going to give you the perspective of a 71-year-old, heterosexual man with a huge libido. And in case this is pertinent (and it probably is): I'm very fit and healthy. I take no meds, period. Never smoked. Never drank. Never took hard drugs. Don't eat sweets. Never been overweight. I enjoy getting high on cannabis about six times a year. I work out daily, swim a mile three times a week, and teach yoga once a week. Also, I'm an experienced meditator. Via meditation, I have often connected with the life-energy that flows throughout the body-mind.

Okay. Let's start with non-ejaculatory orgasms (NEOs) are real orgasms. When I say "orgasms," I don't just mean "sort of like an orgasm"; I mean ACTUAL sexual climaxes. The difference is that when I have an orgasm without ejaculating, I don't lose my highly sexually aroused state or my erection. I want to (and am able to) go on having sex — and more and more NEOs.

I've experienced NEOs ever since I became secure enough in my sexuality to begin pleasuring myself anally with dildos (beginning when I was 40). Through deeply relaxing and opening to the pleasure, I am reliably able to enter an altered state of consciousness in which I orgasm in ongoing waves. Each crest of the wave is a 20-or-30-second orgasm, followed by a trough of about the same length before I build to another climax. These are whole-body orgasms of ego-melting intensity. More than once, I've found myself sobbing in ecstasy from the ongoing pleasure. (I once recorded such an orgasm-wave — it lasted four minutes! — and I posted it on a site that features the sounds of orgasms from anonymous contributors.)

Even when I don't experience a continuous wave or chain of orgasms, I can experience single anal/prostate orgasms that take over my whole body-mind with such power I lose all control to their immensity: I once heard myself hooting like a wild ape as I came! I can relate to the man on an online forum who said that his anal orgasms took him over "like an epileptic fit." But as I found out, he and I are rare cases. Read on.

From the beginning, I've experienced three types of NEO from anal penetration with a dildo:

ANAL SPHINCTER ORGASMS are brought on by rhythmic shallow thrusts of a well-lubricated dildo, entering and exiting the anus and thereby stimulating the outer and inner ring of anal muscles.

PROSTATE GLAND ORGASMS are elicited by deeper thrusts that press the prostate gland ("the P-Spot") through the interior wall of the rectum.

"ORGASM-BUTTON" ORGASMS—I don't know what else to call them!—are brought on by very deep penetration that presses some magic button high up through the anterior wall of the rectum and gives me tremendous climaxes. (This pleasure node can't be the prostate gland, because it's located too far up, higher than the location of the gland.) Based on maps of the energy-body illustrated in yoga manuals, I'm guessing it's a direct stimulation of the sex chakra—an energy center a few inches below the navel. This is the type of orgasm that might end up extending into a long-lasting chain of orgasms. Usually, I stop the party after an hour or so, by intentionally having an ejaculatory orgasm.

I see in forums on this kind of thing, that other men are trying to "train" their nervous systems to have these whole-body orgasms without ejaculating. In this regard, I'm far more lucky than most. Before I even knew there was such a thing as non-ejaculatory multiple orgasms in men, I discovered such orgasms by about the fourth time I ever humped a dildo. I remember thinking, "OMFG! Who knew?" I said to my wife, "Now I understand what gay men get to enjoy from ass-fucking! Wow!" But when I later read online forums, I realized that very few men, straight or gay, were experiencing the kind of fireworks that were going off in me. (If you watch gay porn or pegging porn, you'll see that the men are getting jerked off: they're experiencing "conventional" orgasms, with the anal penetration merely adding to their pleasure while they shoot cum.)

I'm mystified. What is it about my body-mind that makes such NEOs possible, even commonplace?

Not that I've exhaustively researched the web, but in the couple hours I've spent reading such discussion groups, I've encountered only one other man who seems to be at my level of responsiveness: He's the guy who said his anal orgasms overwhelmed him like an epileptic fit, and he wrote of sessions of orgasming again and again for a couple hours and only stopping "when I thought I would have a heart attack." (Incidentally, he also identified himself as straight.)

We all know that the body's most potent sex-organ is the brain, and that erotic arousal and pleasure is more emotional-mental than physical-mechanical. Therefore, anyone who is not sexually aroused by the mere idea of anal sex, is not going to experience intense pleasure from it. Duh. But it's not like gay men are not excited by the notion of ass-fucking, so why aren't they - or the guys in the pegging videos - experiencing non-ejaculatory orgasms the way that I do?

Answer: I haven't a clue. And I don't know how to "train" yourself to have P-spot orgasms. But if you're interested, that's mostly what everybody is yakking about on the forums (try the Aneros forum). Maybe it's because I've been practicing yoga and meditation since my 20s, and as I mentioned above, I can tangibly feel the current of life-force moving through my body when I grow still and tune in. But again, I don't know.

And who knows why we're aroused by the things that turn us on? I remember being turned on by anal eroticism from the start of puberty. It's probably like being innately straight or gay---we're born this way, we don't learn to be ass-sluts.

I've only had one girlfriend, back when I was 28, who was into ass-fucking. It thrilled us both when I licked and fingered and fucked her rosy asshole, and I really miss the anal loveplay we shared. My wife of 37 years is not excited by anal eroticism. We tried a few times to ass-fuck, but never achieved full penetration, because she found it painful. On three occasions, I talked her into strapping on a dildo and pegging me. The first time, I was so self-conscious, worrying about her experience and what she thought of me, that I didn't have an orgasm. The second time, I was a bit less self-conscious and I had a mini-orgasm. The third time, I was stoned on cannabis, and too far gone to be self conscious: She fucked me four times in a row, and I had a huge orgasm each time - without ejaculating. (Alas, that was years ago. After my wife went through menopause at age 51, she lost much of her interest in sex.)

In recent years I discovered the book "The Multi-Orgasmic Man" and I read about how to orgasm without ejaculating while fucking. I practiced the yogic techniques in the book, but my success rate is very low: it's happened only twice now.

Having said all that, let me be clear that I'm not armored against ejaculatory orgasm. I love the explosive pleasure of orgasm with ejaculation (which lasts about 10 to 20 seconds). But I love far more the whole-body pleasure of orgasm without ejaculation (which can last up to a minute or longer at a time, and can keep repeating in unbroken waves literally for hours). Because my wife is not into making love for hours, I experience these orgasm waves only through solo anal pleasuring.

Before ending this, I should offer a warning: Any kind of intense pleasure can be addicting. I've never been a smoker, no alcohol or drug addictions, not into gambling, etc., so I thought I was a non-addictive personality. But then I discovered I could reliably experience multiple whole-body orgasms via anal penetration with a dildo. Uh-oh! I soon recognized that I had gotten addicted to it (or let's say "strongly attached"). Therefore, I now indulge in sessions of anal pleasuring no more than about once a month, because I don't want to be like the rat who repeatedly presses the bar to get more cocaine.