All Comments on 'Why Get Married then Fool Around?'

I appreciate your insights! It's difficult figuring out what to do when you're married. It is different for everyone, and so much depends on the dynamic between you and your spouse. It sounds like you were extremely lucky to find the man who would become your husband. I'd say it is rare to find someone who understands, approves of and even derives pleasure and satisfaction from your sexual encounters with other men. Those who wonder why you got married- that's a silly thing to say, really. But there are quite a few people who seem to think monogamy is a requirement of marriage. And it's not. Not unless that is a non-negotiable position of one or both of the people in the marriage. The fact is, whatever the two people in a marriage feel is right for them, is the way it should be. So monogamy is okay, but so is Polyamory.. or celibacy.. or any number of other situations. The important thing is the love and respect that needs to be there. You seem to have a great relationship, and I'm happy for you. Thanks for sharing your intimate thoughts here.

Wow! That was such unadulterated bullshit.

wow

how self centered someone can be?

and what bull shit can one person spew

and actually put those words onto a page

is way beyond my comprehension

do you remember the vows you took when you got married?

the first time you fucked another man did you know your husband liked watching you or you just didn t give a shit about him at that time

unfortunately you never did give us your answer as to why you got married in the first place

what a joke of a woman and what a sham of a marriage

it s because of fucked up sluts like you that i m not getting married and i don t trust WOMEN

this way i can just fuck em and leave em lol

don t have to take care of them when they are sick

don t have to put up with mood swings

don t have to worry about std s

a comment for metalrabbit51

the dictionary states that a marriage is a union of 2 PEOPLE not 100

i guess that really does mean monogamy

1* 1000000000 limp dicks and a dozen buckets of vomit

Pure self-justifying drivel!

A couple of minor points… AIDS. Then they're both dead.

Second point, Jeffrey Dahmer, zodiac killer, and not to forget history Jack the Ripper.

A lot of people that want to intellectually justify a certain lifestyle that exposes them to a high percentage of risks. Possibilities that rudely slap them in the face with the fact that there are truly evil people in this world. Throw the dice, and throw the dice… Sooner or later you wind up with snake eyes.

Talk about a triggered group! First, there's easily as many different forms a marriage can take as there are people entering into them. If the most sexually rewarding thing for her husband is to be able to watch the object of his affection having a great sexual experience, and she's okay taking on the role of performer, where's the damage? I'm just not getting the outrage in these comments. Yes, they are facing the likelyhood of some pretty unpleasant diseases. Yes, they are taking a chance that the wife will be smitten by some new lover emotionally, destroying the marriage,. Yes, doing something that risky with total strangers might mean you wake up next to a sociopath, or maybe you won't wake up ever again. But, the bottom line is, if both her and her husband are getting what they need out of he way they define a marriage, who the fuck is anyone else to decide what's right for them? God knows, it's not what i'd want in my marriage, so I don't. Easy.

Thank you for putting yourself out there sharing and being vulnerable. I can relate to what you have to say.

I read this because well maybe it would shed some light on another perspective. It didn't well not much it seemed rather a justification more than a reasoning or explanation. You say he was the perfect man ect, what if he was not okay with your having sex with other men. How perfect is he then? Its made you both happy and I have no doubts people have the ability to believe whatever they set there mind to. So good for you both if your happy. I just have came to the conclusion there are more pitfalls and downside to this lifestyle than any potential upside. I am sure some would argue but most people are not wired the way you and your spouse are. I think your could put the odds of your chances of finding him were one in a million. Your lifestyle no matter how much communication and trust is involved makes marriage harder. It is plenty hard enough. I would always advise people to get tired or other relationships (fucking, swinging) before you get married. Unfortunately I and most other people that are observant have watched this destroy people and their relationships. You and your husband are truly the exception not the rule.

I guess it goes back to what you can believe and trust in. That is hard with humans though I mean I can find you plenty of people that believe the earth is flat.

I think she is a one in a million wife, one I'd have been thrilled to have all those years. I love a woman who is a sexy, desirable wife and not afraid to show it sexually and openly. I love watching my wife fuck other guys but it doesn't happen nearly as often as I'd have liked. Bravo for her and him for being a part.