Early Marriage Cuckold Scenarios

Common Early Marriage Cuckold Scenarios:

Too Small, Too Quick, Too Inept or Yes!

Soaul Meme

Newlywed couples normally enjoy many years of mutually satisfying monogamous sex as both invest energy for discovery, novelty, creativity, growth and change in their intimacy. In spite of this, a few new wives are never monogamous while a few others can not remain monogamous and engage in nonconsensual adultery making husbands traditional cuckolds early in marriage. Yet, more common early marriage cuckold scenarios occur when newlywed husbands are persistently incapable of sexually satisfying their wives and their wives' continued sexual frustrations eventually lead to nonconsensual or consensual adultery making them traditional or nontraditional cuckolds.

Most newlywed wives find married sex unsatisfying when their husbands are 'too small,' 'too quick' and/or too inept with sex. And, not only do these wives suffer sexual frustration, they also become privately anguished since satisfying sex is essential for a happy marriage. Also, in spite of being in love with them, wives can not fully connect with their husbands because of their sexual dissatisfaction. Since married couples routinely don't talk about sex and especially about sexual problems, the husbands' sexual deficiencies and their wives' frustrations become the 'elephant in the room' that simmers usually for a few years (around 4 years +/- 4 years) before remedies that make the husbands cuckolds become inescapable.

A common compounding problem to early marriage unsatisfying sex is the lack of knowledge and misconceptions about human sexuality. An average adult male penis is 5.5 inches long while the average vagina is 3.5 inches long. In addition, an adult male micropenis is less than 3.5 inches in length erect and occurs in less than 1% of men. So, actual penis to vagina size mismatches are unusual leading to 85% of women reporting they don't care about penis size. So, even though nearly half of men feel they are 'too small,' actually being 'too small' is uncommon but this remains an infrequent reason for unsatisfying married sex.

Penis size may be more of an issue for wives who has previously experienced much larger penises than their husbands and want 'bigger' again (probably the 15% of women who do care about size). Sex toys including 'larger' penetrating ones are typical solutions to being perceived 'too small' and there are even 'strap-on' dildos for men. However, the desire to re-experience 'bigger' may lead to consensual or nonconsensual adultery making their husbands cuckolds.

Another misconception about penis size is that women usually orgasm with penis penetration only. Yet, the vast majority of women require clitoral stimulation to orgasm; so in actual fact only 8-25% of women orgasm with penis penetration only. So, when their wives do not have orgasms with penis penetration only, some husbands wrongly believe they are 'too small' and 'she [his wife] needs bigger' to experience penis penetration only orgasms. Ironically, the wives that do get 'bigger' make their husbands cuckolds even if they may not experience any penis penetration only orgasms.

Too inept with sex husbands can be taught to sexually satisfy their wives especially if their sexually experienced wives guide them. However, if their wives are sexually inexperienced, this cannot happen. Nevertheless, a married couple willing to be patiently experimental and communicate their sexual likes and dislikes should be able to discover mutually satisfying sex.

If they are still having problems, sex therapists or surrogates may help either or both with their issues although more commonly husbands gain skills illicitly from other experienced women. Nevertheless, continual ineptitude still remains an infrequent issue.

Instead, the major early marriage sex problem is premature ejaculations ('too quick') which are ejaculation regularly occurring before or in less than 3 minutes of the penis penetration. Their wives' sexual frustrations are more pronounced when they have previously experienced pleasurable prolonged penis penetration during sex and want that from their husbands. So, even when they regularly orgasm through other means, being 'too quick' consistently causes wives sexual anguish since their married sex unnaturally shortened. Again, penetrative sex toys and various ejaculation delaying methods may provide some accommodation but these are usually unsatisfactory due to their limited success. Thus, being 'too quick' is a frequent issue that requires other remedies.

Needless to say, unsuccessful accommodations to persistent sexually frustration over time lead most wives to require remedies. Even though a few wives leave, most don't because they still love their husbands and only their physical sexual satisfaction is missing.

Hence, many wives have nonconsensual adulterous encounters and affairs ('cheat') to get the physically satisfying sex needed. Paradoxically, even though they frequently feel guilty about being unfaithful, their 'cheating' diminishes or eliminates their sexual frustrations which then improves their relationships with their husbands proving 'a happy wife is a happy life.'

Alternatively, some wives just announce or convince their husbands that they need 'to date', i.e., have consensual adulterous sex for their sexual satisfaction. Some husbands leave but most assent or, at least, acquiesce. Occasionally, it is the self-aware distressed husbands that convince their wives they need consensual adultery to get sexual satisfaction. Wives usually hesitate at their suggestion but eventually most agree.

Ironically, these extramarital accommodations frequently improved the marriage relationships because wives are able to guilt-free connect to their husbands without needing sexually satisfaction from them. Their sexual satisfaction comes from others who frequently are a long term 'Boy Friend/Bull', occasionally several 'Regulars' and uncommonly, 'Stranger Hookups.'

Although a rare wife punitively demands her husband watch, at their request some husbands are allowed to watch their wives' sex with other men. Yet, most wives are inhibited by their husbands watching for fear of what they may think when letting loose and enjoying their sex. So, most wives prefer to 'date n tell' that is have sex with other men in private and then on reuniting with their husbands 'tell' them the details of their sexual activities. This gives wives control of the narrative and not infrequently for various reasons, wives don't tell all. On reuniting with their wives, husbands often perform 'clean up', i.e., post-coital cunnilingus, on their wives and a few are occasionally permitted 'sloppy seconds' which is penetrative sex in a semen filled vagina.

Nevertheless, although 'clean up' is common, most wives stop their husbands' unsatisfying penetrative sex or at most, let it happen very infrequently. Paradoxically, most husbands accept the cessation of marital penetrative sex while being secretly relieved at no longer having the obligation to sexual satisfied their wives. Most husbands still perform post-coital and in-between sex encounters cunnilingus on their wives while masturbating for their own sexual relief. Occasionally, some wives participate in the cuckolds masturbation.

Wives having adulterous sex makes their husbands 'cuckolds' and they may directly or indirectly participate in some fashion in their wives' adulterous sex. They may watch, 'clean up' and even suffer humiliation and degradation from their wives and/or BFs/Bulls since submissive cuckolds expect and even crave it. Their husbands' participations infrequently lead to sexually contact with their Bulls with his post-coital 'cleaning' and even allowing anal intercourse.

Finally, some wives become dominant and controlling of their cuckolds to the point some make them wear women's panties and/or male chastity devices to control their masturbatory sex lives. Also, an occasional cuckold is 'sissified' or feminized to the point of being a full-time cross dresser at home and a 'beta girlfriend' to his wife and/or 'their Bull.'

In summary, the early marriage cuckold scenarios at 4 years +/-4years are distinct from the mid-marriage sex ennui that occurs later at 15 years +/- 5 years. Also, the early marriage cuckold is uncommon while mid-marriage ennui is pervasive and at crises stage.