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The wife finally gave me the chance to explain about what I was doing. Just as I expected, she thought what she caught me doing was having (or getting ready to have) "cyber-sex" with some "chat chick". She was furious that I would do something like that and especially in her presence.

Well after brooding for a couple of days, she finally ask me for "15 minutes of my time". When she got home for work I gave it to her. Let's just say, she told me she gave herself sometime to think about our issues, as most couples have them. Some of ours were/are pretty big and that isn't including the "D" word.

As she told me how she came to the conclusion I was right about a larger majority of things than she was and she'd actually made out a list of "pros and cons" between the two of us and had to admit I out weigh her in the pros of what I did for our relationship. Oddly enough when she was finished I told her I needed to show her how much what she said meant to me. I pulled down my pajama bottoms and out sprung a very hard cock. She couldn't believe that was the reason and I assured her it really was. I said "listening to what you had to say about appreciating what I do for you had this effect on me, and I just want to know what you plan on doing about it!"

So ladies, let this be a lesson to you. Men more than women honestly need to feel and point blankly told we are appreciated for what we do as the "hunter/gatherers". If you know anything about "Mama Gena" as in "Mama Gena's School of Womanly Arts" she explains it very clearly. (it just so happens that I met "Mama Gena" and was treated to attend her one day "Men's Class" by "you know who" who had just completed her course, just before she met me".

Regina examined how men's minds work compared to women and made the statement that "Women are buckets of lust, while men are buckets of love." I'm sure there are people both male and female that think the opposite is true. But as she went on to explain it is the desire of the male to "hear" what they do for the woman really means something to her both in and outside the bedroom. Mostly outside. We want to have you make a big deal about the things we do to fix things. How we came to the rescue. Whether it's changing a light bulb, killing a spider or donating a kidney, we need to hear how glad you are that we can do what we do to get things you want and need, fix things that seem impossibly broken or do anything for you you really can't do alone and by yourself.

Women on the other hand mainly just want what they want, how they want it, when they want it and as much as they want it. They expect nothing to stand in the way of them having their way. So if you agree with that, then you can accept that men need to know anything we do for you is truly appreciated and we need to hear it. Women may like compliments, but what they really want is results that satisfy their needs and live up to their expectations.

I've always known that and having an "authority" like Regina confirm it just proves what a man really wants to hear. Which I submit is exactly why I am most turned on by the "aural-sex". When a woman vocalizes what she wants and needs from you, it strokes the part of you that really wants it. I'm sure any women can feel the difference in a man's reaction physically to hearing the moans and groans and certainly when she says things to spur him on, it does just that. "Fuck me, Fuck me" clearly sends a charged message to our animal brains. We are fucking, but if you say "FUCK ME, FUCK MEEEEE" while I'm fucking you means I need to step it up a notch and like right now, so my next stroke is going to be stronger than every one that I gave you before you demanded me to "fuck you" "what's that you say? "COME ON AND REALLY FUCK YOU???" Coming right up!!! Anything a woman says is placing an order and no man worth his salt isn't going to want to follow those orders to the hilt. For the record, yes a real man can tell when you are cumming, BUT WE WANT TO HEAR YOU TELL US EXACTLY WHEN WE ARE ABOUT TO MAKE YOU CUM, WE ARE MAKING YOU CUM and HOW MUCH YOU LOVE US MAKING YOU CUM.

So this whole thing eventually opened a door for us discussing things and after we sorted through a few of our issues, I asked if she was now ready to talk about the "ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM". and you'd have to understand that she doesn't alwasy know what I mean when I say things she's never actually heard. I watched as she literally looked around before explaining that was a phrase that meant the one unavoidable thing that you may not want to talk about but everyone in the room is well aware is there. So I said "you know the whole "D" word thing. I explained the whole thing, she admitted that she did jump to the wrong conclusion and why and that the more I asked her to let me explain the less she wanted to hear it. But now she can.

So I guess you could say the story behind the story within the story is this. After all was said of course we put my hard-on to some good use. I had my way with her and was hell bent on making it everything but a "routine screw". I used a lot of foreplay, a whole lot of oral sex on her (a whole lot!) several different positions and told her during a changeover that I wanted her "sucking my dick while her pussy was buried in my face". Mind you I seldom never ask for oral sex. Strangely enough it was never that big on my to do list. I know some men insist on it just like some men insist on anal. I don't and I think it goes back to what was the perceived notions I grew up with in the black community. Blacks didn't do oral sex. White people did that. Anal was out of the question period>

I always said that Richard Pryor was the reason black men started eating pussy. On one of his albums he said an uncle told him "boy, don't you never eat no pussy" and he said "I couldn't WAIT to eat a pussy! Hell he'd been wrong about everything else". Personally, first of all I was out of HS when I finally "got some" So what I thought about sex took me 18 years to work it out in my head. I read what women wrote about it. Nancy Friday's "My Secret Garden" I'd say was my "text book". Reading all these different women's fantasies, had me convince I knew what a woman wanted and of course many described having a man eating their pussy, so I was convinced there must be something to eat so I was game. At 19 I lived with a female co-worker who was my first real sex partner (her name happened to be "Donna" with 2 "n's" and being the 1st love of my life is oftened referred to as "the 1st Donna".

So in our shared basement apartment I experimented with everything I thought I "knew" from reading and that included eating pussy. After all, since most black males didn't do it, I figured this made me an exception to the rule, so as time went on and the 1st Donna left me after 2 years with a broken heart I tried mending it by fucking as many women as I could and eating pussy helped me fuck more than my fair share I should say. Thank God the STD's never got me and really glad I sowed my oats before the scare of sex could kill you. One night stand, zipless, unprotected sex with strangers was often on the menu, but it was the times... I've done some things I'm proud of and some things I'M DAMN PROUD OF.

Fucking many women in my prime is nothing I will ever say I regretted. Being faithful when in an actual relationship I think is someting I feel is sexy about me if I say so myself.

Anyway, I asked my wife how she felt when I talked dirty to her. She said she liked it. I had downloaded some audio stories of men talking dirty about what they would do to a woman and had her listen to them with headphones on. She admitted she liked it but said "it's because he's saying things that he's really into her" You are not into me like that anymore. OUCH, that hurt. So first I had to straighten her out on the fact that she was listening to a recorded story. That there may not even be an actually her, he's "into" like that and I was "into her like that still".

This let me know that I did have to admit I'd let the fire die down. You see part of our problem was we were at a stalemate when it came to sex. I didn't want it to always be "my idea" when we had sex. I wanted to feel wanted. She on the other hand would never "deny me" but also would never really take the initiative to initiate sex between us. Even if she were horny. S we went long periods of times without it. Me wanting her to prove she wanted me by taking the bull by the horns, and she not doing that but ready to let me do it to her if I wanted to so in this stand off no one was getting fucked and I was jerking off to beat the band.

So I told her I really have no idea if hearing the stories turned her on at all or what really gets her excited. I asked her if my talking dirty to her during sex did anything and she said it did. She did say a few things a few times and she said she knows when she did she felt a difference in me. I asked her if she felt different when I said this like here having such "good pussy" and telling her to "give me that good hot cunt" and she agreed it excited her. So I said, well if you feel something when you hear me talking dirty to you and maybe even when you listen to the audio stories (or watch "50 Shades of Gray" which she has over and over again despite what anyone else may have thought about it), than why can't you understand how my body reacts to you talking especial if you can honestly say you can feel the difference.

I think the one mystery that can never be solved is a man knows what sex/cumming feels like for him and what flesh around his cock feels like be it hands,mouth, pussy or anal. We can never say we know exactly what it would feel like to a woman. I think that is the reason so many of us need to hear it from you.

Well, having said all that in what started out as a comment, but has gotten so long and detailed I've decided to copy and paste it as a separate post. My "OBSESSIVE MEMORIES OF DONA" story may just have tipped the scale to the better side. The sex we had after our talk last night WAS MONUMENTAL!

("THANKSGIVING DAY" BTW ).

The oral sex was good and I enjoyed getting it as much as giving it. But she made the comment that nothing she was doing was making me cum. She'd cum more times than she said you could count on both hands. I replied, if you remember in the beginning I always said me cumming was not as important as making her cum to me. So that was nothing unusual... But then we set out on the mission to make me cum and cum I did. Actually I came twice without pulling out of her and in less than 5 mins apart so there you have it ladies. Talk to your man. Tell him how he really makes you feel and how you appreciates what he does. Even if it means making a big deal out of the jar you handed him to open for you . Sure you could have done it yourself, but why do it when he can do it for you. Just like FUCKING YOU EXACTLY THE WAY YOU WANT AND NEED HIM TO. OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND SAY AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

I decided to post this comment but I will post it again, only this time I will read it in my own voice. That should be interesting since I've actually done voice over work for money ;)

While I applaud your inventiveness, this was too much like being seduced by Siri.

Not exactly a shining beacon that will allure people to the audio section, but bloody funny.

What an absolute waste of time that was.