All Comments on 'Awkward Response'

Cis female here. I'm probably not great about such things but if I'd thought it through in the moment I would have just said it straight out. "I really appreciate your interest and if I weren't married I'd love to meet up for coffee sometime." Coffee because my impression is that it's a social event without many expectations... It could lead to more but not until people meet for dinner or something. Provides a way to get to know each other. I don't even drink coffee! Note: I'm in the US.

- dorfird

Hope this helps, if you're ok about sex on the back seat of your car in a parking lot, and he was good looking enough to do that then why not in a better controlled environment. As the previous person said a coffee or what ever. This may have been your way out of a (by sounds of your writing) a seriously dysfunctional marriage. Not sure how old you are but the imprisonment, you and your wife sound to be in, is total unhealthy, and will only end in way way more pain for you both.

I think you acted well. As a woman, you'll deal with advances that you won't want to reciprocate. Most of the time that women turn men down, it's not because we think they're hideous, below us, or stupid. The most we can do is be polite when it happens and have the empathy to hope they aren't hurt too badly. As adults, we should understand that people don't reciprocate for whatever reasons and should not take it personally. Even when the rejection stings, a reasonable person shouldn't expect anything more than politeness. You were exceedingly polite. If you had gone further, he may have thought you were interested or condescending